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Post by The Captain on Apr 23, 2013 12:50:25 GMT -5
Best times - now. We have security in our family and can really enjoy each other.
Worst - the time when I was pregnant with DD waiting on the second set of genetic screening results to come back.
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Post by steph08 on Apr 23, 2013 12:51:30 GMT -5
Best times - running (and finishing) my first marathon, wedding day, semester abroad in London.
Worst times - I really can't think of anything too terrible. I did just find out one of my dogs has lymphoma - that blows.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:52:49 GMT -5
![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png) any luck on cutting back your hours? Actually - I think my reduced hours have made things worse. People are reluctant to give me work, because they think I'm too busy, with too few hours, and now my job is even worse. In reality, I think it is time to leave the company and go back to a high pressure job, where I can feel a little stress and feel a little accomplishment. I need to be needed. But, getting the energy up to do that, and figure out how to best handle my kids, etc - that is hard to do. That is why depression is such a horrible cycle. You are too depressed to do the things you need to do to get you out of depression. Maybe I should see someone - but I'm not sure who. My best days have been the ones where I have twice the caffeine as I normally do. Maybe Red Bull is my self-medication answer. wasn't the main reason that you wanted to reduce your hours is that you feel that your kids need you more?
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Post by souldoubt on Apr 23, 2013 12:54:39 GMT -5
I wouldn't really describe any time as the best or worst for me they've just all been at different points in my life involving different circumstances. One of the funnest times in my life was from the age of 19-21 when I had a laid back job, fewer responsibilities and bills while living at home and going to school, partied it up and didn't get arrested or end up in the hospital during the process. From the age of 23-28 I lived within a mile of downtown and had a blast going out pretty much regularly with roommates and friends until the last few months. When I finished college my previous job had me in a rut and towards the end I really hated going to work so I made it a point to get my resume out and got out of there. Now I have a job I love, own my own place which I've always wanted, have a GF who will be my wife some day and we have a blast and go on a few big trips a year. In the future we'll have kids and I want to get into a house and look forward to that time and every other day I get to experience.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 23, 2013 12:57:23 GMT -5
How were you wrongfully terminated. Well, the legal version is my employer thought I was under probation and tried to terminate me as such, without notice or a performance improvement plan or anything like that. In truth, they could not do that under federal law because I was not on probation because I had been with the government for more than a year. Obviously, there's always more to the story than that. The cliff notes version is basically I was hired for a job and there was differing expectations. I expected they would train me and they expected minimimal training would be required. This ultimately caused a lot of friction and a breakdown in communication. While it may not be the most professional assesment, basically they were jerks and created a hostile work enviornment which caused things to spiral out of control. But I don't really care to go into the nitty gritty of what was said and done.
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Post by thyme4change on Apr 23, 2013 12:58:59 GMT -5
wasn't the main reason that you wanted to reduce your hours is that you feel that your kids need you more? Yes, but now I'm so stagnated, I'm nothing but a pulse. I am not really spending good time with them. Generally I take a nap or play sudoku because I'm so depressed.
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Post by formerroomate99 on Apr 23, 2013 12:59:11 GMT -5
Junior high. My father had his second and third bout of cancer during that time, eventually dying. I was being left with friends while my dad was getting treatment. I was forced to spend most of my waking hours going to school with a bunch of lazy, stupid, assholes.
One big benefit of that time was that I learned how to deal with depression, was left with a stunning sense of confidence, and got my big girl panties long before puberty.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 13:01:43 GMT -5
wasn't the main reason that you wanted to reduce your hours is that you feel that your kids need you more? Yes, but now I'm so stagnated, I'm nothing but a pulse. I am not really spending good time with them. Generally I take a nap or play sudoku because I'm so depressed. Maybe you could take a nap or play sudoku with them.
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Apr 23, 2013 13:03:19 GMT -5
Have you considered quitting your job and opening a comic book store?
