Have you become more stubborn?

[mmhmm]

I am not stubborn.  I used to be stubborn.  Now, I'm just determined.

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Jun 10, 2013 14:12:25 GMT -5 mmhmm said:

I am not stubborn.  I used to be stubborn.  Now, I'm just determined.

My mother called me "independent"

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Jun 10, 2013 14:04:43 GMT -5 @oldtex said:

I used to be a lot more understanding. I used to be able to see both sides. Then I started posting on these boards & seeing some of the stances of others on certain topics. So I guess the answer is yes I have become more stubborn (& argumentative). Is it because I'm older? I kind of doubt it.

It's the boards' fault!

[michelyn8]

Jun 10, 2013 13:04:25 GMT -5 NomoreDramaQ1015 said:

I don't think I'm "more stubborn".  It's I'm becoming comfortable in my own skin and I am a lot less likely to automatically go for the people pleaser solution.   I'm able to decide what's a hill I'm willing to die on.

It appears more stubborn when people are used to me jumping when they say "boo" and I don't.

I'm also "less stubborn" than I used to be on a lot of issues.  I've learned there are a lot of grey areas and very little in life is black/white.

I'm definately not less stubborn than I was as a child or young adult but I am more patient and tolerant.  Like Drama, I've learned that are more ways to view something than just mine and what may initially seem black and white actually has several shades of gray. 

One thing that hasn't changed about me is that I will not do anything I don't want to do or need to do.  If I'm doing what someone tells me its because I want to do what they've told me to do - doesn't matter if its work or personal - OR I understand the reason it needs to be done (like breaking out invoices into all the annoying details the client asks for and doesn't review because if I didn't, it would affect whether I continue to draw a paycheck).

[Tiny]

I've given this a bit more thought - and I don't think I ever was very stubborn... if I didn't want to do something and I couldn't be convinced that doing that something had enough pluses for me - i'd just walk away. I know I have developed better skills at manipulating peole to get what I want -- (ie convincing them that they want to do what I want to do OR convincing them that my idea was really their idea so they'll go along with it) But I don't use these powers for Evil. Well, atleast not yet.

If you are good at negotiating (ie manipulation) you don't have to be stubborn - you can get people to do what you want pretty much all the time.

And as for feeling like you always have to capitulate - when someone wants you to do something you don't want to do - just remember that NO, means NO... and keep repeating NO. It's fun and easy (well, after you get past all your own mental road blocks).

[NastyWoman]

I am not stubborn, I am persistent.  Granted I am VERY, VERY persistent but I am not stubborn 

[8 Bit WWBG]

Oh god yes.  Only because the world is becoming a PC, "everyone gets a trophy for showing up", "the whiners are the winners" kind of place.  I can't make jokes about things that are funny because they are "insensitive" and "words hurt".  After all, somewhere in some terrible place, the worst thing you can imagine is happening, and that is exactly the same as me making a joke about the Irish, and deserves the same consequences.