Should I offer to bring a dish to pass?

[bean29]

We were invited to a co-ed baby shower for my DH's nephew's baby.  DH refused to go - he says he has too much to do  (very true).  The invite says the party is at the Country Inn and Suites - it is way on the other side of town so I have no idea what it is like, but I thought it was to be catered b/c Country Inn seemed like the kind of place that would not let you carry in food.

My SIL texted me and asked for a recipe for Pasta salad we make.  I am wondering if I should offer to make it?  I already spent $50 on a gift from me and $50 for a gift from MIL.  MIL does not want to go either.  It is about 30 miles from my house one direction.  My Google map says I should be able to get there in about 35 minitues.  It is a good 10 miles beyond my work so IDK, I rarely make it to work in a half hour even on the weekend.

So my question is to I e-mail the recipe or do I offer to make it?  My SIL is not giving the shower.

[drivingaround]

I would e-mail the recipe but not bring a dish or offer to bring a dish. 

[kittensaver]

I say do as you were asked (provide the recipe). If your weekends are short and precious and you're driving a considerable distance alone, I'd skip the event too and mail the gift, unless I was very close to the honoree (or had the luxury of hours to burn over a weekend).

FWIW, I attended a family "morning after" wedding brunch at a Country Inn & Suites a few years back. The rental was the-room-only, and we all chipped in and provided all the food (even the ice).

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Country Inn and Suites normally does not have any sort of restaurant associated with it. I would imagine that they might have it catered through another place though.

So bringing a dish yourself shouldn't be an issue with the hotel. We stayed at a Country Inn and Suites once and it looked like they were having a birthday party at the pool. I know someone brought a cake in from outside because I saw them bringing it in from the parking lot.

[bean29]

Nov 1, 2013 16:34:21 GMT -5 The Walk of the Penguin Mich said:

Country Inn and Suites normally does not have any sort of restaurant associated with it. I would imagine that they might have it catered through another place though.

So bringing a dish yourself shouldn't be an issue with the hotel. We stayed at a Country Inn and Suites once and it looked like they were having a birthday party at the pool. I know someone brought a cake in from outside because I saw them bringing it in from the parking lot.

Oh, There is a Country inn & suites here that has a large indoor waterpark associated with it, so I was thinking it was a higher end hotel.

Parents and 2 sibling owe us thousands of $$.  Owe my MIL thousands too.  The Father of the baby does not owe us $$ though.  They had a destination wedding, we did not go, so we did not give a gift for the wedding.  I am wondering if her family looks down on his family and therefore they are making it incovenient for us to attend.  One BIL/SIL probably have at least an hour commute to get there one way - I do not know if they are going or not though.  I had the impression my SIL/BIL (Grandparents) are a little put out by the location too, but I did not want to stir the pot.

I felt that not going would set a bad precedent for the future.  So, I am going even though I do have a ton of things to do this weekend.

Thanks for the input.  I will look up the recipe and e-mail it to SIL.  If I had planned to make it, I would have spent less on the gift.  It will probably cost $20 to buy the ingredients.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

Oh, There is a Country inn & suites here that has a large indoor waterpark associated with it, so I was thinking it was a higher end hotel.

It's more middle of the road, along the lines of a Holiday Inn. We stay here frequently when we travel and can usually get a room around $70-80/night as they are fairly consistent across the states.

[Miss Tequila]

I hate having to make for for showers. My family is big in that and my damn mother always volunteers me to make something. I try to stick to something easy (boxed brownies!). It usually get roped into at least ziti. I do spend a lot less on a gift when I am spending $20 for a covered dish.

[sarcasticgirl]

i would just send the recipe. I can't say I've ever been asked to bring a dish to a shower that i wasn't hosting/assisting in hosting... 

[Deleted]

I know this is not the question but it sounds like you think a 30-mile drive is too long. This is for family, even if it wasnt family, 30 miles is nothing. I'd go and i'd ask if they want me to bring anything or offer to make the dish.