What are your greatest fear(s)?

[Phoenix84]

It's hard to say.  Here's what mine are, but it's not like I'm paralyzed by them.

1. I fear living alone and dying alone.

2. I fear failure.  Mostly about my job, that I'm not good enough and that I'll make a major mistake and get fired.  Or that somehow my boss will decide I'm a lousy employee and can me.  But I also fear failure in other parts of my life too.  So I guess the fear is of not being good enough.

3. I don't know if I'd call it a fear per se, but bugs might be considered a fear.  I think most make me nervous, but some of the really large ones might be considered fear. 

[Deleted]

That I won't get into Heaven.

[thyme4change]

That my company will do one of those searches that retroactively tracks internet usage patterns.  

[Bob Ross]

ManBearPig.

[Spellbound454]

We can drive ourselves crazy worrying about the kids.
I'm a firm believers in crossing bridges when you come to them..... or you'll end up a nervous wreck.

I don't like spiders...and cant go in a room if there is a big one running around...until its gone.
Seriously phobic and blood runs cold if there is one near me.

[Peace Of Mind]

May 20, 2013 11:23:21 GMT -5 milee said:

Oh, GG reminded me -

Big fear of losing mental ability.  Whether it's an accident, Alzheimers, whatever, I do not want to live a life where I am not aware and in control.  I will off myself first while I still can if given a diagnosis early enough.  It's not the cost of living like that that scares me, it's the actual living like that.

I'm opposite.  I fear losing my physical capabilities and knowing all about it while somebody is wiping my ass (LOL I spelled it whipping).  At least with Alzheimer's I won't know what is going on.  I also fear heights now in a big way.  When we were crossing the bridge that was really high up I had to duck so I couldn't see the "drop" and told DH to keep both hands on the steering wheel and eyes straight ahead.  When I saw  him looking at the view I yelled "Eyes on the road!!" 

After reading some of the fears here I realize mine actually make sense.  

"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself".

Franklin D. Roosevelt

Yeah, but that's total bullshit. I'll be happy to throw him off the bridge and then see if he still thinks that.

[The Home 6]

I am deathly afraid of confined spaces. I have told Big Sarge that if he doesn't cremate me, he has to install a 'panic button' in my coffin.

Beyond that, I'm afraid that I will not raise my children correctly, and that BS's mom will come live with us.

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May 20, 2013 14:30:10 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself".

Franklin D. Roosevelt

Yeah, but that's total bullshit. I'll be happy to throw him off the bridge and then see if he still thinks that.

Peace,

I respectfully disagree. 

[Deleted]

Having to bury my child.

Screwing DS up/being a bad mom

My mom making stupid choices that won't allow her to retire

Not being able to retire

[Deleted]

Doctor telling me I gotz da AIDS

[Deleted]

I have fears around the kids, as others have expressed.

as for phobia type fears, sigh. I hate to be confined. I don't like heights. Basically I like to be in control, lol. Right now, I'm having bad dreams about rattlesnakes and bears.

[Peace Of Mind]

May 20, 2013 15:28:09 GMT -5 @snowbird said:

May 20, 2013 14:30:10 GMT -5 Peace Of Mind said:

Yeah, but that's total bullshit. I'll be happy to throw him off the bridge and then see if he still thinks that.

Peace,

I respectfully disagree. 

Did you think I meant he didn't say that?  That's not what I was saying.  I was joking that it's not just fear to fear when falling off a high bridge.  Psst.  It was a joke. 

[Sum Dum Gai]

That my business tanks, we lose basically every penny we've ever saved, probably the house, I end up selling used cars at some lemon lot and the lesson my kids learn is to spend their lives afraid of taking risks.  And spiders.  Those things are freaky.

[mmhmm]

I'm with ya on the spiders, Dark! 

[movingforward]

1.  Big harry spiders.  They freak me the hell out!!

2.  Being physically incapable of taking care of myself

3.  In addition to being physically incapable... ending up in a nursing home where the staff doesn't give a crap and lets me sit in filth for days at a time

4.  Being buried in the ground when I die.  I have expressed to everyone I know that I want to be cremated because I DO NOT want to be buried in a coffin.  It gives me the creeps big time.  For some reason I have this odd fear that people will just do what they want and have me buried. 

