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Post by InsertCoolName on Jul 23, 2013 19:40:41 GMT -5
I can't get my sugar level to stay up within normal range. It keeps falling to 61/64. The highest I got it last night was 107 for about an hour and went back down to 71.
I'm so freaking weak and dizzy.
I'm eating. And still it won't stay up.
Is this something that you would go to ER over or would you wait for your doctor's office to open?
This has been going on for 3-4 days now. I'm having trouble remember all details. But pretty sure it was Saturday night when this started.
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Post by Formerly SK on Jul 23, 2013 19:50:59 GMT -5
I would call your dr (or the after hours on-call person) and see what they advise.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 23, 2013 19:54:08 GMT -5
first, second, my blood sugar tends to hover just above the "get your ass to the ER, pronto!" level, and has as long as I can remember. since my "normal" is in normal range, I'm in that limbo where I don't take meds, but find myself with the shakes if I don't eat something often enough. all that said, I don't know what the numbers should be, I just know how I feel. if you are weak and dizzy for a prolonged period of time, please absolutely get yourself to an urgent care. if the ER is all there is, then go. 3-4 days of that is not at all normal. if you can choke down some orange juice on your way, please do that. your numbers will spike from the juice, but it will keep you somehwat level in the meantime. please keep us posted. be well.
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Post by InsertCoolName on Jul 23, 2013 20:11:27 GMT -5
I'm going to go to the ER. I checked it again and it's at 76. I'm just charging my phone and dragging my feet. I have 5 kids that I should be home taking care of not running off to ER.
Wonder how much this is gonna cost me? (YM-er in me coming out!)
My lips feel numb now.
Well hopefully I can post again tonight saying that it was nothing. But...we shall see.
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 23, 2013 20:19:13 GMT -5
this post worries me please check in when you can.....and please let the good doctors and nurses get you back to normal. numb is never good, especially when blood sugar is in question. if you can, please call someone to check on your kids. your doctors likely won't let you out tonight.....but that's good, because you shouldn't be in your current state.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2013 20:25:13 GMT -5
this post worries me please check in when you can.....and please let the good doctors and nurses get you back to normal. numb is never good, especially when blood sugar is in question. if you can, please call someone to check on your kids. your doctors likely won't let you out tonight.....but that's good, because you shouldn't be in your current state. Let us know you are ok.
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Post by mmhmm on Jul 23, 2013 20:29:01 GMT -5
So glad you're going to the ER, ICN! Please, let us know how you are as soon as you can. Thinking of you and wishing the best!
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Post by Jaguar on Jul 23, 2013 20:55:53 GMT -5
ICN you can't help your kids if you don't look after yourself. Your the only parent there for them, look after yourself.
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Post by Peace77 on Jul 24, 2013 8:44:41 GMT -5
Hope you're feeling better. When I feel my blod sugar is too low, I drink a protein drink such as Boost or Ensure. Are you getting enough protein every few hours?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2013 8:52:18 GMT -5
I also hope you're doing better ICN.
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Post by movingforward on Jul 24, 2013 9:38:02 GMT -5
Keep us posted ICN. Hope you're much better today.
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Post by InsertCoolName on Jul 24, 2013 13:56:47 GMT -5
Well I learned something new last night.
A 'small, healthy woman has a normal blood sugar level that is low.' And that normal can be as low as 60!!!!
I feel like a dumbass. I mean I am not a doctor or a nurse but I feel like I should have known that info.
It turns out that even though I THINK I am handling all that life has given me the past 7 months and 19 days, I'm not. I was told I am mentally exhausted.
And the crazy thing is....there is no 'fixing' it. This is life now. I also feel like I am some kind of failure because I can't do it mentally. I had hoped that I was stronger than this.
Thank you for caring. It makes my heart a bit happier to know that there are good hearted people out there still. I really love this place.
If you all have any ideas on how to 'fix' this I am open to hearing them. I can NOT fail. I just simply can not.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jul 24, 2013 14:01:08 GMT -5
My suggestion would be talk to someone. Therapy isn't cheap but having some place to where you won't be judged can really help. Friends/family are great but I tend to censor myself more than I do a neutral third party that I know won't take what I just said out of the room.
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Post by swamp on Jul 24, 2013 14:02:16 GMT -5
My suggestion would be talk to someone. Therapy isn't cheap but having some place to where you won't be judged can really help. Friends/family are great but I tend to censor myself more than I do a neutral third party that I know won't take what I just said out of the room. You can't take care of other people until you've taken care of yourself. Please go talk to some one.
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jul 24, 2013 14:03:04 GMT -5
I'm glad you got checked out. And I admire you for all that you are handling.
I have my days where my blood sugar will not stay up. I get awful headaches, get shaky and pass out if I don't eat every couple hours. Luckily it never seems to last for more than a day.
