OT: Proposal Stories

[Firebird]

How did you propose to your spouse, or how did your spouse propose to you?

What? It's Valentine's Day and I'm a sucker for romantic stories ;D

[swamp]

DH bought a 1/2 page ad in the local sunday paper, tied the ring to a red bow and taped in on the paper, and brought me breakfast in bed with the newspaper.

[cytoglycerine]

My hubby proposed on our 5 year anniversary. He was really cute and shy about it, and did the whole "on-bended-knee" thing in our front hall before leaving to go out for our anniversary dinner. I think he was ultra nervous about it because after I accepted, and he put the ring on my finger, he was like "Okay!! Let's go eat!!" lol


Swamp - great story!

[Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ]

Good gawd, I have to puke...

[thyme4change]

SF = It is the day of cheap chocolates and pretending that sex isn't meaningless. Just go with it.

[Firebird]

SF, I am concerned for your health... maybe you should see a doctor?

[Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ]

SF = It is the day of cheap chocolates and pretending that sex isn't meaningless. Just go with it.

Hee-hee-hee.... I got my new main squeeze a nice bouquet of roses, 1/2 doz, 2 white, 2 pink and 2 red. Also bought a nice card, not a V-Day card because they were all way too cheesy for the status of the situation...so I got a nice one that was blank inside. We both are into dancing, she into ballroom, me a crazy swing and hustle dancer. Wrote something inside that she got a kick out of.

[Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ]

SF, I am concerned for your health... maybe you should see a doctor?

Maybe someone should give me some karma...

[shanendoah]

DH (DBF @ the time) woke up one morning with horrible pain. One of the roommates helped me get him to the car, and I took him to the ER. We got him checked in and sat down in the waiting room. After 1/2 hour of waiting, the triage nurse told him to stop moaning, it was upsetting the other patients. (The other patients then informed me it was because he was in obvious pain and the nurses weren't doing anything about it.) 15 minutes later, they finally took him back.
I waited for over an hour with no word and finally asked. They said I could go back in to the room with him.
By this time, he's been diagnosed with a kidney stone and is on an IV hookup for all sorts of good drugs to help with the pain. We talk a little, and this is where there are 2 versions of the story.
His: He thought he was going to die, so he decided to propose because it would make me happy, and he was going to die anyway, so why not make me happy for a little bit first.
Mine: We were talking about the fact that he didn't have insurance. (He'd just started a new job and wasn't eligible for coverage yet.) In his mind, every place was like Reno (where we'd both lived for over 10 years) and we could just leave the hospital, get married, and I'd go into work on Monday and boom, he'd have insurance to pay for the visit. So, he proposed.
Regardless of what his drug addled mind remembers, he didn't die, but we also didn't live in NV anymore and could not just go get married. Still, I held him to his proposal, and when he felt better, he ordered the stone he wanted for my ring.

[telephus44]

I ruined my proposal. We went to dinner and a show (Blue Man Group) and as we're standing on the top of the parking garage, looking out over the skyline, now DH says, "Isn't this romantic?" and I say "Yes, but I have a headache, I'm going to go sit in the car." Fortunately, he got in the car too and still asked me to marry him :-)

[hoops902]

I took a big sigh and told her that she wins and gave her the box.

She already had a family heirloom ring she wanted to wear so I told her I'd get her diamond earrings or a necklace. She absolutely wanted the necklace. The box had the earrings in them. When she didn't say anything about me getting her the wrong item after a couple hours I told her she was low-maintenance enough to not steal my rather large fortune of tens of dollars and gave her the necklace.

[Anne_in_VA]

DH had asked me to marry him a few months after we started dating but I thought he was kidding and we never got around to getting a ring. One day at the NEX he said he wanted to look at jewelry so we did. We found a really nice engagement ring and he bought it a few days later.

In the parking lot he got down on one knee and asked me - he said "I have the ring now and it's for real this time"

Of course I said yes!

[Cookies Galore]

LOL, some of these stories are great.
I just got the best email from my honey:
"I love you so much because I don't have to worry about getting you a stupid card and candies and a stupid bear just because halmark says so.
Happy February Monday.
Love you!"

[dragonfly7]

The only time I've been proposed to was by the boy I sat by and held hands with on the school bus. We were 10. (I said no. He was sad.)

