formerroomate99
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Post by formerroomate99 on Sept 6, 2013 10:24:59 GMT -5
I don't get weddings and the obessesion with planning them. I wanted to elope but DH really wanted a wedding so we had one. I didn't care as long as at the end of the day I was married. People thought I was nuts when they'd ask me what theme was I planning, what are my colors etc and I said "I don't know. I'm making shit up as I go". I was also surprised how many people equate how involved you are with planning to how much you love your future spouse. After I said the above my SIL actually asked me "Well you do want to marry DH don't you?" Uh. . I'm wearing my engagement ring so I'm pretty sure the answer to that stupid question is yes. I also found it funny that nobody expected DH to be obessesed with planning or equated how much he loved me with how involved he was in the process. I must be the only woman on the planet who hasn't been dreaming about getting married since she was 5. I was busy designing my own zoo. Same here. And I'll add, the only reason DH and I had a wedding at all was because he did half the planning. I was not about to marry a guy who wans't capable of planning an event without my supervising his every move. Many of the vendors we used just couldn't wrap their head around the idea of a future bride trusting her future husband to make any decisions or get anything done. Talk about setting a bad precident. And I agree with you that neither DH nor my kids have completed me.
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Post by movingforward on Sept 6, 2013 10:27:05 GMT -5
No, you aren't. I actually never knew there were women who DID dream of their wedding day since they were a child until people kept telling me this. I just sat there thinking - are you freaking kidding me.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 6, 2013 10:27:34 GMT -5
We only lived in 2 houses and the house we lived in when she turned 16 was the same house we'd lived in for at least 8 years. She had even been going to the same area for school for 6 years (the high school and middle school were next to each other.) Even with all that, the first few weeks after she got her driver's license and tried to drive to school, she got lost repeatedly.
OMG, I think I might be your long lost sister.
When we mushroom hunt DH does not allow me to leave his side. He said I'm one of those people who would die less than 2 feet away from the road/car/camp.
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Post by milee on Sept 6, 2013 10:30:11 GMT -5
Edited to add: And my sister is NOT dumb. She's very smart. Just couldn't find her way out of a paper bag.
Even if she called you and you gave her directions.
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Post by movingforward on Sept 6, 2013 10:31:46 GMT -5
Those big earring things people like to wear these days that stretch the ear lobs out. Sorry, don't get it... Why would anyone want to do that to their ears
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 6, 2013 10:36:42 GMT -5
Even if she called you and you gave her directions.
Yep, now I'm definetly sure I'm related to your sister.
It's weird because if I have someone else drive somplace unfamilar with me in the passenger seat, I can easily drive the route myself the next time I need to go there.
But hand me a map/written directions and tell me where to go? You'll never see me again.
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Post by swamp on Sept 6, 2013 10:37:01 GMT -5
I don't get maps. I have some sort of spatial deficiency. If any of you end up in a car with me, don't let me do the navigating (or you can pretend to let me, just do the opposite of whatever I say). I also don't "get" blind trust in others. I think I was born a cynic, but some people are so naïve (despite being burned multiple times) it makes me wonder if they're crazy. E.g. a $20K car is listed on Craigslist for $5K. My only thought: What's wrong with it? But my SIL will drive 100 miles to check out this awesome deal, and then be crushed when she figures out it's a scam. (Another example - everyone who has ever been featured on the show Catfish. You "date" someone online for years, they refuse to ever meet you in person, and you see nothing suspicious about that?) I get maps, but I'm with you on the rest of the stuff.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2013 10:38:20 GMT -5
I get excited when I understand anything on "Through the Wormhole", DQ!
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Post by Tiny on Sept 6, 2013 10:41:55 GMT -5
I don't get the hating on body thing other women do. I'd be sitting there listening to friends talk about how fat they are, they hate their hair, hate this, hate that. I don't get bonding over bashing yourself. There are millions of other things to talk about why are you spending 2 hours talking about how you need to lose 5 pounds? I totally don't get this, and yet everyone (well, women) seem to do it non stop. I'm not sure what my response is suppose to be? I also don't get how giving someone the "silent treatment" is helpful or useful... or how come getting pissed at someone, giving them the 'stare' and then storming off is productive. Ok, I can see needing to leave a situation/arguement/discussion to cool down or regain one's cool. Totally get that. But to then spend days purposefully "freezing out" another person until they apologize or whatever is beyond me. I'm pretty sure I've screwed up quite a few people's 'silent treatment' strategies... Being an Introvert I thought maybe they just needed some 'time alone', so I too enjoyed the 'alone time' and didn't realize they were 'punishing me'.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 6, 2013 10:42:33 GMT -5
I get excited when I understand anything on "Through the Wormhole", DQ!
