alabamagal
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Post by alabamagal on Oct 8, 2013 7:50:14 GMT -5
I also think as a parent you have to encourage others to accept your son for what he is, and that he does not fit into the "perfect student" that teachers want. Throughout my son's schooling, he had teachers who wanted him to fit in better and some that just accepted him for what he was.
My son was never going to have neat handwriting, never going to completely pay attention to the teacher, could not follow more than one step in a multi-step list, was always going to forget his pencil. In third grade, his teacher would mark down a test 5 points for forgetting to put your name on the paper. My son said, "When I get the test, I just want to start working on it" and he would just skip the part to fill in your name. So we just accepted that he got 95 on most tests.
Middle school was the worst for him. He just had trouble being organized. And his teachers then were the worst for him. By high school things really started to click. By college, the grades got even better and being away from home really helped with his social skills.
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Formerly SK
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Post by Formerly SK on Oct 8, 2013 11:20:28 GMT -5
I also think as a parent you have to encourage others to accept your son for what he is, and that he does not fit into the "perfect student" that teachers want. Throughout my son's schooling, he had teachers who wanted him to fit in better and some that just accepted him for what he was. My son was never going to have neat handwriting, never going to completely pay attention to the teacher, could not follow more than one step in a multi-step list, was always going to forget his pencil. In third grade, his teacher would mark down a test 5 points for forgetting to put your name on the paper. My son said, "When I get the test, I just want to start working on it" and he would just skip the part to fill in your name. So we just accepted that he got 95 on most tests. Middle school was the worst for him. He just had trouble being organized. And his teachers then were the worst for him. By high school things really started to click. By college, the grades got even better and being away from home really helped with his social skills. Fortunately DS goes to a fabulous school. They give accommodations for everything. They are really trying to ignore the minor issues so we can focus on the big pictures stuff. For example, I type his math answers onto the website because he can't solve the math problems AND handle the OT aspect. The school and I both agree that the math is the core issue, so we ignore the rest of it. Phoenix - DS has one friend that he plays with at recess maybe 25% of the time. He's never seen her outside of school. Never been invited to a bday party. Mostly he seems pretty happy though. He seem pretty content to spend recess alone thinking. That may change as he gets older and his social needs mature. I'm thankful every day though that he has a sister and they are really close. She attends a different school so I think that gives her some breathing room from him. In the past year she has gotten more and more frustrated/embarrassed by him when out in public though. I appreciate everyone's advice. I can see the potential that DS will be a happy/productive adult if I can just get him through the school years. I may end up homeschooling him if necessary. He's a very sweet kid who loves everyone and I don't want that stomped on.
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