Half Assed Accomplishments

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Jan 27, 2014 11:07:35 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

They know good and well what clean the bathroom means, they just choose to do a bad job so they can either get out of ever doing it again or complain that your standards are too high. Both are BS excuses for disrespect. I had a guy flat out tell me this. He purposely screwed things up so his wife would stop asking him to do shit. GRRR. Child man.

I respectfully disagree. In my case, it is not passive/aggressive at ALL! I cleaned everything that needed cleaning in my eyes.

DH sees more dirt than I do. So when he looks in there and sees dust on the top of the shower curtain, or a cobweb in the corner he thinks I did a half-ass job where in my mind I cleaned everything that needed to be cleaned.

So I have suggested to him that we look at it like teamwork: when he cleans the stuff I miss the room ends up clean to his standards. 

It's a work in progress....

[Shooby]

And, sometimes your spouse is never going to see things the way you see it. And, you have to decide, do I really want to have a big hissy and fight because the towels were not folded exactly the way I do it, etc?
There are just certain things DH sees that I don't or vice versa. But, the point is to work together for the overall good of the home and family. And if you are both truly doing that, then maybe everyone needs to relax a bit.
And, DH and I each have our own cars. We never or rarely drive one or the other's car. And, DH has been driving around with golf clubs in the back of his SUV since summer. I mean, it's January. He could take them out. But, hes' a big boy and it's HIS car so there are sometimes I actually DO keep my mouth shut, lol.

[gooddecisions]

I wouldn't consider any of your list half-assed. If I walked in the kitchen and there are no dishes in the sink, ingredients on the counter or stuff on the floor- then I agree it is clean. I hate clutter but have minimal requirements for things to be sufficiently clean. I keep the linens washed, the sink empty, dish washer running, floors picked up and counters clear. Toilets get swished and floors get vacuumed once a week or so- no big deal if it's every other week.  I wouldn't expect anyone to have to scrub the oven, inside the fridge or even clean the windows more than once a year. Doing these tasks weekly or monthly would not improve our quality of life. I kind of feel bad for anyone who stresses out over stuff like that. It does not seem like a fun way to live life.

[skubikky]

Some men and women don't take well to being treated as just another child in the house.
And some women and men are still trying to "raise" their spouse into being what they've always hoped they could be.

[whoisjohngalt]

I think some people are perfectionists and some people are just "good enough" and some people are "i really don't give a shit, can I just go home now".

My husband is a perfectionist, so when he actually does something it is 100%, without a doubt perfect.  Here is the problem - he doesn't have the time to do it 100% perfect, so it's not done.  It also hindered him at work.  He can't just "be familiar" with something, he has to KNOW IT.  Well, it's not always possible, so he feels like he "doesn't know anything", when in reality, he knows a lot more than most, just not up to his standards.  I would very much prefer for him to be a "good enough" person on some things.

I am a lazy perfectionist.  I know how I want things, but sometimes am just to lazy to do it that way, so will do a "good enough".

I think those two are OK for the most part.

My problem is with people who are doing something while really not giving a shit about what they are doing.  I couldn't be married to someone like that and I HATE dealing with people like that in a business/consumer world.  HATE IT.

But unfortunately I think there are more and more and more people like that.

Not to get OT, but there was a blog entry awhile ago about someone screaming at a McD worker for getting their sandwich wrong.  Everyone was like "OMG, how dare they treat an employee that way, blah blah blah".  But I couldn't help but think - OMG, that employee got the sandwich wrong 3 times!!!! - you'd have to be in a coma or Mother Theresa not to loose it.

Anyway, that's my soap box post of the day