gooddecisions
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Post by gooddecisions on Jul 19, 2013 9:18:39 GMT -5
My husband's parents would love to be friends with my parents. But, my parents are in Florida and they are in Virginia. My parents really aren't the type to talk on the phone, facebook or send letters in the mail. They have a ton of friends in their 55+ golf course community and their energy is spent on folks who are in close proximity. I live several states away and only even talk to them maybe once every 2-3 months/see them 1-2x per year. So, I hope my inlaws aren't offended. It is what it is.
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Post by Shooby on Jul 19, 2013 9:19:26 GMT -5
Well, our parents have passed. But, when we first got married, they were together at the wedding and that was pretty much the end of their interaction other than an occasional Bday party for the kids. They lived a couple hours away. And, DH parents were not really involved much in his life or the grandkids so we didn't see them much except when we visited them.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 20, 2013 14:47:34 GMT -5
wrongside - are they secret twins blonde - why would the in-laws be responsible for thanking you for the contribution to the wedding? Shouldn't your son & the DIL be responsible for thanking you for paying for their wedding, reception, etc? It hasn't been a given that bride's family pays for the whole thing for many years. That said, I might have disliked the in-laws my DD brought in even more than the the SIL (not sure which wins the prize now). They are hideous people. Just wish my DD had listened to her sister or me before marrying that mess.
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Post by KaraBoo on Jul 21, 2013 20:30:01 GMT -5
I've not dealt with in-laws at all. It makes me sad (unless I'm hearing horror stories, then I'm kind of thankful). Both on my first marriage and now my second - the parents had already passed. Current DH's mom was still alive when we married, but DH never had a relationship with her (she left when he was a baby - his dad raised him and never got remarried). They were beginning to talk on the phone some when we met, and we invited her to our wedding (she lived in Alabama, we live in Texas), but she never came. The next time DH talked to that side of the family a few months later was to find out she was in ICU from a heart attack. We both went to Alabama to visit her in the ICU, but she was hooked up to machines and couldn't talk. Maybe a month later, she died. DH has tried to stay in contact with her side of the family, but none of them return any phone calls and the gifts we sent to DH's nieces for Christmas went unacknowledged. Even DH's brothers who live there will not call or talk with him unless he calls them first (one grew up in the same situation as he did - and he has nothing to say to DH when he calls). DH has pretty much written off his side of the family at this point since all of the effort is coming from him and they've returned nothing. I feel sorry for DH having to deal with my family though - they're nuts!
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