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Post by swamp on May 1, 2013 10:35:17 GMT -5
My DS is almost 7. He is very, very bright, but OMG, sometimes I want to strangle him.
Every single morning he has to be reminded to get his back pack and lunch, to put on his shoes, to put on his coat. I've tried not saying anything and he may put his shoes on, but he will walk out the door without the coat or the back pack each time.
He will often forget to change his underwear, and when he walks in the door, he drops his coat wherever he feels like it.
He also cannot find anything unless it basically bites him in the nose.
Is this a boy thing? An airhead thing? Will it get better?
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2013 10:39:48 GMT -5
I fear it's a male thing. DH actually asked me where the milk was once. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wte.png)
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2013 10:42:34 GMT -5
It won't get better. But maybe if you let him fail at an early age he will learn how to cope and deal with his short comings.
I don't know, though.
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Post by midjd on May 1, 2013 10:43:21 GMT -5
I fear it's a boy thing. DH actually asked me where the milk was once. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wte.png) I agree. Every morning before DH leaves, I ask if he has his phone, and he always does. But the few days I've been in the shower or doing something else and haven't asked him - he forgets it every time! He's also fond of calling me (while he is home and I am not) and asking where something is. "Hmm, let me turn on my long-distance x-ray vision here..." I'm pretty sure he thinks I hide things from him, only because I usually know where they are. But he does manage to wear shoes and clean underwear each day, so I guess you have something to look forward to ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png)
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Post by swamp on May 1, 2013 10:44:25 GMT -5
LOL, I thought swamp, jr was the problem child? Sounds like my DS, go get an Rx for adderal ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png) Oh, he's not problem, lol. He'll do whatever you tell him, he just needs to be told.
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Post by telephus44 on May 1, 2013 10:49:55 GMT -5
I fear it's a boy thing. DH actually asked me where the milk was once. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wte.png) I agree. Every morning before DH leaves, I ask if he has his phone, and he always does. But the few days I've been in the shower or doing something else and haven't asked him - he forgets it every time! He's also fond of calling me (while he is home and I am not) and asking where something is. "Hmm, let me turn on my long-distance x-ray vision here..." I'm pretty sure he thinks I hide things from him, only because I usually know where they are. But he does manage to wear shoes and clean underwear each day, so I guess you have something to look forward to ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png) My DH once called me at work to ask me where his paycheck was because he couldn't find it and "I'm the only that does all the cleaning, so I must have put it somewhere." Not only could I not find his check telepathically through the phone line, I also couldn't strangle him, either.
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Post by steph08 on May 1, 2013 10:49:58 GMT -5
I fear it's a boy thing. DH actually asked me where the milk was once. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/wte.png) I agree. Every morning before DH leaves, I ask if he has his phone, and he always does. But the few days I've been in the shower or doing something else and haven't asked him - he forgets it every time! He's also fond of calling me (while he is home and I am not) and asking where something is. "Hmm, let me turn on my long-distance x-ray vision here..." I'm pretty sure he thinks I hide things from him, only because I usually know where they are. But he does manage to wear shoes and clean underwear each day, so I guess you have something to look forward to ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png) OMG my DH calls me all the time asking me where stuff is. Where are my car keys? Your car is a manual, and I can't drive it, so therefore I have never taken your car anywhere and don't have the keys! Argh!
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Post by thyme4change on May 1, 2013 10:53:25 GMT -5
Maybe create a checklist and let him look at it. When you are leaving, ask if he went through the checklist.
Right now, you are doing the thinking for him. Once you put the ball in his court, he will start the process of owning his routine. Not that he will be perfect, but, hey, that is what growing up is all about.
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Post by sheilaincali on May 1, 2013 10:54:43 GMT -5
I'm still waiting for my 15 yr old to grow out of it. It sure hasn't happened yet. I have a list we run down every morning- cell phone? Backpack? etc. It's a Boy thing because his friends are just as flaky as he is. They are forever leaving their glasses at our house, forgetting their cell phones, and anything else they bring over. One of his friends jumped in the pool once with his shoes and socks still on. He got out and took off the shoes but still forgot to take off the socks.
