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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 28, 2013 22:33:55 GMT -5
According to most studies we should all be dead IF we even survived our childhoods.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 28, 2013 22:39:52 GMT -5
I think it has to do with three things
1. Genetics. 2. Parents 3. Education
So, genetics is genetics. But here is what I noticed in my so-far short "parenting" life. Babies self-regulate and so do toddlers. At some point parents get involved and I think children un-learn how to self-regulate.
I don't make my kids finish their food. If they say "I am done" - off they go. And yes, I will still give them desert. 99% of the time their desert is fruit. But even if it's not, I am still OK with it. My DH and our pediatrician think I am wrong. They think I shouldn't give them desert if they didn't finish their meal. Why? Bc they will just want to eat sweets. Well, so far they haven't done that.
I would rather them stop eating if they are not hungry, instead of stuffing themselves with food, just so they can get that cookie.
I guess time will tell if I am right or wrong.
Education. I started brainwashing my kids when they were toddlers. I started using the words nutrition and protein and vitamins, carbs and calcium etc. I don't say "no" to McD and I don't say "no" to junk food while we are at the grocery store, but I do "remind" them that protein will give them strong muscles while potato chips will not. My oldest did ask me once if chocolate chips have protein, I am not sure he liked my answer.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 28, 2013 22:43:57 GMT -5
Oh and as far as the "study" goes
No C-sections. All three were BFed, my youngest had formula to supplement. He is my HUGEST, I mean really big baby. I don't think it was formula. I gave him formula BECAUSE he was hungry and I just didn't have enough milk. So, since I am not one of those "formula is bad even if my kid starves to death" mothers, I supplemented.
My mom thinks he is getting slimmer - yeah, I don't see it and since I am the one who drags that kid around....
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 29, 2013 7:46:23 GMT -5
Oh no no no - if you are done - you are DONE. You are hungry 1/2 hr later? Sure - there is an apple. No? oh well, I am sure you won't starve until the next meal. And I mean it. their choices are either apple or a banana. That's it. I don't think our pediatrician was thinking fruit when we were talking about desert, but that's what my kids think desert is. I just really REALLY don't like the idea of making anyone eat (in normal circumstances). May be it's my own personal baggage. When I was in pre-school/K teachers made me eat breakfast every day and I puked every.single.day for 3 yrs - I can't eat in the morning. So, I just can't force anyone to eat.... I also don't bring snacks every time we leave the house. They got into a snack habit awhile ago and I broke it off - if you can't wait for food for 2 hrs you should have eaten more at your previous meal. I don't know.....I am making this up as I go and try to use common sense and not parenting books. We'll see what happens. I figured if I screw up too badly, I'll offer to pay for their therapy.
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Post by taz157 on May 29, 2013 7:48:27 GMT -5
DD was born via c-section, formula feed, and started solid foods at 5-6 months. I got the okay at 4 months; however, it was crazy with the holidays and traveling, so I started at 5-6 months. She'll turn 2 at the beginning of August and she's a skinny one. Always has been. She eats pretty much everything we eat, but does have preferences. She used to love bananas, but that has started to taper in the past couple of weeks. Her latest thing to love is applesauce now. I gave her a cookie over the weekend and she didn't eat it. I questioned if she was mine!