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Post by Tennesseer on Apr 23, 2013 13:03:40 GMT -5
How were you wrongfully terminated. Well, the legal version is my employer thought I was under probation and tried to terminate me as such, without notice or a performance improvement plan or anything like that. In truth, they could not do that under federal law because I was not on probation because I had been with the government for more than a year. Obviously, there's always more to the story than that. The cliff notes version is basically I was hired for a job and there was differing expectations. I expected they would train me and they expected minimimal training would be required. This ultimately caused a lot of friction and a breakdown in communication. While it may not be the most professional assesment, basically they were jerks and created a hostile work enviornment which caused things to spiral out of control. But I don't really care to go into the nitty gritty of what was said and done. Thanks Phoenix. I ask because there are usually two sides to a story regarding terminations. I investigated quite a few termination cases and usually both sides differed why the termination occurred.
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Post by thyme4change on Apr 23, 2013 13:05:08 GMT -5
Have you considered quitting your job and opening a comic book store? I'm not a comic book person. I'm not really a store person. All that people contact, and standing. Boo.
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Post by imawino on Apr 23, 2013 13:05:21 GMT -5
So many good times, really....although it's true that I appreciate them more in retrospect than I did in the moment. I need to be a more "live in the moment" kind of person, but that's a whole 'nother story!
College was a good time. I worked full-time and went to school, so I was busy but the whole time period was just good fun. Fun friends, lots of dates, and so much energy!
My late 20s/early 30s were great. I was living in Miami, had a job with a good company that had me traveling a lot to amazing cities all over the world. Began a long-term relationship with a good guy, we had a terrific group of friends that we did a lot of fun things with and life was pretty fucking charmed. As for bad times, in my middle-school years my parents were both pretty heavily into drugs and alcohol so home life was erratic and stressful. Then less than two years ago I lost my mom in a horrible tragedy, and I was in a very bad place for quite a while. I blamed myself, I cried every day for months and wished like hell for a truck to plow into me every time I got in my car. My relationship took a nosedive and life was just generally off-track. There are some things I really still can't think about but life is improving, I think.
At the moment I feel like I'm in a kind of "blah" place. Work is meh, my relationship has ups and downs (normal ones that come along with being a couple of 40 year olds working full time and trying to manage part-time custody of his kids and stuff, nothing earth-shattering) and I'm just not thrilled with all this aging business! Getting old is for the birds! I'm in need of a kick-ass mid-life crisis.
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Post by Bob Ross on Apr 23, 2013 13:07:16 GMT -5
Best times: when I thought I was a viking. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) Worst times: when I thought I was a viking, and then someone called the cops. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png)
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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 23, 2013 13:09:07 GMT -5
No problem, I am fully aware if you talked to them you'd get a vastly different retelling of events. It's just the way things are.
But I will say this. In the end I ended up getting a better job at a higher grade with more responsibility out of it. And so far it's worked out great. My performance is consistantly rated well and the inspectors who inspected my program found nothing wrong. So the fact that they kept claiming I couldn't do the job and was horrible at what I did seems to ring hollow in the time since.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 13:09:07 GMT -5
Junior high. My father had his second and third bout of cancer during that time, eventually dying.I was being left with friends while my dad was getting treatment. I was forced to spend most of my waking hours going to school with a bunch of lazy, stupid, assholes. One big benefit of that time was that I learned how to deal with depression, was left with a stunning sense of confidence, and got my big girl panties long before puberty. Sorry that happened to you. 99 Glad it's all work out for you in the end.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 13:11:38 GMT -5
But I will say this. In the end I ended up getting a better job at a higher grade with more responsibility out of it. And so far it's worked out great. My performance is consistantly rated well and the inspectors who inspected my program found nothing wrong. So the fact that they kept claiming I couldn't do the job and was horrible at what I did seems to ring hollow in the time since. phoenix, There is lesson to be learned from what happened to you! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by cronewitch on Apr 23, 2013 13:11:50 GMT -5
Worst was the 5 months before I left my abusive xh.
