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Post by Phoenix84 on Apr 23, 2013 11:02:01 GMT -5
What were the best and worst times of your life, and how would you rate right now?
Best time of my life I can recall was my first half of college. It was nerve racking at first, being away from home. But living on your own with a bunch of people your age ended up being great. And the classes weren't that hard, the first two years of college were pretty much an extension of high school in my opinion. The second half wasn't quite as a great. Most people moved off campus and the classes got much much harder. High school overall was pretty good too, though I hated my job.
The worst times of my life are probably 2010, when I was wrongfully terminated from my job. Getting fired/laid off is one of the most stressfu.l things that can happen to you, but it's even worse when it's a long drawn out messy legal battle. I essentially lost of a year of my life to that. It's all just a blur. In addition, the period of time after college wasn't that great because of the struggle to find a job and the anxiety for the future.
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Post by Tennesseer on Apr 23, 2013 11:12:06 GMT -5
How were you wrongfully terminated.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 23, 2013 11:13:39 GMT -5
Best time was right after high school and then IWCC. Life was pretty easy and I was in no rush to go anywhere. Then following that was my senior year of college when I went off to Borneo for three weeks. After that it would be my wedding day/honeymoon and then Gwen's birth.
I really enjoyed my first job when I obtained it. I loved working for my boss and the research was fascinating. Worst times were my senior year of college when my grandmother died and my courseload was insane. I tripped up transferring and had to cram all my hardest courses into one semseter or face another year of college. It was too much to juggle at once and then my grandmother dying on top of it pushed me over. I consider myself lucky to have passed my classes and graduated. Then my engagement sucked. My dad was opposed to my marriage for reasons I don't want to get into on here. We had a HUGE fight mere hours before the wedding. We didn't even think he was going to show up. He did in the end though and we've worked past it, but our relationship was pretty damaged for about two years. Then there is work crap. I got caught up in a bunch of political crap at Creighton and hung myself. I'm glad to be away from that group of people. I loved my job and my direct boss/co-workers but the department as a whole was just not a pleasant place to work. My PI advised me if I wasn't going to relocate with him that I should leave Creighton and never look back. I took him at his word.
I got fired from my first job here and it was really humliating. I should have listened to the warning bells going off in my head from the start. Technically I could have fought it but decided it would be too much of a risk if I lost so I kept quiet.
It was a blessing in disguise though because I landed my current job. No way I would have even recieved an interview as an external candidate, but thanks to the other job they had to interview me as a matter of policy. I was the first one to walk in the door with animal experience so I was hired the next day.
I'm a lot happier here and I've learned several techniques that can I can take outside of academia.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 11:22:40 GMT -5
What were the best and worst times of your life, and how would you rate right now?
Phoenix, Sorry for the deleted. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png)
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 23, 2013 11:26:27 GMT -5
DH and I always say that even though our paths sucked at times it eventually lead us to each other and Gwen. Feel free to gag now. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 11:29:30 GMT -5
I too think the best time is right now.
Childhood was meh, first semester college and first year teaching the worst.
God bless the broken road Drama...
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Post by constanz22 on Apr 23, 2013 11:34:25 GMT -5
Best: 1988-1989 when I lived in France as an exchange student. Best (that I didn't really realize or appreciate at the time how awesome it was...lol) my late 20's and early 30's. I had a great group of friends, awesome social life, was going out to bars, following bands, dating A LOT, just a lot of really, really fun times that seemed like it'd be that way forever...it wasn't. When everyone, except me, started getting married and having kids, it came to a screeching halt.
Worst: College and right after college relationship that was pretty abusive and destructive and again, another bad relationship in my mid 30's. Probably why I haven't had a serious relationship since (5+ years).
Right now is kind of Blah, could be worse, could be better. I catch myself saying (in my head) "I hate my life" all the time, but I can't really say why. Just cuz I thought my life would be A LOT different by my almost mid 40's I guess.
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Post by thyme4change on Apr 23, 2013 11:35:14 GMT -5
I've had a lot of good times - but certainly when my kids were a little younger, and both my husband and I were loving our jobs, and I was just happy in every endevour I had going on. I was looking forward to my kids being older so we could do even more stuff together. Unfortunately, I didn't know that my job was going to push me into a state of depression, and it was going to tear me apart.
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Post by ontrack on Apr 23, 2013 11:38:20 GMT -5
Best time of my life was my senior year in college through my three years in grad school. I made some great friends and had an amazing time. I also met my DH in grad school.
The worst time in my life was 7th and 8th grade. We moved right after 6th grade and I never really found friends at the new school. I was very lonely and miserable. Plus, I hear middle school is bad for a lot of people. High school was better.
