My siblings are no longer innocent...

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I miss that part of their childhood

My sister and brother are now 10 (going on 19) and 11 (going on 19 also) with iPhone 4S's, more knowledge about things I wish they did not know , they think they know everything about everything and that childhood innocent has disappeared.

I think they grew up to fast ad my parents exposed them to too much too early. One thing about being children of immigrants: you grow up FAST... Too FAST even. When I compare them to my wife little cousins that are the same age it is scary; they are like little adults in grown up bodies.

I miss that and I want it back. Now they think they are grown ups and suddenly too old for everything. At least they still love spending time with their older brother... Let me enjoy and savor that one while it last.

[tloonya]

I think you should be less drama queen about things, Carl. As long as your family is healthy - nothing should make you sad about them. 10 and 11 You never even known them!

1. I say if maybe their older brother was talking to them more instead of to strangers on internet...
2. Just read an article that in Germany kindergarten age kids are thought to masturbate. Yep, I had goggled it and its there...
3. Kids what they are and it is not going to be any different in future. I am enjoying my child's age. And whatever is that she is doing at her age.

P.S. BTW my MOTHER wishes I was still a virgin.

[Deleted]

Are you saying you're not a virgin???

Do tell!!!

[Jaguar]

Carl kids grow up fast.

[Deleted]

Don't let them fool you, they are still kids. Being aware of things we weren't aware of doesn't make them any more mature or able to understand all the implications of those things. At this point a lot of what they're saying is just parroting. They need you to be the smarter adult. Don't let them down.

[tloonya]

Dec 21, 2013 14:04:56 GMT -5 TheHaitian said:

I miss that part of their childhood

My sister and brother are now 10 (going on 19) and 11 (going on 19 also) with iPhone 4S's, more knowledge about things I wish they did not know , they think they know everything about everything and that childhood innocent has disappeared.

I think they grew up to fast ad my parents exposed them to too much too early. One thing about being children of immigrants: you grow up FAST... Too FAST even. When I compare them to my wife little cousins that are the same age it is scary; they are like little adults in grown up bodies.

I miss that and I want it back. Now they think they are grown ups and suddenly too old for everything. At least they still love spending time with their older brother...
Let me enjoy and savor that one while it last.

Sorry, cawai, but what man saus that?
Most guys savor their burger and enjoying their beef...while it last.
Saying something like that about 20 years younger siblings sounds creepy.
You were 20+ when they were born? What have you really enjoyed together?
Changing diapers until you turned 23? Daycare togetherness or hugging in the crib?
WHAT have you been doing 'together' for you to enjoy so you can savor when you are 40
So theatrical and unreal. IMO

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My older son is 11 and he's still very much a kid.  He's into Dragons, Legos and Minecraft mostly.  Girls are still "weird" and "gross" to him. 

[giramomma]

Dec 22, 2013 11:38:57 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

My older son is 11 and he's still very much a kid.  He's into Dragons, Legos and Minecraft mostly.  Girls are still "weird" and "gross" to him. 

My DS is like that too, but he's also noticing boobs.

Today, he and a friend were over playing a card game, and one of the monsters is an very voluptuous Amazon Lady. My DS's friend said "Would you please stop staring and just play the game."

It's hard to keep kids innocent. (And, personally, I don't know how much technology plays into this. My oldest has no cell phone, we don't have cable, etc,  but there are still times where he'd rather be with friends than family.)

Anyway, I think we do an OK job. Our mortality, sex, money, drug, alcohol, poverty, etc are completely open for discussion. We do not push on these topics (except we'll need start pushing on the sex talks. Oral sex among middle schoolers is pretty common where we are, and we are only 2 years off from that.)

It IS hard, as I've noticed that once my kids to school, they want to play with their toys less. Last summer, it took my 5 year old a month after school was out before she was willing to sit and play like she used to.



 

[Jaguar]

You can't lock kids in a bubble, that backfires really badly. I seen it enough times and also seen the fallout, not nice.

[Sunnyday]

@tyloony

What your deal? I don't know if you're joking or not? How is it weird that caiwaw loves his brothers and sisters and feels a paternal love for them? It's normal given the huge age difference.

I love my little cousins and They were born when I was in my mid 20s, and completely uninterested in anything domestic.

I mourn that I will never see them again (still alive, relationship soured between me and the mother.), and even if I did, they will be teenagers who will have no memory of me. I really loved them, and my heart still tugs when I think of them.

It sounds all dramatic, but it's true for me and a lot of people.

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Dec 23, 2013 11:58:51 GMT -5 Sunnyday said:

@tyloony

What your deal? I don't know if you're joking or not? How is it weird that caiwaw loves his brothers and sisters and feels a paternal love for them? It's normal given the huge age difference.

I love my little cousins and They were born when I was in my mid 20s, and completely uninterested in anything domestic.

I mourn that I will never see them again (still alive, relationship soured between me and the mother.), and even if I did, they will be teenagers who will have no memory of me. I really loved them, and my heart still tugs when I think of them.

It sounds all dramatic, but it's true for me and a lot of people.

Yeah, but you're not a guy and according to Loony, men don't think like that... 

[tloonya]

Dec 23, 2013 12:39:39 GMT -5 minnesotapaintlady said:

Dec 23, 2013 11:58:51 GMT -5 Sunnyday said:

@tyloony

What your deal? I don't know if you're joking or not? How is it weird that caiwaw loves his brothers and sisters and feels a paternal love for them? It's normal given the huge age difference.

I love my little cousins and They were born when I was in my mid 20s, and completely uninterested in anything domestic.

I mourn that I will never see them again (still alive, relationship soured between me and the mother.), and even if I did, they will be teenagers who will have no memory of me. I really loved them, and my heart still tugs when I think of them.

It sounds all dramatic, but it's true for me and a lot of people.

Yeah, but you're not a guy and according to Loony, men don't think like that... 

I don't mourn alive people...I can mourn dead feelings or relationships or people but not anyone living.
That and whats minnessotalady said.
There is so much grief in the world to get overly dramatic over growing up of siblings.
Wait when Carl gets children and they grow up! IMAGINE THE DRAMA! 'My kids out of diapers'...how can I return those sweet smelly moments? Just kidding but I am not right?
And sweetie, if you really that upset about losing relationships you will return them. Otherwise you are just saying it and you do not mourn - yuo just upset about it.

People tend to use big words to describe little issues and then when big issues are coming people finding themselves speachless...but if they haven't used ALL THE DOTS!!!

[NancysSummerSip]

Loony, some of your posts indicate that you are dipping into the eggnog. A lot of dipping. And a lot of eggnog.

Now just back away from the cauldron, put down the booze bottle and you'll feel better later.

[tloonya]

Dec 23, 2013 14:03:13 GMT -5 NancysSummerSip said:

Loony, some of your posts indicate that you are dipping into the eggnog. A lot of dipping. And a lot of eggnog.

Now just back away from the cauldron, put down the booze bottle and you'll feel better later.

Pows from my nogg