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Post by whoisjohngalt on Aug 22, 2013 10:39:18 GMT -5
The exception being pregnant women. They seem to think pregnancy is an excuse for being fat. NO! You're fat and gross, go on a diet. The "pregnancy glow" is nothing more than grease from all that crappy food you're eating. O M G -that just made me laugh so hard
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2013 11:01:23 GMT -5
I don't really care about how I look. I do care about how I feel & I would love to feel better (not going to happen but still). I saw my cardiac guy yesterday & he asked me about exercise. I told him what I do & what I was changing (I'm starting to double the "program"). He told me to go slow & skip a few days every now & then. So I'm a happy camper.
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Post by greeniis10 on Aug 22, 2013 13:11:07 GMT -5
DH and I have reverse roles in our marriage: on weekends he likes to go to the mall and to the movies. My weekends revolve around whatever sports season it is and my gym-time. He's also a talker! Please just give me the parts I need to know. Sometimes he'll talk for so long I'll jot down a note so that I can ask him about something he said several minutes ago. I do not talk on the phone outside of work. I don't even answer the phone at home unless it is one of the kids.
But, sometimes I do need to just VENT and when I do I announce it to him first. "Not looking for you to fix this; just want to vent."
Appearance-wise I take care of myself for ME and no one else. However, I do feel it is hypocritical to portray yourself a certain way before marriage and then let yourself go afterwards. I know a few women personally who did this. I feel sorry for their husbands...
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 22, 2013 13:35:14 GMT -5
There are already lots of books on the differences between men and women. I've read a couple of them. One interesting take talks about how women think and how men think. Specifically, how women use a lot more "words" in their speech and thought patterns, while men don't get so wordy. It also talked a lot about the dynamics of nagging. Fill us in. I want to learn more about nagging. Well, it's been a long time since I read the book. I read the book back when I was in high school working the library. I was tasked with shelving books, but ended up doing a lot of reading because there wasn't enough books to shelve during my shift. Anyway, basically women use a lot more words, both in practice and in thought. They also tend to think of many things at once, kind of like multi tasking thinking. So a woman might literally be thinking at rapid pace about a dozen things that need to get done at once. Men tend to have more one track minds. We tend to focus on one task, then move onto the next. So when your wife/girlfriend starts in on you to mow the grass, take out the trash, take the dog to the vet ect, it's like sensory overload. It feels like a thousand little gnats swarming and eating away at you.
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Post by movingforward on Aug 22, 2013 13:38:15 GMT -5
Fill us in. I want to learn more about nagging. Well, it's been a long time since I read the book. I read the book back when I was in high school working the library. I was tasked with shelving books, but ended up doing a lot of reading because there wasn't enough books to shelve during my shift. Anyway, basically women use a lot more words, both in practice and in thought. They also tend to think of many things at once, kind of like multi tasking thinking. So a woman might literally be thinking at rapid pace about a dozen things that need to get done at once. Men tend to have more one track minds. We tend to focus on one task, then move onto the next. So when your wife/girlfriend starts in on you to mow the grass, take out the trash, take the dog to the vet ect, it's like sensory overload. It feels like a thousand little gnats swarming and eating away at you. So in other words females are the superior sex since we can handle many different tasks at once
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Post by imawino on Aug 22, 2013 13:38:18 GMT -5
Fill us in. I want to learn more about nagging. Well, it's been a long time since I read the book. I read the book back when I was in high school working the library. I was tasked with shelving books, but ended up doing a lot of reading because there wasn't enough books to shelve during my shift. Anyway, basically women use a lot more words, both in practice and in thought. They also tend to think of many things at once, kind of like multi tasking thinking. So a woman might literally be thinking at rapid pace about a dozen things that need to get done at once. Men tend to have more one track minds. We tend to focus on one task, then move onto the next. So when your wife/girlfriend starts in on you to mow the grass, take out the trash, take the dog to the vet ect, it's like sensory overload. It feels like a thousand little gnats swarming and eating away at you. Interesting. Sometimes I have fantasies about slathering him in honey and letting a thousand ants eat him. So are you saying I can so the same thing with words?? Hey, what are those exercising for warming up vocal cords?
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Post by movingforward on Aug 22, 2013 13:40:20 GMT -5
Sometimes I have fantasies about slathering him in honey and letting a thousand ants eat him.
That is sadistic
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 22, 2013 13:40:38 GMT -5
My guess is that for men height matters far more than weight, and for women the reverse may be true. Not exactly a fair deal because height is generally perceived to be beyond one's control. I've always wondered what the supposed "ideal" height for women is. Most models, at least as far as I know, are tall, or at least taller than average. But you don't seem to find too many men who insist their gal be 5'8" or taller, but you'll find lots of women who insist their man be taller. It should be noted that less than 5% of men are over 6'1".
