Phoenix84
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Post by Phoenix84 on May 20, 2013 10:56:52 GMT -5
The question is pretty self explanatory. What thing or things terrify you the most?
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Tiny
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Post by Tiny on May 20, 2013 11:03:14 GMT -5
Water - Swimming pools, ponds, lakes, oceans.... it's like looking into Death's Eyes. And it's not the 'nice' architype Death from the Seventh Seal.
(And yes, I can swim, really well. it has nothing at all to do with my ability or inability to swim.)
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Post by swasat on May 20, 2013 11:06:27 GMT -5
Nothing tangible that fears me the most.
My greatest fear is that DH and I will expire leaving behind our young kids alone in this terrifying world.
I wake up drenched up in sweat sometimes, I am so terrified of this.
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Post by milee on May 20, 2013 11:06:49 GMT -5
Living the last 30 years of my life poor.
Being eaten by something in the water.
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2013 11:08:18 GMT -5
Running out of money.
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Green Eyed Lady
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 20, 2013 11:09:12 GMT -5
1. That something bad will happen to my niece and nephew. After the Sandy Hook massacre, I think about it incessantly. Good thing I don't have kids. They'd be in a bubble.
2. Snakes. I hate those slimy sunsa.....
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 20, 2013 11:15:38 GMT -5
That I'll end up like my grandmother and leave a big old mess for my kid to clean up when I die.
That my brother is going to show up on my doorstep looking to me to be his new bank when my parents pass
That my parents have no retirement savings and everything is going to fall on me, especially if I am still the only responsible child.
That DH will relapse and have no interest in getting back on the wagon
That Gwen will grow up to be a mooching loser like my brother.
That Gwen will get squished like a bug trying to cross the street to go to my parents
On a lighter note I am terrified of rollercoasters. I have panic attacks at the mere idea of riding them. DH tried to talk me into "facing my fears" by going on one with him. I screamed blood murder the entire time and was crying by the time we got off. Now I'm more scared of them than ever.
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2013 11:17:51 GMT -5
Clowns! But after reading some other responses I guess I should be more concerned over things that I have no control over.
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whoisjohngalt
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 20, 2013 11:18:52 GMT -5
Mice and vomit
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Green Eyed Lady
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 20, 2013 11:19:18 GMT -5
Clowns! But after reading some other responses I guess I should be more concerned over things that I have no control over. LOL!! Hey. One can't help what one is afraid of!!
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Post by Gardening Grandma on May 20, 2013 11:21:23 GMT -5
For many years, my greatest fear was that I'd end up a bag lady.
Now it is that I'll develop Alzheimer's and that the cost of my care will bankrupt us.
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2013 11:22:04 GMT -5
I agree! Our town had a carnival for all the baseball kids on Friday night and I sent DH with the kids to the balloon animal maker line because she was in clown makeup.
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Post by milee on May 20, 2013 11:23:21 GMT -5
Oh, GG reminded me -
Big fear of losing mental ability. Whether it's an accident, Alzheimers, whatever, I do not want to live a life where I am not aware and in control. I will off myself first while I still can if given a diagnosis early enough. It's not the cost of living like that that scares me, it's the actual living like that.
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Post by Jaguar on May 20, 2013 11:23:45 GMT -5
I fear that my niece and nephew and their kids will also get grandmas dementia. It's awful to watch my sister decline in sanity.
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Post by Formerly SK on May 20, 2013 11:24:40 GMT -5
That I won't teach/give my kids the skills/traits they'll need to be successful adults.
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2013 11:25:47 GMT -5
For many years, my greatest fear was that I'd end up a bag lady. Now it is that I'll develop Alzheimer's and that the cost of my care will bankrupt us. or some other equally horrible disease.
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2013 11:27:14 GMT -5
I worry about my kids a lot. I worry about them dying, I worry about me dying and leaving them and I worry about getting them to adulthood without major psychological damage.
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Green Eyed Lady
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 20, 2013 11:35:48 GMT -5
I agree! Our town had a carnival for all the baseball kids on Friday night and I sent DH with the kids to the balloon animal maker line because she was in clown makeup. I think you should confront your fears. Here is my prescription. For the next two weeks, spend all day in full clown-face make up. And big shoes. Everytime you walk past a mirror, say to yourself, "Clowns are people, too." You will be cured.
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Post by kittensaver on May 20, 2013 11:36:04 GMT -5
I worry about being widowed too early in life.
