Putting your foot in your mouth

[susanb]

and then shoving it down your throat.

Do any of you do this about money?

My car is 10 years old and one of my co-workers asked me last week when I planned on replacing it.  I told her that after I get back from Europe, I would save for two years and then buy a new to me car.    

Today, I told her that my car budget (I was planning on saving 25k) had been slashed because I read that Zuckerburg drives a 30k car over the weekend.  Timing could not have been worse.  She told me she bought a brand new BMW over the weekend.  She had been leasing another vehicle and had to pay a fortune to get out of the lease in addition to her 40k car.  She is 40, declared BK 8 years ago, and has $0 saved for retirement.  Ugh.  My timing could not have been worse. 

I don't care that she is broke or buying new vehicles.  It isn't financially smart, but someone has to fuel the economy and it isn't going to be YMers. I just hate the fact that my timing was so bad. 

Anyone else have a social gaff to admit to that will make me feel better?  Anyone?

[midjd]

Don't you hate that? I seem to stick my foot down my throat at least once a day. (You had no way of knowing she'd just bought a car - you shouldn't feel bad.)

But this might make you feel better:

Back when I waitressed during college, we had an extremely busy night one night. I walked up to a new table (a youngish couple), went through my spiel, the woman mentioned something about how busy we all must be, and I said, "For sure! I could use an extra arm!"

On my trip back to the table I noticed that her dinner companion was missing his right arm.

[Bob Ross]

On my trip back to the table I noticed that her dinner companion was missing his right arm.

That is AWESOME!

After your quip, you should've asked him for a high five, then made a snarky comment about being left hanging.

[chiver78]

  oops, Mid.

susan, I wouldn't feel badly for saying what you did. if she took offense, that's on her and her own bad decisions.

[Rocky Mtn Saver]

Susan, I don't really get how that was you putting your foot in your mouth.  She should be the one embarrassed about the conversation! 

[Rocky Mtn Saver]

Mid, if it makes you feel better, I had something terribly similar happen.  Years ago, I was in a public place explaining to my BFF about what I jokingly refer to as "The Leg Law".  I don't like critters with too many legs or not enough legs.  Bugs?  Too many legs.  Snakes?  Not enough legs.  I announced to the group that you must have 2 or 4 legs, or you are a total freak of nature.  Right then, swear to god, a one-legged man hobbled right past me...   

[Deleted]

I once called my wife a whore-bitch. Open mouth. insert foot.

[Shooby]

  OMG Archie!  And you lived to tell about it! 

[Miss Tequila]

susan, I don't think you said anything wrong.  If you had bashed people that filed bankruptcy or someone insulted her financial decisions, then I could see why you would feel like you stuck your foot in your mouth. 

[susanb]

Apr 8, 2013 15:32:38 GMT -5 Rocky Mtn Saver said:

Susan, I don't really get how that was you putting your foot in your mouth.  She should be the one embarrassed about the conversation! 

She is embarrassed.  I don't want to embarrass her or suck the joy out of her new car.  Her present self might as well get as much joy from it as possible since her future self is going to have a long time to regret the decision. 

[Peace Of Mind]

I don't think you put your foot in your mouth in that case either.

My cousin was here for a family wedding.  Families are not real close nor do we see each other much.  My mom, cousin and DH and I were in the elevator and we were talking about how sweet he was.  I said "You must take after your mom."  The look on my mom's face!  And then she just burst out laughing.  Her brother was a mean SOB but I didn't mean to word it like that.  My cousin agreed with me and cracked up too. 

[Rocky Mtn Saver]

Apr 8, 2013 15:48:14 GMT -5 susanb said:

Apr 8, 2013 15:32:38 GMT -5 Rocky Mtn Saver said:

Susan, I don't really get how that was you putting your foot in your mouth.  She should be the one embarrassed about the conversation! 

She is embarrassed.  I don't want to embarrass her or suck the joy out of her new car.  Her present self might as well get as much joy from it as possible since her future self is going to have a long time to regret the decision. 

LOL, that's very kind of you.  Perhaps her future self will be grateful for your bad timing. 

