First business trip - advice?

[Miss Tequila]

Sept 3, 2012 20:41:04 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

What can I say. At work dinner for ten one time, my manager had too much to drink. She 'outed' three of her employees (including herself) to the rest of the employees at the table who had no idea any of them were gay. Nor did she have the permission of the other two gay employees at the table to 'out' them.

A bad night was had by all.

I'm calling BS on no one else knowing that they were gay...normally SOMETHING gives them away...like the lesbian mullet

[Tennesseer]

Sept 3, 2012 20:45:52 GMT -5 swamp said:

I can't imagine why anyone would care if someone is gay, unless you are currently sleeping with that person.

A friend of mine in law school outed herself to us after a night of drinking. We already assumed she was so its not like the revelation was a big shocker.

[It was in Tennessee. The South. Southern Baptist country-where Roman Catholics aren't considered Christian by many. F*gs will burn in hell territory. Where some think John Scopes should be dug up and hanged. Plus the dinner was in the early '90s.]

[swamp]

Law school was 90's. I still don't see whynsomeones sexuality is a big deal. And that no one had a clue that any of these people were gay.

But I guess homophobia often jams gaydar

[Miss Tequila]

Sept 3, 2012 20:52:37 GMT -5 swamp said:

Law school was 90's. I still don't see whynsomeones sexuality is a big deal. And that no one had a clue that any of these people were gay.

But I guess homophobia often jams gaydar

I don't get the big deal...we had a partner at my old firm that was CLEARLY gy.....it was comical because women were required to wear skirts and heels at the time...she looked pained everyday!lol She told someone she was gay and it got around....she actually asked me if I had hear and she was all pissed off...in my head I was like "you have got to be kidding me if you think this was a secret"!LOL

[Tennesseer]

Sept 3, 2012 20:52:37 GMT -5 swamp said:

Law school was 90's. I still don't see whynsomeones sexuality is a big deal. And that no one had a clue that any of these people were gay.

But I guess homophobia often jams gaydar

Times have changed since that happened. Change always takes longer to catch up sometimes in conservative areas. Our headquarters now even has a LGBT organization and offers medical benefits to domestic partners in states where same-sex marriage is not legal. They caught up with the times.

[Miss Tequila]

Sept 3, 2012 20:58:48 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Sept 3, 2012 20:52:37 GMT -5 swamp said:

Law school was 90's. I still don't see whynsomeones sexuality is a big deal. And that no one had a clue that any of these people were gay.

But I guess homophobia often jams gaydar

Times have changed since that happened. Change always takes longer to catch up sometimes in conservative areas. Our headquarters now even has a LGBT organization and offers medical benefits to domestic partners in states where same-sex marriage is not legal. They caught up with the times.

So see...there is no reason NOT to dirnk now!

[Tennesseer]

Sept 3, 2012 20:55:07 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

Sept 3, 2012 20:52:37 GMT -5 swamp said:

Law school was 90's. I still don't see whynsomeones sexuality is a big deal. And that no one had a clue that any of these people were gay.

But I guess homophobia often jams gaydar

I don't get the big deal...we had a partner at my old firm that was CLEARLY gy.....it was comical because women were required to wear skirts and heels at the time...she looked pained everyday!lol She told someone she was gay and it got around....she actually asked me if I had hear and she was all pissed off...in my head I was like "you have got to be kidding me if you think this was a secret"!LOL

We had an gay female executive who dared to bring her partner to an executive Christmas party. She was terminated shortly thereafter. Her bringing her partner just didn't sit well with the other executives. Again, that was in the late '80s/early '90s. Things have changed since then.

[Tennesseer]

Sept 3, 2012 21:00:11 GMT -5 Miss Tequila said:

Sept 3, 2012 20:58:48 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Times have changed since that happened. Change always takes longer to catch up sometimes in conservative areas. Our headquarters now even has a LGBT organization and offers medical benefits to domestic partners in states where same-sex marriage is not legal. They caught up with the times.

So see...there is no reason NOT to dirnk now!

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

Sept 3, 2012 20:50:34 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Sept 3, 2012 20:45:52 GMT -5 swamp said:

I can't imagine why anyone would care if someone is gay, unless you are currently sleeping with that person.

A friend of mine in law school outed herself to us after a night of drinking. We already assumed she was so its not like the revelation was a big shocker.

[It was in Tennessee. The South. Southern Baptist country-where Roman Catholics aren't considered Christian by many. F*gs will burn in hell territory. Where some think John Scopes should be dug up and hanged. Plus the dinner was in the early '90s.]

Oh, I remember THAT Tennessee!!!!!

I had a business meeting in the early 90s in Johnson City. I was chastised at a business dinner with clients -- by the client-- for wearing a business suit. Bubba (his real name) was NOT happy that I wanted to keep it strictly business.

Yup, I can imagine being gay in Tennessee back then was a career death sentence since being straight and faithful was.

[Tennesseer]

Heck GRG-Tennessee tried to pass a law last year where a high school teacher couldn't mention the word gay in school. And I think it's Tennessee where a law was created were students were no longer allowed to hug each other on school property.

It only gets worse here over time.

[GRG a/k/a goldenrulegirl]

Sept 3, 2012 21:16:44 GMT -5 Tennesseer said:

Heck GRG-Tennessee tried to pass a law last year where a high school teacher couldn't mention the word gay in school. And I think it's Tennessee where a law was created were students were no longer allowed to hug each other on school property.

It only gets worse here over time.

[Otto the Orange]

Is the new cute person going too?

[thyme4change]

I travel a lot, and have traveled for most of my kids' lives. I find that Skype helps - if you are going to have a laptop with you. Most hotels give you free internet these days - so if you have a camera at home ($20 at Best Buy if you don't) - you can hook up - even just a few minutes will help. You can see the baby, and your hubby, and they can see you.

[Abby Normal]

Sept 2, 2012 15:59:04 GMT -5 @moneyjenny82 said:

It's only one night and one full day, but I will get back late so I'll miss DS for two tuck-ins.

I had to travel when DS was young. At a year old, you'll do more missing than he will. I called everynight to say good night. Kids don't have concept of time, so before I left I would tell him how many "sleeps" I would be gone. When I talked with him at night (when he was preschool age) I would say- I'll be gone for two more sleeps. That was something he understood.