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Post by thyme4change on May 29, 2013 8:06:43 GMT -5
I think it has to do with three things 1. Genetics. 2. Parents 3. Education So, genetics is genetics. But here is what I noticed in my so-far short "parenting" life. Babies self-regulate and so do toddlers. At some point parents get involved and I think children un-learn how to self-regulate. I don't make my kids finish their food. If they say "I am done" - off they go. And yes, I will still give them desert. 99% of the time their desert is fruit. But even if it's not, I am still OK with it. My DH and our pediatrician think I am wrong. They think I shouldn't give them desert if they didn't finish their meal. Why? Bc they will just want to eat sweets. Well, so far they haven't done that. I would rather them stop eating if they are not hungry, instead of stuffing themselves with food, just so they can get that cookie. I guess time will tell if I am right or wrong. Education. I started brainwashing my kids when they were toddlers. I started using the words nutrition and protein and vitamins, carbs and calcium etc. I don't say "no" to McD and I don't say "no" to junk food while we are at the grocery store, but I do "remind" them that protein will give them strong muscles while potato chips will not. My oldest did ask me once if chocolate chips have protein, I am not sure he liked my answer. I totally agree with not making kids clean their plate. Now that my kids are older, I know what to look out for - like my son hates chicken, so I do force a minimum number of bites of chicken so he can get the protein. But when he declares he is full on meatball night, he's done. My husband proudly wore his "Member of the Clean Plate Club" status - all the time. He would congratulate himself and his friends, and it got more and more pathetic as he and his friends went from odd-ball 20-somethings to overweight 30-somethings. By the time he was in his mid-30's, he was nearing the obese marker (and it wasn't because he was so muscley.) It isn't something I want to teach my son to be proud of. I want my kids to be proud of being healthy, eating properly and exercising.
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2013 8:09:25 GMT -5
how do you force a baby/toddler to eat? Mine pushes food out of the way and turns his head, and if I press too much, DS will just start screaming/crying....
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Post by whoami on May 29, 2013 8:12:11 GMT -5
I also don't bring snacks every time we leave the house. They got into a snack habit awhile ago and I broke it off - if you can't wait for food for 2 hrs you should have eaten more at your previous meal. My nephews will likely end up overweight. They constantly have snacks..and they are 3 and 6 years old. Its hilarious to watch all the crap come out of her bag...crackers, granola, lollypops, popsicles in grandmas fridge... pretty much all junk and they drink "juice" (fake crap in a box) all the time as well. Both of them have had to see dental specialists because their teeth are rotting from constantly swimming in sugar and food from the snacking. They dont even ask for the snack half the time, she just hauls food out at regular intervals and feeds them. Ive never seen them eat a piece of fruit.
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Post by thyme4change on May 29, 2013 8:19:03 GMT -5
We have a family we are close to, and the kids will snack while dinner is being cooked. And not snack, like "Here is a cracker, and you can sneak a couple of bites of carrot while I'm making a salad." I watched 4 kids eat an entire box of cereal while dinner was being cooked. And then they didn't eat dinner. Surprise, surprise, surprise. The kids aren't heavy now, but I can already see how they will be overweight in the future. It is really a shame - because "no snacks 30 minutes before dinner" is a pretty easy rule.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 29, 2013 8:20:53 GMT -5
how do you force a baby/toddler to eat? Mine pushes food out of the way and turns his head, and if I press too much, DS will just start screaming/crying.... I didn't. My oldest was a tiny little thing when he was born - 6.1lbs. There were times when I thought our ex-pediatrician would report me to CPS. My now-pediatrician is much more common sense about things like that - he says that they do regulate themselves and unless there is a medical problem, it works out on it's own. By now this kid eats like there is no tomorrow - he can finish adult size steak and baked potato and still ask for more food. I will say this - one thing that I am proud of myself for - I didn't introduce any even semi-junk food until their eating habits were established. So, the only taste they knew was the taste of things I wanted them to eat. It was and still harder to do with my youngest bc he sees more things, but my oldest two didn't know what a donut or potato chips were until last year.
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2013 8:24:03 GMT -5
my MIL watches DS 3 days a week and they have all sorts of junk in their house. They mostly feed him what we ask them to feed him, but he gets some other odds and ends - most of which I don't have a problem with. FIL is the main problem. He gave DS Twinkies while I was in FL. Luckily, DS doesn't really like sweets and did not like the Twinkie.
