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Post by thyme4change on Jul 22, 2013 16:15:58 GMT -5
I have been such a train wreck so many times in my life, I'm trying desperately not to judge others.
When we were flying home from vacation, I pointed out that there was a group of young women, and they were all in jammies and carrying pillows. I told my daughter that I was judging them. I think it is stupid, because I know those same girls can sit all day at the computer or in class wearing regular clothing - so I don't understand how a 2 hour plane ride makes you have to dress like a total slob. I wouldn't be surprised if that same group of gals dressed to the hilt and put on 5 inch heels and stood at the club for longer than they would be sitting on the plane.
I then told my daughter that I try not to judge anyone - but I decided I can get away with judging them, because, really, who cares?
Do you have a silly standard that doesn't matter that you use to judge people? Not the "YM judgement" but something dumb and totally meaningless - but you do it anyway, just for fun?
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Post by Abby Normal on Jul 22, 2013 16:24:41 GMT -5
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Post by mmhmm on Jul 22, 2013 16:25:51 GMT -5
I probably wouldn't have noticed the girls. I'm not all that perceptive, I guess. If I'm listening to a speaker and the person behind starts babbling loudly on his/her cell phone, I'll judge that person to be thoughtless and unaware of what it means to be polite, so I'll probably tell him/her to shaddap and get out; however, if it's not affecting my life, I usually don't even notice it.
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Post by justme on Jul 22, 2013 16:27:32 GMT -5
I judge people that use their cellphones in public restrooms.
And people that order their steak anything past medium rare.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 22, 2013 16:35:55 GMT -5
Every time I receive an email from someone who doesn't know the difference between your and you're or too/to/two or they're/their
especially when it comes from a coworker.
with a masters' degree.
on a significantly higher pay scale.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 22, 2013 16:37:07 GMT -5
I also judge the jerks who don't offer their seats to a pregnant woman or elderly person on the train.
especially when they are 20 something and athletic.
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Post by sarcasticgirl on Jul 22, 2013 16:37:39 GMT -5
actually- I'm just going with the same answer as agilemom
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2013 16:39:01 GMT -5
Humans are wired to judge other humans.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2013 17:29:35 GMT -5
I have been such a train wreck so many times in my life, I'm trying desperately not to judge others. When we were flying home from vacation, I pointed out that there was a group of young women, and they were all in jammies and carrying pillows. I told my daughter that I was judging them. I think it is stupid, because I know those same girls can sit all day at the computer or in class wearing regular clothing - so I don't understand how a 2 hour plane ride makes you have to dress like a total slob. I wouldn't be surprised if that same group of gals dressed to the hilt and put on 5 inch heels and stood at the club for longer than they would be sitting on the plane. I then told my daughter that I try not to judge anyone - but I decided I can get away with judging them, because, really, who cares? Do you have a silly standard that doesn't matter that you use to judge people? Not the "YM judgement" but something dumb and totally meaningless - but you do it anyway, just for fun? If I'm talking to my wife I don't mind judging everyone. On the other hand the general rule that I live by is "Everyone to their own". I could really care less what people do as long as it has no impact on me & my little world. If it somehow impacts me, well...I can be a harsh judge & I'll spell it out for them.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 22, 2013 17:49:38 GMT -5
I really don't see the point to sitting around to judge people or their motives. I really don't care if someone has on a tuxedo or pajama pants. Why would I care? And if some one doesn't like how I am dressed they don't pay my bills so I don't much care what their opinion is of me.
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Post by swamp on Jul 22, 2013 17:51:07 GMT -5
I judge everyone. I'm a bitch.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 22, 2013 17:51:35 GMT -5
Just - So what judgement to you pronounce on someone getting a medium well steak?
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 22, 2013 17:53:23 GMT -5
I really don't see the point to sitting around to judge people or their motives. I really don't care if someone has on a tuxedo or pajama pants. Why would I care? And if some one doesn't like how I am dressed they don't pay my bills so I don't much care what their opinion is of me. Yet - you are judging us saying that we are all terrible people because you think we implied something that we didn't. You also judge, you just lie to yourself about it.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 22, 2013 17:54:35 GMT -5
Well I think it is a waste of my time. I actually don't care enough about why or what someone else does to waste my time thinking about it. And if some one wants to waste time judging me then have it.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 22, 2013 17:56:32 GMT -5
You asked a question and I answered it. If you don't like my answer I can't help that.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jul 22, 2013 17:59:14 GMT -5
Well I think it is a waste of my time. I actually don't care enough about why or what someone else does to waste my time thinking about it. And if some one wants to waste time judging me then have it. I'm judging you for that comment and wasting my time while doing it.
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Post by swamp on Jul 22, 2013 18:16:11 GMT -5
I took my kids to a kid Olympiad put on by the fire dept. I live in a very poor town. Nothing like a public eve t to make me feel slim, well coiffed, and well dressed.
