Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 24, 2013 16:14:43 GMT -5
Why would I pull the plug? She's a teenage girl, she's going to talk to teenage boys. I'd rather have her do so online than in person. I reserve the right to tell said boys that I will end them if they hurt my baby girl though.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 24, 2013 16:19:25 GMT -5
Yep. Didn't work of course. Snow says hi to me whenever he hears me in the background while playing with the girls. He wants me to play DDO with them. Says I'm funny. Little twerp.
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Post by techguy on Dec 24, 2013 16:48:51 GMT -5
Ya know, it's funny how so many Dads of teenage girls have this 'protective' mentality to protect their precious little girls from evil bad people.
Yet, so many times, its the teenage girls themselves that act all aggressive and inviting to boys of the opposite sex.
And now with snapchat and other social media, it's really hard to monitor everything a teenager does. Sure, you can act "macho" and tell them off over video chat, but the funny thing is that the boys that you can publicly see in the living room are probably the nice guys.
It's the boys that the daughter hides from her parents that are the ones to be 'protective'. Sadly, you'll never know what happens between the teenage daughter and these secretive boys cause the daughter will make sure that the Dad never find out about these boys. And for the most part, ignorance is bliss.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2013 20:01:09 GMT -5
Hey, Dark, you haven't lived until your 17-year-old son (oh, wait, you don't have one) comes home at 1a.m., wakes you up, and says a police officer found them "necking" (you still remember what that is) at the local county airport. He confiscated their licenses and said if your parents want them back (duh?), they have to come pick them up. Your son swears she only had her top off. The officer swears it was much more than that. But he gives you back both licenses, not even making the girl's parent come down to the police station. How's that for a double standard?Years later I met the officer in a social context (ex-bf worked as a firefighter for the same city), and I told him he was a household name in our family. He considered it a thank-you and said he was just trying to take care of the young people. I tried hard to keep a straight face when he said that. We always wondered how long he was looking in the windows. I know I am trivializing this, but my son and his wife (the girl) have four kids and have been married fifteen years.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 24, 2013 21:24:51 GMT -5
Pretty decent of him really. When I got caught sneaking into the pool in the middle of the night with a girl they put us in handcuffs drove us to the police station charged us with trespassing and made us call our parents to come get us. Her dad still doesn't like me. Only time she was ever arrested. She married one of my best friends years later and we still laugh about her arrest record.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2013 21:31:26 GMT -5
Distribute condoms and call it a day
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Dec 24, 2013 21:49:04 GMT -5
Isn't that just ignoring the situation? I call that suggestion poor parenting.
AND you'd still have to teach the young teens how to properly USE them - not to mention that they're not 100% foolproof. And are you going to "supervise" them to make sure they actually do use them?
It's not as simple as handing them a box of rubbers & hoping for the best.
Education, talks of abstinence, etc etc etc - young teens' hormones are raging - and they're starting to experience senses that are new to them.
The best way to deal with it is a good old-fashioned "sit-down and talk about the risks" chat, reasons to abstain, etc -- meanwhile also providing information and instruction on proper methods of B/C at what options are available.
Also talking about all they have to lose if they do become pregnant (or a teen baby-daddy). Loss of a good future education, having to financially and emotionally support a child for the rest of their lives- probably having to drop out of school & work min. wage jobs to (try and) support a family, etc etc.
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Post by Jaguar on Dec 24, 2013 21:57:26 GMT -5
Isn't that just ignoring the situation? I call that suggestion poor parenting.
AND you'd still have to teach the young teens how to properly USE them - not to mention that they're not 100% foolproof. And are you going to "supervise" them to make sure they actually do use them?
It's not as simple as handing them a box of rubbers & hoping for the best.
Education, talks of abstinence, etc etc etc - young teens' hormones are raging - and they're starting to experience senses that are new to them.
The best way to deal with it is a good old-fashioned "sit-down and talk about the risks" chat, reasons to abstain, etc -- meanwhile also providing information and instruction on proper methods of B/C at what options are available.
Also talking about all they have to lose if they do become pregnant (or a teen baby-daddy). Loss of a good future education, having to financially and emotionally support a child for the rest of their lives- probably having to drop out of school & work min. wage jobs to (try and) support a family, etc etc.
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Yeah scare the shit outta them with reality, growing up sucks, hormones suck, growing up really fast with hormones raging really sucks. It's the last one, that's the reality.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 24, 2013 23:26:22 GMT -5
Isn't that just ignoring the situation? I call that suggestion poor parenting.
AND you'd still have to teach the young teens how to properly USE them - not to mention that they're not 100% foolproof. And are you going to "supervise" them to make sure they actually do use them?
It's not as simple as handing them a box of rubbers & hoping for the best.
Education, talks of abstinence, etc etc etc - young teens' hormones are raging - and they're starting to experience senses that are new to them.
The best way to deal with it is a good old-fashioned "sit-down and talk about the risks" chat, reasons to abstain, etc -- meanwhile also providing information and instruction on proper methods of B/C at what options are available.
Also talking about all they have to lose if they do become pregnant (or a teen baby-daddy). Loss of a good future education, having to financially and emotionally support a child for the rest of their lives- probably having to drop out of school & work min. wage jobs to (try and) support a family, etc etc.
. You are wrong.
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Post by ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ on Dec 24, 2013 23:48:14 GMT -5
And that's your opinion - you're welcome to it. It's certainly not advice I'd follow for educating teens on sex and risks/pregnancies.
A parent handing a box of condoms to young teens without a discussion or educating the young teen on the risks (not only of unplanned pregnancy, but other risks - disease, loss of a future, etc) is a parent wearing blinders, hiding from reality of kids today, and "hoping for the best".
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Post by geenamercile on Dec 25, 2013 9:55:36 GMT -5
Isn't that just ignoring the situation? I call that suggestion poor parenting.
AND you'd still have to teach the young teens how to properly USE them - not to mention that they're not 100% foolproof. And are you going to "supervise" them to make sure they actually do use them?
It's not as simple as handing them a box of rubbers & hoping for the best.
Education, talks of abstinence, etc etc etc - young teens' hormones are raging - and they're starting to experience senses that are new to them.
The best way to deal with it is a good old-fashioned "sit-down and talk about the risks" chat, reasons to abstain, etc -- meanwhile also providing information and instruction on proper methods of B/C at what options are available.
Also talking about all they have to lose if they do become pregnant (or a teen baby-daddy). Loss of a good future education, having to financially and emotionally support a child for the rest of their lives- probably having to drop out of school & work min. wage jobs to (try and) support a family, etc etc.
. I agree with teaching them how to put on the condoms as well. Preferably on the largest cucumber you can find. That way they know the condom will fit, and they are not too small to go on.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2013 11:08:26 GMT -5
Boy "Damn girlie, your dad sounds bad ass. Did he kill people in the military" Girl "No, he was in IT" Boy "bawaaahhaaaaaaa.. But he must do something bad ass now right?" Girl "Runs a toy store" Boy "Sweet. Meet you at the movie theater around 7 and I have the condoms"
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Post by Deleted on Dec 25, 2013 11:22:18 GMT -5
And that's your opinion - you're welcome to it. It's certainly not advice I'd follow for educating teens on sex and risks/pregnancies.
A parent handing a box of condoms to young teens without a discussion or educating the young teen on the risks (not only of unplanned pregnancy, but other risks - disease, loss of a future, etc) is a parent wearing blinders, hiding from reality of kids today, and "hoping for the best".
Hopefully the kids have been taught how to read. If so, the package includes directions and disclaimers..
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