Pregnant in Heels... Maternity Concierge?

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Seriously, this prooves that some people have way to much money and just got to find a way to waste it.




ETA: It is a show on Bravo about pampered mothers that take it to a all new level:
- competition to decide who will be the godmothers to their child
- having a panel/ group to decide what they should name their baby or what people would think.
- mother wanting to buy milk from breast milk bank

[Opti]

In this world, lots of money means lots of choices. While I probably wouldn't do what they are choosing, why not use your money to fund what you want? As long as it isn't hurting someone why should you spend your money in a way to make other people happy instead of yourself?

- having a panel/ group to decide what they should name their baby or what people would think.

I can see why someone might do this. Its basically test marketing how your kid might be perceived based on name alone. They know Latisha's resume might get tossed out of the pile when Brittany's might stay in even if Brittany is less qualified on paper. As the show proves, things people with lots of money do often pisses off people with less money and fewer options.
Apparently the show is already a success.

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I am not pissed just a bit amused and found it a bit surreal: like there are folks out there willing to pay for those services.

The same way I was amused when my wife cousin emailed everyone her wish list for the birth of her baby which included but not limited to:
- what should be in her room
- what position she wants to have the baby
- she wants the baby to be put in her after birth
- she wants a few minutes alone to bond with the baby

And it was 2 pages long (also was given to the hospital staff) and I could not stop laughing.

I told my wife she better not pull this when it is our turn and keep it simple: drive her to the hospital and let the pro's handle it.

She also hired someone to teach her how to care for a child; this woman have 5 aunts and a mother... All with at least one kid. Heck I could have giving her a few lessons for free.

Knowing my wife I already said: no pregnancy books or child rearing books allowed in the house. Doing it the old fashion way: just wing it and listen to all the aunts/uncles/cousins and parents telling you how you should take care/raise a kid.

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Carl, I'm not enough a control freak to do what you described even if I was the worldest richest person. Nevertheless if the cousin was a rich celeb or oil tycoon they would follow her instructions most likely.

Good luck with the book ban. Are you going to give the wife grief if you find "What to do When you're Expecting" hidden somewhere instead of PlayGirl or erotica?

[zibazinski]

How is her job search coming? Is she still in your old apartment or with your mother or her mother or whoever she was going to stay with until she got a job in your area?

[MN-Investor]

Knowing my wife I already said: no pregnancy books or child rearing books allowed in the house. Doing it the old fashion way: just wing it and listen to all the aunts/uncles/cousins and parents telling you how you should take care/raise a kid.

I agree with you on many things, but not this! I've never been pregnant, but I do know that if I had ever been pregnant, I would check out books on pregnancy. It's a tremendous change to a person's body and a woman should know what to expect. What's normal, what's not? While the experience of relatives may be helpful, they are limited and may be totally worthless in your wife's situation. Bad information may permanently impact both the health of your wife and the health of your child.

What I would suggest, though, is that your wife check the books out from the library instead of buying them. She may check out 10, then decide that one of the ten is worth buying, but that would certainly keep costs down.

You may know experts on finance or management, and you can get terrific information from them, but does that mean you should never read management or financial books? Of course not. Same things with pregnancies.

[The Walk of the Penguin Mich]

A friend of mine had a contest to name her kid. She and her DH could not agree on the names that they came up with, so they asked their friends for help. Whomever won got a $100 gc to our favorite restaurant. Each of us (there were 8 of us in the group of friends) got 3 chances.

I didn't win, but the woman who did took us all out on the gc and we shared the balance.

Strange? Yep.....but it was fun.

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We joke in our house that my wife porn is: pottery barn, crate and barrel and ikea magazine. She waits impatiently for them to get delivered so no I would have no issue with her reading it.

Now imagine an OCD, detailed oriented person had a baby with a control freak, over achiever... That would be my wife; add in a little drama queen in there.

So yeah she would be reading every book out there, worrying about every worse case scenario, every little unease would require a trip to the ER, etc.

This is a woman that self diagnose herself with a new disease every week; she wants us to get genetically tested to see if we are compatible to have kids/recessive genes etc. (said hell no to that).

I can already see her smothering our kids, controlling our kids well into their adulthood (aka her mom and her) which is why sometimes for her own well being I need to tell her to back off and just breathe.

Case in point: she saw the apartment yesterday and started crying; went into full drama queen mode and acted as if it was the end of the world. My wife is very emotional and does not think things thru; she lets her emotions control her. And that has gone into her professional life where she takes everything personal and can't separate the two; as in cry/act as if it is the end the world if she does something wrong.

At 27 she still has an issue grasping the concept that no one is perfect and everything won't be perfect: perfect house, perfect kids, perfect employee etc. So her making a mistake is normal and I am sure her boss will understand.

The latest argument/discord is due to my boss being on vacation I can't go to her cousin wedding on June 24; so she will have to go without me. Her and her mothers biggest worry was what were people going to think?

My reaction: who gives a flying fuck?
Hers: I do and that should matter to you.

I still ain't going and don't given rat ass what other people are going to think; but yes still a big concern for both of them and now they are mad.

What is the saying: the apple did not fall far from the tree?

To both of them image Is everything, what other people think should be on your priority list. I am the complete opposite in my personal life (do have to care what others think in my professional life and project the right image).

[swamp]

Tell your wife that I sent my DH to his cousins wedding without me because it was Travers weekend at Saratoga and his family thinks I need to grow up. And I don't care v
Because I had a great time

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Jun 2, 2012 9:50:31 GMT -5 zibazinski said:

How is her job search coming? Is she still in your old apartment or with your mother or her mother or whoever she was going to stay with until she got a job in your area?

She is moving in with my mom Monday and hopefully she finds a job here soon

[zibazinski]

men. The sooner she is away from her mother, the better for both of you. Seriously, though, she needs to grow up and learn some self control. I can imagine her professionalism suffers as well.

[zibazinski]

Amen, sorry.

[midjd]

Are you guys looking into counseling? I suspect pregnancy will magnify many of the issues you mentioned (perfectionist tendencies, OCD, drama queen) and might be pretty hard to deal with at that point.