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Post by Abby Normal on Jul 22, 2013 18:23:32 GMT -5
Well I think it is a waste of my time. I actually don't care enough about why or what someone else does to waste my time thinking about it. And if some one wants to waste time judging me then have it. I'm judging you for that comment and wasting my time while doing it. We all judge everyone we encounter. Some of us just have broader ranges of acceptability than others. If you say you don't judge people, it just that you have already judged them as acceptable and moved on.
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Post by kittensaver on Jul 22, 2013 18:23:57 GMT -5
"Shame on Angela Corey." Ahhhh - - nope, not judging!
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Post by justme on Jul 22, 2013 18:42:11 GMT -5
Just - So what judgement to you pronounce on someone getting a medium well steak? I usually say blasphemy and tell them they might as well order charcoal and mention I know who I'm not wasting steak on the next time I'm grilling out. The level depends on the cut of steak their ruining. If it was filet mignon I might skip all that and cry....or go on about the cow didn't die so you could eat an expensive hockey puck. All the above applies to lamb too.
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Post by giramomma on Jul 22, 2013 19:14:07 GMT -5
Every time I receive an email from someone who doesn't know the difference between your and you're or too/to/two or they're/their especially when it comes from a coworker. with a masters' degree. on a significantly higher pay scale. Not quite the same, but I do judge others in my department that can't read/follow directions. Particularly when they make at least twice what I do.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 22, 2013 20:09:04 GMT -5
Commenting and critiquing news stories and current events isn't the same thing as running the inventory of strangers at the airport or mall .
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Post by Knee Deep in Water Chloe on Jul 22, 2013 20:11:00 GMT -5
I claim not to judge, but I too judge everyone. Especially on writing conventions, dress, and house/office cleanliness.
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Post by busymom on Jul 22, 2013 20:15:51 GMT -5
My FIL orders steak so rare, you can almost here the poor cow mooing. So, when the family eats out, I always tell the waitress to "burn it". I try not to judge, but out driving recently I saw a young man walking down the street with his jeans hanging just below his butt cheeks. I honestly don't know how they were covering his legs while he walked. And frankly, I really don't need to know what color boxer shorts he's wearing...
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2013 20:23:09 GMT -5
I try not to judge.
That said, I can't help it when people make stupid comments or embrace logical fallacies.
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Post by Apple on Jul 22, 2013 22:01:05 GMT -5
I judge people who pronounce "perfect" incorrectly. They say "that's perfect" they same way they'd say "I need to perfect my methods".
I judge people who cough and sneeze without covering their mouths, because that's just gross.
I judge people who get extra large, fatty meals, then order a "diet Coke".
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Post by steff on Jul 22, 2013 23:28:11 GMT -5
I like my steak to be waved just close enough to the grill to scare it really good & singe a few hairs. I like for it to try & still crawl off the plate when I start cutting into it. It completely grosses hubby out, but I LOVE a good very rare steak.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 23, 2013 1:45:17 GMT -5
So, I've been out of work for awhile which means I'm doing the cooking, cleaning, and grocery shopping. Something I've never really done since I was the breadwinner and Loop stayed home. This means I'm not used to seeing people in grocery checkout lines.
The crap people eat blows my fucking mind. I went shopping yesterday and the couple in front of me, both very comfortably overweight, had 10 cases of soda, a conveyor belt full of processed crap in boxes, a few cans of chili, and a few cans of tuna. That was it. Not a single fresh or frozen fruit or vegetable, no meat, no cheese, no milk. Just pure crap. They were obviously getting at least a weeks worth of groceries and they had no real actual food. They were both in their thirties or older and apparently exist entirely on a diet of tuna helper, an ungodly amount of soda, and more crackers, chips, and snack food than you'd need to throw a white trash party for 30.
They're far from the only people I've seen with carts full of crap like that. I see at least one every single time I go grocery shopping. The ones with obese kids tagging along are my favorite. I get that cooking is a pain in the ass, but come on.
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Post by Otto the Orange on Jul 23, 2013 4:05:40 GMT -5
I judged a beauty pageant once, does that count?
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Post by wvugurl26 on Jul 23, 2013 6:14:51 GMT -5
Just - So what judgement to you pronounce on someone getting a medium well steak? I usually say blasphemy and tell them they might as well order charcoal and mention I know who I'm not wasting steak on the next time I'm grilling out. The level depends on the cut of steak their ruining. If it was filet mignon I might skip all that and cry....or go on about the cow didn't die so you could eat an expensive hockey puck. All the above applies to lamb too. My dad managed to get the tenderloin filets pretty well done on my birthday. He's been fired from grill duty. I don't want it still mooing or crawling off the plate but it should not be brown throughout! Kobe burgers medium are delicious too. I won't do it with other hamburger but I will with the kobe.
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