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Post by Deleted on May 29, 2013 8:24:06 GMT -5
Education. I started brainwashing my kids when they were toddlers. I started using the words nutrition and protein and vitamins, carbs and calcium etc. I don't say "no" to McD and I don't say "no" to junk food while we are at the grocery store, but I do "remind" them that protein will give them strong muscles while potato chips will not. My oldest did ask me once if chocolate chips have protein, I am not sure he liked my answer. I tell mine the same thing! It also helps that DS just finished studying about nutrition and the food pyramid at school @ 2 weeks ago.
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Post by michelyn8 on May 29, 2013 8:41:53 GMT -5
Our school district does a BMI test in 10th grade. We just got ODS's results. Now, mind you, he is a competitive lacrosse player who plays year round, who runs 3 miles several times per week, who spends hours honing his shooting and passing skills every day, and who lifts weights several times per week. He eats well -- lots of fruits and veggies and lean protein and skim milk and water and complex carbs, etc. He is one lean, mean, toned, lacrosse machine. I opened the results from the school's test -- according to their BMI test, ODS is on the border between overweight and obese. Of course, in fine print, it states that the BMI test doesn't distinguish between genuine fat and muscle mass. Oy vey. I tried to post a couple of times yesterday but kept getting the bear. This type of situation is exactly why I don't rely entirely on medical charts and BMI calculations to determine what is or is not obese. I think DD2 could stand to lose a few pounds simply because she is heavy for her height and its not muscle mass (her belly is still post-pregnancy flabby and DGD is 18 months). Fortunately, she agrees with me. I'm basically the same height and weight at least 20 lbs less than her and think I need to lose a couple of lbs because of my now flabby belly. According to the charts I'm fine, according to what I see in the mirror, I'm not. I know my children are not obese. DS is probably in the best shape but he is also the one who is most into fitness. DD1 is like me - fine according to the charts but probably could stand to lose a little fat around her middle. She wants to but isn't quite motivated enough to do so. She's shorter than me and weighs a few pounds less but thanks to health issues and medications, she put on quite a bit of weight the last few years and while she's lost most of it now, she's no where near the tiny thing she was as a teenager (weighed less than 100 lbs until she was over 18).
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Post by 973beachbum on May 29, 2013 8:47:29 GMT -5
how do you force a baby/toddler to eat? Mine pushes food out of the way and turns his head, and if I press too much, DS will just start screaming/crying.... I think it starts real young. I have known people who every time their child opens their mouth they are sticking food in it. I think in the beginning they do just turn their head but eventually most babies will eat if a bottle is put in their mouth. The problem is really long term IMO if the child gets used to eating all the time no matter, hungry or not. My kids were both born big. I have tried to keep them in check as far as weight. Ironically my son has been known to forget to eat or just not feel like it even when he is hungry. I would have bet good money that no one in my house could lose weight without a lot of effort!
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Post by thyme4change on May 29, 2013 8:55:06 GMT -5
The thing I do like about the chart is that it shocked my husband into fixing it. He was "a big guy" and we knew he was carrying extra weight, but he wore it well. When he went into the doctor and she looked at the chart and said "If you gain 1 more pound, you will be in the obese category." Well, there was no way he could pretend it was muscle mass, or even that it was okay anymore because it didn't look THAT bad, or his friends were bigger. Seeing the chart, seeing the word, seeing the standard medical definition - it was enough to call him into action.
On all medical stuff, there always seems to be exceptions. Having belly flab might not make you feel like a super-model, but it also likely isn't increasing your risk of certain weight related diseases. Being too muscular, although you are healthy, there are future consequences, and there are some things to be aware of. Does it mean the charts are wrong? Not really - just that there aren't enough asterisks to capture your situation.