I'm sure you haven't been focusing on you much in everything you've been dealing with. I'd try eating something every few hours and see if it makes a difference. Maybe it'd be easier for you to do that than big meals?
Lots of hugs and good thoughts for you! You are amazingly strong and you can do this.
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 24, 2013 14:04:46 GMT -5
Don't know whether to be happy or sad for you ICN. On the one hand, there's not a physical health issue, which is good. On the other, mental exhaustion is hard to cure unless you're crazy rich and can just check out of your life for a couple of weeks. I'll keep thinking good thoughts for you. Maybe this will help:
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Post by chiver78 on Jul 24, 2013 14:25:09 GMT -5
Don't know whether to be happy or sad for you ICN. On the one hand, there's not a physical health issue, which is good. On the other, mental exhaustion is hard to cure unless you're crazy rich and can just check out of your life for a couple of weeks. I'll keep thinking good thoughts for you. Maybe this will help: I wish there was more I could do than just be here to listen to you vent. I'm happy that you feel comfortable coming in here to do so, that we can at least do that for you.
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Post by Jaguar on Jul 24, 2013 14:31:06 GMT -5
ICN,
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Post by InsertCoolName on Jul 24, 2013 14:32:08 GMT -5
yeah taking off to some place new and with lots of drinks would be nice. However back here in reality...LOL
I have a pretty good idea what is on my mind. I haven't dealt with it because it just hurts. And it is totally crazy.
You see, my husband came to me in a dream a couple months ago. He told me that we were over. That we couldn't be together anymore. And he tried to say why but I got very upset and didn't want to hear it, so I ran away. I know that I can't be with him, he is dead. I know that our relationship is over. But hearing those words from his mouth, dream or not, it's like I lost him all over again.
And now I keep thinking he no longer loves me. And it's crazy, it doesn't matter now. I know this. But it's like my heart doesn't want to know that. he is gone. He can't love anymore.
But it still feels like he asked for a divorce. And it's crazy. I know it is. I know it makes no sense what so over.
I just have been refusing to think about it. I break down and cry so hard when I do.
I guess I will just have to put on my big girl panties and deal with it, so that I can get through this.
So, how fucked up crazy is that ya all??
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Post by Chocolate Lover on Jul 24, 2013 14:34:34 GMT -5
It'd be crazy if you thought he was still here asking for the divorce, otherwise, to my uneducated self who has never dealt with such a loss, it sounds like more grieving to me.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 24, 2013 14:37:49 GMT -5
It's good that there's no physical health issue - yet. But if you keep up on this path, you might be looking at one. Why on earth do you think you're a failure because you cannot handle being mom and dad, cook, chief bottle washer, caretaker, nurse, therapist, driver and overall person in charge to five kids, plus a house (and an outside job, assuming you are working at the moment)? Stop it. Just stop it. You are not a failure. But you're right: failing your kids and yourself are not options. Which means taking care of yourself is not merely an option. It's a requirement, so: 1) When was your last full physical, including blood work? If it's been over a year, go get it done now. 2) When you have a handle on what's going on with yourself, you can take more steps, like getting a nutritionist, an exercise coach, or whatever else you need. 3) Find a life manager: someone close by who can help you manage your life, home, kids. I'm thinking of someone like an estate manager that wealthy people use; these folks do everything from deal with service people to shop, cook, run errands, help with the kids and housework. I know you don't have an estate, and your funds are probably limited. Ask a friend or relative if they can help, even if it's not every day. 4) Use a written system to manage your life. A big chalkboard or whiteboard (I think they even make electronic/digital boards now) with a monthly calendar will help keep you and the kids straight and on schedule for who is doing what, where and when. If you have a smartphone, that's fine, too. But the point of the big board is that the whole family can see it.
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Post by greeniis10 on Jul 24, 2013 14:39:38 GMT -5
It's NOT f'd up! It's called grief. It's draining and it is a long journey with many ups and downs and twists and turns. Hang in there - it WILL get better! I'd say more but I know the other posters here do a much better job so I'll leave it to them.