The one about multiple dimensions nearly made my head explode. That wasy way too much theoretical physics for me to handle. One episode had a guy doing what he called "un-physics". WTF? Do physicists sit around and make stuff up just to confuse all us mere mortal? Though I suppose I could confuse them back by making up some weird biological theorem. Revenge!
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Post by sheilaincali on Sept 6, 2013 10:42:34 GMT -5
I don't understand: * people's fascination with sports. I just don't get it at all. How does wearing the same jersey and holey socks while screaming at a tv in your living room help the people actually playing win the game? * I am a total cynic- I don't trust anything that anyone says. My mom will tell me something she claims she heard on the news and I will google it myself to verify.
* count me in on the weddings. I just don't get them at all. The $$ people spend and that all just seems so very unnecessary to me. When we had cable I watched a couple of episodes of Bridezilla and all I could think is "why the hell are these guys still willing to marry these horrible women!"
* fashion is completely lost on me. I would serious buy like 5 pairs of the same jeans and half a dozen of the same shirt in different colors and wear that every single day of the week if I could get away with it. Oh, hell who am I kidding- that's basically what I do now anyway. I don't get the accessories women wear- rings, bracelets, earrings, necklaces, scarves, etc all as part of one outfit. That's way too much effort if you ask me. I barely even remember to wear my wedding ring half the time.
Shopping in a group. I don't understand this at all. Why do I want to wander the mall for hours with my besties? I'd rather go into one store, get what I need and go back home. I'd prefer to just buy on line. But to wander from store to store for hours making insipid comments about every outfit someone holds up would make me want to stab myself with a hanger. Our German Exchange student very much wants us to take him to the Mall of America. I'll take him but I am taking some valium first.
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Post by swamp on Sept 6, 2013 10:43:24 GMT -5
It should be, "yes, your ass is pretty fat, maybe you should put down that donut and go for a run."
Trust.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 6, 2013 10:44:01 GMT -5
Being an Introvert I thought maybe they just needed some 'time alone', so I too enjoyed the 'alone time' and didn't realize they were 'punishing me'.
Me too! DH is a huge silent treatment fan. Then he gets peeved because I'm off enjoying the time alone.
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Post by Formerly SK on Sept 6, 2013 10:44:25 GMT -5
I don't get maps. I have some sort of spatial deficiency. If any of you end up in a car with me, don't let me do the navigating (or you can pretend to let me, just do the opposite of whatever I say)
Nobody would ever see us again if we ended up in a car together without a GPS or mapquest directions. I think there's a biological basis in spatial ability. If you don't have that wiring or gene or whatever it is, maps are very tough to learn. Maybe similar to how hard it is for dyslexics to learn to read because they don't perceive the written language in the same manner as nondyslexics? My sister lived in the same small town since she was age 2. We only lived in 2 houses and the house we lived in when she turned 16 was the same house we'd lived in for at least 8 years. She had even been going to the same area for school for 6 years (the high school and middle school were next to each other.) Even with all that, the first few weeks after she got her driver's license and tried to drive to school, she got lost repeatedly. This was before most people had cell phones and for the first few years of driving, she'd often call home crying from a pay phone with no idea where she was or how to get home. "I'm at a 7-11, how do I get home?" Sniff. "I have no idea what road the 7-11 is on, but I can see a big tree out front." "Uh, yes, there's a pool supply store on one side. So that means I'm on _____ street?" Sniff. Sniff. "OK. So which way is east again?" We just gave her a bag of change and hoped for the best. It's a miracle some serial killer didn't "help" her. My DS8 as part of his last round of autism assessment with the school was tested for visual/spatial skills (amongst a bunch of things). He tested more than two standard deviations above the mean - his test results were the highest in his school's history. When we drive around, he can not only tell you what direction (N/S/E/W) we are driving, but the street/highway name and the exit number we'll take to get to our destination. He's been doing that since he was 5 or 6. The OT theorized that one reason DS may not be able to focus on normal everyday stuff like normal people is that he's so overwhelmed by the details he's taking in he can't filter them out to only notice pertinent data. It's like he can't just see a bunch of trees - he sees all the leaves and variations of bark. And since it takes longer to absorb/process all that, he's always behind on conversations or unable to participate in assignments like everyone else. The brain is a really interesting thing.
