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Post by Deleted on Aug 25, 2012 9:01:47 GMT -5
so a lot of my guy friends wives do the FB thing, usually when we hang out their wife is with them (we usually get togetehr in grups) so I know the wife almost as good as the guy, but of course guys talk more and stuff so I spend most of the time talking to the dude an not his wife, although I know the wife too (we give hugs and stuff when we meet--friendly hugs)....
anyhoo-----on FB, I usually friend the guy but not his wife, and in the case where the guy doesn't do the FB thing but his wife does, I don't friend the wife... I think its kd of awkward / innapropriate? a few peeps that I know real close I will friend the wife.....but otherwise I don't know if its approrpiate...
thoughts?
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Post by Deleted on Aug 25, 2012 10:25:01 GMT -5
so a lot of my guy friends wives do the FB thing, usually when we hang out their wife is with them (we usually get togetehr in grups) so I know the wife almost as good as the guy, but of course guys talk more and stuff so I spend most of the time talking to the dude an not his wife, although I know the wife too (we give hugs and stuff when we meet--friendly hugs).... anyhoo-----on FB, I usually friend the guy but not his wife, and in the case where the guy doesn't do the FB thing but his wife does, I don't friend the wife... I think its kd of awkward / innapropriate? a few peeps that I know real close I will friend the wife.....but otherwise I don't know if its approrpiate... thoughts? Exactly you're not even "you" on FB....  |
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Post by BeenThere...DoneThat... on Aug 25, 2012 10:28:23 GMT -5
...friend them both?  ...but if you're a family friend, and you want family info, friend the wife... or the grandparents...  |
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Post by Regis on Aug 25, 2012 12:21:53 GMT -5
I usually don't ask to friend the wife if I'm not friends with the husband. If the wife asks me, I'll usually accept.
In a similar situation, a few of my sons' female friends have sent me friend requests. Since I see them on a regular basis when they're over at the house, I usually tell them that I'm not going to accept until they turn 21. I'm 48 so being friends on FB with a young lady under 21 just seems a little creepy to me.
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Post by qofcc on Aug 25, 2012 23:31:16 GMT -5
I don't do much on facebook, but I get what you're saying from the opposite side. Being appropriate is important and you don't want anyone to get the wrong idea. I don't think it's inappropriate to friend the wife if you've already friended the husband or accept a friend request from a wife if she's the keeper of the facebook page for the family.
I have guy friends (mostly from HS or other couples we hang out with). If the guys friend me I always make sure to friend the wife or girlfriend. And if they're posting pics, I comment on her wall if it's on there or include a reference to her or them as a couple in the message if it's a picture of both of them on just his wall. And if I send a message, I'll usually add a "say hi to (her) from me".
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Post by Apple on Aug 25, 2012 23:55:32 GMT -5
So I got curious and looked... On my "real" account I have 69 friends (haha, unintentional  ). 25 are female. Of those, I was friends with 2 of them in HS. Two of them used to be DS's babysitters (he always did a private, in-home day care, these two women are incredible). I worked with one in HS. One is a sister, one is a SIL. The rest are all from high school or grade school, was never really friends with them but friendly toward them, I got an invite so I accepted. I have never "friended" a wife just because I "friended" her husband. The rest, all guys... a few from here, two brothers (hmmm... my other SIL isn't my "friend", I'm ok with that), a few coworkers, the rest are mostly old HS buddies. I was closer friends to them than the majority of the women on mine. I have no clue what their wives think, but not too concerned about it. I'm sure I'm not normal, but I'm ok with that too. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2012 8:25:18 GMT -5
For men, i think friending another man's wife would be a bit strange. I probably would not.
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Post by Cookies Galore on Aug 26, 2012 10:40:40 GMT -5
I don't understand. If I'm friends with a married man I'm already friends with his wife, and vice versa. I can't think of any couple where I'm only friends with half of them.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2012 10:53:46 GMT -5
Well, for my friends, i generally want to talk to the wife, not their spouse. Yeah, I don't really want to friend their husbands on FB because i am really not interested in talking to them that way.
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Post by Apple on Aug 26, 2012 15:37:07 GMT -5
I got invited to a "girly" "party" once (the only one I've been to where they were selling stuff). I've been friends with the husband since we worked together in HS, knew both of them from Jr. High on though. When the main part of the party was over, she came over and told me that her husband was downstairs with some of the other guys I was friends with and said I was more than welcome to go downstairs and escape the party with them. In most cases, I know the wife, but the guy is the friend (unless the guy is from work, then chances are I've never met the wife). I'm lucky the wives who know me understand me and don't have any issues with me.
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Post by qofcc on Aug 26, 2012 16:01:25 GMT -5
I don't understand. If I'm friends with a married man I'm already friends with his wife, and vice versa. I can't think of any couple where I'm only friends with half of them.
