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[Tennesseer]

Bisexual Georgia Teen Kicked Out By Parents Gets Amazing Response From Strangers

"When Nick's parents found out their son was bisexual, they threw him out of the house, leaving his belongings on the front yard. Although his parents did not support him, hundreds of strangers rallied around the penniless 18-year-old to offer their support, and they managed to raise thousands of dollars.

Earlier this month, Nick's parents threw him out of the house and took his car after someone told them he was bisexual, according to a description on a GoFundMe page. In addition, the page notes, they took the money Nick had saved from bagging groceries.

Steve Bevers, whose mother-in-law works with Nick, took the Georgia teen into his home and set up the crowd funding page on Oct. 22 to help raise money for Kennesaw State University freshman.

"When I heard about what happened to Nick I was flabbergasted," Bevers said in a statement to The Huffington Post. "I couldn't understand how a parent could do that. While I'm sure there are multiple sides to the story, I just was amazed. I was hurt. The first thing I asked was, 'Does he need a place to stay? Does he need some money?'"

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Bisexual Georgia Teen Kicked Out By Parents Gets Amazing Response From Strangers

[Jaguar]

Good for him, I hope he continues to go forward regardless of his parents actions.

[Peace Of Mind]

they took the money Nick had saved from bagging groceries.

I wonder how long they waited to find an excuse to rob their own son.  Assholes! 

[Tennesseer]

Nov 3, 2013 18:47:23 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

they took the money Nick had saved from bagging groceries.

I wonder how long they waited to find an excuse to rob their own son.  Assholes! 

The young man should have had his own bank account.  I don't know if he kept his savings at home or in a joint bank account with a parent.

[mmhmm]

That poor kid!  I can only imagine what it must feel like to be rejected by your own parents - the people who are supposed to love you.  It's beyond my ken how anyone could throw their kid out into the street, take the money he's saved and his transportation, and then sleep at night.  I just can't fathom it.

[Peace Of Mind]

Nov 3, 2013 18:53:55 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Nov 3, 2013 18:47:23 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

I wonder how long they waited to find an excuse to rob their own son.  Assholes! 

The young man should have had his own bank account.  I don't know if he kept his savings at home or in a joint bank account with a parent.

He knows that NOW! 

[Deleted]

 The parents sound like they'd be pleased to have a gay restaurant server... so they could exploit their "morality clause" to "justify" cheating the server out of their tip.

[ՏՇԾԵԵʅՏɧ_LԹՏՏʅҼ]

That poor kid should charge his parents with theft -for the money of his that they stole. (No doubt it was in cash that he had tucked away somewhere in his room. They probably found it when they were tossing out all his belongings.)

patience beat me to what I was going to add - about the parents. They're probably just like the religious zealots who wrote the nasty msg (sermon) to their server when they dined at a restaurant instead of leaving a tip.

[Deleted]

A phrase that is often misquoted: "The love of Money is the root of all evil."

 Sounds like the parental units devised a strategy for divesting themselves of any financial obligation to support their kid's college education.
 The petty cash was just gravy.

[Opti]

POM, according to the video the kid made(click on URL Tenn posted) the parents
took the money from his savings account. They also took his cellphone that he
paid for.

Seems like a nice kid from what little I saw in the video.
What bad, bigoted parents. I'm glad people rallied and gave him money
and encouragement.

[zibazinski]

If he was 18 when they stole the money, he has a case. If he was a minor, he doesn't.

[Shooby]

  Just curious, but did anyone ask the Parents version of the story?

[zibazinski]

You're kidding, right? They are just hateful people who don't deserve to live.

[Shooby]

No I asked a question.  There are 2 sides to every story.

[zibazinski]

I know. I was being facetious. 

[zibazinski]

But I'm thinking they're just pigs.

[steff]

People like this just make me sick.  HOW does any parent just turn their backs on their child like this?   cold mother fuckers!  May Karma make several visits on them, hopefully when they are old & need someone to take care of them. 

[zibazinski]

Not everyone uses their children as caregivers or their retirement plan. For one reason, most children don't buy into it.

[steff]

Nov 6, 2013 16:23:37 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

Not everyone uses their children as caregivers or their retirement plan. For one reason, most children don't buy into it.

My grandmother lives with my mom now.  She is not "using" her.  one day my mother will live with me.  Again, she will not be "using" me.   One day I will live with my son when I'm old. 

we were raised in a family where you take care of your elderly.  You don't ditch them just because they are old.  I would much rather help take care of my grandmother & my mother than turn my back on two of the most important women in my entire life. 

Just today we went out & looked at a new house my mom is trying to buy.  It has space for my gramma to have her own floor/kitchen/laundry room/ & guest room.  PLUS, it has a guest house where my aunt & uncle will live.  so they can help my mom with gramma & to help them out financially. 

for us, it's called family...not users. 

