who do you, personally, disappoint?

[swamp]

Because so many of us thought that is what the question was.

I think I disappoint my mom because I'm not a girly girl and don't wear makeup and keep my hair perfectly coiffed.

[Deleted]

myself at times - lots of reasons.  I really need to find a new therapist.

my in-laws - I've caught on to their "we'll give you X but it comes with strings" thing and I say no to a lot of stuff they offer

my mom - I didn't become the black Ally McBeal, so there won't be a "room in my mansion" for my mother to live in when I retire

[t-dog]

My sister obviously!

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Myself, constantly.  I have horrible self esteem and tend to be a perfectionist.  Not achieving perfection can be a real blow to my ego.

I disappoint DH because of the above.  It drives him crazy that I don't see myself how he sees me.

[Wisconsin Beth]

In some ways, I'm a disappointment to my parents.  In other ways they're proud of me. 

[The Home 6]

LOL, t-dog!

I probably disappoint my parents because we don't live close to them and don't have an opportunity to visit often.

I KNOW I disappoint my MIL because I am an abusive, selfish, childish pig who should have married my SIL's ex-husband. Also because I never should have married BS. And because I trapped him into marriage. And because I don't 'do' my daughters' hair every day so they wind up looking homely and unkempt like my mom. And because I like to volunteer. And I don't cook or clean well enough.

[muttleynfelix]

My Grandma because I chose to live in a state where I had a job and not move back to a state where I didn't .... 9 years ago.

I disappoint my son some mornings when I go to work.  (only some ... well really it was only a week, he's back to not caring).

I disappoint when I lose my cool with my son, when I'm struggling to get work done, get meals on the table.  Of course I deal with it poorly, by hanging out here.

[Bob Ross]

I'm pretty disappointed by the lot of you.

[Deleted]

I'm disappointed that Bob Ross hasn't cut anyone yet.

[Angel!]

Basically everyone.  Family (specifically parents), friends, neighbors.

I think I am good with my kids & my coworkers though.  I do disappoint myself in my work performance sometimes & my skill as a Mom, but others don't seem as hard on me in those areas. 

I just realized something funny.  The way in which I disappoint others, I don't disappoint myself - I am actually somewhat proud of myself in that area.  Areas where I am disappointed with myself, no one else seems disappointed with me.  I'm not sure what that means.

[8 Bit WWBG]

My Dad, because I didn't go to grad school and/or law school.

DW, I assume.

Myself.

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

Well, the list is far too long to post here.  I guess I excel at disappointing others.  Thing is, their standards are impossibly high and I have never, ever claimed to be perfect.  No, I am perfectly flawed.  

[Bob Ross]

Jesus

[t-dog]

Angel - I totally get that.  I personally hate conflict and yet my chosen career is all about maximizing conflict (aka litigation)

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

Jun 6, 2013 15:04:30 GMT -5 t-dog said:

Angel - I totally get that.  I personally hate conflict and yet my chosen career is all about maximizing conflict (aka litigation)

Oy.  Ran screaming from that.  It ate at my well-being.  Especially when it was clear that I could be really, really good at it.  

[Tennesseer]

Screw em all.

[Nazgul Girl]

Jun 6, 2013 14:31:28 GMT -5 The Home 6 said:

LOL, t-dog!

I probably disappoint my parents because we don't live close to them and don't have an opportunity to visit often.

I KNOW I disappoint my MIL because I am an abusive, selfish, childish pig who should have married my SIL's ex-husband. Also because I never should have married BS. And because I trapped him into marriage. And because I don't 'do' my daughters' hair every day so they wind up looking homely and unkempt like my mom. And because I like to volunteer. And I don't cook or clean well enough.

   Wow your MIL has a lot to be disappointed in.   Probably keeps her busy.   [img]http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png[/img]     If she was mine ( MIL ), I'd probably have to get one of those freezers over on EE for her body.

[The Home 6]

That's who I reserved the space for, Nancy!

[garion2003]

My parents are proud of me, but deep down are probably disappointed they don't have any grandchildren (and won't).

[greeniis10]

Jun 6, 2013 14:30:17 GMT -5 Wisconsin Beth said:

In some ways, I'm a disappointment to my parents.  In other ways they're proud of me. 

Same here!  I disappointed them by leaving the strict religion they raised me in the minute I turned 18.  Took 20+ years, but they are now acknowledging that they are proud of me for making the life I have.  I'm not perfect and no where near where I want to be, but their standards are obviously LOW since they fully expected me to fall on my face and end up destitute and homeless without them. 