I can think of a lot of guys that I was friends with way back when and we still keep in touch but I don't consider myself friends with their wives. (actual friends, not facebook friends)
One in particular lives in a different state and his wife contacted me on facebook (because he didn't do facebook) and typed catching up messages from them, so I'm friendly with his wife but I only met her once when she was about 15.
I ran into an old friend at a HS reunion and he was really excited to see me (was hugging me, etc) and and invited us to a party at his house, then friended me on facebook. We were good friends in school and I knew his wife and always liked her but didn't hang out with her (she's younger and was friends with my younger sister). I'm being really careful to be sure that if I comment on their family photos I do it on her wall. I'd really like to be included in their larger social circle now that they know I don't live that far away and I don't want her to in any way think I have any improper intentions towards her husband. Since she was friends with my bratty younger sister I'm sure she knew back then that I had a crush on him when we were 12 and I don't want her to ever been uncomfortable about that.
And I can think of another friend that I knew from way back when who recently moved back to NYS. We've kept in touch over the years, but he's only been with his GF a couple of years and I've only met her twice - only seen him twice in that time. I'm always careful to tell him to say hi to her for me. She may or may not know that we dated a few times when I was 18 - not serious - he kissed me on new years eve in front of a roomful of people and that's as far as it went, but I value his friendship and don't want to ever cause her to feel any misplaced jealousy.
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Post by resolution on Aug 26, 2012 22:56:03 GMT -5
DH doesn't have a Facebook account, so some of his friends have sent me friend requests as a way to keep in touch with him. I don't go seeking them out but if he confirms it is a friend of his I will accept. They tend to tag him in pictures so unfortunately my Facebook page is mostly pictures of him that his friends have tagged. I only post to it a few times a year to post pictures for my family and friends to see.
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Post by Formerly SK on Aug 26, 2012 23:46:40 GMT -5
I don't understand. If I'm friends with a married man I'm already friends with his wife, and vice versa. I can't think of any couple where I'm only friends with half of them.  |
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 27, 2012 7:04:43 GMT -5
Hmmm...does that mean I'm inappropriate?? I have a lot of married guy "friends" on FB and I don't know the wife and I haven't friended her. I have received a few friend requests from wives that I barely know...now I'm wondering if there was a motive behind their friend request!lol
I have never gone to my husband's wall so I don't really know who is on his account..I'm not the suspicious type so it would never occur to me to question who he is friends with. Granted, he is rarely on his FB account so I don't think he interacts much with anyone.
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 27, 2012 7:05:13 GMT -5
And grrrr...rob base still hasn't friended me   |
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Post by Reckless Roselia on Aug 28, 2012 3:34:21 GMT -5
There's nothing wrong in befriending anyone's partner.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 11:03:56 GMT -5
And grrrr...rob base still hasn't friended me I never know when you are serious or not but I thought I told you I ninja friended you already? |
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Post by Miss Tequila on Aug 28, 2012 12:03:53 GMT -5
"but I thought I told you I ninja friended you already?"
beach ninja friended me but instead got a really HOT Tina TEquila from Germany...I think she was disappointed when she "met" the real me!lol
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 12:34:45 GMT -5
What the....?!?! Who told you how to even sign up there, rob? Hmmm.......?!?!?!? I am CRUSHED to hear you are friending others before me.  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 12:58:21 GMT -5
I'll bet his wall is SUPER boring anyway! << kicks rock >>
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:11:30 GMT -5
hey my wall is the bomb-diggity |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:22:35 GMT -5
<<wonders what a "wall" is>>
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:24:34 GMT -5
Well, I'm not telling you!  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:31:07 GMT -5
I know you are, but what am I?  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:32:30 GMT -5
I'll tell you what you're not.....my Facebook friend, that's what!  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:41:05 GMT -5
I'm having enough trouble dealing with this wonder woman stuff...now I gotta deal with this too  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:42:17 GMT -5
What if I told you that I have a topless picture of WW on my FB wall?  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:49:18 GMT -5
Well played, MM!  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:50:06 GMT -5
What if I told you that I have a topless picture of WW on my FB wall? she told me she deleted all those photos? |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 28, 2012 13:50:34 GMT -5
What if I told you that I have a topless picture of WW on my FB wall? You told me you had those pictures set to private!  how YOU doin'?  |
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). 25 are female. Of those, I was friends with 2 of them in HS. Two of them used to be DS's babysitters (he always did a private, in-home day care, these two women are incredible). I worked with one in HS. One is a sister, one is a SIL. The rest are all from high school or grade school, was never really friends with them but friendly toward them, I got an invite so I accepted. I have never "friended" a wife just because I "friended" her husband.
