mrsdutt
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Post by mrsdutt on Apr 20, 2013 15:43:57 GMT -5
the karma sutra ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/cool.png) Not to behave like this. Also quality takes time and small steps. There's no magic genie to give you what you want right now.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 20, 2013 15:46:31 GMT -5
what? oh no she didn't? ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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mrsdutt
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Post by mrsdutt on Apr 20, 2013 15:48:31 GMT -5
I tried with my kids, but when I look at them, I see where I could have done better. I think I needed to have done better on the following things. DD22 - needs more resilience. She has a college degree and underemployed living at home. I wish she was more resilient. DS20 - he lacks life skills. Despite a high GPA in Finance, he does not understand credit cards. He has had one for 4 months. When he lost his card, he called me a week later in a panic because he thought someone used his card and stole $500 because his balance was $0. I explained that his balance of $0 was a good thing and he had $500 available credit. He also absolutely can not cook anything beside microwave meals. He is ADD and has no interest, as much as I tried to teach him. DS18 - despite having 10 job interviews for minimum wage mcJobs, he can not find a job. He is just a quiet (not shy) kid who does not like to talk about himself. He also mumbles and it is hard to understand him. He has a great resume for a college kid (high GPA, worked in high school, Eagle Scout, etc.) but just can not get past an interview. I don't know how to help him. All my kids are well mannered, well groomed, good students, so I think that I was mostly successful. It sounds like you put quite a bit of effort into raising your kids. The items you posted about seem like they are more of a personality issue than a 'raising' issue. Everyone grows. Some people just take a while to perfect. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/wink.png)
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 21, 2013 20:50:20 GMT -5
How about that the world does not revolve around you and even though your mother feels she s ENTITLED, you really aren't entitled to butt into your sisters life.
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NastyWoman
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Post by NastyWoman on Apr 21, 2013 21:37:46 GMT -5
How about that the world does not revolve around you and even though your mother feels she s ENTITLED, you really aren't entitled to butt into your sisters life. ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/rofl.gif) you think this will be read by the right person? ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 22, 2013 5:59:58 GMT -5
I'm sure she has me on ignore because I have been downright rude. I used to think she was a troll. Now I just think she is guilty of emotional abuse of her DD. makes me sick to my stomach. Poor little girl. I remember hoping the girls bio dad would rescue her from that house but he didn't. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/sad.png)
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Post by formerroomate99 on Apr 22, 2013 10:01:12 GMT -5
Honestly, this whole issue is one reason why I can't understand why there is such a bias in this country against boarding school. So many parents are just too busy and the kids are basically being raised by the TV.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 22, 2013 10:21:08 GMT -5
Its a shame because sometimes boarding school isn't just for bad kids or disinterested parents.
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formerroomate99
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Post by formerroomate99 on Apr 22, 2013 11:46:02 GMT -5
You know, this kind of nonsesne is one reason why I get so irked when people act as if going to a regular school is absolutely necessary to become a well rounded individual and anyone who deprives their children of this 'experience' is somehow hurting them. School is often a very destructive environment, where the behaviors that lead to success are severely punished while the behaviors that lead to failure in life are rewarded.
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Post by zibazinski on Apr 22, 2013 11:54:46 GMT -5
Just emulating real life out there. ![](http://images.proboards.com/new/tongue.png)
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Apr 22, 2013 12:09:11 GMT -5
School is often a very destructive environment, where the behaviors that lead to success are severely punished while the behaviors that lead to failure in life are rewarded
IDK, I've seen this an awful lot in the work world too. Maybe it's better to figure out life sucks in schoo rather than getting your first dose later? ![](http://syonidv.hodginsmedia.com/vsmileys/idunno.gif) My favorite professional book is The No Asshole Rule. Maybe it should be required reading in high school too. Not saying I want my kid to be mistreated but there are stupid people and assholes everywhere you turn, you're not going to escape them so might as well figure out how to handle them.
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formerroomate99
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Post by formerroomate99 on Apr 22, 2013 12:31:16 GMT -5
I have never had a job where the level of asshole behavior or lack of reality came anywhere near the level I saw in school. And I've worked in some pretty weird and shady places.
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