[8 Bit WWBG]

...:::"My parents are proud of me, but deep down are probably disappointed they don't have any grandchildren (and won't).":::...

Oh crap, I totally forgot about this.  I might not carry on the line.  Lovely...

[Robert not Bobby]

Disappoint, or disappointed?

Tough call…I would have to say Mr. Ketchum (not sure if that was how he spelled his name…but an interesting, dedicated and inspiring character), my grade seven and eight band teacher. He taught me everything he knew about playing clarinet, then I moved on to the bass clarinet, then to sax, and then to guitar. THE HORROR!

I feel like I’ve let him down by not being in the New York Philharmonic.

He was a wild red headed freckled guy…but he had passion.

There may have been a few others along the way, but, not intentionally.

I'm not going to worry about what others expect of me. I try not to live my life that way.

[ontrack]

Jun 6, 2013 15:48:16 GMT -5 garion2003 said:

My parents are proud of me, but deep down are probably disappointed they don't have any grandchildren (and won't).

 although I haven't totally ruled them out completely yet.

[Peace Of Mind]

Jun 6, 2013 15:12:17 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Screw em all.

Are you saying you disappoint when you do that? 

I disappoint my friends and a family member because I don't travel.  I lose out on a lot of great opportunities that sound great on paper but I just don't enjoy traveling any more nor do I fly any more.

I disappoint myself because I have a bad temper that I can't seem to control at all times.  In many cases I'm usually glad I sound off because it resolves things that needed resolving in the first place and I just didn't want to deal with it.  But I hate when I yell around here when I don't feel good or get pissed off.  But it just feels so good!  For me, any way. 

[Bob Ross]

So yesterday, there was this thing where I had some cheese, and my cat wanted the cheese, but I didn't give her the cheese.  I'm pretty sure she was disappointed.

But then I gave her this foil ball toy, and what do you know?  She wasn't disappointed anymore!

Sometimes I wish people were like that, in that all it would take is a foil ball toy to erase the disappointment.  

My parents are gonna wish that too when I stick them in that shady home that I saw on 60 Minutes.

[Tennesseer]

Jun 6, 2013 16:21:52 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

Jun 6, 2013 15:12:17 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Screw em all.

Are you saying you disappoint when you do that? 

I disappoint my friends and a family member because I don't travel.  I lose out on a lot of great opportunities that sound great on paper but I just don't enjoy traveling any more nor do I fly any more.

I disappoint myself because I have a bad temper that I can't seem to control at all times.  In many cases I'm usually glad I sound off because it resolves things that needed resolving in the first place and I just didn't want to deal with it.  But I hate when I yell around here when I don't feel good or get pissed off.  But it just feels so good!  For me, any way. 

Trying not to disappoint everyone will drive you crazy.  

Pick one person and disappoint the crap out of them.  

[Peace Of Mind]

Jun 6, 2013 16:24:57 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Jun 6, 2013 16:21:52 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

Are you saying you disappoint when you do that? 

I disappoint my friends and a family member because I don't travel.  I lose out on a lot of great opportunities that sound great on paper but I just don't enjoy traveling any more nor do I fly any more.

I disappoint myself because I have a bad temper that I can't seem to control at all times.  In many cases I'm usually glad I sound off because it resolves things that needed resolving in the first place and I just didn't want to deal with it.  But I hate when I yell around here when I don't feel good or get pissed off.  But it just feels so good!  For me, any way. 

Trying not to disappoint everyone will drive you crazy.  

Pick one person and disappoint the crap out of them.  

LOL!! I'd rather spread my joy around and not show favoritism!    

[sesfw]

Mom because I am physically a carbon copy of her MIL that she hated from time of marriage at age 21 until she died at age 85

Dad because I'm over weight and not eye candy .

Daughter because I'm not the perfect parent.  I expected something of her, and she didn't disappoint me.

[Peace Of Mind]

Jun 6, 2013 14:52:13 GMT -5 GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl said:

Well, the list is far too long to post here.  I guess I excel at disappointing others.  Thing is, their standards are impossibly high and I have never, ever claimed to be perfect.  No, I am perfectly flawed.  

You really disappointed me by not posting your list. 

[Nazgul Girl]

    I find this list pitifully disappointing.   Details, please.