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Post by Tiny on Sept 6, 2013 10:46:49 GMT -5
I don't get maps. I have some sort of spatial deficiency. If any of you end up in a car with me, don't let me do the navigating (or you can pretend to let me, just do the opposite of whatever I say)
Nobody would ever see us again if we ended up in a car together without a GPS or mapquest directions. I think there's a biological basis in spatial ability. If you don't have that wiring or gene or whatever it is, maps are very tough to learn. Maybe similar to how hard it is for dyslexics to learn to read because they don't perceive the written language in the same manner as nondyslexics? My sister lived in the same small town since she was age 2. We only lived in 2 houses and the house we lived in when she turned 16 was the same house we'd lived in for at least 8 years. She had even been going to the same area for school for 6 years (the high school and middle school were next to each other.) Even with all that, the first few weeks after she got her driver's license and tried to drive to school, she got lost repeatedly. This was before most people had cell phones and for the first few years of driving, she'd often call home crying from a pay phone with no idea where she was or how to get home. "I'm at a 7-11, how do I get home?" Sniff. "I have no idea what road the 7-11 is on, but I can see a big tree out front." "Uh, yes, there's a pool supply store on one side. So that means I'm on _____ street?" Sniff. Sniff. "OK. So which way is east again?" We just gave her a bag of change and hoped for the best. It's a miracle some serial killer didn't "help" her. OMG... your sister and I have the same problem... except I CAN read a map and need them. I have a terrible time getting to places without one (or atleast reviewing my written instructions before I leave home). I'm ok with the places I goto atleast once or twice a month (or more) but I need to review how to get to friend's/relative's houses -- even though I've going to them for 20 to 30 years (a couple of times a year). I have to review how to get to the Little Airport - even though it's less than 5 miles away. (ADDED - I often drive relatives to the airport and then 'car sit' their vehicle until they return. I joke that I could get lost taking out the trash. Maps and instructions are my friend. I can't get anywhere by memory - especially if I have to rely on long term memory for the "how to get there' part.
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Post by swamp on Sept 6, 2013 10:47:47 GMT -5
Blind trust in anyone, including myself
High Fashion, although I get the "normal stuff"
Dreaming of Weddings
Calculus
Bitchfest about our bodies with my besties
tattoos on the face
the attraction of really hairy chests
why not wearing deodorant is "more natural," wouldn't it logically follow that not showering is more natural?
Veganism. If you take my cheese, I will cut you.
Heroin. Why would I want to stick myself with a needle?
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Post by movingforward on Sept 6, 2013 10:49:33 GMT -5
I don't get people who base their entire existence on one book or what they have read/been told by someone else. I am not just talking about The Bible (though people definitely do that). I am actually talking more about books like The Secret and other "if you just think positive everything is going to be honky dory" books. Now, I am an optimistic person and I do think people need to be optimistic but I am also an action oriented and logical person. I am more about being proactive in dealing with a situation rather than just sitting around saying well, I am going to be positive so such and such will or will not happen. Hmmm.... yeah, it doesn't really work that way. I have friend who reads a lot of those type of books and though we are both positive people our reactions to things are different. A mutual friend of ours had a cat with an eye condition and she was afraid he might lose his eye. His reaction was well, you just need to think positive and he will not lose his eye. My reaction was more like... well, he might lose his eye but if he does he will be okay. There are several cats who only have one eye and they are just fine.
Just because you SAY or THINK something is going to happen a certain way doesn't mean it will... I guess I am more about just facing facts and coming up with solutions on how to deal with them than I am just sitting around trying to "will things to happen a certain way."
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Post by swamp on Sept 6, 2013 10:51:19 GMT -5
Loving being pregnant. I'm sorry, but those were the most miserable 18 months of my life.
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Post by formerroomate99 on Sept 6, 2013 10:51:34 GMT -5
It's basically a chance to get out and talk to your besties. When me and my friends group shop, most of our conversation is about stuff other than the clothes.
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Post by Tiny on Sept 6, 2013 10:52:17 GMT -5
It should be, "yes, your ass is pretty fat, maybe you should put down that donut and go for a run." Trust. People generally don't like it when you state the obvious. I generally go with sympathy - cause they are living lives of quiet desperation.