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Post by michelyn8 on May 29, 2013 9:13:48 GMT -5
The thing I do like about the chart is that it shocked my husband into fixing it. He was "a big guy" and we knew he was carrying extra weight, but he wore it well. When he went into the doctor and she looked at the chart and said "If you gain 1 more pound, you will be in the obese category." Well, there was no way he could pretend it was muscle mass, or even that it was okay anymore because it didn't look THAT bad, or his friends were bigger. Seeing the chart, seeing the word, seeing the standard medical definition - it was enough to call him into action. On all medical stuff, there always seems to be exceptions. Having belly flab might not make you feel like a super-model, but it also likely isn't increasing your risk of certain weight related diseases. Being too muscular, although you are healthy, there are future consequences, and there are some things to be aware of. Does it mean the charts are wrong? Not really - just that there aren't enough asterisks to capture your situation. I wish someone could shock my BIL into fixing his weight problems. I love him but the only way I can describe him is "weeble wobble". He is no more than 5'7" and nearly as big around. I can see my nephew (his son) potentially heading in the same direction and the only thing that keeps him from it now is that he is nearly 6'4". And no the belly flab isn't necessarily increasing my risk of weight related diseases now, but if I let it get out of hand, it will. I'll be 45 in a few weeks and am finally understanding what my mother means when she says she feels heavy. Surprisingly though, she's 10 lbs heavier than me and looks like she weighs 20 lbs less. Just goes to show that everyone is different. Lena - for what its worth, I think you're on the right track with your kids. With my children, they had limited snacks, were never forced to finish a meal, and kept as active as much as possible with outside play (mostly due the fact that I had my mother as main daycare provider and us also living with her during their early years). The never forcing to finish a meal was mainly due to their being as picky of an eater as I am (and I was never forced to eat anything I didn't like, just encouraged to try a bite). But, if they didn't eat their meal, they had to wait until "snack time" before they could get anything else to eat. My mother was great with me and them about fixing at least one thing we knew they'd eat. To do this, if I'm eating with her and she's fixing mashed potatoes, she'll hold out a helping of just boiled potatoes for me because she knows I won't eat them mashed. I did the same for kids even going so far as to fix them foods they liked that I didn't (like mashed potatoes) and God help us if we had spinach and someone didn't get a helping on the first pass of the bowl because there was not going to be a second one. That was one dish we all liked and never had any leftovers from.
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Post by Formerly SK on May 29, 2013 9:45:04 GMT -5
Our school district does a BMI test in 10th grade. We just got ODS's results. Now, mind you, he is a competitive lacrosse player who plays year round, who runs 3 miles several times per week, who spends hours honing his shooting and passing skills every day, and who lifts weights several times per week. He eats well -- lots of fruits and veggies and lean protein and skim milk and water and complex carbs, etc. He is one lean, mean, toned, lacrosse machine. I opened the results from the school's test -- according to their BMI test, ODS is on the border between overweight and obese. Of course, in fine print, it states that the BMI test doesn't distinguish between genuine fat and muscle mass. Oy vey. I tried to post a couple of times yesterday but kept getting the bear. This type of situation is exactly why I don't rely entirely on medical charts and BMI calculations to determine what is or is not obese. I think DD2 could stand to lose a few pounds simply because she is heavy for her height and its not muscle mass (her belly is still post-pregnancy flabby and DGD is 18 months). Fortunately, she agrees with me. I'm basically the same height and weight at least 20 lbs less than her and think I need to lose a couple of lbs because of my now flabby belly. According to the charts I'm fine, according to what I see in the mirror, I'm not. I know my children are not obese. DS is probably in the best shape but he is also the one who is most into fitness. DD1 is like me - fine according to the charts but probably could stand to lose a little fat around her middle. She wants to but isn't quite motivated enough to do so. She's shorter than me and weighs a few pounds less but thanks to health issues and medications, she put on quite a bit of weight the last few years and while she's lost most of it now, she's no where near the tiny thing she was as a teenager (weighed less than 100 lbs until she was over 18). The best thing to do is get one of these gizmos: www.amazon.com/Omron-HBF-306C-Loss-Monitor-Black/dp/B000FYZMYK/ref=sr_1_1?s=hpc&ie=UTF8&qid=1369838226&sr=1-1&keywords=fat+monitorThe charts try to give a background range, but as you noted the scale can't tell the difference between muscle weight and fat weight so it lumps them all together. This would tell you exactly what percentage of your body is fat. I use it more than my scale as I'm not trying to lose weight, I'm trying to lose fat. Lena, I also agree with your philosophy. I was raised with horrible eating habits and I don't want to pass it on to my kids. Unfortunately my kids are really skeletal so I find myself at times making them eat. It's hard to balance logic (quit eating when you are full) with emotion (they look so thin).