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Post by imawino on Aug 22, 2013 13:42:24 GMT -5
Sometimes I have fantasies about slathering him in honey and letting a thousand ants eat him.
That is sadistic It could be bacon grease and coyotes. Or peanut butter and mice. My fantasies lack specificity. (in order to maintain deniability)
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Post by happyhoix on Aug 22, 2013 13:56:21 GMT -5
I think most men evaluate other men by the jobs they have and they toys they've accumulated. So if you're a real estate tycoon driving a BMW sports car with some eye candy girlfriend half you're age, you're a successful man, despite the fact that you're four feet tall and look like a toad. And you feel good about yourself.
However, no matter what kind of job she has and how many cool toys, women still feel that a lot of how people judge them is tied to their appearance. A wealthy female CEO with a penthouse apartment and her own private jet who happens to be four feet tall and look like a toad knows she will be ignored in a room full of 20 something waitresses with big boobs - so she is less confident about her appearance.
Men are judged more by accomplishments, women more by looks.
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Post by swamp on Aug 22, 2013 14:00:48 GMT -5
Try being the one harboring those thoughts. The gnats are swarming in your brain.
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Post by Formerly SK on Aug 22, 2013 14:08:11 GMT -5
Try being the one harboring those thoughts. The gnats are swarming in your brain. I would kill to be more oblivious like DH. All I do is walk around the house all day and notice problems that need to be addressed. DH seems maybe 1% of it. He is so much more carefree than I am.
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Post by swamp on Aug 22, 2013 14:09:54 GMT -5
Try being the one harboring those thoughts. The gnats are swarming in your brain. I would kill to be more oblivious like DH. All I do is walk around the house all day and notice problems that need to be addressed. DH seems maybe 1% of it. He is so much more carefree than I am. No kidding. I walk in the house and immediately see the toys on the floor, the stuff on the counter that needs to be put away, dishes in the sink, stuff on the kitchen floor that needs to be swept, dirt on the hallway floor that needs to be swept, clothes on the bedroom floor that need to be put away. DH walks in, plops down in the recliner, and turns on the TV.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 22, 2013 14:13:18 GMT -5
I would kill to be more oblivious like DH. All I do is walk around the house all day and notice problems that need to be addressed. DH seems maybe 1% of it. He is so much more carefree than I am. No kidding. I walk in the house and immediately see the toys on the floor, the stuff on the counter that needs to be put away, dishes in the sink, stuff on the kitchen floor that needs to be swept, dirt on the hallway floor that needs to be swept, clothes on the bedroom floor that need to be put away. DH walks in, plops down in the recliner, and turns on the TV. OMG, I am a guy! ETA: It's ok though, since DH is a girl according to Swamp's description. It all evens out.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 22, 2013 14:15:22 GMT -5
I would kill to be more oblivious like DH. All I do is walk around the house all day and notice problems that need to be addressed. DH seems maybe 1% of it. He is so much more carefree than I am. No kidding. I walk in the house and immediately see the toys on the floor, the stuff on the counter that needs to be put away, dishes in the sink, stuff on the kitchen floor that needs to be swept, dirt on the hallway floor that needs to be swept, clothes on the bedroom floor that need to be put away. DH walks in, plops down in the recliner, and turns on the TV. You should try it one of these days. Just ignore it. Just come home from work, plop down on the sofa, and turn on the TV and start watching, or whatever other leisure activity strikes your fancy. It's great.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2013 14:17:12 GMT -5
OMG! I am the man in my relationship!!! DH points out all the things that need to be done around the house and I usually tell him that if he sees it he should take care of it because I obviously don't (damn cobwebs!)!
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 22, 2013 14:19:51 GMT -5
Deathbychocolate is on to something.
Honestly, the most anal retentive neat freaks I've ever met are men. The one who takes the cake was a roomate I had (or rather didn't have) in college. One summer, my roomate showed up on the first day, I had only been there maybe 2 hours, and demanded his own room from the residence hall staff because I was too messy. Seriously, I had only been there two hours and had barely unpacked, and yet I was too messy. He ended up moving next door and we shared a bathroom. I got all kinds of nasty calls/notes from him about "showing respect" in regards to keeping the bathroom clean. My crime? My crime? Leaving my can of shaving cream on the sink.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2013 14:21:37 GMT -5
SLOB!!!
