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Post by tloonya on Dec 12, 2012 17:51:22 GMT -5
Surely you are not serious, and you're just being difficult for the sake of being difficult. mmhmm, Taking a night off every now and again is definitely a good idea. Having DD sleep over at my MIL's is fine, but I don't want to send DS until he's sleeping through the night. She already helps us and my SIL with her kids so much, I don't want to put more on her. I don't think we have "night nannies" in our area. I've never heard of such a thing. And I really can't afford one right now. kgb, I am not being difficult. I am being a problem solver. You have a problem - deal with it. Don't say 'I can't'. Just tell him you must sleep or else. mmmhhmmm, I know we all are worrying about kids of ours, this is why I was suggesting PARTNER to take care of the child so other party can take a quick shower, cup of camomille tea and drift away for a few hours in soundproof room. How is it difficult? Just DO IT, right? Awake and take your precious package back and let your spouse rest...no traveling, no leaving it with someone, own parents taking care of their child, right or not?
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kgb18
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Post by kgb18 on Dec 12, 2012 18:00:43 GMT -5
He works nights. I work days.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Dec 12, 2012 19:18:11 GMT -5
LMAO!!! Loony - You really should write a book on how to solve the world's problems. I promise to be your first buyer. I love comedy! ;D
kgb - Now you are just being difficult! Just tell him you must sleep!
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 19:24:41 GMT -5
Cough syrup does a pretty good job knocking kids out. Just an interesting little factoid that I felt like sharing.
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Post by susanb on Dec 12, 2012 19:25:36 GMT -5
LMAO!!! Loony - You really should write a book on how to solve the world's problems. I promise to be your first buyer. I love comedy! ;D Oooh, "Living Loony" I would buy it second. Can you also please get a talk show?
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 19:32:45 GMT -5
We should totally do a YM podcast and have various posters on each week. We pick a slightly financially related topic, then the board votes on which poster/posters should come on and tell the world what to do. It would be awesome. For example, we could do a couponing show and have Dancin and GG both on explaining why you'd be stupid not to coupon, and why couponing is stupid. The next week we could do parenting stay at home versus working. It would be great! Loony and Milee should be on the show about how to run a business.
You'd call in with Skype so we could stay anonymous if you didn't want to share your real name. I bet we could get at least 100 regular listeners, which should make us like $1 a month in ad revenue.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 19:33:57 GMT -5
I have an almost 12 and 10 year old if you want to experience girls after MM's boys.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Dec 12, 2012 19:37:17 GMT -5
We should totally do a YM podcast and have various posters on each week. We pick a slightly financially related topic, then the board votes on which poster/posters should come on and tell the world what to do. It would be awesome. For example, we could do a couponing show and have Dancin and GG both on explaining why you'd be stupid not to coupon, and why couponing is stupid. The next week we could do parenting stay at home versus working. It would be great! Loony and Milee should be on the show about how to run a business. You'd call in with Skype so we could stay anonymous if you didn't want to share your real name. I bet we could get at least 100 regular listeners, which should make us like $1 a month in ad revenue. Dark - You may have found your business! I would love that. Psst. Don't make the mistake I did and give MM your address. She's trying to unload the kids again. <<says out loud>> Oh, and I moved to another country. No! There is no forwarding address!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 12, 2012 19:37:20 GMT -5
Cough syrup does a pretty good job knocking kids out. Just an interesting little factoid that I felt like sharing. *cough*Benadryl*cough* Pffftt, Amateurs. I am doing it Haitian style... A bit of Rhum in their sippy cups or right under the gums when they are teething.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Dec 12, 2012 19:40:37 GMT -5
Dark - You may have found your business! I would love that. Psst. Don't make the mistake I did and give MM your address. She's trying to unload the kids again. <<says out loud>> Oh, and I moved to another country. No! There is no forwarding address! Hey POM!!! I'm getting ready to send out Christmas cards.. I seem to have misplaced your address. Be a dear and give it to me, please. So sowwy. No speaka de English!! Carl - I'm teething. Can I have some rum? ;D
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 19:42:33 GMT -5
They can't be that bad. They're boys. Give em a yard or park to play in, a ball to kick/throw around, a dog, and a pocket knife. You'll only see them when they show up to eat you out of house and home, or sleep.
We should trade though. An 11 year old that already thinks she's like 16 is so awesome. You don't even know.