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Post by whoami on May 29, 2013 13:59:58 GMT -5
We have a family we are close to, and the kids will snack while dinner is being cooked. And not snack, like "Here is a cracker, and you can sneak a couple of bites of carrot while I'm making a salad." I watched 4 kids eat an entire box of cereal while dinner was being cooked. And then they didn't eat dinner. Surprise, surprise, surprise. The kids aren't heavy now, but I can already see how they will be overweight in the future. It is really a shame - because "no snacks 30 minutes before dinner" is a pretty easy rule. Dinner at their house usually consists of mac and cheese, some kind of pasta or hamburger helper. They eat meals on the living room floor among their toys. Mine didnt eat super healthy, but we did have defined meal times at the table, snacks were kept in my closet and doled out by tossing 2 or 3 "junk" snacks on the counter for the day and they primarily drank water. There was milk and fruit available at all times, and they could always make a PB&J if they were starving, but the constant grazing my nephews do did not happen in my house. Both of mine are healthy weights and have had very few problems with their teeth. I have honestly never seen kids that have to be eating as often as they do...its like another form of a pacifier to them.
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Post by muttleynfelix on May 29, 2013 14:26:55 GMT -5
We don't force DS to eat dinner, but if he wants a cookie, he has to at least try everything and make a decent effort to eat all his fruit and veggies. Also there is no cookie if he is disrespectful about dinner - aka if you tell me it is nasty, then no cookie for you.
I will say, I don't understand the desire to start solids early. DD is sitting up well enough, has the dexterity, etc to start solids. But ... eh it is more work and she is content without them. DH wanted to give her cereal at 3 mo and I about smacked him because he didn't say anything to me, just put it on the grocery list. as I was adding my things I say it and was like why? And he's like well she's hungry. I was like really, how many oz is she drinking a day and he told me and it was well within the normal range. Then I said, well cereal isn't recommended until at least 4 months, 6 mo is preferred and he said oh ok. But I KNOW it was his mom that said something to him about DD being "hungry". MIL always acts like breastfeeding/breastmilk alone is not enough and I don't get it. DD will get solids soon enough ... just probably not cereal.
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Post by NoNamePerson on May 29, 2013 15:32:05 GMT -5
According to all these studies today, I should have shoved mine back into the womb and still be carrying it so it would not be subjected to all the horrors of being born
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Post by Deleted on May 31, 2013 21:23:52 GMT -5
My daughter was a failure to thrive baby. She is still relatively thin at age 35 although she does "watch" what she eats after three (and soon to be four) babies. She is fighting my genetics and her father's genetics. But she looks awesome.
I will admit that I tried to feed my son more because of his older sister, but he was still a skinny first grader. He developed terrible eating habits, and even his children call him fat (which I think is mean and blame my DIL for . . . it is disrespectful).
So maybe there is some truth into the fact that if you develop fat cells as a baby, they stay with you.