A good friend of our is so bad that shops he frequent have a special lost and found box with his name on it. DH just went with him to Chicago for a long weekend tournament. He forgot his entire suitcase and half of the equipment he needed for the tournament. His wife called to tell him his suitcase was sitting by the front door still. He just went to Target and bought new clothes. For the equipment he had his wife overnight it to him. Cost him $150 in shipping.
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Post by amishgal on May 1, 2013 10:58:25 GMT -5
Not just a boy thing, my 10 year old daughter is the same way. Smart kid, but will leave the house with every damn light on and the front door wide open. I have dropped her off at school, drove to work to see her lunch still in the back seat.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on May 1, 2013 10:59:11 GMT -5
Sounds pretty normal to me. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by swamp on May 1, 2013 11:00:18 GMT -5
Maybe create a checklist and let him look at it. When you are leaving, ask if he went through the checklist. If I don't say anything, his younger sister will start yapping at him to get his backpack. She's about as anal as i am.
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Post by giramomma on May 1, 2013 11:01:33 GMT -5
Swamp- My DS is like that.
It gets better. My son had a HUGE leap in emotional maturity between 8 and 9.
DS just turned 9. He clears his dishes after eating without reminders. He does the morning routine without reminders. He will even sit down now, and do his homework (15-20 minutes) without out b*tching for a half hour first.
He even will keep an eye out on his middle sister, the one he detests the most, without being asked.
I can also tell him to go clean a bathroom, and he'll do it, top to bottom without supervision.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 1, 2013 11:04:24 GMT -5
My DH has a brother? Who knew? ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/idunno.gif)
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Post by Formerly SK on May 1, 2013 11:06:04 GMT -5
DH is this way. I was briefly worried about having kids with him as I was sure he'd leave the baby somewhere one day and we wouldn't be able to find it. Funny thing though, even when he does stuff (like go camping in the snow and forget his sleeping bag ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/yikes.png) ) he makes do. And it doesn't seem to make an impression on him for the future - he continues to be absentminded. I don't know if it is a gender thing though because his dad and brother aren't that way at all. Whenever he loses something and I have to help him find it, I tell him I just consider it my "job security." ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by NoNamePerson on May 1, 2013 11:06:42 GMT -5
Swamp, repeat after me: I will let him live to see 8, I will let him live to see 9 and so on. It worked for me. Now he has a wife that says I will let him live to see 47. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/tongue2.png) And I hate to say this but you think you will raise him to be different than most males, but it is a GENE passed down from Adam and it just mutates on and on for all eternity ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/faint.gif)
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Post by imawino on May 1, 2013 11:17:52 GMT -5
He's a boy, it doesn't get better! Sorry. My stepsons (14 & 11) are like this, the older one more so than the younger. They routinely leave the front door wide open, all the lights on, the tv on when they leave the house, leave their backpacks behind, etc. If they should happen to be off school for a day when I'm at work I'll call and ask if they ate.....they either forgot or couldn't "find anything" to eat - though I'm positive they stood in front of an open fridge door for at least a half hour. Oh, in fact I came back once to find the fridge door standing wide open!!! Argh! Let's see, I'll ask if they put the dog out. Nope. How you can ignore 70lbs of squirming Labrador in front of you I have no idea. So I tell them to let her out. Call back later and ask if they let her back in. Nope. I guess dog barking at the back door is also somehow not noticed? The only thing I can tell you is he will remember clean underwear about the time he thinks girls might be interested in getting near him. At that point your hot water bill will rise dramatically and you will need to include a line for Axe toiletries in your grocery budget. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on May 1, 2013 11:24:13 GMT -5
DH couldn't find his car registration. He never put it in his glove compartment. I kept ahold of it and one day he needed it for a phone call. He left it by the phone and it fell behind the table. He needed to turn it in when his truck got totaled. So he calls me wanting to know where it is. I tell him you left it by the phone. He can't find it, demands I come home and find it. I find it. He then proceeds to tell me it must have ended there because I stole it out of his glove compartment and didn't put it back! He's lucky I don't want to be a single mom. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/angry.png)
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Post by Blonde Granny on May 1, 2013 11:45:01 GMT -5
Roseann Barr once said " a uterus is not a tracking device". Nuff said.
