Ever broken up over money?

[The J]

Not entirely, but I'm pretty sure it was part of the reason XF left. Within 2 weeks, I was getting text alerts (since she hadn't changed them to her number) that she was overdrawn on her checking account and over the limit on her credit card.

She was a train that was insistent on wrecking I guess.

[happyhoix]

May 16, 2012 9:07:20 GMT -5 @lonewolf said:

I really wonder how many of these failed relationships has something to do with one of the spouses getting bored with the status quo.
Maybe it's natural to outgrow one another. Maybe we weren't meant to pair up for life?

I do think over time people evolve. Your priorities change, your goals in life might change, sometimes even something major changes, like your religion. Sometimes couples evolve together, and remain married, and other times one spouse stays fairly constant while the other one does not, and that's often the end of the marriage. I've seen a couple that was non-religious where the wife suddenly became very devout, several couples where the husband had a mid life crisis and took up a new hobby (like a motorcycle club), in all cases the changes were so drastic the other spouse left.

[dancinmama]

Yes, I broke up with a guy, but it was not directly because of money, but more due to the lack of ambition that I saw in him. It was just a summer romance between my freshman/sophomore year of college, so it never got very serious; but it could have very easily if I had let it.

I dated another guy for 10 months who I knew would be very successful (was headed to dental school), but who turned out to be a jerk (cheated). All the money and financial security in the world is not worth staying with someone like that.

In the end, I didn't "marry for money". When I met DH he was a full-time student working three jobs to get through. I was a student and working as an RA in the dorms. As far as money is concerned, I could tell that we were pretty much on the same page and I knew that no matter what, he would always get a job if/when he needed one. I had absolutely no vision of what we could/would eventually accomplish together.

[lurkyloo]

My BFF has had a number of serious fights with her BF of 10 years, and they all seem to come down to money. She's just not all that anal about money...not that she's not responsible, but like many people she doesn't realize till she gets the credit card bill how fast everything adds up. They've broken up a couple of times over it, but always gotten back together. I think they've sort of stabilized now, which is good.

I'm not a huge fan of his (which has more to do with what she's said about him than personal experience with him) but I have to agree with him on the money thing

[Deleted]

May 16, 2012 9:38:29 GMT -5 Taxman10 said:

May 15, 2012 21:07:11 GMT -5 @mmc said:

I dumped a HS freshman when I was in 8th grade because she didn't have a job.

you taught her a lesson!

I was working since age 10 (paper route). My women needed to pull their weight. I was pulling $140/mo cash back in 8th grade. Women were lining up.

[justme]

Not for money reasons alone, no. But I also knew the relationship would never get serious because of the money problems. (Other stuff too) But I was in college and wasn't needing serious. I don't think I'd break up over it in the future either, but that's because I don't think I could put up with it enough in the beginning to get to a point where one would have to break up to end it.

[Cookies Galore]

I used to have more Seinfeldian break-ups than over anything serious like money. But honestly, I could never be with a guy who likes Coldplay or who thought mp on a menu stood for Mexican peso.

[Miss Tequila]

I've never broken up with anyone over money...then again, I met my husband when I was still in high school so I was way too young to care about money before him.

[Deleted]

Broken up with? No. Declined to pursue relationship after initial date? Absolutely. First turn off, absolutely desparate for marriage and kids (as in, as long as I was female I seemed to qualify). Second, he spoke about making 35k a year as some great, far off dream (nothing against making 35k, but this guy was 5 years older than me and I already made more than double that. Also dropped clues that he was not great at managing money. So I felt that I would end up as the manager/mom in the relationship and I want a partner).

[hurley1980]

I broke up with my ex fiance because of money. He seemed to think he was entitled to spend all of mine and make none of his own, even though he was able bodied, and we had no kids. He sat at home all day drinking whiskey, smoking cigs, and watching sports, while I worked 10 hour days. He didn't even keep the house clean, all he did was cook (sometimes). He wouldn't even get a minimum wage job. He INSISTED on starting a business, than made maybe $500 a month, and instead of giving it to me to help pay our bills, he would blow it at the casino. Then he told everyone he was blindsided when we broke up, everyone was like "REALLY?!?!?!"

Last I heard he got his 3rd DUI and was on house arrest for 2 months. I think he might have a new gf now that he leeches off of, because he obviously doesn't have a job still.

My current fiance wasn't much better about saving/spending when we met, but hes a hard working man, with the ability to make alot of income, so as long as he contributes to his retirement account, and helps with expenses and bills, I'm not that worried about it. He wants to have joint accounts when we marry, and for me to give him an allowance, which works fine for me. He hates paying bills, so I will just have everything auto paid, and auto transfers to savings, IRAs etc. Plus, hes really hot, which makes any extra effort on my part worth it.

[thyme4change]

I don't know if my college BF and I broke up over money - but the whole relationship really unraveled when I was getting ready to graduate and he was farting around. He had money problems - but we all did, debt, credit cards, no jobs. I was keenly aware that his attitude towards money was different than mine. And I was really waking up to the fact that he was very lazy, and only worked when he was backed into a corner. It didn't feel like I was breaking up with him because of money, but I'm sure that the obvious lifestyle difference was in force. He was, most definitely, not YM approved.

About 18 months after we broke up I found out he was getting married to someone with my same name. Weird. They are divorced, and I'm under the impression he is a pot-smoking union member now. Too bad, as I don't see skilled labor as his best course of action. But whatever, I hope he is happy. He was a really nice guy. Really kind, really fun, really sweet.

[zibazinski]

[weltschmerz]

Ever broken up over money?
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I'm always broken up over money.
I don't have any.