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Post by Queen of Interesting Nuts on Jun 1, 2013 11:42:43 GMT -5
I get worried about my 21 year old son because he is to me thin, but probably is normal. Didn't someone say that our "normal" is probably overweight. DD is the one who will need to watch her weight and eating when she has babies.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2013 7:09:52 GMT -5
I think it has to do with three things 1. Genetics. 2. Parents 3. Education So, genetics is genetics. But here is what I noticed in my so-far short "parenting" life. Babies self-regulate and so do toddlers. At some point parents get involved and I think children un-learn how to self-regulate. I don't make my kids finish their food. If they say "I am done" - off they go. And yes, I will still give them desert. 99% of the time their desert is fruit. But even if it's not, I am still OK with it. My DH and our pediatrician think I am wrong. They think I shouldn't give them desert if they didn't finish their meal. Why? Bc they will just want to eat sweets. Well, so far they haven't done that. I would rather them stop eating if they are not hungry, instead of stuffing themselves with food, just so they can get that cookie. I guess time will tell if I am right or wrong. Education. I started brainwashing my kids when they were toddlers. I started using the words nutrition and protein and vitamins, carbs and calcium etc. I don't say "no" to McD and I don't say "no" to junk food while we are at the grocery store, but I do "remind" them that protein will give them strong muscles while potato chips will not. My oldest did ask me once if chocolate chips have protein, I am not sure he liked my answer. I totally agree with not making kids clean their plate. Now that my kids are older, I know what to look out for - like my son hates chicken, so I do force a minimum number of bites of chicken so he can get the protein. But when he declares he is full on meatball night, he's done. My husband proudly wore his "Member of the Clean Plate Club" status - all the time. He would congratulate himself and his friends, and it got more and more pathetic as he and his friends went from odd-ball 20-somethings to overweight 30-somethings. By the time he was in his mid-30's, he was nearing the obese marker (and it wasn't because he was so muscley.) It isn't something I want to teach my son to be proud of. I want my kids to be proud of being healthy, eating properly and exercising. why do you force your child to eat chicken if he doesn't like it? would you like to be forced to eat something you don't like? I don't understand that thought process.
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Post by thyme4change on Jun 2, 2013 8:46:48 GMT -5
Yes, I don't like chicken either, but it is an affordable, healthy protein and the rest of the family likes it. So we eat it.
I don't, however, force my son to eat Salmon because on a scale from 1 to 10 his hatred of Salmon is a 10, and his hatred of chicken is around a 6. So, he can handle it. About 25% of the time, he declares the chicken tastes good. I'm not going to totally give up variety just because I don't know when that 25% of the time will show up.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2013 8:58:10 GMT -5
Yes, I don't like chicken either, but it is an affordable, healthy protein and the rest of the family likes it. So we eat it. I don't, however, force my son to eat Salmon because on a scale from 1 to 10 his hatred of Salmon is a 10, and his hatred of chicken is around a 6. So, he can handle it. About 25% of the time, he declares the chicken tastes good. I'm not going to totally give up variety just because I don't know when that 25% of the time will show up. I guess YMMV as I don't care how affordable something is....if I don't like it, I'm not going to eat it.
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Post by telephus44 on Jun 2, 2013 9:49:26 GMT -5
OP, you have to remember these are trends, not hard and fast rules 100% of the time. A is correlated with B doesn't necessairly mean A causes B. When they say 'A may cause B', what they really mean is A is correlated with B. For example, for a while they were saying that drinking coffee may cause miscarriages, because the two were correlated. But they later found that lack of morning sickness that allows women to contunue their coffee habbit often means that the pregnancy hormones aren't up to snuff and that is what is really correlated with higher miscarriage rates. You also have to remember that if you're reading it in anything other than a medical journal, the information is filtered through reporters, who generally don't have much of a science background, and who are more interested in a splashy headline than truth. Very often, reporters claim researchers said X when they didn't say anything of the sort. This. Plus people don't understand odds and risks. Having a c-section may raise your RISK of obesity, but it doesn't mean that every baby born by c-section will grow up to be obese. What pisses me off most with this is the autism stuff, mostly because my DS#1 has autism. There's studies showing that not taking prenatal vitamins in the first 6 weeks of pregnancy increases your risk of your child having autism. So now you have mothers who didn't know that they were pregnant the first day beating themselves up for "causing" their child's autism because they didn't take prenatal vitamins early enough. Same thing for babies born before 38 weeks or after 41 weeks have a higher risk of autism. So I guess I'm supposed to blame myself since DS#1 was born at 36-1/2 weeks. The other thing people don't get with its an increase risk, not a guarantee is how much of the increased risk it. Like the studies on dying your hair in pregnancy causing miscarriages - if you're around hair dye all day (like work in a hair salon) your odds of miscarriage go from like 11% to 12%. Increased risk? Yes. But it's not going from 1% to 99%. So if bottle fed babies have an increased risk of obesity, how much is the increase? DS#1 was nursed for 4 months and we used formula for the next 8 months - DS#1 is more like a 5-1/2-7-1/2 month split - and I think any weight issues are due to their genetics. DS#1 by 2 months was 99% percentile for everything, and he's still huge, but definitely not fat (he's around 35-40th percentile for BMI). DS#2 is hanging around 30th percentile for height/weight. There are just 2 different kids. DS#2 was interested in solids much sooner, so we gave him cereal a few days before he turned 4 months. DS#1 had less interest so he was closer to 6-7 months. Each kid is different.