[steff]

Oh, and all of these arrangements were discussed well before hand.  Even when my mom found a place that had room for my aunt & uncle, she talked to me first because it will add the burden of helping care for them onto me one day.  Financial arrangements/changes are already being made for that time. She talked to all 3 of us kids because she's handing her other house over to one of my brothers & wanted to make sure we were ALL okay with him having it.  Of course we are okay with it.  it will help him out financially & will keep the house in the family.  One day I will get the new house mom is buying now.  My youngest brother is okay with the fact that he's the only one who doesn't "win" a house in the mom lotto. 


  I am prepared to help take care of my elderly relatives when the time comes because I love them dearly & I believe in the old fashioned family takes care of family. 

[zibazinski]

That's you and yours. Nothing wrong with it. But simply assuming this son would care or them when they got old is ludicrous.

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Nov 3, 2013 18:53:55 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Nov 3, 2013 18:47:23 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

I wonder how long they waited to find an excuse to rob their own son.  Assholes! 

The young man should have had his own bank account.  I don't know if he kept his savings at home or in a joint bank account with a parent.

When I was underage, the bank would not allow me an account that was not joint with my parent.  Maybe he had just turned 18.

[Virgil Showlion]

I have no problem with "Nick"'s parents throwing him out. He should be able to keep any money he rightly earned, however.

[steff]

Nov 11, 2013 16:07:03 GMT -5 Virgil Showlion said:

I have no problem with "Nick"'s parents throwing him out. He should be able to keep any money he rightly earned, however.

I want to ask to be sure.  Would you throw away your child if they fell in love with someone of the same sex? 

As in, all day today, this child was still your child. You loved them just like you've loved them their entire life.  Tonight you find out they are gay.  Tomorrow you throw them out, no longer love them, toss them away like trash & completely change everything you've felt about them literally over night. 

[Tennesseer]

Nov 11, 2013 16:07:03 GMT -5 Virgil Showlion said:

I have no problem with "Nick"'s parents throwing him out. He should be able to keep any money he rightly earned, however.

Is the reason you have no problem with the kid's parents throwing him out of their home because he was at least 18 or for some other reason?

[Angel!]

The issue I have is a lot of kids get thrown out at 18.  I know of a few.

I get the outrage at stealing from him & leaving him with nothing.  I get the outrage at the reason.  But, their actual actions aren't that much different than a lot of parents. 

Should we be outraged at all parents that throw their kids out at 18?  Or only the ones who do it because of their kid's sexual orientation?

[mmhmm]

It sounds to me, from what I've read, this young man was going to college (college freshman).  He'd had a job bagging groceries and had managed to save some money.  He doesn't sound like the kind of kid a parent would throw out of the house.  I can see throwing a kid out if the kid refuses to work, or go to school to get an education, or gets involved in drugs, or petty crime.  I can only go by what I have to read, but this kid doesn't sound like a ne'er do well.  For that reason, I'd question very strongly what these parents decided to do.  Looks like others did, as well, thankfully.

[Virgil Showlion]

Nov 11, 2013 16:54:21 GMT -5 steff said:

Nov 11, 2013 16:07:03 GMT -5 Virgil Showlion said:

I have no problem with "Nick"'s parents throwing him out. He should be able to keep any money he rightly earned, however.

I want to ask to be sure.  Would you throw away your child if they fell in love with someone of the same sex? 

As in, all day today, this child was still your child. You loved them just like you've loved them their entire life.  Tonight you find out they are gay.  Tomorrow you throw them out, no longer love them, toss them away like trash & completely change everything you've felt about them literally over night. 

How is throwing my adult son out of the house "throwing him away"? He'll waste away to nothing without me? He'll wind up drifting to the city landfill and fall prey to wild dogs?

Living in my wife's and my house comes with the condition that our rules are respected. I don't care what my child feels, I care what he does. Since neither homosexuality nor premarital sex would be tolerated, my son's options are either to respect these prohibitions (and to respect us in so doing), or to find his own way in the great wide world, doing as he pleases without our roof over his head. It's his decision as to which he values more. Obviously my wife and I would do our best to instill our values in our children so that if they were faced with the decision, they would make the right one.

I would still love him. I wouldn't terminate contact with him. And if at any point his values changed and he ceased his immorality, I wouldn't hesitate to welcome him back into my home.

You and I have markedly different ideas on what constitutes genuine love. I cannot "love" a child by tolerating his choice to engage in immoral behaviour.

[Jaguar]

Being gay is not a crime, like hello peeps. This young man was responsible, in my books you don't throw that away cause he's gay. Him being gay is and was none of his parents damn business.

[steff]