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Post by midjd on Aug 16, 2012 12:51:48 GMT -5
I'd probably say something like, "I don't know, that doesn't sound like something X would do." (Assuming that's true )
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Post by mmhmm on Aug 16, 2012 12:52:03 GMT -5
Okay, I'll take it one step further: upon hearing malicious gossip about an clueless friend, would you refute the gossip and defend the clueless friend in order to try and shut the gossiper down, or would you stay quiet until you were absolutely certain the gossip was false, or just stay quiet and stay out of it? I've found this situation is not that difficult to handle. A comment like: "Is it really necessary to air the dirty laundry of others, and are you sure you don't have any dirty laundry that might need airing?" usually stops the gossiper in his/her tracks.
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Post by Apple on Aug 16, 2012 14:32:17 GMT -5
I've defended friends before. Something was said against one crew (who I love) and they thought one of the guys on another crew had said it. I was 99.99% positive this guy would NEVER say it, and was just as sure it had been said by a guy on my crew (one had just been fired, one had just been in the "big boss's" office the day before).
We don't really have lay-offs here unless someone deserves it, so I would not be likely to say anything (I knew in advanced that the guy mentioned above would be fired, I didn't say a word to anyone).
If I had concerns someone was being cheated on, I'd probably voice them, depends on if I really considered that person a friend or not.
Vicious gossip... that depends. I've told before what I heard, I may or may not verify where I heard it though. One of my coworkers tried to start a rumor about me and another guy (after finally going a year or so without rumors). Someone let me know and I really appreciated it. The guy was married, so it could have gotten really bad for him if the rumor left work. He found out about it around the time I did. I asked him if it bothered him, he said "no, fuck them" so we didn't change anything.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 15:07:38 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Aug 16, 2012 15:10:44 GMT -5
If someone starts telling me gossip about someone else, it makes me think LESS of the person repeating the gossip that whatever transgression that other person committed. I don't think much of that at all. And, one thing i will simply not allow is for one person to try to influence my friendship with someone else.
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Post by Apple on Aug 16, 2012 17:33:35 GMT -5
If someone starts telling me gossip about someone else, it makes me think LESS of the person repeating the gossip that whatever transgression that other person committed. I don't think much of that at all. And, one thing i will simply not allow is for one person to try to influence my friendship with someone else. I hate that, and the person telling me I can't be friends with someone else it's usually the one who ends up minus a friend. If they are just warning me to be cautious, I appreciate and respect that, but if they are just doing it because they don't like that person or are trying to control me, I drop them. I can be friends with a wide variety of people, even if they hate each other. I just don't want someone too try to put new in the middle.
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