zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 25, 2011 11:01:35 GMT -5
I have a friend from college, male, who has been my friend for 35 years now. I'm in Florida doing some stuff and am going to be here thru the weekend. Friend is coming down to a city nearby and wants to get together for a drink. I feel guilty because he is such a good time and DF isn't. So I am looking forward to getting together with him. He likes to do stuff that I like to do. Don't get me wrong, I love DF, but he's got health issues and can't do much so it's almost like getting out of childcare for the evening. Am I wrong to feel this way? He's more fun than my girlfriends even. Just a happy guy and everyone likes him and he's just fun. But I almost feel guilty for looking forward to his visit because of the reasons why.
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The J
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Post by The J on Jan 25, 2011 11:04:23 GMT -5
As long as you're not looking forward to the visit for sex, and you're not hiding the visit from DF, I don't see a need to be guilty.
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 25, 2011 11:08:01 GMT -5
Nope, no sex and, yes, DF knows. I just feel guilty about being excited to do something fun. Like DF isn't fun. He is just in quieter ways which is fine most of the time but sometimes I just want to have fun in the ways that I find fun.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on Jan 25, 2011 11:09:14 GMT -5
Sure, why not enjoy his company? Oh, and we will try to keep the weather nice here for ya.
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Post by lisabelle on Jan 25, 2011 11:09:38 GMT -5
Life is short, go for it! The guitly feeling is a waste of time so make it go away and have a fun night!
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 25, 2011 11:11:36 GMT -5
I just feel that it's wrong to be so excited about doing something without DF, like it's a slam against him. I'd LOVE to party with DF but he can't so I don't.
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Post by dancinmama on Jan 25, 2011 11:14:41 GMT -5
Nope, no sex and, yes, DF knows. I just feel guilty about being excited to do something fun. Like DF isn't fun. He is just in quieter ways which is fine most of the time but sometimes I just want to have fun in the ways that I find fun. If it were me, I'd really rethink spending your entire life with someone who you obviously feel you can not have as much fun with as you would like in your life. Love or no love - you're talking about a LIFETIME!! I had a friend who's first husband was the NICEST guy. She divorced him because he was more of a homebody - he didn't want to go out and have fun as often as she did. She married him because she loved him; she still does. They had two kids together and are really good friends, but she realized that she could not spend a lifetime with him. NOTE: Never mind; I see you're not a kid. Go for it and have a great time.
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Post by lisabelle on Jan 25, 2011 11:15:14 GMT -5
It doesn't change how you feel about him right? Sounds like this guy is a long lost friend and you should have no worries and your DF would probably want you to have a good time since he can't or doesn't want to.
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Post by efco on Jan 25, 2011 11:29:27 GMT -5
What is DF? TY
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zibazinski
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 25, 2011 11:53:41 GMT -5
He's got health issues and I knew it going into it. I do love him and because, yes, I am old, too, most of the time I'm okay with it but sometimes I just want to have fun again. I'm not a constant barhopper but sometimes I want to go out drinking, dancing, and listening to rock and roll. Just have fun!!!! My college bud I THINK might be not into women. He is married and has grown boys but has lived apart from his wife for many years.
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