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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 2, 2013 14:17:36 GMT -5
Depends on the type of trailer....single or double wide? I mean, single wide is so much lower class than double. but...but....my single wide had a skirt and everything...that's classy! From what I've seen, it's a very short skirt on that trailer, missy. The trailer butt crack is showing.
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Phoenix84
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Post by Phoenix84 on May 2, 2013 15:19:38 GMT -5
I've never lived in Phoenix. What are you looking for, Phoenix? Do you want to check this one off the "to do" (snicker) list, do you want to wait until it is mutually meaningful, or do you want to wait until it is legally binding. All are great choices, but they impact the referrals you get. Hmmmm, it's a tough question. I'm honestly not sure. On one hand, I do consider myself a Christian, and feel like I should wait until marriage. But I can see the logic behind becoming sexually active before that to determine if you're sexually compatable with your partner. So I'm not really sure. In reality, I'd say wait until I'm in a meaningful relationship, and then consider it. And see what she wants. I don't really plan on doing it just to do it. I'm sure if I wanted to just check it off I could do that in relatively short order. But that just reeks of desperation, and I don't let my base impulses control my life. Anyway, it's a moot point. As I've detailed on previous threads, I can't even get women to go on a second date with me 99% of the time. So we never get that far where I have to make these kinds of decisions. My overarching goal over the next few months is to try get some new hobbies and hopefully become a bit more interesting as a person. They say if you want to attract an interesting person, you have to be interesting, so we'll see how it goes.
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2013 15:24:59 GMT -5
hmmmm.... I built up the first time in my mind a little, but really it's like going into the doctor thinking that a flu shot is going to be this magical experience when all that really happens is that you get stuck with this painful needle.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 2, 2013 15:29:54 GMT -5
But either way, I won't let my base impulses dominate my life
If you want meaningful then Bob Ross's advice is out. You'lll find yourself painting happy little trees on somebody's naked body while wearing a furry head topped with a wizard's hat. Sounds kinda fun. I get it. While I was tired of waiting that wasn't my main reason for having sex with DH. I'd been done waiting for awhile but I wasn't going to be stupid about it. I'd had an opportunity before DH came along but let it go because it wasn't right. DH just happened to show up at the right time in my life AND be the right person.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 2, 2013 15:34:28 GMT -5
Phoenix, see if Paul's wife has a sister. She's really cute, Christian and doesn't seem that picky.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 2, 2013 15:36:04 GMT -5
okay.....we've already said this "quote" wouldn't be allowed.
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Post by kgb18 on May 2, 2013 15:37:49 GMT -5
Good for you. I felt the same way. I was a bit older in terms of what most people here have posted. I was not married. But I wanted to make sure I was in a serious relationship that I cared about. That relationship didn't go the distance, but it wasn't a fling either.
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Post by Bob Ross on May 2, 2013 15:51:54 GMT -5
My overarching goal over the next few months is to try get some new hobbies and hopefully become a bit more interesting as a person. They say if you want to attract an interesting person, you have to be interesting, so we'll see how it goes.
Just form a really bad band, and soon you'll be swimming in women. But not a Christian band because while those are really bad, they're the wrong sort of bad.
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Post by Malarky on May 2, 2013 16:10:16 GMT -5
hmmmm.... I built up the first time in my mind a little, but really it's like going into the doctor thinking that a flu shot is going to be this magical experience when all that really happens is that you get stuck with this painful needle. [img]http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rofl.gif[/img] 17 for me. Senior year of HS.
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Cookies Galore
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Post by Cookies Galore on May 2, 2013 17:14:33 GMT -5
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Green Eyed Lady
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 2, 2013 18:45:26 GMT -5
Maybe it's because I"m older and have... ummmm... experience.. I really don't get the whole "save yourself for marriage" when it comes to sex. It's just sex... as long as both parties are consenting, I dion't really see the big deal. I see what you are saying, but to me, it's not "just sex". To me, it's an expression of love between two people who are committed to one another. It's something you share with that one person you want to spend the rest of your life with. If I just want the Big O, I can do that myself! I know that doesn't make sense to most people and I wish I could explain it better, but I'll just leave it at, at least for me, it's not "just sex". I "saved myself for marriage" because 1) I was raised that it was the right thing to do and 2) I decided I agreed with how I was raised. It had nothing to do with being frightened about unplanned pregnancies or std's. It was just because I felt that was the right thing to do. When I got married, it was supposed to be forever. I wouldn't have gotten married if I didn't think that. It didn't turn out that way and I so wish I hadn't shared that intimate, important and wonderful (so I've heard) experience with a butthead. Unfortunately, I haven't found a way to put it back! I understand how you feel because like you don't understand the "save yourself for marriage" thing, I don't understand how people can hop from partner to partner. I guess it's just a difference in beliefs. I certainly don't think that people who think differently than I do are bad or are going to hell or anything like that. I just think they feel differently and I respect that. In fact, my two closest friends are sort of....promiscuous. But? They are absolutely wonderful, caring women with hearts as big as the outdoors. They just feel differently is all.