Best between 1996-2000 I was the expert at work and had lots of overtime so high income. I had accrued some vacation so stretched all 3 day weekends to 5 day weekend. ISO had great job, we were both happy with time to play and money. We had a new boat 1996 and a new camper 2000 so had lots of fishing, camping trips first in tents then the camper.
We are taking off this weekend to go to the ocean to dig razor clams, taking the poor old sick cat who won't want to go. At least we have great jobs again but not young anymore and not as much time to go play. We need to retire soon, play more.
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Post by thyme4change on Apr 23, 2013 13:12:02 GMT -5
Bob Ross - you make my world just a little bit better.
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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 23, 2013 13:13:25 GMT -5
What prompted this thread is taking a bit of time and reflecting on my life. Basically, I'm in my late 20's and realized that, in general, some parts of my 20's really sucked. Which supposedly your 20's is supposed to be the best time of your life. It's not been all bad, obviously. But I can't say definitively my 20's were absolutely whiz bang awesome all the time. Kind of like Rukh, it's been a bit of a rollor coaster ride. It's nice to see (maybe not the right way to put it) that others 20's haven't been all roses and sunshine either.
The good, made some good friends, did some interesting travel for work and for pleasure. Studied some interesting stuff, grew a person ect.
The bad, kind of a rocky start to my career, basically broke from 22-26. Lot of isoloation and lonliness at certain times due to moving and the like.
Overall, I'd rate right now as average. Things have been better, but they've been a lot worse. Overall I say things are up the upswing right now, and are getting better.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 23, 2013 13:13:33 GMT -5
So the fact that they kept claiming I couldn't do the job and was horrible at what I did seems to ring hollow in the time since.
Amen. I'm working with my former department again in collaboration, different lab though. I like that my current boss is singing my praises to them after they accused me of making up everything on my resume.
Also so glad I don't work for them anymore because they are a disorganized mess! I would have gone crazy if I had to deal with this bunk constantly. At least they'll be out of my hair once this project is over.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 13:18:25 GMT -5
Take care of yourself.thyme
Depression can be very hard to deals with at times. It can be also very harmful to your health.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Apr 23, 2013 13:19:47 GMT -5
What prompted this thread is taking a bit of time and reflecting on my life. Basically, I'm in my late 20's and realized that, in general, some parts of my 20's really sucked. Which supposedly your 20's is supposed to be the best time of your life. It's not been all bad, obviously. But I can't say definitively my 20's were absolutely whiz bang awesome all the time. Kind of like Rukh, it's been a bit of a rollor coaster ride. It's nice to see (maybe not the right way to put it) that others 20's haven't been all roses and sunshine either. The good, made some good friends, did some interesting travel for work and for pleasure. Studied some interesting stuff, grew a person ect. The bad, kind of a rocky start to my career, basically broke from 22-26. Lot of isoloation and lonliness at certain times due to moving and the like. Overall, I'd rate right now as average. Things have been better, but they've been a lot worse. Overall I say things are up the upswing right now, and are getting better. Phoenix - YMMV! I know so many people that had a great time in high school, talking about what a blast it was. I was miserable. I actually graduated from high school in 3 years instead of 4 to get away from my home life (insert sob story here). I spent the rest of my teens and 20's recovering from the damage. Figuring out who I was, what I wanted, who I wanted to be. I don't really think I started being "myself" until late 20's, early 30's. I did have a lot of fun times and do a lot of unique things, but my overall assessment is that my life was lacking at that point. I feel so much better now, in my mid 30's. Everybody's life is different. Yours is still getting sorted out. No worries. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by thyme4change on Apr 23, 2013 13:20:34 GMT -5
I think some of my worst times were during my 20s. I had some great times too. It was a volatile time. A lot of things get sorted out in that transition from kid to adult, and it took me basically the whole decade to get that done. I have friends who are in their 20's, and I'm exhausted watching them try to work out some of the same type of problems.
