Marrying your first GF/BF

[zibazinski]

I could have happily married my first boyfriend. He was a very good man from a very bad family. But that family would always be there.    My parents put a kibosh on it and I'm not sorry at all really. If I hadn't dated and had experiences, I would have never appreciated DF and his wonderful qualities. All three of my aunts have long term marriages, one is happy, the rest are dutifully staying married. Not for me. 

[Robert not Bobby]

deleted by moon because Robert STILL doesn't know what PG-13 means.

[giramomma]

I'm my DH's first and only girlfriend. Though we were not married until we were 26. So far, so good.

[lurkyloo]

I'm DH's only girlfriend.  Although to be fair, we were older when we started dating, and within a week I knew it was permanent.  (It only took that long because I was trying really hard not to date someone who was about to move across the country.)  Also, DH is pretty much unique.  Things work for him that would probably be a terrible idea for anyone else.

[8 Bit WWBG]

I had a high school gf for a few months, and a few dates that went nowhere.  DW was my first real gf.  She had a few relationships before me, and only one was semi-serious.  We were together a very VERY long time before marrying.

As to whether or not I wish I'd gotten to "sow my oats..."  Its not like I didn't TRY.  I do wish I'd gotten a bit more fun, but I'll live.

[8 Bit WWBG]

Robert, not loving the reference.

[taz157]

I met DH when I was 19 and he was 24.  DH was my 2nd serious BF while I was his 3rd serious GF.  We met when I was in college, got engaged 6 months after I graduated from college, then married a year later.  We just celebrated our 9 year anniversary 2 weeks ago and have been together almost 15 years.  We've definitely gone through some trials and tribulations, but he's my best friend and someone I can always turn too.  Even with all the stress in our lives recently (DH's job relocation and living separately for 4.5 months, but that's ending soon ), I think our relationship is solid and on a good path now. 

FWIW, my mom was engaged to my dad about 6 months after meeting him, then married him shortly afterwards. They were married for 17 years before they divorced. My mom wanted me to date around more than I did, but I'm happy with where I am in my life and that's all that matters.

[Deleted]

It can happen.  My sister married her first serious BF at age 19; they'd been dating since she was 15 (sneaking around because we weren't supposed to date before 16).  That was 1975.  The marriage is still going strong.  My parents had known each other since grade school and never dated anyone else seriously, married 61 years.  Same for my brother and his wife, married in 1976.  DS belongs to a very conservative church where you don't date one-on-one unless the 2 of you have decided it's likely to lead to marriage.  He just married a wonderful young woman.

So, yes, it can work although it's alien to me.  I shopped around a lot before the first marriage.  OTOH, after the divorce, now-DH and I started dating almost immediately, never dated anyone else, and we celebrate our 10th anniversary tomorrow.

[Deleted]

My DD#2 is still with her high school sweetheart, who was her first real boyfriend.  Not sure if they will ever get married as she seems anti-marriage at the moment.  I'm pretty sure they've been together longer than I was married, so I won't be giving any advice on that front!!

His parents seem to ask them insensitive questions every now & then about 'don't they want to date other people?'  Neither of them seem to feel like they've missed anything. well, except the drama of break ups & vengeance and all that teenage angsty sort of stuff.

[gooddecisions]

I regret not marrying my first. There was always something missing from everyone else...

[Shooby]

  I met DH when i was 17 and he was my first BF.   We are still together today with 3 kids and still going.