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 19:44:37 GMT -5
Well sure, but at some point they're going to stop teething while you're still going to want to get some sleep. Slipping the kids a little booze stops being socially acceptable once their teeth are in, but they can have the sniffles for a long long time.
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 12, 2012 19:46:47 GMT -5
Surely you are not serious, and you're just being difficult for the sake of being difficult. mmhmm, Taking a night off every now and again is definitely a good idea. Having DD sleep over at my MIL's is fine, but I don't want to send DS until he's sleeping through the night. She already helps us and my SIL with her kids so much, I don't want to put more on her. I don't think we have "night nannies" in our area. I've never heard of such a thing. And I really can't afford one right now. kgb, I am not being difficult. I am being a problem solver. You have a problem - deal with it. Don't say 'I can't'. Just tell him you must sleep or else. mmmhhmmm, I know we all are worrying about kids of ours, this is why I was suggesting PARTNER to take care of the child so other party can take a quick shower, cup of camomille tea and drift away for a few hours in soundproof room. How is it difficult? Just DO IT, right? Awake and take your precious package back and let your spouse rest...no traveling, no leaving it with someone, own parents taking care of their child, right or not? That works great when there is a spouse, and when the spouses don't work the same shift. In some households, that's just not the case. Parents can become overly tired and stressed. It's just not an easy job, and some kids make it more difficult than others. It's the nature of the little hooligans.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 12, 2012 19:50:31 GMT -5
When DD was a baby, I went to bed when DS did. 8 pm and I was SO ready. EX stayed up and did the next feeding whether it was 11 or later. I got up for the one after that but I had gotten at least 6 or more hours of sleep by then. He did the 5-6 am one and then it was on me. So we both got chunks of sleep. I still remember though parking DS in front of two hours of afternoon shows like reading rainbow and mr Rogers and maybe even an hour is Sesame Street so I could catch some extra sleep. Thank GOD he was such a good child.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 12, 2012 19:51:30 GMT -5
Don't moms or MILs ever come to help?
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Post by kittensaver on Dec 12, 2012 19:53:39 GMT -5
There are two sisters in our neighborhood who live at home because they attend the university just a few blocks from their family home. They grew up babysitting around the neighborhood and have sterling reputations. They now hire themselves out only on weekends (Friday and Saturday evenings) as "night nannies" to young parents who reside in the local community. They're so popular they can't keep up with the business and are trying to get more of their sorority sisters involved. They pick and choose their weekends and pick and choose their families. Pretty sweet deal for part-time work with waaaay better wages than "mere" babysitting (and they get away from the 'rents for a night or two . . . )
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 19:54:52 GMT -5
I'm not following.
What?!
OK, that's it. Clearly you aren't a parent and should take my angels for the summer, so you can see how like totally awesome and rewarding the little blessings really are. They're super easy to take care of. Seriously, like easier than a pet rock easy. They not only clean up after themselves but help around the house too, cook for ya (although their repertoire is a bit limited still), make you laugh when you've had a crappy day at work, love doing yard work and taking care of pets. Seriously, you don't know what you're missing. I really should be charging you for depriving me of them, but since we're pals I'll give you one summer free.
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Post by lynnerself on Dec 12, 2012 20:07:09 GMT -5
Don't moms or MILs ever come to help? For the first 2 weeks maybe. How about for the rest of the first year? (Mine were not good sleepers. Now I'm sure I'll get advise on what I should have done to get them to sleep )
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Post by kittensaver on Dec 12, 2012 20:09:20 GMT -5
:: They're boys. You'll only see them when they show up to eat you out of house and home, or sleep ::
Or use up your hot water taking reeeeeeally long showers . . .
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Post by mmhmm on Dec 12, 2012 20:12:45 GMT -5
LOL! Thanks, but no thanks, Dark! I raised mine! One of each ... a girl and a boy. They're now in their 50s. I figure it's their turn to raise me! ;D
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Dec 12, 2012 20:13:05 GMT -5
Their own laptop and a locking bedroom door might help with that problem. You might not see them for more than a few minutes at a time afterwards until they're like 22 though.