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Post by Pants on May 2, 2013 20:42:36 GMT -5
What are you looking for, Phoenix? Do you want to check this one off the "to do" (snicker) list, do you want to wait until it is mutually meaningful, or do you want to wait until it is legally binding. All are great choices, but they impact the referrals you get. Hmmmm, it's a tough question. I'm honestly not sure. On one hand, I do consider myself a Christian, and feel like I should wait until marriage. But I can see the logic behind becoming sexually active before that to determine if you're sexually compatable with your partner. So I'm not really sure. In reality, I'd say wait until I'm in a meaningful relationship, and then consider it. And see what she wants. I don't really plan on doing it just to do it. I'm sure if I wanted to just check it off I could do that in relatively short order. But that just reeks of desperation, and I don't let my base impulses control my life. Anyway, it's a moot point. As I've detailed on previous threads, I can't even get women to go on a second date with me 99% of the time. So we never get that far where I have to make these kinds of decisions. My overarching goal over the next few months is to try get some new hobbies and hopefully become a bit more interesting as a person. They say if you want to attract an interesting person, you have to be interesting, so we'll see how it goes. In which case, I suggest you join a church. Everything you say here points to you doing well at church.
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Post by Pants on May 2, 2013 20:43:54 GMT -5
For the record: 16. It all got better from there.
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2013 20:56:42 GMT -5
Hmmmm, it's a tough question. I'm honestly not sure. On one hand, I do consider myself a Christian, and feel like I should wait until marriage. But I can see the logic behind becoming sexually active before that to determine if you're sexually compatable with your partner. So I'm not really sure. In reality, I'd say wait until I'm in a meaningful relationship, and then consider it. And see what she wants. I don't really plan on doing it just to do it. I'm sure if I wanted to just check it off I could do that in relatively short order. But that just reeks of desperation, and I don't let my base impulses control my life. Anyway, it's a moot point. As I've detailed on previous threads, I can't even get women to go on a second date with me 99% of the time. So we never get that far where I have to make these kinds of decisions. My overarching goal over the next few months is to try get some new hobbies and hopefully become a bit more interesting as a person. They say if you want to attract an interesting person, you have to be interesting, so we'll see how it goes. In which case, I suggest you join a church. Everything you say here points to you doing well at church. Not a bad idea. I don't think the issue is that you need to become more interesting - we already find you interesting, but you need to get out and do things that let women see how interesting you already are. I think there are some churches around here that have groups where young adults go out and do different activities, or just meet at a bar to talk about spiritual issues and drink beer. Maybe there is one near you that would be a good fit. And I don't know if you caught Molly's post earlier - but finding the woman who will always modify your name with the word "wonderful" seems like a thing worth waiting for.
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Post by tallguy on May 2, 2013 21:08:24 GMT -5
hmmmm.... I built up the first time in my mind a little, but...all that really happens is that you get stuck with this painful needle. Oh you poor thing. You got a owie. Did he at least kiss it and make it better?
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2013 21:12:45 GMT -5
Ok, I haven't read this thread because I cannot (ABSOLUTELY cannot) believe you guys are discussing your first sexual experiences on a message board. What happened to personal privacy?
Phoneix, I haven't read any of the other comments on THIS thread but gathered from other thread that you are a virgin. Unless you are a 200-pound guy, a girl would be lucky to find you. The weight reference is to all the health problems you have created.
Sure, you can go to a bar and get laid. But are you doing any activities at all?
You don't want to have sex just to have sex . . . unless you have really never had sex before. NONE of us were really good at it the first time. So maybe you do, Christian or not. You can honestly pray to God for help and pray to God for forgiveness.
