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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 17:25:03 GMT -5
Basically C's MOTHER texted me a really nasty message about something that baby daddy bitched about that was not even true. OMG I am 41. please I don't need or want this shit. I really think she is mental now.
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Post by The Captain on Jan 4, 2014 17:26:22 GMT -5
I am sorry to hear you are going through this, but really are you surprised?
Either you set boundaries or your DD will continue to walk all over you.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 17:42:20 GMT -5
Oh sorry. It was baby daddy momma who text me.
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Post by mmhmm on Jan 4, 2014 17:46:30 GMT -5
Block her. You're not obligated to listen to/read her rants.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 17:47:24 GMT -5
I did after that, she is on my spam list. Totally unbelievable behaviour.
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Post by swamp on Jan 4, 2014 17:49:02 GMT -5
Are you going to tell us what she sald?
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Post by Jaguar on Jan 4, 2014 17:49:55 GMT -5
Are you going to tell us what she sald?
Yeah I need some excitement.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:00:37 GMT -5
I will, it is pretty long though, here goes.
We are going to Tampa next week to see family with Scarlett, we may not be able to get the car seat in our car so my DD would have to drive hers. I told her I hadn't budgeted for two cars and the gas so could she afford the gas, she said she would ask C, I am not going to keep saying baby daddy because, well I am just not. So when C got home with his mother (she is in town) my DD proceeded to ask him about it...all she managed to get out was HALF .... he goes all pissy, all she was going to ask was could they afford to pay half their gas for the trip, all he heard was HALF and then went into a tantrum. He walked his mother down to the car and proceeded to bitch and complain. The mother text me and said it was LAME and DISRESPECTFUL to pull this on him now, how horrible it is to invite him then ask him to pay half etc etc.
AH hello, fricking listen bitch, it wasn't half the trip it was HALF the gas. OMG I am mortified for her to go off on me for something that she didn't even hear correctly, and C.... well he and I will be having a big talk.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 4, 2014 18:03:05 GMT -5
I'm never bitching about my kids again. Not even DD.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:07:27 GMT -5
Hey, I didn't raise him. He gets it FROM his mother.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:08:26 GMT -5
I will, it is pretty long though, here goes. We are going to Tampa next week to see family with Scarlett, we may not be able to get the car seat in our car so my DD would have to drive hers. I told her I hadn't budgeted for two cars and the gas so could she afford the gas, she said she would ask C, I am not going to keep saying baby daddy because, well I am just not. So when C got home with his mother (she is in town) my DD proceeded to ask him about it...all she managed to get out was HALF .... he goes all pissy, all she was going to ask was could they afford to pay half their gas for the trip, all he heard was HALF and then went into a tantrum. He walked his mother down to the car and proceeded to bitch and complain. The mother text me and said it was LAME and DISRESPECTFUL to pull this on him now, how horrible it is to invite him then ask him to pay half etc etc. AH hello, fricking listen bitch, it wasn't half the trip it was HALF the gas. OMG I am mortified for her to go off on me for something that she didn't even hear correctly, and C.... well he and I will be having a big talk. why don't you all just go in her car?
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 4, 2014 18:08:43 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:09:28 GMT -5
We thought about, but I don't think there is enough room.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:12:59 GMT -5
We thought about, but I don't think there is enough room. well I think you can probably fit the carseat in your car unless it's really small.....was the plan for DD and C to ride with you?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:16:27 GMT -5
It's about having an older car that doesn't have LATCH, I have a thread about it. DD and C were going to ride with us.
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 4, 2014 18:20:08 GMT -5
Does it have to latch? My kids used the seat belts through the car seats.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:20:13 GMT -5
It's about having an older car that doesn't have LATCH, I have a thread about it. DD and C were going to ride with us. you don't need LTCH to install a carseat....all carseats have to pass crash testing with just a seatbelt - I posted that in the other thread....how do you think we all installed carseats before LATCH was available?