[Shooby]

Apr 8, 2013 15:48:07 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

susan, I don't think you said anything wrong.  If you had bashed people that filed bankruptcy or someone insulted her financial decisions, then I could see why you would feel like you stuck your foot in your mouth. 

Yes, i don't see anything wrong either.  She makes her choices and you make yours.  You are allowed to talk about your choices even if hers aren't the same.  You didn't slam her or say anything wrong that i can see.

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

I was waiting on a table and half listening to a conversation about the Annual Testicle Festival (I wish I was making that up) where they serve fried animal balls of all types.

Not thinking I said "I don't think I'd like to eat balls".  There was a pause and everyone bust out laughing.

[Shooby]

  We were in Church and the Pastor was giving a sermon about something, i dont' quite recall.  Any way, he said something about "cutting" (nothing bad i can't remember the reference).  Anyway he asked "What do you cut" and his young daughter yelled out 'you can cut the cheese!".  Everyone cracked up and the little girl burst into tears!  Then he went over and hugged her and it was really cute.

[NancysSummerSip]

Apr 8, 2013 15:36:37 GMT -5 ArchietheDragon said:

I once called my wife a whore-bitch. Open mouth. insert foot.

It's incredible that your wife didn't punch you in one and cut off the other.

[kittensaver]

I stuck my foot in my mouth with my SIL a few years ago. We were both heavily involved in planning and executing my nieces' wedding (long family story). A few weeks after the wedding we were scrolling through the photographer's CDs together. DH wore a tux because he walked niece down the aisle, and the groom and the groomsmen were in either full military dress uniforms or tuxes (in other words, it was not a casual wedding). While many men wore suits and ties, I commented on the number of men (as seen in the pictures) who were waaaaaay underdressed - aloha shirts, denim shirts, even one in a shirt without a collar at all . I remember making a few snarky comments about "geez, can't these guys even bother to put on a tie for a wedding?" And then guess what? We scrolled down to a picture of my BIL (who I adore, by the way) *and he wasn't wearing a tie.*  I was busy playing hostess and wedding coordinator and I totally didn't pay attention on that day - I was just making snarky post-wedding comments looking at the photos. Man that was awkward. But at least he was wearing nice pants, dress shoes and a sport coat.

[Deleted]

My favorite is when my MIL was angry at my DH and called him "a son of a b*tch"!

I smiled and told her I couldn't agree more.

It was clear she thought I was agreeing with her but she missed the irony.

Then I said "I agree that your son is a son of a b*tch". All three of us cracked up!

[Deleted]

double post

[Rocky Mtn Saver]

Apr 8, 2013 16:32:35 GMT -5 @bonnap said:

My favorite is when my MIL was angry at my DH and called him "a son of a b*tch"!

I smiled and told her I couldn't agree more.

Okay, that's awesome!

[Deleted]

My friend's 20 year old is pregnant, again. Her 18 month old is a very demanding child. Friend said she would like to take her boys to a camp, but since its a couple weeks after the baby is due, she figures she'll be needed. (They all live at home.) I like the 20 year old a lot, if I do question some decisions. We were all baking one day and I said I'd take her, friend said with infant and toddler? I said sure it will be great for my daughter, .... I didn't actually say 'you know, what not to do' , stopped that exact wording coming out of my mouth, but I'm not sure what did come out was much better....

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

We had a korean post doc in the lab once.  He changed settings on one of our machines and didn't tell anyone.  Took me awhile to figure it out.  I was annoyed but couldnt remember the guy's  name.   I said "That japense guy. ." and our postdoc corrected me and said he was korean.  Still pissy I started to say "Well how should I know. .. "  and our PhD student broke out in a grin.  I realized what I was about to say but it was too late.  I turned beet red and said "Shut up, I didn't finish the sentence".   They teased me all day about that one. 

[Regis]

Apr 8, 2013 15:27:18 GMT -5 midjd said:

Back when I waitressed during college, we had an extremely busy night one night. I walked up to a new table (a youngish couple), went through my spiel, the woman mentioned something about how busy we all must be, and I said, "For sure! I could use an extra arm!"

On my trip back to the table I noticed that her dinner companion was missing his right arm.

