I need to vent or ramble or both

[happyscooter]

Today is my wedding anniversary.  We have been doing home repairs for a month.  We need a new roof and that is the one thing that hasn't been done.  Waiting on the roofer to get some insurance info for us.  The more we have done, the more we need to do.  We got to a point yesterday that I sat down and started crying.  My hormones are going crazy, it is the time of year that my mom started going downhill fast and I can't find a solution to fixing a problem that should be simple.

Boy that felt good.  Thanks YMers.

[taz157]

Sorry about the craziness with house. Happy wedding anniversary! How many years have you and DH been married?

[happyscooter]

34

[happyscooter]

And he asked me a question yesterday about what I wanted to do with one of our home improvements and I started tearing up.  I said "I don't tell you enough how much I appreciate you'.  And he said 'I don't tell you either and I didn't mean to make you cry'.

[happyscooter]

I am really tired of my body being out of whack.

Anyway, it's a new day and I hope we get a lot accomplished.

[Gardening Grandma]

Jun 23, 2013 8:07:09 GMT -5 happyscooter said:

And he asked me a question yesterday about what I wanted to do with one of our home improvements and I started tearing up.  I said "I don't tell you enough how much I appreciate you'.  And he said 'I don't tell you either and I didn't mean to make you cry'.

Awwww. That is sweet. Happy Anniversary.  (Reminds me to tell DH how much I appreciate him)

[Deleted]

Happy anniversary!

When I was pregnant, I wanted to go to IHOP one Sunday morning. DH wouldn't go...it was too late, church would be getting out and he wanted to get stuff done around the house. I completely lost it crying.....he then put an IHOP gift card in my Christmas stocking as a joke.

Hormones are awesome.

[Apple]

Happy Anniversary

If you don't do dinner and stuff like that, have his favorite pizza delivered or some small gesture like that.  I'm sure that's stupid to some people, but I find little things like that to be the best.

[KaraBoo]

Happyscooter - I totally understand!  

A week and a half ago, my boss was "asked to resign" and when her boss (a physician and our new interim boss), came to talk to us about it, I broke down into silent sobs.  It was so bad, I couldn't talk, but finally got out that I needed to talk to her one-on-one.

The next day, in her office, I outlined everything going on in my life - stresses from health, kids, house, husband, work, and the ex-spouses.  She knew about some of it, but not all.  I let her know that my boss leaving was the "straw" for me stress-wise, that's why I couldn't keep it together.

Her response was, "There comes a point where the body and mind can't take anymore and this was your body telling you 'ENOUGH ALREADY!'.  It's normal."  (she did go on to let me know what she's going to do on her end to help me with the work issues and she appreciated me letting her know about everything.)

I guess I tried to tell you all of that to say hang in there!  And vent to us any time!

[Peace Of Mind]

happyscooter - I hope things get better for you soon and your mom starts doing better.  (((Hugs)))

[Nazgul Girl]

    Happyscooter, you are there.   You are in the right place.   It just has a few bumps to be smoothed out, evaded, gone around, or worked into the general scheme of things, or the "Plan."   You and your DH have been a team for 34 years.   Congratulations, and I hope that you'll have another glorious 34 years.   Even with the bumps. 

[happyscooter]

Thanks all.  We did get a lot accomplished today and our son/DIL had us to their house for dinner.  Still not sure about one of the improvements but our son is coming over tomorrow.  A fresh set of eyes might help us both see a solution that we haven't thought about.

POM, my mom passed away very quickly after being diagnosed with cancer.  She seemed to hold her own and then right in the middle of June 3 years ago, she started going down hill.  It's still seems like yesterday and in some ways it seems like sssooooo long ago.

I do know how blessed I am to have made it 34 years with the same person.  There were hard times but all in all, there were really great ones!

[bookkeeper]

Jun 23, 2013 7:48:01 GMT -5 happyscooter said:

Today is my wedding anniversary.  We have been doing home repairs for a month.  We need a new roof and that is the one thing that hasn't been done.  Waiting on the roofer to get some insurance info for us.  The more we have done, the more we need to do.  We got to a point yesterday that I sat down and started crying.  My hormones are going crazy, it is the time of year that my mom started going downhill fast and I can't find a solution to fixing a problem that should be simple.

Boy that felt good.  Thanks YMers.

I always call it "my anniversary" like I earned it!!

My husband probably feels the same way.

Try to relax or maybe take a few days off from the project.  When you are living in the construction zone it can get overwhelming because you are looking at it 24/7.  If construction and home improvement are making you cry, it is time to take a break at least for a day before you go back to it.

My husband and I worked very hard for 6 months on a remodeling project.  At one point, I too had broken down to tears.  I had to tell him I refused to do any more until I had a break.  All my time and our extra money was pouring into this project.  I felt much better after we took a few months off and enjoyed our summer.  It gave our checking account time to catch up as well.  We were lucky that we could shut the door on our project and not look at it during the time off.

[happyscooter]

Son did come over and help DH with one of the improvements.  He had a different way of doing something and it works.  It looks good except for one thing which I did not think about.  (I can't think of EVERYTHING, can I?)  So I need help with this.

We have regular bricks for our foundation of the reddish color.  We have made some gray and blackish stone columns for our porch. I didn't realize what it would look like for the 2 to run together.  But they fixed that part so there is a break between the 2 colors.  But now I think I need to paint the foundation of our house.  Anybody ever done that? 

It's like having carpet in your house and having one color on the stairs, one color at the top of the stairs, then each bedroom has their own color and you can see each individual room when you reach the landing.

[happyscooter]

Other problem, we really wanted this roofer to do our job.  He came highly recommended, was very professional when he came out, gave us a good price (compared to the other estimate), had the bid in the mail within 3-4 days, is BBB approved, broke everything down (replacing warped boards and other things), etc...  But he hasn't called us back since I asked for insurance verification.  I know I need to get it and our homeowners insurance agent has asked me for it also.  There is NO way DH and I can do this roof.  We roofed (with help) our garage but it is a 1 story.  How do I proceed?  I called again on Friday and left a message and thought maybe they were on vacation and would be home this weekend and he would call us yesterday.  He didn't.  This is the one thing we needed to get done this spring.  There are no leaks or anything but it needs to be done.  All of the other stuff is cosmetic that we are taking care of.

[mrsdutt]

Happy Anniversary to both of you.  I hope the next 34 years are ones you can both enjoy.


This is for your hormones: 

[HoneyBBQ]

Jun 23, 2013 8:07:09 GMT -5 happyscooter said:

And he asked me a question yesterday about what I wanted to do with one of our home improvements and I started tearing up.  I said "I don't tell you enough how much I appreciate you'.  And he said 'I don't tell you either and I didn't mean to make you cry'.

Sounds like a keeper to me!

Hope you feel better. (hugs)

[happyscooter]

This is funny.  DH and I are doing a lot of home improvements.  It has sort of snowballed.  We are doing 90% of the work ourselves.  So that means that we don't get a lot done each day, it starts raining and we have to put up the tools.  DH is working a few days this week.  We had to run to the home improvement store for more supplies.  And the biggie is, we are doing it to save money.  So anytime a neighbor has work done, the contractor is there for 2 days and gets it done.  One of the neighbors said today 'we can't keep up with the Scooters.' (meaning DH and me)
I have never had ANYTHING that someone else wanted that made them keep up with the Jones.