Phoenix84
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Post by Phoenix84 on Jun 13, 2013 16:54:46 GMT -5
I met MidJD in person last December. I guess I too am lucky she didn't turn out to be an axe murderer or an enforcer for the mob.
I have done a fair bit of online dating. But have never run a background check on anyone. I take basic precautions, like I'll never meet someone in a non public place and always insist on talking on the phone first before meeting them in person. But other than that, nothing. And I don't give out where I live or work prior to meeting them in person.
So far I'm still alive and kicking.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Jun 13, 2013 16:55:44 GMT -5
POMs lucky I wasn't!!! Hi, POM!
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movingforward
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Post by movingforward on Jun 13, 2013 17:03:41 GMT -5
You can meet a nut anywhere. It certainly doesn't have to be online. Someone can actually seem perfectly normal when you first meet them.
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midjd
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Post by midjd on Jun 13, 2013 18:34:39 GMT -5
Hey just because I didn't axe murder you doesn't mean I'm not one! I've never run a background check on anyone, although I have done things like look up the charges filed against a relative's abusive boyfriend. I'm careful to never use my work access to records for personal research, but it's easy enough since so much is publicly available.
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bookkeeper
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Post by bookkeeper on Jun 14, 2013 8:31:35 GMT -5
I just paid for three background checks from and online service. Our church youth group was going to work in a shelter/mission this week and all the adult volunteers on the trip had to bring along the background check report. They cost $15 each.
I believe that you own your past. If you did something that shows up negatively on your background check, too bad for you. Everyone has access to this information in the digital age. You can expect people to use the tools available to them.
I once waited a month for the completion of my background check to obtain a security clearance working for the state judicial system. I passed, but I wonder what the FBI found? My father once egged the Secretary of Agriculture back in the 50's. Apparently political activism from 40 years ago doesn't count for much.
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NancysSummerSip
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jun 14, 2013 11:03:56 GMT -5
I just paid for three background checks from and online service. Our church youth group was going to work in a shelter/mission this week and all the adult volunteers on the trip had to bring along the background check report. They cost $15 each. I believe that you own your past. If you did something that shows up negatively on your background check, too bad for you. Everyone has access to this information in the digital age. You can expect people to use the tools available to them. I once waited a month for the completion of my background check to obtain a security clearance working for the state judicial system. I passed, but I wonder what the FBI found? My father once egged the Secretary of Agriculture back in the 50's. Apparently political activism from 40 years ago doesn't count for much. The FBI may have been checking into travel that anyone in your family did, particularly if it was outside the country. Or they could be looking at jobs they have or had. My brother has a very high security clearance at the federal level, and he was questioned about my mother going to Israel (she was with a tour group) and my husband working for a company that makes rocket and jet engine parts. Apparently, these items caught the attention of the FBI when he applied for his current job, and they had to explain themselves.
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tskeeter
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Post by tskeeter on Jun 14, 2013 17:16:07 GMT -5
To me, anything that is part of the public records is fair game. Sex offender lists, court records, social media sites, and the like. Really no different that reading the newspaper and finding out that the person you were on a date with last night was arrested when they stopped on the way home to rob a convenience store. Or information that the person's friends or family might disclose during a casual conversation. Running a credit check before the first date might be a bit much. But, your objective is to get to know this person. Doing your homework before a first date is often a question of self protection these days. Remember, we no longer keep sex offenders, felons with a history of violence, or the criminally insane isolated from mainstream society any more. We've gotten too politically correct for that. So it behooves a person to act in their own self interest and try to make sure that the individual they are planning to spend time with does not pose a threat to them.
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