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Post by telephus44 on Jun 2, 2013 9:59:40 GMT -5
And my kids so far are great eaters, but I also think that's more genetic than my parenting ability. We've always done "you eat what we eat" for meals, so my kids grew up eating vegetables and whatever.
I can remember when DS#1 was about 3 we went to Denny's or IHOP or something and DS got a grilled cheese sandwich. We ordered broccoli for the side instead of fries. The waitress looked at us like we were horrible parents for forcing broccoli on a kid. He ate all the broccoli and only 3 bites of the sandwich. Hell, a month or 2 ago we went to Friendly's for dinner because the dishwasher was broken, and all kids meals come with free ice cream. The waitress came over and said "who's ready for ice cream?" and DS answered "No thank-you, I'm too full for dessert." - without any previous discussion from us.
The baby - OMG, when he was a month old and you could be eating a sandwich while holding him and he would open his mouth like a baby bird looking for a bite. He has always wanted to eat real food. So far, the only thing he doesn't like is watermelon - but peas, green beans, broccoli, tomatoes, lima beans, all kinds of meats - he's a really champ, loves it all. So it isn't about rushing solids, it's about accommodating what he wants to do.
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Post by teen persuasion on Jun 2, 2013 11:36:35 GMT -5
LOL at all the stories! I breastfed all 5 of my kids exclusively, and while they were all in the 8ish lb range at birth (except the one C-section baby, she was 9.5 lbs ), they were all quite chunky looking by 3 months of age. As toddlers, they gradually slimmed down (walking/running, grew up into their weight). DS2 looked the chunkiest - he had triple chins at 6 months. He told me that an immigrant woman in the factory where he's working for the summer is always telling him he's too skinny - he needs to eat more. She brought him noodle cups! "You just eat bread." He's eating sandwiches for lunch at work because it's easier.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 2, 2013 12:17:03 GMT -5
I guess YMMV as I don't care how affordable something is....if I don't like it, I'm not going to eat it. I flipping hate chicken and I eat it like 4 times a week because dh and the kids love it. It's too much effort to make a separate meal for myself, so I just suck it up and eat it. I pretty much expect everyone else in the family to do the same thing, if I end up making something they don't like. I try really hard to make things they all enjoy, but $#%@ happens. I think seafood would be the only exception. The boys and I love salmon and dh hates it. I can understand how some people might consider fish absolutely disgusting. I always make another kind of meat for dh when I make salmon. so why is making something else for DH when you make salmon not too difficult, but when you make chicken for everyone else, making something else for yourself is too difficult? and I must be doing something wrong because I don't find cooking a different meat/protein/etc all that difficult - and I'm lazy!
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Post by 8 Bit WWBG on Jun 2, 2013 16:47:56 GMT -5
I need to start watching my portion size. My weight has crept up over the last decade, but I'm not at the danger zone yet and pass physicals without a problem. But give it another 5-10 years of aging and all of a sudden what used to be "no big deal" could add 5 pounds in a single meal.
I just love food, and variety. Plus, we are bombarded by food constantly. Its a very difficult battle.
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