With DH, I just decided I liked where the relationship was going and started planning a wedding. He went along with it. We've been together for 7 years and married for almost 4 1/2 of those.

[dancinmama]

DH proposed about 6 weeks after we met and during that time we had been almost inseparable. We were in my dorm room one night and laughing our asses off about something (can't remember what it was), but we seemed to laugh like that together all the time. DH said, "If we feel the same way about each other that we do now in a couple of years, what would you think about getting married?" I responded, "IF we feel the same way about each other in a couple of years, then yes."

I didn't think we would be making it official for quite some time; but within a couple of months, I had a ring on my finger. We've been married for over 30 years and we're still laughing our asses off. ;D

[Frugal Nurse]

It was Christmas Eve. DH and I had a tradition of exchanging gifts at midnight on Christmas Eve (we lived together already). So I get to my last gift, and it is in a gift bag with a tag on it. The tag says "Turn to page 18" I pull out the gift, and it is a wedding planning binder. That particular page of the planner had a category that said "How he proposed". DH had filled it in with what he was going to say, and had clipped the ring in the binder rings. He took the book from me, removed the ring, got down on one knee, and gave his little speech. I of course said yes. It was so romantic.

Today, however, he loses in the romance game. My gifts? A Gators hoodie, an enamel coated cast iron soup pot, and a salad spinner. I'm not sure which one says "I love you" more, but I'm leaning towards the hoodie, since it was a Men's hoodie (I'm a 5'1 female), WAY too big for me, and USED! He said he didn't know it was used, and when it came in it was too late (he ordered it off ebay). He said it smelled funny, so he did the most obvious thing and doused it with cologne. I just don't know what to think.... I love him though, and I'm glad he thought to get me something.

[thyme4change]

Enamel coated cast iron pots can be expensive - but they are totally awesome and last a really long time (sometimes generations) - so that is a pretty big statement.

[shanendoah]

I'm gonna say, if I bought DH an enamel coated cast iron soup pot, he would think its the most romantic thing ever. He loves his cast iron skillets and has wanted a cast iron dutch oven forever, but knows he won't use it often enough to justify the cost, so he won't buy it for himself.
In our family, I'm the one that fails at V-day (always have). I said I wanted chocolate I could eat (braces and a bite plate right now, so no boxed chocolate for me), so DH decided to make me truffles- homemade truffles.
What am I giving him? Permission to eat a rib-eye tonight while I have left over meatballs. (Again, the bite plate makes chewing steak impossible for me right now.)

[Frugal Nurse]

Feb 14, 2011 14:48:38 GMT -5 thyme4change said:

Enamel coated cast iron pots can be expensive - but they are totally awesome and last a really long time (sometimes generations) - so that is a pretty big statement.

Haha thanks. He spent $75 on the pot (it was originally $150), but the thing was so big and heavy I couldn't lift it (I think it was a 7 quart), so I took it back. He got it for me because I had seen some advertised and casually mentioned that i might want one. To me it said "I love you, now get in the kitchen and make me some soup!" I'll have to be more careful about what I show interest in around DH from now on...

[Frugal Nurse]

Feb 14, 2011 15:08:37 GMT -5 shanendoah said:

I'm gonna say, if I bought DH an enamel coated cast iron soup pot, he would think its the most romantic thing ever. He loves his cast iron skillets and has wanted a cast iron dutch oven forever, but knows he won't use it often enough to justify the cost, so he won't buy it for himself.
In our family, I'm the one that fails at V-day (always have). I said I wanted chocolate I could eat (braces and a bite plate right now, so no boxed chocolate for me), so DH decided to make me truffles- homemade truffles.
What am I giving him? Permission to eat a rib-eye tonight while I have left over meatballs. (Again, the bite plate makes chewing steak impossible for me right now.)

I just finished making some truffles for DH that i will give him this afternoon.

