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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2013 9:48:25 GMT -5
So today I'm not the favorite - again. DS would rather pal around with DH than me. Should I be hurt or should I be grateful for the "break"?  |
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Post by KaraBoo on Aug 11, 2013 9:49:24 GMT -5
Grateful! Definitely!  |
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Post by swamp on Aug 11, 2013 9:59:14 GMT -5
Grateful, because next month he will be all about mommy. Recently, the kids are all about me. I'd be happy to,pawn them off on you for a few hours |
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Post by raeoflyte on Aug 11, 2013 10:09:11 GMT -5
Grateful.  |
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Post by sesfw on Aug 11, 2013 10:23:59 GMT -5
Grateful ....... and realize how quickly things change. LOL
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Aug 11, 2013 10:32:37 GMT -5
Well, when you have one kid who definitely prefers the "fun" parent over the other, it can provoke a little bit of wisfulness or slight jealousy. But, the plus son is that your son is happy, healthy, and having a blast with his daddy. I understand where you're coming from, Jenny. So, just enjoy the break. My DD definitely made me the favorite parent, but I was also the disciplinarian, and so I kind of varied in her estimation. When you let your sixteen-year-old son borrow your brand-new car, I know that you will be the favorite parent  . |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2013 10:35:57 GMT -5
Swamp, I'll be the favorite again within the week, lol. Naz, LMAO that you think I'll let him borrow my new car!!!  |
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Post by milee on Aug 11, 2013 11:29:04 GMT -5
The only thing I'd add to the good advice the others have already given is to never, ever let your child know you're even aware there is a favorite, much less that you get jealous when you're not the favorite.
Kids are great a finding parental buttons to push and you don't want to let them know that this is one of your buttons. Trust me on this one.
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Post by busymom on Aug 11, 2013 12:09:57 GMT -5
It's a good time to take a break. Get out of the house & do something fun!  |
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Post by muttleynfelix on Aug 11, 2013 12:46:20 GMT -5
Grateful... When I walk into the house at night, both kids run* to me as fast as they can. Ben clings to my leg and Jocelyn gets extremely pissed if I ignore her. I just want to be able to set my stuff down at night before I get bombarded by the kids.
* Jocelyn doesn't run yet, but she crawls as fast as she possibly can to me as soon as she sees me and gets quite mad if I don't pick her up ASAP.
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Post by Nazgul Girl on Aug 11, 2013 13:02:17 GMT -5
Swamp, I'll be the favorite again within the week, lol. Naz, LMAO that you think I'll let him borrow my new car!!! You'll be the favorite !! |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2013 15:49:34 GMT -5
So today I'm not the favorite - again. DS would rather pal around with DH than me. Should I be hurt or should I be grateful for the "break"? The truth is that you just never know about kids. When my youngest came to live with us (wicked stepmother & me) he was in a "stage" where nobody was really "good". Well 15 years later & wicked stepmother goes to visit him for a week to see the new grandkid & it turns out that the wife tells her that he attributes the way he turned out (& a lot of who he became) to the wicked stepmother, not his mother (& I should say that he turned out petty good). My wife couldn't have been happier & prouder if he had been her own! (Kind of made her glad that she didn't kill him & it was close).. You just never know. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2013 18:43:50 GMT -5
DH is definitely DDs favorite (and she's only 3 1/2 months!)..... She will be a heck of a daddy's girl. DH is more fun to play with, he makes silly faces and all that. I'm more serious and have less experience with babies....I'm not really sure what to do with her most of the time. But I'm better at getting her calmed down and to sleep....
I would take the break (I got a 3 hour nap today) and go with it.....sit on the porch, have a glass of wine and read a trashy novel for a bit.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 11, 2013 19:15:32 GMT -5
I'm jealous! Both of my girls have always been "mommys girls"...don't get me wrong, I love it but sometimes it gets exhausting. Flip side, I would be crushed if the girls were daddy's girls
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Post by moneymaven on Aug 11, 2013 20:07:06 GMT -5
Be grateful. DS only wants mommy right now. For everything. Brushing his teeth, opening his fruit snack, peeling a clementine, going potty, picking clothes, sunscreen, finding his book, etc. it's taking a toll on me. I'm exhausted. Physically, I'm limited following a car accident a few weeks ago.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2013 2:22:35 GMT -5
Happy Dance that your child has 2 parents that are both able to care for him!!
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Post by Spellbound454 on Aug 12, 2013 3:17:51 GMT -5
Kids will say things to try to manipulate a situation...Play one parent against another. They'll scream, "I Hate You" If they have to be reined in when they want more freedom. but they don't really mean it.... so its best to not let it get under your skin. Take a break, put your feet up and think... "Phew" |
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