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Post by sarcasticgirl on Oct 27, 2013 19:54:24 GMT -5
When your spouse is sick do you sleep in the same room as they do?
I am just getting over a cold that has lasted 2 weeks. As of this morning, it appears my DH has the flu. He is achy all over (when he first woke up, he though he just had a horrible backache from the too soft mattress at the in-laws house where we stayed last night) he was nauseated and skipped his mother's homemade breakfast. He slept the entire hour and a half drive home and climbed straight into bed and fell asleep. I woke him up a few hours into his "nap" and took his temp 101.6 He straight up has the damn flu.
So, how bad would it be for me to sleep in the guest room for a few days while Sicky McSickerson wallows in his germs? I always offer to sleep in the other room when I'm sick but DH always insists that I shouldn't.
Also, can I ask him to leave the bedroom so I can lysol the f*ck out of it?
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Post by busymom on Oct 27, 2013 19:58:21 GMT -5
No, DH & I usually sleep apart until the "sick" one is feeling better. I mean, we're sleeping in the same house, so it shouldn't be a big deal, right?
I'd wait a few days to Lysol the room. He might end up puking. Why Lysol twice?
Best of luck. Hope it's not the "real" flu. There's some sort of stomach thing going around right now that mimics the flu. No fun.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2013 20:17:49 GMT -5
You have already been germified, so sleeping apart isn't going to save you when he was infectious and shut in a car with you.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Oct 27, 2013 20:20:50 GMT -5
I almost never get sick, so I don't worry about it. Loop has had a nasty cold for a few days. We sleep tangled up in our queen bed with me groping her in my sleep half the night. I feel fine.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2013 20:22:43 GMT -5
I almost never get sick, so I don't worry about it. Loop has had a nasty cold for a few days. We sleep tangled up in our queen bed with me groping her in my sleep half the night. I feel fine. Basically this, except I grope my own wife vs Loop
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Post by Deleted on Oct 27, 2013 20:35:45 GMT -5
It is sooooo fun to be sick and groped...
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Post by midjd on Oct 27, 2013 21:08:12 GMT -5
It seems as though with most illnesses, the incubation period is the most infectious, but you don't feel sick yet... so unless you came home from a business trip and your spouse was sick, you've probably already been exposed. If the other person is up puking half the night or coughing/snoring, it probably is better to sleep in the other room for your own sanity
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Oct 27, 2013 21:17:11 GMT -5
I thought with the flu they were most contagious during the first 3 days of being ill?
He has no cold symptoms, he just has a bad headache, severe body aches and is running a temp. I've been feeding him drugs all day and the lowest I got the temp was 100.4. He was awake for a total of maybe 2-3 hours today. He is sleeping like the dead. Ugh and yes, I am in our room... Scared of the germs. ( I lysoled while he showered)
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Post by whoami on Oct 27, 2013 21:17:27 GMT -5
DH knows better than to bother me when Im sick. Just leave me the hell alone in my misery.
DH is a big baby when he is sick. I really have no desire to listen to the hacking, nose blowing, throat clearing, whining crap all night, so I sleep elsewhere.
It doesnt bother me to sleep alone as he is gone 3 or 4 days a week anyway.
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Post by taz157 on Oct 27, 2013 21:34:44 GMT -5
It seems as though with most illnesses, the incubation period is the most infectious, but you don't feel sick yet... so unless you came home from a business trip and your spouse was sick, you've probably already been exposed. If the other person is up puking half the night or coughing/snoring, it probably is better to sleep in the other room for your own sanity
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Post by cronewitch on Oct 27, 2013 21:36:52 GMT -5
I leave him in the bedroom and I take the guest room. Since the bedroom is upstairs he can't get to food or drink. Every few minutes I go up with tea or soup or juice leave it on his night stand and take down the empties. Then I make sure the empties are washed in very hot water then put in the dishwasher and my hands are clean. After three days he finally comes downstairs. I don't want breathed on or to hear him up coughing or anything so rather sleep downstairs.
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Oct 27, 2013 23:22:48 GMT -5
DH has hada horrid cold the past two weeks. He's gone to sleep on the couch because he doesn't want to wake me up. I feel badly about it, but he'll doze off first--while in bed--then I'll go to sleep. Then he'll wake up from a coughing fit and go to the couch so he doesn't wake me up.
I think it depends on the illness and if the healthy one has to work the next day. I hope he feels better soon!
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Oct 27, 2013 23:32:10 GMT -5
She's got a horrible cold, she's going to be miserable anyway, I might as well get some decent sleep, and I sleep better with a handful of boob.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Oct 27, 2013 23:35:30 GMT -5
I think it's only a problem when you lock the door when you are in the guest room - every night.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2013 0:40:27 GMT -5
Well Goose and I are just an adorable couple the last few days. He is sick with a nasty cold and I have raging PMS. He is all coughing, sneezing, snot, and all kinds of other noises....and he wants sympathy from me who is having her uterus ripped to shreds. I think I will sleep on the couch tonight because if I have to hear him moan and blow his nose one more time....one of us is going to die.
