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Post by Jaguar on Jul 6, 2013 11:21:48 GMT -5
Oh neat. I told my brother this past winter when they thought I had lung cancer to just cremate me and on some really windy day just open up the box of ashes and let me blow away everywhere. This idea is way better I think.
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Post by Apple on Jul 6, 2013 11:30:31 GMT -5
I've always said "just burn me and bury the ashes by a tree". I kill almost everything I try to grow, so I'm afraid the seed would never sprout, lol.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 6, 2013 12:15:15 GMT -5
You have to consider the tree has a limited shelf life. But then if the tree is blown over or dies from old age, you will be turned into mulch. Having considered that, I guess you keep on giving, don't you.
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Post by Malarky on Jul 6, 2013 12:18:14 GMT -5
I really like the idea, but that is one ugly container. Just pop my ashes and a seed in a brown paper bag and bury me. Easy peasy.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 6, 2013 12:21:26 GMT -5
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Post by KaraBoo on Jul 6, 2013 12:42:44 GMT -5
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Post by cronewitch on Jul 7, 2013 1:33:38 GMT -5
Today was mom's funeral and I am being given her ashes. I don't want them, nobody wants them. My niece wants us to have them put on Dad's grave which is expensive. We are thinking sprinkling some there then scattering the rest somewhere else. My ISO hates the idea of sprinkling and thinks all the ashes need to stay together. My brother wanted me to have the ashes so we could take them out in the boat to scatter them. Mom got really sea sick so I don't think being scattered on water will be right.
I just don't know what to do with the ashes, if you just bury them in the woods under a seedling they might get logged then developed someday but that might be our best choice. I don't see buying a urn at all sense then the ashes can't even nuture a tree. Buying the green cone doesn't seem better than a pretty cardboard box.
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Post by mmhmm on Jul 7, 2013 1:52:44 GMT -5
We took my late husband's ashes into the forest and scattered them under the trees, cronewitch. I thought it was much more civilized than flushing him down the toilet ... which was what he had requested.  |
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Post by Malarky on Jul 7, 2013 4:10:52 GMT -5
Sorry about your Mom, Crone.
We scattered my mother's ashes in one of her favorite places. I never really thought about whether or not the land would be logged, although that's likely. I just thought about her becoming part of a place that held a lot of good memories when she was alive.
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 7, 2013 9:04:53 GMT -5
Crone-my condolences.
Both my parents were cremated. Some of their cremains are interred in a military cemetery columbarium while the rest of their ashes were cast on one of their favorite beaches. They never asked to be scattered on a beach but we siblings didn't think they would mind either.
Take your time in deciding. There is no rush.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 7, 2013 10:59:16 GMT -5
Sending hugs to you crone...
my moms ashes are on a shelf in my living room....in a not fancy box. It's been 5 years and I still don't know what to do with them.
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Post by zibazinski on Jul 7, 2013 20:06:27 GMT -5
Moms are in the basement along with my Dads. What to do with them ?
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Post by Apple on Jul 7, 2013 22:54:10 GMT -5
My dad has said when he dies, he wants his ashes dumped on "Monkeyface Mountain". Works for me.
I don't know if it's because I haven't lost someone so close, but I can't see ever holding onto ashes. I think if my dad hadn't said it jokingly, we'd still find someplace like that to the ashes. As it is, that's where he'll go unless he requests something else. Mom will go with him. I have no idea what trail to take to get up there, or if there is a road, but I guess that we'll figure it out when the time comes.
I would just take the ashes somewhere they liked to visit, and bury them or spread them and call it good.
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Post by Anne_in_VA on Jul 8, 2013 9:56:26 GMT -5
My dad's ashes are buried in the gravesite with his father. After his dad died his stepmother moved back to Sweden and died over there, so we knew that she wouldn't be buried there.
When I die I've told DH I want to be cremeated and for him to scatter my ashes - preferably at the ocean. At one time I wanted my brother to scatter my ashes from his plane, but I've changed my mind since I met DH.
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 8, 2013 10:59:35 GMT -5
I hear it is quite messy to do an air-drop and doesn't work that well. So, be prepared - bring baby wipes or something in case you have the same problems I've heard of others having.  |
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Post by Apple on Jul 8, 2013 14:39:01 GMT -5
I hear it is quite messy to do an air-drop and doesn't work that well. So, be prepared - bring baby wipes or something in case you have the same problems I've heard of others having. Hmmmm.... maybe I should request someone do this with me, but, put a firecracker in the bag of ashes with a long fuse, light the fuse, drop it, and watch it explode in the air  For once I could go out with a bang! |
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 8, 2013 14:39:59 GMT -5
LOL
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Post by kittensaver on Jul 8, 2013 14:44:52 GMT -5
Hugs to you, crone.
Maybe scatter her ashes in a few of her favorite places, like others have suggested?
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Post by Malarky on Jul 8, 2013 15:31:19 GMT -5
My apologies for TMI, but ashes are sticky. They don't float gracefully to the ground.
Burying them, or scattering in a small area is a good idea. I was trying to cover the highlights of the Kancamagus Highway in NH.
I not only had to scrub my hands, I sobbed all the way through the car wash because the wind changed direction.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 8, 2013 16:28:12 GMT -5
Did anybody else see this thread & think "That's taking the phrase "Having a woody" to a whole next level? |
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Post by thyme4change on Jul 8, 2013 16:30:02 GMT -5
My apologies for TMI, but ashes are sticky. They don't float gracefully to the ground. Burying them, or scattering in a small area is a good idea. I was trying to cover the highlights of the Kancamagus Highway in NH. I not only had to scrub my hands, I sobbed all the way through the car wash because the wind changed direction. Unfortunately, this is the type of story I have heard often when people talk about scattering ashes. I think "laying ashes" should be the directive, or better yet, burying ashes. I'm sorry Malarky. That sucks. |
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Post by Tennesseer on Jul 8, 2013 17:13:10 GMT -5
My apologies for TMI, but ashes are sticky. They don't float gracefully to the ground. Burying them, or scattering in a small area is a good idea. I was trying to cover the highlights of the Kancamagus Highway in NH.I not only had to scrub my hands, I sobbed all the way through the car wash because the wind changed direction. Sorrowful experience for you. But a scenic ride any time of year under difference circumstances. (And kudos to you. You spelled Kancamagus correctly.) |
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