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Post by Taxman10 on Dec 13, 2012 8:18:33 GMT -5
I have an almost 12 and 10 year old if you want to experience girls after MM's boys. so you're saying you'll send kids right to my house huh?? that's an offer almost too good to pass up!!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2012 8:45:37 GMT -5
kgb - its called a night nanny You can pay someone to come in & take over all night-time duties so that you can sleep. The group on Babycenter that I had joined had some lovely debate about parents that hire these nannies. do they come with boobs? or is there some trick where I could have removed mine and left them behind while I went to a hotel? LOL
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2012 8:49:02 GMT -5
Don't moms or MILs ever come to help? yeah my mom came to stay with me for a bit after baby #1. all she did was send my stress level through the roof. the baby was starving, I needed to give her formula (because she had eaten 2.5 hours before - hello, breastmilk goes right through), when was I giving solids (I got solids at 2 weeks), holding her too much would spoil her, and on and on and on.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Dec 13, 2012 9:38:56 GMT -5
Don't moms or MILs ever come to help? When DS was born my MIL lived 12 hrs away and didn't get to see him until he was 3 months old. My mom lived 8 hrs away, but my SIL had back surgery when DS was 3 days old and needed my mom to help her out with her 2 year old and 6 years old. Mom and dad came and stayed with us for 4 days when DS was 2.5 weeks old. My mom is going to come stay with us this time a week when my DH has back surgery but we don't know exactly when that will be. Probably when the baby is 6 weeks old or so. My MIL now lives 15 min away and has never once asked to watch DS overnight. We asked if she would when I have this baby, but it is not something DH and I are comfortable asking her to do on a regular basis. We do have friends (a retired couple from church that we refer to as DS's Church Grandparents) that have asked to let DS spend the night and he has a couple of times. But I am not comfortable letting a baby who is not sleeping through the night stay with friends or family. We did the sleep in shifts thing, take different feedings, etc. All that meant was that we were both sleep deprived (but better than if it were just me doing it). When DH has back surgery, he won't be allowed to lift anything or bend for 2 weeks. So night time duty is going to be 100% me (which is why I am not going to work during those 2 weeks - I just can't see myself being anywhere near functional without the backup of my DH).
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 13, 2012 9:40:08 GMT -5
Yuck. Remind me to be a better MIL than that if it comes to that. Or a better mom if its DDs kid. I always figured I'd do the cleaning, laundry, shopping and meal prep so the mom just deals with the baby. I never breast fed but can't you store milk to feed a baby? Oh, but your boobs still fill up, right? Well, I can see it doesn't work to have night nannies if you're breast feeding.
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Post by zibazinski on Dec 13, 2012 9:42:16 GMT -5
Most of my friends seemed to have great moms and MILs. Mom came for a month then mIL came for a month. By then the new mother could function enough. A two month old should be close to sleeping through the night.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 13, 2012 9:43:39 GMT -5
Yuck. Remind me to be a better MIL than that if it comes to that. Or a better mom if its DDs kid. I always figured I'd do the cleaning, laundry, shopping and meal prep so the mom just deals with the baby. I never breast fed but can't you store milk to feed a baby? Oh, but your boobs still fill up, right? Well, I can see it doesn't work to have night nannies if you're breast feeding. yeah you can pump, but it's not really recommended to give a week old baby a bottle. your milk supply isn't even established by then. My MIL/FIL did come down for the day when DD was a few days old and MIL did my laundry for me and made some food and picked up the house while I sat on the couch. for babies #2 and #3 we were on our own.
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Post by muttleynfelix on Dec 13, 2012 9:47:27 GMT -5
Most of my friends seemed to have great moms and MILs. Mom came for a month then mIL came for a month. By then the new mother could function enough. A two month old should be close to sleeping through the night. Nope - unless you are counting 4 hrs straight as sleep through the ngiht. Oh some do, but this is such a myth. Most do not. On average, most babies do not sleep through the night (go without being fed) until 9 to 12 months.
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Post by thyme4change on Dec 13, 2012 9:48:55 GMT -5
My mom lives 20 minutes away - but she was in England when my first kid was born. My father insisted that all first babies are late, so going on vacation the week before my due date was no problem. I guess he didn't count on something going wrong so we had to induce early to get that baby out. My sister also lives close. She came over and cooked my dinner and hung out. She is probably better with babies anyway. I was under control. My first baby was easy.
My second baby, I forbid my parents from going on vacation because I needed someone to watch that first kid and help me with that.
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