Now is pretty amazing. My DH and I got married a year and a half ago, and it's been great. We're trying to figure out the whole kid thing, and that uncertainty is the only fly in the ointment. That and our high student loan burden, that is.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Apr 23, 2013 11:41:44 GMT -5
I'm not sure I have a "worst" time. I am having my most challenging/difficult time of my life and I like to think that I am coming out of it now. That maybe things have turned a corner. Really the last 3 years have been one challenge after another: a new baby, undiagnosed PPD, my Grandma passing away, my Great Uncle passing away (he was like another Grandpa to me), a difficult pregnancy, my DH having major back issues that required major back surgery when DD was 4 weeks old, and of course the money that has gone into having babies and treating DH's back problems. But I can't regret this time. I have 2 amazing kids. I eventually sought treatment for depression and learned a lot about myself in the process. So, far no PPD with DD. And in general, I actually like myself better now. I think I am stronger, tougher, more complete person. I can handle problems better and I am less likely to crack under pressure. I am better mom, a better wife and a better employee because of it.
My favorite time in my life was my senior year of college. I was able to just have fun - ok and study hard, but I loved what I was studying. Yeah, the future was uncertain, but it was bright and exciting. I loved living with my best friend and my major regret is that we have drifted apart and I can't seem to reconnect with her no matter how much I try. I'm not sure it was the best time of my life, but so far it has been my favorite.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:11:21 GMT -5
I think the best time is right now. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) Worst times - good chunks of my childhood, first year of college, first year after I had DS. DH and I were both really sick and didn't know it, DS had colic, I had a PTSD flashback that led to a nice mental breakdown, I stopped speaking to the people who raised me, etc.
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Post by giramomma on Apr 23, 2013 12:17:20 GMT -5
I can't say..I've always look at my life as a series of moments..I've always had good moments intertwined bad moments..there's never been one or the other.
<brace yourselves, I'm going to say something positive about my kids>
This weekend was awesome. We were surrounded by friends and family that love us. I found out I can even paint #2's fingernails with one hand while holding a sleeping #3 child. #3 started walking a little bit, too.
Lurking behind all of that, though, is the fact that one of my folks is doing worse, (was taken off chemo with stage IV cancer), and may continue to do worse. So, while I was enjoying all the good moments, there's the reality that may never see a parent alive again (I need to use two hands to count the number of years it's been since we've seen each other.) and also trying to figure out what sort of arrangements can be made with the kids when it's time for the funeral. (One of my kids remembers my parents, the other two can't pick them out in a room full of random people.)
Then there's things like celebrating #1's growth in baseball. He's not a superstar, but he's doing well, showing improvement. I'm so happy to share this part of it with him.
But, with LL, comes the volunteering requirement. Which is fine. I chose a job that didn't require for me to be at games. But, it is frustrating chasing after other parents to get them to fulfill their volunteering requirement. Particularly, when all they need to do is make two clicks on the internet to sign up. I don't understand why parents can't take 2 minutes out to sign up for an obligation that they knew about when they signed their kid up for the activity without being reminded a bunch of times.
Or there's work. I'm OK with my job. It's a job. The benefits are good..and the flexibility is awesome, but I haven't received a raise in 6 years. Not because I'm a poor worker, but because right now, public sentiment is against public sector workers. Amusingly enough, right before the state budget is supposed to be solidified (including a possible raise for the next two years for me), the pot is stirred to make it look like my place of employment is fleecing the general public. My take home pay has not increased much in the nearly decade I've been at my job. I'm unsure about what the best path is for my family, especially since my job is to bring in the income.
There's going to be a new director at another one of my jobs, and I'm not sure if that means I'll still be employed by this organization come August. Unfortunately, I won't find out about my job status until it's almost too late to advertise for more business. I don't want to advertise now for new clients, since I don't have room for them. But, waiting until next fall will likely be too late...
I've had to deal with infertility three times, but I also have three good kids.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Apr 23, 2013 12:19:52 GMT -5
Right now I'm in both at the same time. It's extremely emotionally draining.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:26:21 GMT -5
I've had a lot of good times - but certainly when my kids were a little younger, and both my husband and I were loving our jobs, and I was just happy in every endevour I had going on. I was looking forward to my kids being older so we could do even more stuff together. Unfortunately, I didn't know that my job was going to push me into a state of depression, and it was going to tear me apart. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png) any luck on cutting back your hours?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:27:00 GMT -5
I've had a lot of good times - but certainly when my kids were a little younger, and both my husband and I were loving our jobs, and I was just happy in every endevour I had going on. I was looking forward to my kids being older so we could do even more stuff together. Unfortunately, I didn't know that my job was going to push me into a state of depression, and it was going to tear me apart. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:27:59 GMT -5
thyme - ![](http://i239.photobucket.com/albums/ff155/JiminiChristmas/smileys/hug.gif)
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Post by Bob Ross on Apr 23, 2013 12:31:30 GMT -5
Best times: when I ate the whole thing. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) Worst times: the morning after. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:33:18 GMT -5
I always say the greatest moment of my life was when my first son was born. The worst moment was about 30 seconds before that. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) I've had good and bad mixed into every life phase, but I think my "happiest" stretch was 22-28 or so. So much hope, great boyfriend, lots of fun times. The last 10 years has been not very good. Lots of drudgery, worry and stress. Still some awesome things have happened as well...it wasn't ALL bad, but the overall score isn't great.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:35:28 GMT -5
No contest, this is the best time of my life. I've dealt with an anxiety disorder, depression, an abusive childhood, addictions, toxic relationships...etc. etc. etc. I finally have my shit together. Life is amazing.