I was coaching a soccer team one year and had a player who had had his arm removed at his elbow when he was a toddler.  When the ball went out early in the game, he picked it up and threw it in.  While it always looked strange to me, the other coach had not noticed the amputated arm and yelled to the referee, "Sir, that's a one-handed throw in!"  To the young player's credit he turned around and said, "Coach, that's the only way I can do it since I only have one hand."  The other coach was extremely embarrassed.

[susanb]

Some of these are pretty funny!  Thanks for sharing, it helped me get over my own case of foot in mouth. 

[moneymaven]

Apr 8, 2013 15:30:14 GMT -5 Bob Ross said:

On my trip back to the table I noticed that her dinner companion was missing his right arm.

That is AWESOME!

After your quip, you should've asked him for a high five, then made a snarky comment about being left hanging.

Bob, you're my hero.

[gs11rmb]

I was out of town and decided to have my hair trimmed.  The very nice stylist was clearly about to deliver triplets.  She mentioned that she was tired that day and I commented on her pregnancy.  She replied "Oh, I'm not pregnant, just fat.  I'd love to have a baby but I can't have children".  Then she cut my hair.  From then on I vowed never to comment on a woman's pregnancy unless she mentioned it first.

[milee]

Apr 9, 2013 7:53:01 GMT -5 gs11rmb said:

I was out of town and decided to have my hair trimmed.  The very nice stylist was clearly about to deliver triplets.  She mentioned that she was tired that day and I commented on her pregnancy.  She replied "Oh, I'm not pregnant, just fat.  I'd love to have a baby but I can't have children".  Then she cut my hair.  From then on I vowed never to comment on a woman's pregnancy unless she mentioned it first.

My sister is a spin cycling instructor and very aerobically fit, but heavy.  After one of her classes, several of the students came up to tell her how much they enjoyed the class and how inspired they were by her still being able to instruct that tough a class while pregnant.  She's not pregnant.  She did tell me that although it hurt a little bit, she understood why they'd think that, knew they were just trying to be nice and also was very willing to cut people slack since she often suffers from foot in throat syndrome.

I have too many awful foot in throat stories to be able to list them here, so I'll share my latest.  The mother and father of one of my friends recently died (not a surprise, but still awful.)  She emailed everybody to tell us what happened and then ask that we not talk to her about it just yet, that she needed time to pull herself together before even responding to well wishes; she did not want us to mention their death at all until she let us know she was ready to talk.  So right before I was supposed to see her, I kept telling myself - don't talk about her parents' death, don't give her condolences, etc. because of course a natural reaction to a friend's grief is to offer sympathy and caring.  When I walked up to her, trying my best to just act casual, she asked if that was me she saw running on the bridge that morning.  I was so relieved to have a non-death avenue of conversation, that I responded something like this, "Oh, yeah, that was me.  I like to run on the bridge here because I'm such an awkward runner that if I run in my neighborhood I'm afraid all my neighbors might think I'm dying.  You know, since I'm all sweaty and red-faced, I look near death.  It would be so awful if the neighbors worried I was dead!  But um, you know, I'm not really gonna die.  Well, sometime I think I'm going to die... but I don't.  You know - die.  'Cause I'm not uh, dead."  Of course as soon as the first reference to dying came out of my mouth, I was horrified, but it was like I just couldn't stop.  The more I tried to stop myself, the more flustered I was and the worse it got.  So, so awful. 

[NomoreDramaQ1015]

Milee,

I do the same thing, the more I try to backpedal the deeper the hole I am digging gets.

[raeoflyte]

I called my boss a swinger last week... As in shift, but since we don't actually have swing shifts... It was awesome. Thankfully he has a really good sense of humor.

[Waffle]

During a job review a few years back, my boss talked about how most of the supervisor/managers at the company worked close to a 40 hour week and at everyother place he had ever worked the supervisor/managers had worked much longer hours, including weekends. I said something along the lines of, I would consider myself a failure if I had to come in to work on the weekends, that would just mean I wasn't using my time wisely during the week.  He said "Oh, so I'm a failure for all the weekends I've worked here".

I tried to say something concilliatory about how different our jobs were, blah, blah, blah - but I couldn't really recover from that remark.