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Post by Spellbound454 on Oct 28, 2013 2:06:40 GMT -5
I think I'd go in the other room......If the sick person is tossing and turning all night... neither of you will get any sleep.
If one of our family had norovirus (vomiting bug) they would stay in their room.....and since we only have one bathroom I would disinfect it, like something possessed, so the rest of the family didn't get it. It works actually... and we seldom spread it around. We just didn't have visitors until all the piles of laundry had been seen to and we were back to normal.
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Post by Firefly on Oct 28, 2013 2:25:50 GMT -5
Sick or not we share the same bed it could be because our second is occupied at the moment and neither of likes sleeping on the couch
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Post by quince on Oct 28, 2013 7:02:39 GMT -5
We share. We also continue to kiss and share saliva. We figure we're in such close proximity all the time, why miss out on kisses on the very very low probability we manage not to get each other sick?
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Post by finnime on Oct 28, 2013 7:39:32 GMT -5
Get your DH to a doctor's for an antiviral today. It will shorten the duration of illness. He can also get some meds to address some of his symptoms.
And we share the bed and germs. Less of a problem when you get a little older due to retained immunity from all the prior colds and viruses, especially if you get flu shots. But we don't have a nice inviting guest room, either.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 28, 2013 9:05:21 GMT -5
We don't sleep apart. And lately every night all four of us have been sleeping in the same queen bed, sickness or not.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Oct 28, 2013 11:16:40 GMT -5
I don't think there's anything wrong with sleeping in a different room from your spouse if they're sick, or for any reason really. My parents haven't slept in the same room for years and years, except on vacation. My mom is a raging insomniac and my dad snores like a freight train, not a good combination.....
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Post by zibazinski on Oct 28, 2013 11:28:29 GMT -5
DF has a compromised immune system. I'm as careful as I can be and I even have hand sanitizer for his hands to use after he handles a menu if we are eating out. Still, people that are sick go out in public and spread their germs so you can do as much as you can and still worry.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Oct 28, 2013 11:29:03 GMT -5
Get your DH to a doctor's for an antiviral today. It will shorten the duration of illness. He can also get some meds to address some of his symptoms. well, i told him to go to the DR. today for some Tamiflu or whatever they are giving out these days. Whether he listens or not is another story. He wouldn't take anything at all if I didn't stick it in his face and say "TAKE THIS." MEN
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Post by The Walk of the Penguin Mich on Oct 28, 2013 11:39:38 GMT -5
Only time that we've not slept in the same bed was when I was recovering from surgery. The last ones, I was in a hospital bed and I needed it elevated to alleviate stress on my back. TD couldn't sleep like this, so he'd go sleep in his own bed. This got rough when I needed my early morning antibiotics, I'd have to call his cell phone to wake him up because he would not hear me calling and I needed help with the IV set up.
But whenever either of us are sick, we still stay together. I figure that we've already swapped enough germs and if either of us were going to get sick, we would.
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Post by Pants on Oct 28, 2013 11:44:30 GMT -5
If we're sick, we totally sleep apart. Mostly for the sleep quality of the healthy person.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 28, 2013 11:51:16 GMT -5
Depends. Last time Gwen and I had a really bad cough. DH stuck us in the same bed and then stole Gwen's bed so he could get some sleep. I sleep like the dead, a truck could come thru our house I'd probably sleep thru it so he doesn't disturb me when he's sick. As far as sharing germs odd are good Patient 0 is Gwen so sleeping separately does nothing to contain whatever plague of the week she unleashes.
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Post by alabamagal on Oct 29, 2013 18:32:13 GMT -5
If we're sick, we totally sleep apart. Mostly for the sleep quality of the healthy person. I don't worry about the germs, but we often sleep apart for sleep quality reasons. DH is very susceptable to chest colds, and if he is coughing, one of us will be in the living room. Sometimes it is the person coughing, because you can sleep with your head elevated.
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Post by kittensaver on Oct 29, 2013 18:37:46 GMT -5
Another spouse here who figures that by the time symptoms appear, the germs have already been spread. So same bed it is - UNLESS there is the aforementioned hacking and coughing - then the not-sick one usually moves to the guest room for no other reason than to get a decent night's sleep.
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Post by Sam_2.0 on Oct 30, 2013 9:02:44 GMT -5
I wish we had another option, but we stay in the same bed. DH snores horribly and it's a million times worse when he's sick. But even sleeping on the couch means I still hear him clearly in our tiny house with wood floors (damn those wood floors!). Might as well sleep in my comfortable bed and just kick the hell out of him to get him to stop snoring. Or find some earplugs.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Oct 30, 2013 9:10:37 GMT -5
I wish we had another option, but we stay in the same bed. DH snores horribly and it's a million times worse when he's sick. But even sleeping on the couch means I still hear him clearly in our tiny house with wood floors (damn those wood floors!). Might as well sleep in my comfortable bed and just kick the hell out of him to get him to stop snoring. Or find some earplugs. Or hold the pillow over his face until he stops
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