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Post by Formerly SK on Aug 22, 2013 14:23:59 GMT -5
No kidding. I walk in the house and immediately see the toys on the floor, the stuff on the counter that needs to be put away, dishes in the sink, stuff on the kitchen floor that needs to be swept, dirt on the hallway floor that needs to be swept, clothes on the bedroom floor that need to be put away. DH walks in, plops down in the recliner, and turns on the TV. You should try it one of these days. Just ignore it. Just come home from work, plop down on the sofa, and turn on the TV and start watching, or whatever other leisure activity strikes your fancy. It's great. It's really not. Because the piles of crap just get bigger while I'm sitting on my ass. I spent most of yesterday trying to fix/finish this brick walkway out back because I want the damn project done before fall. Course this meant the kids were inside alone all day. You'd have though a tornado blew through the house. It's like my punishment for working on the bricks.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Aug 22, 2013 14:27:56 GMT -5
You didn't have the kids outside helping you? If they're old enough to be left alone inside the house, they're old enough to work. Hell, you should have been sitting under an unbrella sipping lemonade while you watch the kids efficiently lay the bricks while you direct them. If they don't do a good job, then you show them the back of your hand like God intended. If you had to leave them in the house, you could have confined them to one room, so at least the damage would be contained. Or better yet, schedule a "playdate" at someone else's house.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 22, 2013 14:32:31 GMT -5
Deathbychocolate is on to something. Honestly, the most anal retentive neat freaks I've ever met are men. The one who takes the cake was a roomate I had (or rather didn't have) in college. One summer, my roomate showed up on the first day, I had only been there maybe 2 hours, and demanded his own room from the residence hall staff because I was too messy. Seriously, I had only been there two hours and had barely unpacked, and yet I was too messy. He ended up moving next door and we shared a bathroom. I got all kinds of nasty calls/notes from him about "showing respect" in regards to keeping the bathroom clean. My crime? My crime? Leaving my can of shaving cream on the sink. Those kinds of people make me want to see if I can make an eye twitch
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2013 14:46:23 GMT -5
My guess is that for men height matters far more than weight, and for women the reverse may be true. Not exactly a fair deal because height is generally perceived to be beyond one's control. I've always wondered what the supposed "ideal" height for women is. Most models, at least as far as I know, are tall, or at least taller than average. But you don't seem to find too many men who insist their gal be 5'8" or taller, but you'll find lots of women who insist their man be taller. It should be noted that less than 5% of men are over 6'1". i am 6"4".....not much fun riding in a coach seat on a plane or squeezing into a small theatre seat with no leg room yeah...great when i need to reach something.....not so great too many other times in life being tall is so overrated.....
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Post by movingforward on Aug 22, 2013 15:07:49 GMT -5
You should try it one of these days. Just ignore it. Just come home from work, plop down on the sofa, and turn on the TV and start watching, or whatever other leisure activity strikes your fancy. It's great. I don't know about others, but I can't ignore it. I'd be sitting in my chair, trying, but all those chores would be poking holes in my eyeballs. I can ignore just fine . Of course, one reason why is because I live alone. If I had to look at a mess someone else made I would not be happy...
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Post by lexxy703 on Aug 22, 2013 15:54:16 GMT -5
Deathbychocolate is on to something. Honestly, the most anal retentive neat freaks I've ever met are men. The one who takes the cake was a roomate I had (or rather didn't have) in college. One summer, my roomate showed up on the first day, I had only been there maybe 2 hours, and demanded his own room from the residence hall staff because I was too messy. Seriously, I had only been there two hours and had barely unpacked, and yet I was too messy. He ended up moving next door and we shared a bathroom. I got all kinds of nasty calls/notes from him about "showing respect" in regards to keeping the bathroom clean. My crime? My crime? Leaving my can of shaving cream on the sink. Those kinds of people make me want to see if I can make an eye twitch I had a boss like that & yeah I would put my hand on his glass top desk just to watch him squirm at the prints I was leaving. He never knew I was doing it on purpose just for the fun of it.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 22, 2013 15:55:44 GMT -5
Those kinds of people make me want to see if I can make an eye twitch I had a boss like that & yeah I would put my hand on his glass top desk just to watch him squirm at the prints I was leaving. He never knew I was doing it on purpose just for the fun of it. My DH will straighten the blanket on the back of the couch while I'm sitting on it. I like to pull it down and use it right after that.
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Post by lexxy703 on Aug 22, 2013 15:58:05 GMT -5
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Post by movingforward on Aug 22, 2013 15:59:42 GMT -5
Hmmm... I organize my closet by color and type of clothing (e.g. all sleeveless shirts together and arranged by color, long sleeve shirts together and arranged by color, sweaters... you get the idea)
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Post by Malarky on Aug 22, 2013 16:01:48 GMT -5
Hmmm... I organize my closet by color and type of clothing (e.g. all sleeveless shirts together and arranged by color, long sleeve shirts together and arranged by color, sweaters... you get the idea) Please come organize my closet. I use what I like to call the "jumble" method of clothing management.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 22, 2013 16:04:05 GMT -5
Hmmm... I organize my closet by color and type of clothing (e.g. all sleeveless shirts together and arranged by color, long sleeve shirts together and arranged by color, sweaters... you get the idea) Please come organize my closet. I use what I like to call the "jumble" method of clothing management.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Aug 22, 2013 16:04:34 GMT -5
Maybe these OCD people need to start a support group. They can have their first meeting at my house.
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