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Post by Deleted on Nov 6, 2013 21:06:28 GMT -5
Bonny - By the far side of the island I was referring to Princeville, Hanalei and Haena - called the far side because it's as far from the airport in Lihue as you can drive. The outlaws had a condo there that we used to use and I loved it more than anywhere else. Please say hello to the island for me and that I hope to come back soon. That said, you sure got a great price on what looks to be a wonderful house. Hope you and your DH are enjoying the relaxing climate and environment. LOL, glad you clarified that definition. I thought you meant as far away from the Mainland as you can get. Yesterday I hiked a small section of the Kalalau trail (just to Hanakapi'ai Beach) and an après walk on Ke'e Beach. DH swam at Tunnels. Debt, spoke to a local server and it sounds like the same kind of arrangement that DD had in Carmel. You go in with roommates and rent a house or a condo. BTW if things have gone well with her LL, have DD ask for a written reference. It will help her with her next rental, especially if she comes back to the States.
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Post by NastyWoman on Nov 7, 2013 1:07:08 GMT -5
Justzombies, after talking to my sister tonight, I totally agree. And if DD does get her own place, she can always come home whenever she wants, even during the week (it's about a 45m commute to her school, and she's been doing it for two years.). I'm so glad I started this thread ... I felt so reticent about this, since we are indeed in commuting distance. I have wished I could afford it for her, but I can't. But after seeing all your comments, and talking to my sister, I definitely feel that offering DD the option is the right thing to do. And I'm sure I could help her out a bit too, if she does opt for that. Thank you all! Debt I join the others in thinking that offering DD the option to live on her own. It is difficult to move back after the freedom she enjoyed. And the fact that DDs older brother come home regularly ensures that she can come home whenever she feels like it (from DDs POV, not yours of course lol). Such a great opportunity for you to have her close while she flexes her wings.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 7, 2013 18:05:52 GMT -5
Sarahjese, that would be great! We have "stalked" DS1 for the past few years (ie going on vacation where he was working), but never made it to CA to see DD, which I feel badly about. (She went to CA the year after we did, and we couldn't afford to go back.) So we have told her we will do our best to visit her in Hawaii or anywhere else she ends up! She said, so start saving! LOL! This said I don't think it will be next summer. She has worked all summer for the past two years while all her friends went on vacation, so I think she will probably take next summer off (her last "hurrah") and look for a job as of September.
Joss, I agree, it IS difficult to move home after all that freedom. I've been really tempted to mention it to DD on the phone or on Skype, but I want to talk to her about it in person.
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Post by 973beachbum on Nov 8, 2013 8:48:58 GMT -5
Our DD will start college in the fall and it is crazy expensive. she knows she will have to take loans and work her butt off plus what we will contribute and it may still not be enought to go to her favorite school. So I just wanted to say what an incredible gift you and your DH are already giving her that she will graduate with no student loans. And to me $6K is basically the same as no loans. PS the cheapest place to live in Hawaii is the Big Island. The COLA there is cheaper than it is here in NJ and I would bet cheaper than than in Paris. I would also bet her speaking French and English would be a bigger plus here in the US than in France.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 8, 2013 17:55:21 GMT -5
Beachbum, it's only because it's much cheaper here! DD's tuition and commuter card are about $13K per year, for 3 years. First year we also had to pay about $1.5K for her knives and uniforms. Her internship cost us about $5K (placement agency, airfare, and partial rent). So that's $45.5K total, for 3 years. And my outlaws (ex in-laws) generously contributed about $5K a year.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 10, 2013 15:25:59 GMT -5
Yes DD is home! Her BFF came with us to the airport so both girls are here. DD spent the day unpacking and talking with us, then her big bro took the 4 kids to the movies. I spoke (briefly) to DD about this issue ... imagine my surprise when she said there is NO WAY she wants to share an apt again! LOL I'm not going to hold her to that, but the idea of sharing an apt is OUT for now. She seems very happy to be home, and says she'd eventually like to have her own place. But she's happy to be here (for now at least), she doesn't seem anxious about it, so we'll see how she settles in. I don't want her her live alone for several reasons (less safe getting home from late-night shifts at the school restaurant, more expensive, impossible to find a six-month lease, risk of loneliness) so we'll see what happens. It's great to have her home!!! Thanks again for all your help!
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Post by motherto2 on Nov 11, 2013 22:33:30 GMT -5
Debt, It's great that you anticipated there might be a problem when your DD came home and working on solutions, whether you need them or not. My DD left school for a year to join the Army, with a promise to me that she would come back home and finish. Well, she was top in her class at AIT and got the pick of where she wanted to finish out the practical part of AIT (in a hospital, so they have to split them up) and she picked Hawaii. When she was getting close to finishing, they wanted her to extend a year and stay there. You can imagine the wet snarling cat that met me at the airport when she came home to finish her degree. But she had promised, so she came home. I endured some real attitude and fights, but I knew that in the end, she will be glad she has that piece of paper. I've even told her it might not be for a few years, but eventually she will thank me. But one of the things that truly helped her was she roomed with my aunt and grandmother. She got out of the drama of dorm/apartment living and that helped tremendously.
Good luck!
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Post by Deleted on Nov 12, 2013 18:19:52 GMT -5
Mother, thank you! Oh I can SO see that "snarling cat" at the airport LOL! Good for your DD for keeping her promise! And I agree, she will be glad to have that "piece of paper", probably sooner than later!
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