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Post by 973beachbum on May 1, 2013 11:53:57 GMT -5
LOL, I thought swamp, jr was the problem child?etting him to Sounds like my DS, go get an Rx for adderal ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png) My son has a rx for adderal and he would still walk out barefoot without his backpack in Feb if I didn't remind him. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/faint.gif) Getting him to actually use shampoo and soap when he is in the shower is also fun.
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Post by kittensaver on May 1, 2013 11:57:11 GMT -5
Why should he bother to remember is coat or backpack? He has TWO females to remind him - - daily. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/cool.png)
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Post by thyme4change on May 1, 2013 12:14:57 GMT -5
If I don't say anything, his younger sister will start yapping at him to get his backpack. She's about as anal as i am. I try not to let my daughter be my son's mother. I don't want to encourage her to be a control freak, or a nag. I often put a stop to it by reminding her it isn't her business, or that her brother is a perfectly competent person, and if she gives him a chance, he will be successful, or that she needs to stop yelling at him, because that is my job and she is taking away all my fun. I don't want her to grow up and be one of those wives that treat their husbands like idiots who are totally incapable of doing anything. I think it is a very limiting position to put yourself in. The sooner she "unlearns" that way of thinking, the better.
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Post by swamp on May 1, 2013 12:16:34 GMT -5
I'm trying. She's a tough one.
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Post by thyme4change on May 1, 2013 12:22:58 GMT -5
They are all tough. Power struggles aren't limited to the office or Washington DC. The most effective thing I say when my daughter is really pushing my son around is "Go clean your room." Her room is always a disaster, and when she has to clean it, she often cries. So, if nothing else, she will learn to keep her criticism of him a little more quiet.
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Post by greeniis10 on May 1, 2013 12:24:15 GMT -5
No, it doesn't get any better. DS21 is STILL like this - thank goodness his girlfriend has the patience of Job. Right when he moved out DH retired and took his "place". DH regularly calls me AT WORK to ask where things are at home (where he currently is). Once he texted me to ask where the bacon was. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/huh.gif) Yes, we have 2 freezers but it can't be that hard to find. He got the hint when I responded back, "Don't know, but it's a good thing you have all day to find it!"
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Post by thyme4change on May 1, 2013 12:29:07 GMT -5
I went away with a friend and our many children. I laughed really hard when the one girl was frustrated because she couldn't find her shoes, so she took her Mom's cell phone and called their nanny - who was 120 miles away. What the what?! Oddly enough, after talking to the nanny, 3 minutes later she came in the room wearing the shoes. I don't know how the nanny did it.
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Post by greeniis10 on May 1, 2013 12:33:50 GMT -5
The nanny was probably very good at her job!
Problem is, yes, I KNOW where the bacon is (or whatever else everyone is looking for), but it's not my job to keep track of everything for everyone! If I can keep track of things why can't they? Silly question, I know...
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Post by Jaguar on May 1, 2013 12:36:46 GMT -5
My DS is almost 7. He is very, very bright, but OMG, sometimes I want to strangle him. Every single morning he has to be reminded to get his back pack and lunch, to put on his shoes, to put on his coat. I've tried not saying anything and he may put his shoes on, but he will walk out the door without the coat or the back pack each time. He will often forget to change his underwear, and when he walks in the door, he drops his coat wherever he feels like it. He also cannot find anything unless it basically bites him in the nose. Is this a boy thing? An airhead thing? Will it get better?
I know seniors like that, so it's a lifetime thing.
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Post by Deleted on May 1, 2013 12:37:04 GMT -5
I'm trying. She's a tough one. My mom is going through the same thing with my younger sister. She bosses her older brother around and basically keep track of him like she was his mother: homework, clothes, chores etc. Sometimes he gets mad/frustrated and yell: remember I am your older brother and you are not the boss of me. The joke in my family now is we feel bad for the man that will marry her. But she does it to my mom and step dad, so I can say she is an equal opportunity PITA.
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Post by swamp on May 1, 2013 12:38:27 GMT -5
DS will take it for a while, and then I hear the screechy "Maddie, you're not the boss of me!!!!"
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