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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2014 22:17:15 GMT -5
I have a new friend and Valentine's Day is coming up. I'm thinking of getting us a couple's massage at a local spa. Guys, is this an okay gift?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2014 22:29:47 GMT -5
Yes, Later, I think it's a VERY nice gift. Or (my preference) a night away somewhere, not too far.
ETA: Sorry, I'm not a guy! But I know DH (who is) would love a massage, or a night away.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jan 18, 2014 22:39:51 GMT -5
I couldn't care less about valentines day (which sorta gives me the guy mentality), but if someone offered up a massage... I'd be all about it!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2014 22:49:39 GMT -5
LOL Thanks ladies. I'm going to have to make the reservation tomorrow. I'll do it for the Saturday so he can take me out to dinner on Friday
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2014 22:58:39 GMT -5
I would not be impressed with that gift. Is it something he likes to do?
My wife did a great job a number of years ago (for a birthday) by booking me a photo safari at the Wild Animal Park. Photography is a hobby of mine and she nailed it. Does this guy have a hobby where you could show you actually pay attention?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2014 23:01:42 GMT -5
That sounds pricey MMC, this is just our first Valentine's Day. He has gotten massages before on his own so I'm assuming he likes them.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2014 23:03:56 GMT -5
It was pricey, but I was using it as an example of a thoughtful gift. It sounds like your guy would be into your idea, so go for it.
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Post by travelnut11 on Jan 19, 2014 9:30:04 GMT -5
I think it sounds great. I got a massage gift certificate for my now-fiance when we first started dating and he loved it. Because it was a GC he made his own appointment but if you're making it for him you might consider getting a female therapist. Most men I know don't like having other men touch them. It's weird but DF is adamant that he always has a female therapist.
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Post by grits on Jan 19, 2014 10:13:59 GMT -5
That sounds pricey MMC, this is just our first Valentine's Day. He has gotten massages before on his own so I'm assuming he likes them. There are massages, and "massages" . How long have you two been seeing each other? If not for long at all, it would be a little bit too personal a gift for me.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 19, 2014 12:15:44 GMT -5
How new is this friend? A couple's massage seems too much too soon if you've dated less than a year. I don't celebrate Valentines Day (restaurants are just as delicious and not over crowded on the 13th and the 15th) so I think "happy Friday" is good enough acknowledgement.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jan 19, 2014 12:23:42 GMT -5
Wel, my husband would look at me like I had turned into a gerbil if I gave him that. BUT if your new friend has had massages before, then it might be okay.
Yay ah for a new friend!
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Post by whoami on Jan 19, 2014 12:27:47 GMT -5
How new is this friend? A couple's massage seems too much too soon if you've dated less than a year. I don't celebrate Valentines Day (restaurants are just as delicious and not over crowded on the 13th and the 15th) so I think "happy Friday" is good enough acknowledgement. DH and I call V-day amateur night. I have no desire to go out and sit among 50 million other people celebrating a Hallmark holiday....and a couple's massage wouldn't be met with exuberance by me either...especially from someone I barely know. Because he knows I have no desire to go out and fight the crowds, DH always brings the celebration home, but he is more into that sort of thing that I am. I try and remember to pick up a card.
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Post by swamp on Jan 19, 2014 13:51:00 GMT -5
If he's a "new" friend is ignore v-day.
Eh, who am I kidding, I ignore it anyway.
But couple massage does seem too much too soon.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Jan 19, 2014 13:54:52 GMT -5
well because you know he is into that - then great. I have never had one or cared, and most guys I've known never had one. really didn't know guys go for that anyways. I have heard of guys going to getting their toe nails done, but not a massage.
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Post by sunshinegal1981 on Jan 19, 2014 14:35:40 GMT -5
I've definitely heard the "female masseuse ONLY" preference before, so you may want to make sure one is available at your desired appointment time. (Personally, I always like more 'forceful' massages though, so I'm happy when I get a male because they usually (not always) provide stronger massages. I imagine if I was a male, the same would be true. So why the prevalence of the 'female masseuse' preference, among men? Funny, when I do get a woman masseuse, I don't suddenly feel myself turning gay. Is sexual orientation among men so tenuous and delicate, that physical contact with other males must be strictly avoided? I don't get it.)
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2014 19:25:09 GMT -5
My first thought, too, was that that was an awfully intimate present for a "new" friend. Not the massage itself, but the "couple massage" thing. I don't have an alternative suggestion, though, because we don't really celebrate Valentine's Day (or Christmas, or birthdays). We take each out for our birthdays, and I think DH takes me out for V's Day, but it isn't necessarily on the 14th. He sort of takes me out one day every weekend for lunch, and I think I get to pick for that and my birthday. He gets to pick for his, and I pay.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jan 19, 2014 19:29:28 GMT -5
Valentine's Day is commercialized hype. Hallmark cards, restaurants, florists, jewelers etc all make a killing for a silly "holiday".
And I find it more than a little ironic (and amusing) that the abbreviation for Valentine's Day is "VD".