5.  Being buried in the ground while still alive

6.  Being buried in rubble from a natural disaster for days, waiting to be rescued


Mmmm,  are we starting to see a theme here...

[thyme4change]

Great t-shirt

[milee]

When I was young I was terrified of spiders.  For a few years we lived in this decrepit house in SW Florida that was literally falling apart around us, so all sorts of things crawled in through the holes and cracks.  But it was the spiders that scared me the worst because they were so big, ran so quickly and were so quiet.  The kind we had were bigger than my hand and were most active at night.  I'd tuck my sheet in really tightly around me because I was afraid one would get under the covers.  If you woke up at night, it wasn't unusual to find one on top of the covers or on the bathroom wall when you'd go to the bathroom.  They never bit any of us, and I'm not sure if they even bite people, but they were terrifying looking.  No idea what type of spider they were, but this is a picture that looks similar in size and coloring. 

www.google.com/search?q=huge+spiders+in+florida&hl=en&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=7oibUeLyA7O30QH2qoCoDA&ved=0CDAQsAQ&biw=1920&bih=899#imgrc=cj_YUiUapu4omM%3A%3Bhic3ltf0ur7d-M%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fbugguide.net%252Fimages%252Fcache%252FTZKR3ZSR0H3LOLSZ2LYLVLQZTLZZOZFL6LHZJZRZJZKR3Z3LDZRZWLHZFZ7RTZXRCZKRZHGRVLXZSH7RCZSRJZER.jpg%3Bhttp%253A%252F%252Fbugguide.net%252Fnode%252Fview%252F18386%3B560%3B420


Anyway, after several years of living in that house, I decided I just couldn't be that afraid of the spiders any more.  Just couldn't.  It was too much.  Too scary.  So I'm not sure if I just pushed all that into denial or really got over the fear, but I'm not afraid of spiders any more.  Or at least not in the same way.

Obviously, everybody has different reactions to experiences, though.  My younger sister is still so terrified of spiders, she hyperventillates at the thought of them.  I understand.

[movingforward]

milee - I didn't look at the picture (because I would probably have nightmares for weeks) but your story gave me the shivers.  I probably wouldn't sleep for weeks if I was afraid of waking up with some huge spider sitting on my bed; however, I guess in that situation you would either get over it or go crazy...

[constanz22]

I'm really not a fan of water. I'm not terrified of it, but just don't like it very much. If i'a in the ocean, I really will only go in knee high. I want to go back to Europe but the older I get, the more fear I have of flying over the ocean, although flying in general doesn't really bother me.

I have a rational fear of floods, since I drove into a flooded roadway at night once.

One of my biggest fear is a house fire. I used to work myself into a panic thinking about it, and worrying my dogs wouldn't be saved. I now keep their crates pretty close to the front door, and have a "rescue us" sticker with how many dogs and where their crates are. I also fear a fire when I'm home and having to evacuate myself and the dogs, especially in mid winter when it's 0 outside.

Then a "general" fear, I guess, is having nobody to take care of me when I'm old. I'm not married and not sure I ever will and never had kids, so, I do truly worry about that in the future.

[amishgal]

I think mine are more worries than fears, although I spent yesterday at Cedar Point and feared for my life more than once! Spiders I can handle, but those freaky centipedes, millipedes whatever terrify me.

[thyme4change]

May 21, 2013 10:46:46 GMT -5 @lonewolf said:

Passing away knowing my family will mourn me. 

My fear is I will pass away and people won't care that much.  

My eulogy from my kids:  

"Meh, I guess I have to do my own laundry now."  

[thyme4change]

Here is milee's spider.  All I can say is gahuhgunanana.

[milee]

Black widows are nasty, but tend to stay in their web, which is in a corner or other concealed area.  I didn't have a problem with the types of spiders that would be in a web since that seemed like a defined space which I could avoid.  The spiders I'm describing didn't have webs (or if they did, I never saw one)... they'd just roam around the house so you never knew where one would show up.  The random appearances and the fact that they ran really fast were not good.  But on the plus side, they didn't seem to be biters.