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Post by HoneyBBQ on Apr 23, 2013 12:36:20 GMT -5
Best thing that ever happened to me was having my daughter. However that was exhausting beyond belief (she literally didn't sleep more than 30 minutes at a time right out of the womb), I was recovering from an emergency CS, etc. It was hard, but definitely the best "moment" if not the best "time."
*slight warning* The worst day of my life was when I was 20 weeks pregnant (after two miscarriages) and I had test results come back that were indicative of something bad regarding my baby. I think I consciously decided I would jump in front of a speeding truck on the highway rather than terminate my pregnancy... and I knew that if my pregnancy weren't viable I couldn't deliver a baby just to watch her die in the first day. So basically I decided it was over for me if something was wrong with her.
Luckily, it was just a test result that indicated something was abnormal but it ended up being fine and my baby is the happiest and healthiest kid on the block.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Apr 23, 2013 12:37:25 GMT -5
Other best times of my life. Basically from about 16 through 19 was pretty awesome. I really enjoyed most of my time in the military. Our first year here kind of sucked, but the following couple were pretty good.
The worst times were from my early childhood.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:37:37 GMT -5
Best thing that ever happened to me was having my daughter. However that was exhausting beyond belief (she literally didn't sleep more than 30 minutes at a time right out of the womb), I was recovering from an emergency CS, etc. It was hard, but definitely the best "moment" if not the best "time." *slight warning* The worst day of my life was when I was 20 weeks pregnant (after two miscarriages) and I had test results come back that were indicative of something bad regarding my baby. I think I consciously decided I would jump in front of a speeding truck on the highway rather than terminate my pregnancy... and I knew that if my pregnancy weren't viable I couldn't deliver a baby just to watch her die in the first day. So basically I decided it was over for me if something was wrong with her. Luckily, it was just a test result that indicated something was abnormal but it ended up being fine and my baby is the happiest and healthiest kid on the block. Glad you are both ok.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:38:30 GMT -5
I have had a charmed life.
So far working sucks, but I have great kids and wife and I get to drink beer.
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Post by Bob Ross on Apr 23, 2013 12:41:34 GMT -5
I have had a charmed life. So far working sucks, but I have great kids and wife and I get to drink beer. Isn't this because you've said that you've never done anything stupid? Pfft. Where's the fun in that?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:43:04 GMT -5
I have had a charmed life. So far working sucks, but I have great kids and wife and I get to drink beer. Isn't this because you've said that you've never done anything stupid? Pfft. Where's the fun in that? Who said anything about fun?
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:45:54 GMT -5
I thought the same thing! ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/thumbsup.png)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 23, 2013 12:45:55 GMT -5
Best times: when I ate the whole thing. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png) Worst times: the morning after. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png) that could be taken in several different ways...
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Post by genericname on Apr 23, 2013 12:46:14 GMT -5
My worst times had to be when I herniated a disc in my lower back and lived with excrutiating pain for months until the doctor decided surgery was the only option. I was seriously in the contemplating suicide mode. It's amazing how much unrelenting pain can warp your perception and hope for the future. I've had a pretty good life. Some hiccups here and there, but mostly good times. Two time periods stand out as the "best of times" - first would be the three years I was in grad school. I was footloose and fancy free, lived on almost nothing, but had great friends and a great time. I was pretty poor, but rich with experiences and friendships. Now is a great time too. My son is 2, and soooo much fun, I'm expecting baby #2, I have a wonderful loving husband, and we both have stable jobs that allow us to have some feelings of security and planning for the future. We rarely take enough time to appreciate our good fortune, so thanks for the question, it has allowed me time to reflect on just how good we have it. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/smiley.png)
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Post by thyme4change on Apr 23, 2013 12:50:12 GMT -5
![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png) any luck on cutting back your hours? Actually - I think my reduced hours have made things worse. People are reluctant to give me work, because they think I'm too busy, with too few hours, and now my job is even worse. In reality, I think it is time to leave the company and go back to a high pressure job, where I can feel a little stress and feel a little accomplishment. I need to be needed. But, getting the energy up to do that, and figure out how to best handle my kids, etc - that is hard to do. That is why depression is such a horrible cycle. You are too depressed to do the things you need to do to get you out of depression. Maybe I should see someone - but I'm not sure who. My best days have been the ones where I have twice the caffeine as I normally do. Maybe Red Bull is my self-medication answer.
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