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Post by imawino on Apr 23, 2013 13:21:54 GMT -5
What prompted this thread is taking a bit of time and reflecting on my life. Basically, I'm in my late 20's and realized that, in general, some parts of my 20's really sucked. Which supposedly your 20's is supposed to be the best time of your life. It's not been all bad, obviously. But I can't say definitively my 20's were absolutely whiz bang awesome all the time. Kind of like Rukh, it's been a bit of a rollor coaster ride. It's nice to see (maybe not the right way to put it) that others 20's haven't been all roses and sunshine either. The good, made some good friends, did some interesting travel for work and for pleasure. Studied some interesting stuff, grew a person ect. The bad, kind of a rocky start to my career, basically broke from 22-26. Lot of isoloation and lonliness at certain times due to moving and the like. Overall, I'd rate right now as average. Things have been better, but they've been a lot worse. Overall I say things are up the upswing right now, and are getting better. Actually I read something the other day that said people rate their happiest highest later in life - I think in their 60s. So just hang in there! ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Apr 23, 2013 13:22:11 GMT -5
Bail bonds. You can sit behind a desk. You get to hire bounty hunters, which let's be honest, is pretty damn cool. You don't have to be all false cheer and BS with your customers because they're scum and they know it. It might be the only job out there where you could wear a gun to the office and tell all your customers not to piss you off and make you use it. Oh, and it's pretty lucrative.
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Post by thyme4change on Apr 23, 2013 13:32:44 GMT -5
Bail bonds. You can sit behind a desk. You get to hire bounty hunters, which let's be honest, is pretty damn cool. You don't have to be all false cheer and BS with your customers because they're scum and they know it. It might be the only job out there where you could wear a gun to the office and tell all your customers not to piss you off and make you use it. Oh, and it's pretty lucrative. I like it. Next time you are in Phoenix, I'll take you to the sandwich place where the gal who makes the food is packing a gun on her hip. It is right next to the courthouse.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Apr 23, 2013 13:33:13 GMT -5
I hope not. That means everything is downhill from there and I refuse to believe that life couldn't be any better than it was in my 20s. I certainly like myself better in my 30s (all 18 months of them so far) than I did in my 20s.
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Post by imawino on Apr 23, 2013 13:36:12 GMT -5
Best times: when I thought I was a viking. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) Worst times: when I thought I was a viking, and then someone called the cops. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png) What about the time you thought you were a pirate? Surely there was a time you thought you were a pirate! Is painting happy trees not on the list? Do you paint them directly onto the skin suits now?
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Post by giramomma on Apr 23, 2013 13:37:33 GMT -5
What prompted this thread is taking a bit of time and reflecting on my life. Basically, I'm in my late 20's and realized that, in general, some parts of my 20's really sucked. Which supposedly your 20's is supposed to be the best time of your life. It's not been all bad, obviously. But I can't say definitively my 20's were absolutely whiz bang awesome all the time. Kind of like Rukh, it's been a bit of a rollor coaster ride. It's nice to see (maybe not the right way to put it) that others 20's haven't been all roses and sunshine either. The good, made some good friends, did some interesting travel for work and for pleasure. Studied some interesting stuff, grew a person ect. The bad, kind of a rocky start to my career, basically broke from 22-26. Lot of isoloation and lonliness at certain times due to moving and the like. Overall, I'd rate right now as average. Things have been better, but they've been a lot worse. Overall I say things are up the upswing right now, and are getting better. I'm not a ton older than you. About a decade.. Here's what I learned in my early 30's. Everyone has crap/stress/bad situations to deal with. Seriously. No one is immune. What's fascinating for me to see is how different people choose to deal with the crap.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 23, 2013 13:52:29 GMT -5
Best time. 1990-94. Happily married, living the dream life in Florida in a beautiful home in a great neighborhood. Worse time.1999-2009. Struggling single parent with the ex living the dream life I paid for. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png)
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