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Post by swamp on Sept 6, 2013 10:53:42 GMT -5
It's basically a chance to get out and talk to your besties. When me and my friends group shop, most of our conversation is about stuff other than the clothes. shopping with my friends can be a bonding experience, but when it turns into a bitch fest about how fat everyone is, it sucks. clothes aren't made for middle age soccer moms. especially those that used to be hotties.
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Post by formerroomate99 on Sept 6, 2013 10:54:35 GMT -5
Loving being pregnant. I'm sorry, but those were the most miserable 18 months of my life. I don't get morning sickness, didn't have any back problems, didn't have much heartburn, and slept like a rock. And the only thing I 'loved' about being pregnant was not being ashamed of my belly and the anticipation of a cute little baby.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2013 10:57:10 GMT -5
I think the only time I didn't feel self-conscious in a bikini was when I was pregnant. I was hot and miserable and I was wearing the least amount of clothing as possible and if people didn't like it they could kiss my (gigantic) arse!
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Post by swamp on Sept 6, 2013 10:57:52 GMT -5
Loving being pregnant. I'm sorry, but those were the most miserable 18 months of my life. I don't get morning sickness, didn't have any back problems, didn't have much heartburn, and slept like a rock. And the only thing I 'loved' about being pregnant was not being ashamed of my belly and the anticipation of a cute little baby. I envy you. I threw up every single day from 8 weeks until delivery, along with various other problems, including heart burn, sciatica, and insomnia.
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Post by steph08 on Sept 6, 2013 10:57:57 GMT -5
I don't get small talk either. My DH says I'm socially inept, but I am just an introvert. I just read an article about introverts and it described me to a T. Mostly the one about that introverts don't like small talk, but get them started on a subject they like and they can talk your ear off. For example, DH's family get-togethers. They talk hunting and fishing, which I like, but don't feel the need to talk about them all the time. But one time his uncle came and mentioned running - I love running. I don't think half the family had seen me talk so much. I also don't understand drugs/alcohol. After watching intervention, I don't understand why people want to do those things to themselves! I know, it's an addiction, etc., but just watching one episode makes me never ever want to try drugs...ever!
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 6, 2013 10:58:00 GMT -5
I don't get women over 20 who are obessesed with Twilight. My 48 year old SIL is obessesed with Twilight. I think she's insane. People who think 50 Shades of Grey is a revelation. There, I said it. For a book I keep hearing is "changing sex lives" and is "so graphic/lurid" I found the sex in that book to be incredibly disappointing and the language very vanilla. First you can tell the author has no clue what real S&M is. At times I was wondering if the author has ever had sex period. It was like she walked thru a sex shop and wrote down words without having any clue what any of it actually is. Second grown-ups can use the words "vagina" and "penis". For a "lurid" sex book I don't expect to see phrases such as "his throbbing manhood" and "her sex" tee hee. I've read Harelquin romance novels steamier than that. Watch Real Sex or Cat House on HBO if you want to get weird/lurid/raunchy. I want to ask what kind of sex life did you have before if this book revolutionized your bedroom habits.
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Post by swamp on Sept 6, 2013 10:59:07 GMT -5
I think the only time I didn't feel self-conscious in a bikini was when I was pregnant. I was hot and miserable and I was wearing the least amount of clothing as possible and if people didn't like it they could kiss my (gigantic) arse! Telling people to kiss my ass as I waddled my gigantic ass around was delightful.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2013 10:59:19 GMT -5
Shopping. I hate hate hate hate it.
Fashion. I get the classics, but not everything else.
Movies made from books. I read the book and create the characters in my mind. Don't mess with that!
In grad school I had this huge mental block on present and future values. I just could NOT get it. And I'm good with numbers. Finally, for some reason it clicked....and I still use it to this day!
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Post by sheilaincali on Sept 6, 2013 11:00:27 GMT -5
It's basically a chance to get out and talk to your besties. When me and my friends group shop, most of our conversation is about stuff other than the clothes. I'd rather go somewhere and focus on the conversation than have to walk and talk and shop and have all the other distractions around me. Probably has to do with me not liking shopping in the first place. The Mall gives me serious anxiety. I don't do well in places where I can't easily get to an exit. Pregnancy sucks and that is a good bit of why DS is an only child. I did not enjoy that experience at all. Yes I have a great kid out of the deal but physically being pregnant was no fun at all.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 6, 2013 11:00:44 GMT -5
On that note, I don't get how sometimes when people ask for input/advice, they don't actually want it... That was a long lesson to learn...
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