swamp
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THEY’RE EATING THE DOGS!!!!!!!
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Post by swamp on Jul 17, 2013 20:22:50 GMT -5
You will, whenever my brother and I are in the backseat together we revert to being children despite being 30 and 23 years old respectively. If my dad starts trying to swat us while driving it'll feel just like old times. FYI, it doesn't stop when the siblings are 43, 48, and 50.
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Miss Tequila
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 17, 2013 22:25:34 GMT -5
So my DH and I have been thinking about the kid thing again lately. We live in a VHCOL area, and realistically, we can only afford a condo and probably an only child (we rent currently). Even just 2 bedroom condos/townhouses that we're looking at are $350-$400K. Daycare is $1500-$2000/mo. Will I completely screw up said offspring if all I can provide for them is a condo and no siblings? Anyone have any relavent experiences? We all screw up our kids...it's our job as parents !
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Miss Tequila
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jul 17, 2013 22:27:50 GMT -5
If you screw up your kid bad enough maybe that kid will get to live with Later. Omg....that is so wrong but it made me laugh
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jul 18, 2013 3:12:50 GMT -5
A newborn that doesn't sleep through the night is the most awesome thing ever? Been there, done that, not buying it.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 6:44:39 GMT -5
A newborn that doesn't sleep through the night is the most awesome thing ever? Been there, done that, not buying it. She sleeps from about 9:30 to 5ish. And now that I am back to work, hubby has to do some of the mornings. So yeah, it is awesome. The first few weeks, especially when she couldn't figure out the difference between night and day and I had guests to entertain? Those sucked. But I'd say that it started being awesome around week 4 or 5.
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happyscooter
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Post by happyscooter on Jul 18, 2013 7:29:49 GMT -5
If you only have one child, you won't have to decide who is going to be the executor for your will. And one child won't be left wondering why you favored the other child so much. And one child won't have to question why you treated your grandchildren so unfairly. (yeah, I still have issues with my in-laws)
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whoisjohngalt
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Post by whoisjohngalt on Jul 18, 2013 7:37:00 GMT -5
And for the record, I was worried about being the only one to take care of my parents when they get older, but now I have a husband and 3 kids - so, I am spreading the work!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2013 7:53:39 GMT -5
Having a sibling doesn't automatically mean that there are more people to take care of the parents in old age. I have a sibling and when my mom got sick he was no where to be found. Made it a little easier on me because I didn't have to pass decisions by anyone else. But I had to do everything. Needless to say, he and I don't speak.
The other thing to worry about with siblings is fairness when you are writing your will. DHs parents have said they're leaving their house to DHs sister because the rest of them "don't need it". DHs sister has made some pretty poor life choices, so it almost feels like she is being "rewarded" by her parents for those choices. It could lead to ill will between the children.
I don't know, I have a sibling and I have no desire to give my DD a sibling. DH has siblings and he wants another child. I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. It will end up depending on the children and their personalities.
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