midjd
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Post by midjd on Jun 11, 2013 12:52:05 GMT -5
Regis, I'm so sorry about your nephew/godson.
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Wisconsin Beth
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 11, 2013 14:17:38 GMT -5
. But right now I am just determined not to die. Works for me.
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Post by Pants on Jun 11, 2013 14:24:28 GMT -5
Mid - you don't even have to ask. I will happily be godparent to mini-jd. I can provide LSAT and GMAT scores as references.
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midjd
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Post by midjd on Jun 11, 2013 15:13:59 GMT -5
Bsb - that works! I don't even need to see references - everyone knows cute kid = smart parents.
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Post by bean29 on Jun 11, 2013 15:23:44 GMT -5
Regis: I am also sorry about your Godson-my thoughts and prayers are with you. I tried to post earlier but got knocked out of ProBoards.
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Regis
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Post by Regis on Jun 11, 2013 15:39:26 GMT -5
Thanks Mid and Bean.
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Post by Pants on Jun 11, 2013 15:43:49 GMT -5
Damn. I was looking forward to touting how awesome my LSAT and GMAT scores were.
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Post by moneymaven on Jun 12, 2013 22:57:40 GMT -5
These conversations can be difficult. We also decided our parents collectively were too old. We chose two family members that we felt would raise our children (currently just DS) in a way that we would. You really can't speak from the grave so it was important to us to choose people who have demonstrated lifestyle, values, morals, etc. that we would want our children to emulate. One is from each side of our families and we're both very happy with the decision.
We also decided that if they were capable enough to take care of our children, they will have the money too.
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Post by steph08 on Jun 13, 2013 10:52:27 GMT -5
I had godparents - my Aunt/Uncle - funny because I doubt my Aunt has gone to church other than funerals/weddings/baptisms since I was born. As for guardians, my parents never named any. Thankfully none were necessary. DH and I don't have kids, but we have discussed that if we do, who would we name as guardians (I think we are fourth down on the list as guardians for his nephew ). He wants his parents, I don't want them. I want my parents, he doesn't want them. I want my brother/SIL, he doesn't. His sister/BIL would make the most sense but I don't like their parenting style, so I don't want them. And we're out of options! Good luck!
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Jun 13, 2013 11:14:54 GMT -5
Steph, we ran into something similar. DH's brother's life sort of imploded and DH eventually agreed that they were not a good choice because of the issues (which he's not really trying to fix) What we did was have a discussion on selections,which included why. When we realized we were at an impasse, we let it drop for a few months. Then the implosion started so he admitted that his brother wasn't a good choice. But I think it was important for DH to realize that his brother (and his wife) were not good choices at that point and he needed time to do that on his own.
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