[illinicheme]

My DH didn't really have a planned proposal. I think it was more spur-of-the-moment. We'd been dating ~3.5 years and living on opposite coasts for 6 months. DH had decided to leave his post-doc position and move to the east coat to be with me. I was in town for the weekend, finishing up final details on my dissertation and trying to get it signed and finished (I wrote remotely - long, stressful story), and helping DH finish packing so we could start the drive back across the country. The second night, I got back to his apartment late after many hours over on campus working on my dissertation. I was exhausted and and more stressed out than I've ever been (at that point, it was unclear whether my outside committee member was going to cooperate and actually sign on time). As we were climbing into bed, DH grabbed my hands, bounced up and down on the bed a couple of times and basically just said "will you marry me?" He apologized for not having a ring, because he couldn't afford one (he had already surprised me 6 months earlier with a right-hand diamond ring before I moved to the opposite coast). I said yes, of course I'll marry you, but I ended up crying for the next couple of hours, despite my best efforts not to. I cry when I'm really frustrated/angry and when I'm super happy. It was a bizarre bundle of emotions that night.

Although the proposal wasn't particularly romantic, DH is a great romantic most of the time. He surprised my with Broadway tickets on our first anniversary (paper theme) and we've been doing anniversary theme gifts ever since. He's great at balancing practical presents (I too got an enamel-coated cast iron Dutch oven a couple of years ago because I wanted one) with surprises. He doesn't usually buy me jewelry, because I don't wear much and my taste is extremely picky and simple (it's hard for him to maintain "no seriously - the smaller and simpler the better" in the face of pushy jewelry salespeople), but he shows romance through a wide variety of other ways.

As for today, unless DH is breaking the rules, we're not doing anything special. We made a nice steak dinner on Saturday night and called that our celebration for this year. We tend not to recognize Valentine's Day in any of the typical commercial ways. Besides, our wedding anniversary is March 3, so we just delay any over-the-top gestures until then.

[Wisconsin Beth]

We started dating on 2/13/01. After about 3 months, people started asking when we were getting married... He proposed on 2/13/04. Completely surprised me in that I wasn't expecting it that day as he's mentioned having GIFTS for me a couple days previously. We had talked about our future together so it was more of a "when he's ready, he'll do it" thing. We went out to dinner at a really nice place, came back to his place. I asked if he wanted to do gifts first or if I should. And should I close my eyes. He said sure. Came back a couple of minutes later, told me to open my eyes and he was down on 1 knee and proposed and I said yes about 1 nanosecond after he finished asking. He later told me that I made it really easy to surprise, with the offering to close eyes and stuff.

[tcu2003]

With a Boggle game (we’re dorks, I know, but we play Boggle a lot). We were playing Boggle one night, and I told him I was done playing as I had to be up early the next morning. He convinced me to play one more game, and then asked me if I'd get him a glass of water. While I was in the kitchen, he switched out the game cube. When I got back he had the Boggle board under one of the couch throw pillows. After I accused him of cheating, LOL, he removed the cover and flipped the timer over. I’m slightly (very) competitive, so I didn’t even notice that the letters were all facing my direction or said anything as I was busy trying to win. Nor did I notice that I was the only one writing words down and he never picked up a pen/pad of paper. It wasn’t until he finally picked up the board and tilted itmy way that I realized what it said (WILL YOU BE MY WIFE). After asking "Seriously? Really?" I said "Yes!" Obviously I was surprised, and an idiot since I was so oblivious, so it makes for a fun story.

[Cookies Galore]

tcu, that's cute!



For the record, I got a new oven mitt for Christmas a couple of years ago and I was so excited. No more burns!

[Firebird]

Meghan, what do you do?

[Cookies Galore]

Feb 15, 2011 17:43:53 GMT -5 Firebird said:

Meghan, what do you do?

The oven mitt? I'm a medical editor, relatively safe work, but the old oven mitt at home was getting worn. My honey bought a fancy one! I played with it like it was a sock puppet.

[Deleted]

I don't think I ever had a proposal and we've been married for 7 years!

After we'd been together 3 years, DH suggested getting me an imperial topaz ring (we'd admired the stone when we saw them in Brazil) and then making it into an engagement ring sometime later. DS told us not to get married till he got out of HS. That actually felt like good timing (another 3 years). About a year before that we took the ring to the jeweler, got a couple of side diamonds, had it remounted, and DH put it on my finger in the store! He likes to say DS did the proposing for him. DS was genuinely comfortable with our getting married at that point; I think he didn't want to rush anything and neither did DH and I.