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Post by greeniis10 on May 20, 2013 11:36:38 GMT -5
Pretty much everything that's already been said:
1. My kids. They're all out on their own, but the worry never stops. Guess it's a mom-thing. 2. Money. I don't feel like I'll ever have enough to retire. Got started saving late due to a costly divorce in my 20's. I'm still catching up. 3. Health. Quality of my own and/or the quality of my life due to my husband's health. I'm sure this sounds terrible, but DH is 11 years older than me so the thought of being a caregiver for 20+ years or something scares me.
And about 100 other things I could list, but won't.
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Post by mmhmm on May 20, 2013 11:38:21 GMT -5
My only real fear is predeceasing my mother. If I can remain capable of caring for her until she passes, I'll have done my jobs on this earth, I think. I'm quite happy with the rest of things.
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Post by Tiny on May 20, 2013 11:39:58 GMT -5
Ok, beyond my irrational fear of water, the thing I fear the most about my future would my final years of life. I'm kinda horrified when I consider the potential of Kodokushi (lonely death) but that pales in horror (and almost becomes kinda welcomed) when I think I might spend alot of time alone (and possibly out of my mind) in someone's care (a nursing home, a relative). I'm hoping I have enought mind left to make the trip down to the train tracks when the time comes OR that I'll have some legal way to get to the end I want.
The 'fear' of my old age is tempered because I feel there is something I can do about it (or effect it).
It's not death I'm afriad of - it's the getting there part (and how long it might take) that causes me anxiety.
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Post by giramomma on May 20, 2013 11:42:40 GMT -5
I do fear going on bridges.
Otherwise, it's mostly worry...
I'm afraid someone is going to leave the basement door open and LO is going to try to go down the steps by herself. Once LO can master going down stairs backwards, I'll be less fearful (she's almost there.
I'm worried that #2 is going to pull some serious sh*t as a teen. At 5, she's already sneaking clothes to school to change into them because she knows I won't approve of her choices.
I'm more worried about finances that I used to be.
I think most of this will pass as my kids grow and change.
When I was in my 20's, I was very fearful of being one paycheck away from loosing everything. Even though we were middle class and did all the "right" things. I used to yell at my husband for spending money "needlessly" on groceries..and I mean basic things like milk, bread, etc. It wasn't worry, it was some not great childhood tapes and a bad relationship with money.
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Post by happyhoix on May 20, 2013 11:48:52 GMT -5
For many years, my greatest fear was that I'd end up a bag lady. Now it is that I'll develop Alzheimer's and that the cost of my care will bankrupt us. This. I watched my dad die from Alzheimers, and now my mom has dementia. Both lost the ability to walk. Neither one knew where they were or what day it was. Both had to have assistance to do everything, including wipe their own asses. Dad got the point he didn't recognize his kids and grandkids; mom isn't that bad yet, but spends her days planning her wedding to her imaginary boyfriend. Our hope is that our mom won't outlive her money - at $5000 per month for her nursing home care, we aren't sure she'll make it. I want my son and his family to inherit my money, I don't want to burn through it buying incontenance pads and paying someone to help me take a shower. I don't want my grandkids to have to wipe my shit off my feet for me, or help me change clothes after I projectile vomited over the dining table during dinner. Since all mom's older brothers and sisters experienced dementia/alzheimers before they passes, my genetic odds of avoiding this suck. Which is why I'm going to be sure to have a back up plan for a quick way out.
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Post by whoisjohngalt on May 20, 2013 11:59:09 GMT -5
OK, now I fear that I don't have enough fears and simply living in the la-la land of denial
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2013 12:06:12 GMT -5
OK, now I fear that I don't have enough fears and simply living in the la-la land of denial
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Post by zibazinski on May 20, 2013 12:17:10 GMT -5
Spiders, flying, and being trapped in a useless body with an alive mind. Alhezeimers I can deal with. It isn't like it comes on all at once so I can take steps to off myself before I become a vegetable.
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Post by Queen of Interesting Nuts on May 20, 2013 12:21:03 GMT -5
After losing a child and knowing how it feels my greatest fear is losing my other children.
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Post by Phoenix84 on May 20, 2013 12:23:18 GMT -5
For many years, my greatest fear was that I'd end up a bag lady. Now it is that I'll develop Alzheimer's and that the cost of my care will bankrupt us. A bag lady? Are you scared of being poor and having to work a menial job, or just that job in particular?
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Post by Deleted on May 20, 2013 12:26:04 GMT -5
For many years, my greatest fear was that I'd end up a bag lady. Now it is that I'll develop Alzheimer's and that the cost of my care will bankrupt us. A bag lady? Are you scared of being poor and having to work a menial job, or just that job in particular?
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