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Post by movingforward on Jul 24, 2013 14:41:55 GMT -5
yeah taking off to some place new and with lots of drinks would be nice. However back here in reality...LOL I have a pretty good idea what is on my mind. I haven't dealt with it because it just hurts. And it is totally crazy. You see, my husband came to me in a dream a couple months ago. He told me that we were over. That we couldn't be together anymore. And he tried to say why but I got very upset and didn't want to hear it, so I ran away. I know that I can't be with him, he is dead. I know that our relationship is over. But hearing those words from his mouth, dream or not, it's like I lost him all over again. And now I keep thinking he no longer loves me. And it's crazy, it doesn't matter now. I know this. But it's like my heart doesn't want to know that. he is gone. He can't love anymore. But it still feels like he asked for a divorce. And it's crazy. I know it is. I know it makes no sense what so over. I just have been refusing to think about it. I break down and cry so hard when I do. I guess I will just have to put on my big girl panties and deal with it, so that I can get through this. So, how fucked up crazy is that ya all?? Doesn't sound the least bit fucked up crazy to me. It sounds like you are trying to process your grief and I honestly believe we do that through our dreams just as much as we do while we are awake. I had crazy ass dreams when my boyfriend died in a drunk driving accident and then again when I lost my mom 3 yrs ago. When I look back now at how those dreams evolved I realize that I was processing. ETA: Also, I am not sure how you feel about exercise but it can help too. So many thoughts would go through my head while I was running. It can be therapeutic...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2013 14:45:22 GMT -5
ICN dont know you....but i have a friend going through the loss of her husband she has her kids...which are helping, but which will never be the reassurance that he was and she has a few friends.....which we try to keep her occupied and busy she is a year into the process....and she is getting better she joined a widows group about 4 months ago.....ages range from 32 to 86 in the group ( she is 53) they commiserate....they talk....they console each other once she starting talking to women in the same predicament she became aware that she truly wasnt alone he died without having any life insurance which was the worst part.....so financially she is struggling on top of everything else so i hope you find "your group" that can help guide you through best of luck
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jul 24, 2013 14:47:05 GMT -5
There's nothing crazy about what you are going through. You are so busy, working so hard to keep things on an even keel and normal for your kids, that you cannot, and have not, given yourself the opportunity to let go and really, really break down and go through the stages of grieving.
Find a grief support group or a grief counselor, if you can. There's no shame in getting help in this situation.
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Post by Angel! on Jul 24, 2013 15:01:27 GMT -5
My advice is to break down and cry over it. Even better if you can do it with a friend and talk about everything. Grief is crazy and things are going to be up and down for a long time. But, you do need to allow yourself at least some time occassionally to just sit and grieve.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 24, 2013 22:19:26 GMT -5
Your dreams are an indication of your unvoiced fears. You have 'lost' your husband and your mind is playing with that concept. Sometimes dreams are so vivid and disturbing that it is really hard to shake them, but this one you must. From everything you said prior to your husband's unexpected passing, you had a very solid and healthy relationship. I think you have to re-embed yourself in the feelings that existed before he left and resist the notion that you have lost him in every way. He can't be physically present, but his memory and energy are still a part of your life.
You have always seemed like a strong independent person, so I would suggest that you need to step outside your comfort zone & ASK for help. Taking care of 5 kids is a daunting task to begin with. Doing it alone is heroic!!
What kind of help would ease your day? Think about that and then think of people that might assist with some of those small tasks. If you need a night to have mom & me time with each of the kids every month, is there someone that would sit with the kids while you have an outing to the library or park with one of them? Do you need someone to cook the family meal for you once a week? Do you need someone to just help with the vacuuming once a week? These are small duty tasks that volunteers are usually willing to do.
If you belong to a church family, this is the kind of thing they can help with. If you don't belong to a church, it might be something you could explore to create an extended family for yourself. Church's often also host a widow's group, so you may want to identify a church based on the strength of their support in that area.
I also highly recommend the Big Brothers/Big Sisters organization. The people are there to mentor youth and can become lifelong allies for your children.
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Post by skubikky on Jul 25, 2013 6:44:46 GMT -5
yeah taking off to some place new and with lots of drinks would be nice. However back here in reality...LOL I have a pretty good idea what is on my mind. I haven't dealt with it because it just hurts. And it is totally crazy. You see, my husband came to me in a dream a couple months ago. He told me that we were over. That we couldn't be together anymore. And he tried to say why but I got very upset and didn't want to hear it, so I ran away. I know that I can't be with him, he is dead. I know that our relationship is over. But hearing those words from his mouth, dream or not, it's like I lost him all over again. And now I keep thinking he no longer loves me. And it's crazy, it doesn't matter now. I know this. But it's like my heart doesn't want to know that. he is gone. He can't love anymore. But it still feels like he asked for a divorce. And it's crazy. I know it is. I know it makes no sense what so over. I just have been refusing to think about it. I break down and cry so hard when I do. I guess I will just have to put on my big girl panties and deal with it, so that I can get through this. So, how fucked up crazy is that ya all?? That's not messed up at all. A dream like that can have a major impact on your state of mind and your emotions. Please find someone to talk to. A counselor if you can find one that you can afford, someone in the clergy(there are some out there that have the psych training and can be very good at counseling), ask your doctor and maybe they can point you in the right direction. Just like you went to get the low blood sugar checked out, you need some help with your mental state. It's gonna be ok. It won't always be like it is now. It'll ease. In the mean time, you need some support. Have you tried seeking out a support group for those that have lost a spouse or SO? Maybe someone there might have some suggestions for counselors?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 25, 2013 7:36:53 GMT -5
We are happy to "listen" when you need us, ICN.
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