And Thyme, I purposefully didn't post that picture so as not to freak out the people who were scared of spiders.  That's kinda mean.    But yeah, that's the one.

[Sum Dum Gai]

Black Widows never bothered me because they have to be the laziest spiders ever.  They're all over in Arizona, and I'm pretty sure the only time I've ever seen one move was when we tried to sweep its web out or squash it.  If you leave them alone, even if you're standing or walking by six inches away they just sit there.

We had some really creepy tarantulas though.  They have a very mild venom that wouldn't do much to a person, they're not very likely to bite in the first place, but fuck me those things got big.

[dannylion]

May 20, 2013 11:17:51 GMT -5 @beerwench said:

Clowns! 

But after reading some other responses I guess I should be more concerned over things that I have no control over. 

Clowns are creepy!  And balloons.  The combination of clowns and balloons is quite terrifying. 

[kent]

I don't "like" spiders and snakes (there may be a song in there somewhere ) but I'm not "afraid" of them either.  I leave the snakes alone and pick up (actually trap) the spiders and take them outside so they can continue their life in peace.

I guess my biggest fear is that I'll check out and leave my wife alone - that one really bothers me......

[thyme4change]

Once when we were out hiking, we woke up a snake that was basking in the sun.  We jumped 20 feet off the path and high-tailed it out of there.  We went home and googled it and found out it was the most harmless snake in our region.  But, I maintain we did the right thing.  

[kent]

May 21, 2013 12:25:30 GMT -5 Sum Dum Gai said:

We had some really creepy tarantulas though....those things got big.

Says the guy that has no problem in jumping out of a perfectly good airplane......

[steph08]

May 21, 2013 10:18:08 GMT -5 constanz22 said:

I'm really not a fan of water. I'm not terrified of it, but just don't like it very much. If i'a in the ocean, I really will only go in knee high. I want to go back to Europe but the older I get, the more fear I have of flying over the ocean, although flying in general doesn't really bother me.

I have a rational fear of floods, since I drove into a flooded roadway at night once.

One of my biggest fear is a house fire. I used to work myself into a panic thinking about it, and worrying my dogs wouldn't be saved. I now keep their crates pretty close to the front door, and have a "rescue us" sticker with how many dogs and where their crates are. I also fear a fire when I'm home and having to evacuate myself and the dogs, especially in mid winter when it's 0 outside.

Then a "general" fear, I guess, is having nobody to take care of me when I'm old. I'm not married and not sure I ever will and never had kids, so, I do truly worry about that in the future.

Maybe it's because I don't have kids or because I am basically a crazy dog lady (though I'm married!), but my biggest fears revolve around my dogs. Mainly a house fire when I am not at home, or them getting loose and getting hit by a car. The beagles have an outside kennel that they like to lay out in the summer when we aren't at home, and I have a lock and two huge cement blocks that I put in front of the door because I have irrational fears of them getting loose and me driving home from work and them being dead on the side of the road.

Great, now I feel like leaving work early to go and make sure they are okay!

I don't really like bugs - I have killed two giant spiders in the past month in my house and I am not happy. I don't mind the squashing, it is the picking it up even though it is dead (I use like 5 paper towels).

I also don't want to die. Or my husband to die. Or my parents.

[Sum Dum Gai]

Says the guy that has no problem in jumping out of a perfectly good airplane......

That was different, it's only scary while you're in the plane waiting to jump.  Well, that part is scary and it's fucking terrifying when the door rolls up, you scoot over to the edge, dangle your feet out, and look at the ground thousands of feet below.  Once I jumped though the fear completely vanished.  You're too busy concentrating on keeping your body in the correct position to be scared, the crazy amounts of adrenaline flooding your brain probably help too.  You're so high up while in free fall that it's not actually that scary, the ground is almost an abstraction.  It doesn't look real from 15k feet. 

The only time I was scared of plummeting into the ground after the leaving the plane was while we covered the last hundred feet or so.  There was some wind at the landing site so we did a performance swoop.  You go into a dive and just off the ground you turn into the wind and level off so you're skimming along at a pretty good clip just off the ground.  You don't realize how fast a parachute can dive until you're staring straight down from a hundred feet up while you do it.