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:21:12 GMT -5
Does it have to latch? My kids used the seat belts through the car seats. no, no carseat needs LATCH...they all have to pass safety testing with a seatbelt....I'm a little worried that her DD doesn't know that the seat can be installed with just a seatbelt
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:27:56 GMT -5
Actually some people don't know how to do it without LATCH and the reason I know this is because I went to pick up a friend with a baby and her dad (who is my age) spent about 15 minutes trying to put the car seat in. I have no idea, it isn't that she doesn't know it just wasn't something we thought about and then we talked about Santi's grandfather not being able to put the car seat in that we were like HMMMM. We are going to try it tomorrow. Where does the seat belt go with the base type car seat, and is it secure. Even after the thread I am still confused.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 4, 2014 18:29:03 GMT -5
It's about having an older car that doesn't have LATCH, I have a thread about it. DD and C were going to ride with us. you don't need LTCH to install a carseat....all carseats have to pass crash testing with just a seatbelt - I posted that in the other thread....how do you think we all installed carseats before LATCH was available? I don't even know what LATCH is. We put the seat belt through the base of the infant carrier. It took a long time but dh for it in there so tight that it barely moved if you pushed it. I never took the base out after hat but did periodically test it to make sure it didn't loosen. If LATCH isn't required (whatever that is!) then DD has two options 1) rides with you without LATCH 2) pay the gas costs for her car. I guess there is an option 3. She and whiney baby daddy can stay home!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:30:31 GMT -5
I can't bloody remember it was 18 years ago. Car seats where different then, I mean not all car seats, but I certainly didn't have the base and seat ones, so I have no idea.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:31:32 GMT -5
And those are the options, yes, this thread wasn't about the options it was about C's MOTHER.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:32:44 GMT -5
OK so when she brings the base over tomorrow, we are just going to put the seatbelt through the base and that's it and Scarlett will be safe and secure.
Actually no. 3 isn't an option because we are bringing Scarlett to see her greats, that's the whole point and I am not allowed to take her on my own. <sad face>
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Post by Mardi Gras Audrey on Jan 4, 2014 18:40:11 GMT -5
Tequila, LATCH is a system where there are hooks from the back of the car seat that anchor to the car (The anchors in the car are usually between the seat back and bottom and on the back of the seat). If you have a newer model car, you may have seen these and not know what they are for (They have the symbol of a car seat on them). This system is used IN PLACE of the seat belt/car seat combo.
Nutty, C's mother should butt out. It is really none of her business what the gas money arrangements are between C, your DD, and you. Even if you asked him to pay for the entire trip, it isn't her place to butt in and text you BS about it. If he has a problem with your request, C needs to grow a pair and talk to you/your DH (whoever requested the help) like an adult.
FWIW, I have two friends who had children in the past 2 years. One uses LATCH, the other does not (kids are 1 month apart). I asked the one who doesn't why not and she said she was advised to use the seatbelt (not LATCH) because LATCH only works until a certain weight and you have to account for the car seat weight + kid weight (This can be significantly lower than the wt the car seat is rated for). She was advised that the car seat has been tested for the full seat weight + kid weight with the seat belt and had to pass that way. She is a really smart woman who always does research about things involving her kid so I would think she got this advice from a credible source. ETA: They both use the base + infant carrier combo. The base is secure in her car with the seatbelt (I have put her son & his carrier into the base and secured him. The base doesn't move ).
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 4, 2014 18:40:49 GMT -5
We never used the latch with ours. Our car didn't have them when they were really little, and when we got new cars we were already used to using just the seatbelt. Can take a bit to get the base in right with the seatbelt the first time you do it, after that it's easy.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 18:44:14 GMT -5
When the nasty mother leaves I will get the other base they have so I will be able to take her places YAY.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 19:04:50 GMT -5
Can't you go to the fire dept. and have them show you how to install the base?
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Post by busymom on Jan 4, 2014 19:20:38 GMT -5
Great idea, Southernsusana! Our local fire station will help you install your carseat property. Gold star for SS!
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Post by raeoflyte on Jan 4, 2014 19:44:12 GMT -5
Haven't read page 3 but just find a certified car seat installer and take your car and the car seat and theyll teach you to put it in.
In our area the they tested the firestations and only 2% installed them correctly so I'd definitely say go to a certified installer, but its not that big a deal. A quick google search followed by a phone call and your done.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 20:04:51 GMT -5
OK so when she brings the base over tomorrow, we are just going to put the seatbelt through the base and that's it and Scarlett will be safe and secure. Actually no. 3 isn't an option because we are bringing Scarlett to see her greats, that's the whole point and I am not allowed to take her on my own. <sad face> there are pictures on the carseat base that show you where the seatbelt goes....make sure if you use a lap and shoulder belt that it is locked. if you go online you can find a certified carseat tech (and make sure they're certified - not every cop of fireman knows what they're doing) to help you get the correct fit.
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