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Post by grits on Jan 19, 2014 19:30:02 GMT -5
I broke up with my gf this morning to save money by not having to do a gift dinner thingy.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2014 19:55:27 GMT -5
well because you know he is into that - then great. I have never had one or cared, and most guys I've known never had one. really didn't know guys go for that anyways. I have heard of guys going to getting their toe nails done, but not a massage. I thought men get more massages than women, but it was at the gym or club. Women getting massages is fairly new, at least in my circles. As for how new, we have known each other for a few years and been friends. The keeping company part is what's new. The fact is, I want a massage. So the only debate is whether to invite him I'm not going to ignore Valentine's Day. I like him. I enjoy doing the silly things that let him know that. It's not like it's either/or. I can be nice to him all year and celebrate Valentine's Day.
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Post by grits on Jan 19, 2014 20:01:32 GMT -5
The question isn't whether or not you do something. The question is how long have you known him, and how close is the relationship at this moment? It is different from an item he likes such as something from his favorite sports team, tickets to an event he likes, etcetera.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Jan 19, 2014 20:37:23 GMT -5
My husband and I have had two couples' massages ( just regular massages ) packages and found them very enjoyable. And later, we were *not* PG-13. They kind of relaxed us, so to speak.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 20, 2014 7:42:26 GMT -5
I got one for DF and myself the first V day we were together again. But we had been a couple before and were intimate already so it was no biggie. Only Later can decide her own relationship status. If she wants to, she does it. If he thinks its creepy then so be it. He may like that she put it out there that she wants to take things further.
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Post by Sunnyday on Jan 20, 2014 8:27:02 GMT -5
Valentine's Day is commercialized hype. Hallmark cards, restaurants, florists, jewelers etc all make a killing for a silly "holiday".
And I find it more than a little ironic (and amusing) that the abbreviation for Valentine's Day is "VD". VD?! I had to think about why you thought this was funny. It's been a long long time since they've referred to them as VD. But I agree, too commercial Valentine's Day. We don't do anything. But my DH are not very romantic.
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 20, 2014 8:38:47 GMT -5
Dh and I had a couples massage at a bed and breakfast we stayed at which was really nice. I'm sure dh would love it if I planned that for him (for any occasion).
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 20, 2014 8:45:46 GMT -5
DF and I enjoy VD day! Just another fun day in our lives. I just got him a pair of gloves that he wanted but didn't want to pay the money for. Hope I don't forget where I hid them!!
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Post by bookkeeper on Jan 20, 2014 9:02:55 GMT -5
When my DH and I were young and out of money, I came home to him making heart shaped hamburgers for us for a valentine dinner.
Once in a while he will do it again to keep the memory alive.
Our church youth group hosts a prime rib valentine dinner. I like it because it is a fundraiser that you can invite your single friends to as well as couples. Last year they had long stemmed roses for $1 each. They sold like hotcakes, since the florists get so much on VD. I overheard several men say that they would be buying flowers at the dinner again next year.
I think the best VD gifts are the ones that come from your heart, not the store.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 20, 2014 9:10:29 GMT -5
That is awesome and a great idea!!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 20, 2014 18:28:11 GMT -5
Ok, there are a few people that have done it. I'm not totally out to lunch. I'll go for it and see how he takes it.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Jan 20, 2014 20:10:02 GMT -5
When my DH and I were young and out of money, I came home to him making heart shaped hamburgers for us for a valentine dinnerI think the best VD gifts are the ones that come from your heart, not the store. Trust me, VD gifts don't come from the heart.
Seriously though - sometimes I'd make heart-shaped pancakes for a Valentine breakfast - but DH and I loved avoiding crowded restaurants, and having a more romantic, intimate & private VDay.
We usually celebrated on the closest weekend (Sat or Sun) to VDay since we both worked F/T.
We'd blow a small fortune on seafood and wines, and spend the day making a wonderful feast. He made a fabulous Lobster Bisque which we usually followed with Escargot baked in garlic butter & seasonings, and then Steamed King Crab Legs with drawn butter for dipping/French bread and wine flowing - and romantic music playing in the background, lights turned low - or candlelight.
It was usually followed by a nice sparkling wine while soaking in the jetted jacuzzi tub together (also candlelight) - and then followed by some "romance".
It was much more relaxing & special to us than spending it (and a bunch of money) in a busy, crowded restaurant surrounded by strangers.
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Post by ZaireinHD on Jan 20, 2014 21:47:53 GMT -5
my ex close friend went on vacation one year and reserved a couples massage. she requested a man and he requested a women. I understand the whole men don't want a man to give a massage. but if I were in the situation, I am sure a woman could do her job, as I would NEED a harder rub down. BUT from what I hear about the relaxing part of a massage (mostly from movies / TV comedy). I would request a guy. I know a guy would have deep pressure rub down for my shoulders and back, and there is absolutely no way I would get a hard on! I for one would be so embarrassed if that were to happen getting a rub down by a woman! and her telling me "it's ok - that happens with a lot of men" doesn't make it any better!
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