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Post by tloonya on Jan 3, 2014 12:14:52 GMT -5
Have you ever met anyone who is planning everything in his life not 'IF I win lottery' but 'WHEN I win lottery'?
is it mental condition when person constantly talks about 'when I win next powerball I will hire a designer to build me a home...' and when of course he didn't won he goes on next one like if nothing happened and talking like it is sure deal that he is going to win and what is his next step right after is going to be...otherwise he is like...normal.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 3, 2014 12:21:33 GMT -5
FWIW, I know a couple who did win the lottery. They won a lot of money, and thought it was their future. It wasn't. They divorced about two years ago. The issues they had before the lottery, they still had after they won the money, only the issues were more expensive, as were her tastes. What used to be beer-budget tastes on a beer budget grew to French champagne on a French champagne budget.  |
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Post by tloonya on Jan 3, 2014 12:24:17 GMT -5
FWIW, I know a couple who did win the lottery. They won a lot of money, and thought it was their future. It wasn't. They divorced about two years ago. The issues they had before the lottery, they still had after they won the money, only the issues were more expensive, as were her tastes. What used to be beer-budget tastes on a beer budget grew to French champagne on a French champagne budget. But if they COULD afford it...why not? |
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 3, 2014 12:29:42 GMT -5
They could afford it, but that was not the issue. Her health took a real beating. She's around my age, but looks 15 years older. And when she drinks, she is truly nasty and mean and out of control.
When they divorced, the money was split, as was the property. I'm betting she will be broke long before her ex-husband. She will drink her money.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2014 12:30:49 GMT -5
They read that book The Gift so they HAVE to say "when" or it won't work!  |
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 3, 2014 12:35:54 GMT -5
They read that book The Gift so they HAVE to say "when" or it won't work!  |
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Post by movingforward on Jan 3, 2014 12:43:54 GMT -5
They read that book The Gift so they HAVE to say "when" or it won't work! LOL! I have a friend who does this. He says X WILL happen. After several yrs I still don't think he has figured out that just because he envisions something or says it out loud doesn't make it happen. When my mom had her heart attack he told me that I just needed to believe she was going to live (even though her chances were around 5%)  . Of course, I was HOPING she would make it through but at the same time I was attempting to prepare myself for the loss. |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 4, 2014 10:07:36 GMT -5
But if they COULD afford it...why not? The lotteries are aimed at people who have little chance of ever accumulating money like that on their own. Typically, they have this magical thinking that "if only" they had $2 million or if they had an annual income of $100K they'd be rich and could do anything they want. They win the lottery and they proceed to do everything they want and then find that there are limits to what you can do with that much money. This story is played out over and over again with lottery winners. There are some exceptions, of course, but if you've never seen amounts of money this big and they're suddenly dropped in your lap, it's hard to develop the discipline to use it wisely. So, lotteries end up being a tax on the poor and even those who win don't end up better in the long run. |
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Post by kilroy on Jan 4, 2014 10:22:13 GMT -5
There was an article in (I think) the New York Times in the past couple of years about a guy who thought exactly this way, that he was going to win the lottery because obviously he deserved it and because he spent so much money on it. He was a doorman at a building in Manhattan and when another doorman actually did win the lottery the guy in the article said, "Well, he should give some to me because I deserve it". Not even because "I gave him money for tickets", just "I deserve it". Wow.
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Post by Regis on Jan 4, 2014 10:52:44 GMT -5
FWIW, I know a couple who did win the lottery. They won a lot of money, and thought it was their future. It wasn't. They divorced about two years ago. The issues they had before the lottery, they still had after they won the money, only the issues were more expensive, as were her tastes. What used to be beer-budget tastes on a beer budget grew to French champagne on a French champagne budget. On the flip side, I know a man who won just over $1M in 1992 in the lottery. He and his wife have done a lot of good for the small community I grew up in but didn't go crazy buying "stuff". I'm guessing he still has the million and more. It's all about the discipline (or lack thereof) of each winner. |
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Post by tloonya on Jan 4, 2014 13:50:31 GMT -5
There was an article in (I think) the New York Times in the past couple of years about a guy who thought exactly this way, that he was going to win the lottery because obviously he deserved it and because he spent so much money on it. He was a doorman at a building in Manhattan and when another doorman actually did win the lottery the guy in the article said, "Well, he should give some to me because I deserve it". Not even because "I gave him money for tickets", just "I deserve it". Wow. Does anyone remember when 'I am deserve it' or 'you are deserving it' started? I remember someone told me I deserve it because I am hard working person. I was like...well...there are millions of people who are working hard but they had never got brake! Who invented this 'deservance'? |
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 4, 2014 14:44:44 GMT -5
FWIW, I know a couple who did win the lottery. They won a lot of money, and thought it was their future. It wasn't. They divorced about two years ago. The issues they had before the lottery, they still had after they won the money, only the issues were more expensive, as were her tastes. What used to be beer-budget tastes on a beer budget grew to French champagne on a French champagne budget. On the flip side, I know a man who won just over $1M in 1992 in the lottery. He and his wife have done a lot of good for the small community I grew up in but didn't go crazy buying "stuff". I'm guessing he still has the million and more. It's all about the discipline (or lack thereof) of each winner. The amount involved in this lottery win was much, much more than a million. And FWIW, they got a financial planner involved immediately. They bought one new car each (the ones they had were junkers), a new house and a motorhome, and that was it. They kept their old home as a rental property. They were actually quite careful, for the most part. The problem was her drinking, which admittedly was an issue before the lottery win, and just escalated in amount and cost after the win. So to keep this in line with the OP, the lottery did not ensure their future. But then again, given that one of them had, and continues to have, a problem with alcohol, their future together was likely screwed anyway. |
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