I don't think God meant you to miss out.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 2, 2013 21:25:12 GMT -5
Meh. I used to feel the same way about how much to discuss here but it's become a huge Facebook and somewhat private here compared to the old place. We all, for the most part, seem friendly and even have met each other in RL in some capacity. Besides, I don't think having sex is shameful or embarrassing and discussing it, within reason, isn't either. Maybe there would be less hang ups or issues if it got discussed more. Molly - I've always wondered how you and your WDH survived your first time after waiting so long. I would have killed my DH or one of us would have stroked out.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on May 2, 2013 21:29:39 GMT -5
Plus? We all promised not to tell anybody.
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Post by kittensaver on May 2, 2013 21:30:27 GMT -5
:: What happened to personal privacy? ::It was so darn long ago that I no longer care. The adults in my life that would have cared are long gone, unfortunately . It actually makes me feel better to hear that many other people here also waited until they were out of high school. I'm not such a prude after all. :: I don't think God meant you to miss out. :: My nomination for *POTD* PHOENIX: God loves his children and wants them to be happy - including finding happiness with others. Sex can be used for casual recreation and anonymous carnal lust, but it can also be a GREAT thing between two people. Just sayin' . . . .
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 3, 2013 1:43:27 GMT -5
I was 18, but a college sophomore at that point. It was my ex, too. I was a party girl my freshman year in college (something few people know about me), but even party girls didn't have sex except with their boyfriends. This was in the early 1970s. That included oral sex. Heck, all the guys admired "Mary Jo" who didn't even kiss on the first date. I felt like such a slut sometimes. Lol. Am I drunk? Ok. I am but how did you post the above if you've not even read this thread. Is one of these posts a joke and I'm not getting it?
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Peace Of Mind
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Post by Peace Of Mind on May 3, 2013 1:46:02 GMT -5
Ok, I haven't read this thread because I cannot (ABSOLUTELY cannot) believe you guys are discussing your first sexual experiences on a message board. What happened to personal privacy? Phoneix, I haven't read any of the other comments on THIS thread but gathered from other thread that you are a virgin. Unless you are a 200-pound guy, a girl would be lucky to find you. The weight reference is to all the health problems you have created. Sure, you can go to a bar and get laid. But are you doing any activities at all? You don't want to have sex just to have sex . . . unless you have really never had sex before. NONE of us were really good at it the first time. So maybe you do, Christian or not. You can honestly pray to God for help and pray to God for forgiveness. I don't think God meant you to miss out. And my husband is over 200 lbs. and is totally fuckable.
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Post by swamp on May 3, 2013 6:18:34 GMT -5
I'm pretty sure Phoenix has said he weighs over 200. And I don't find that unusual or unatractive in a guy.
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Post by doxieluvr on May 3, 2013 7:59:31 GMT -5
15,I still run a little on the wild side that's one of the reasons I been though a few wives You just need to find a wild wife.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on May 3, 2013 8:00:26 GMT -5
Well, 200 on a guy depends - if he's 4 foot 2, it's bad. If he's 6 foot 2, he's snuggly.
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Post by Cookies Galore on May 3, 2013 8:08:18 GMT -5
My dh is right around 200lbs. He lifts weights and his arms are huge. I don't really care for the skinny guys. They kind of tick me off, watching them eat all the time and never gaining weight. Lol, I finally weigh less than DF! he's at about 155-160. Skinny as all hell, but he puts a ton of miles on his bike so he has nice, muscular thighs. My preference is slim men, but I do not consider 200 to be gross at all. Some burly men are quite sexy.
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Post by swamp on May 3, 2013 8:09:39 GMT -5
I love burly men.
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Post by Pants on May 3, 2013 8:12:21 GMT -5
My DH is 6'4" and 280 lbs. He's a big dude, but he's not morbidly obese. Just saying, for lots of guys there's nothing wrong with weighing more than 200lbs. TheHaitian how much do you weigh?
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 8:26:18 GMT -5
DH is around 240 and 6'3". He may have a little belly but he is not fat.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 8:28:02 GMT -5
hmmmm.... I built up the first time in my mind a little, but...all that really happens is that you get stuck with this painful needle. Oh you poor thing. You got a owie. Did he at least kiss it and make it better?
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2013 8:36:40 GMT -5
I went on a date with a guy once who actually was a bit chubby( higher weight on a shorter guy). That in itself didn't bother me. But he had no confidence, was very nervous, couldn't make eye contact.
I don't know the situation, but I would guess social cues and interaction might be a greater issue than physical looks.
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