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Post by Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ on Mar 16, 2012 14:44:57 GMT -5
Any of you out there, ever toss that big Matzoh Ball out there, and get romantically involved with someone that you have known for a long time?
How did it go?
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2012 14:46:09 GMT -5
I thought you'd never ask.
The answer is yes.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2012 14:48:14 GMT -5
No.
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 16, 2012 14:48:25 GMT -5
I have and it didn't work. I had been friends with this guy since gradeschool. We had both gotten divorced and met one another in the grocery store one night. We caught up with each other's lives and he ended up asking me to dinner. He had grown from this lanky freckled kid into a very nice looking and apparently hard-working and responsible man. I accepted. I figured what can a dinner hurt, right?
All I could think about the entire night was how, in 3rd grade, he picked his nose and rubbed the results under the desk. Couldn't get past it.
Sometimes, you just know TOO much about somebody to have a relationship with them.
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Post by lexxy703 on Mar 16, 2012 14:48:45 GMT -5
I was friends with my Ex for about 6 years before we started dating. We were together as a couple a little over 13 years.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 16, 2012 14:53:45 GMT -5
I have and it didn't work. I had been friends with this guy since gradeschool. We had both gotten divorced and met one another in the grocery store one night. We caught up with each other's lives and he ended up asking me to dinner. He had grown from this lanky freckled kid into a very nice looking and apparently hard-working and responsible man. I accepted. I figured what can a dinner hurt, right? All I could think about the entire night was how, in 3rd grade, he picked his nose and rubbed the results under the desk. Couldn't get past it. Sometimes, you just know TOO much about somebody to have a relationship with them. You were thinking about something he did in third grade ?!?!! |
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Post by Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ on Mar 16, 2012 14:55:28 GMT -5
There is this woman I met about 17 years ago, at a country western joint in NJ. It was my first night there, I asked her to dance and she said no. Five seconds later some other hamster asks her to dance and she says yes. A funny meet-cute.
Anyway fast forward a few months we became acquainted and what not, but she was dating some guy for quite a long time. I've seen her frequently at local dance events.
A few years ago she breaks up with this guy...and recently we met at a local event and started becoming chumsy-wumsy.
So we are going out Saturday to a movie(The Vow), getting some vittles...then going Argentine Tango dancing.
She is 57, thin, nice looking, 5' 5"... a real goof ball.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Mar 16, 2012 14:57:20 GMT -5
Any of you out there, ever toss that big Matzoh Ball out there, and get romantically involved with someone that you have known for a long time? How did it go? Does knowing them as kids count? My DH lived across the street from my BFF who baby sat him (over 4 years younger than I) and his little sister. And he was best friends with my younger brothers. It's going very well and we've been together 25 years. Are you on the market AGAIN?!  |
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Post by Green Eyed Lady on Mar 16, 2012 14:57:49 GMT -5
I couldn't help it. I'm strange that way....and in many others.
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Post by femmefatale on Mar 16, 2012 20:47:09 GMT -5
I have never dated anyone I knew for a long time.
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Post by kent on Mar 16, 2012 21:32:09 GMT -5
Any of you out there, ever toss that big Matzoh Ball out there, and get romantically involved with someone that you have known for a long time? How did it go? I did it once but it turned out to be just a "fling" for both of us. Not that it wasn't a lot of fun. Go for it and see what happens.  |
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Post by Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ on Mar 18, 2012 8:51:26 GMT -5
Here is an update of the date last evening. Movie was pretty good. We went to the movie theater in Bridgewater Commons in NJ, if any of you are familiar with that area, it is located in a big mall. I have not been there in quite a number of years. They've changed the layout of the theaters and the seats are in groups of two, like love seats. They also serve food right in the theater via waiter service. Part way through the movie we get chumsy-wumsy, being that the seats are like a couch. Left the theater and went to eat.... talked some more....then drove to Princeton to this dance gig. We were laughing so much and so hard most of the night, she strained a stomach muscle. I had a headache from laughing, my head still hurts. At the end of the night it was pretty hot....  Here is an interesting piece of trivia, the movie, dinner(chinese place), and the dance, each cost $24. |
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Post by Savoir Faire-Demogague in NJ on Mar 18, 2012 9:13:25 GMT -5
I did it SF -- knew my husband back in high school, even dated him for a short time back then. Fast forward 15 years or so and we re-connected and later got married. It's been 8 years of marriage and 10 years since reconnecting and we still like each other.  Great story! A couple of people I knew in college up in Rhode Island, the guy was on the track team with me, and he and this woman were palsy-walsy. Don't recall if they dated back then. But he was from outside of Boston, she from western Connecticut. After we graduated they went their separate ways. Fast forward 35 years later, they happened to hookup on facebook, and right now he is moving from Boston to CT, to move in with her. |
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Post by zinruff on Mar 21, 2012 9:47:25 GMT -5
I did that. We had worked together for 10+ years, and suddenly the love bug bit us. It didn't work out well, and I feel that I lost a good friend. (HD is history?)
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Post by InsertCoolName on Mar 22, 2012 9:29:11 GMT -5
Well DH has known me my whole life. Our families went to the same church. It took me a few years before I "knew" him. Hew went to school k-12 with my older sister. We've been together for almost 10 yrs now, married 7 yrs in 4 days. I still kinda like him. I would even marry him again.  |
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Post by femmefatale on Jun 1, 2012 12:24:11 GMT -5
I think it's always good to become friends before lovers. Get to know each other somewhat before hooking up romantically. You can't be lovers if you can't be friends, unless of course, it's just a booty call kinda thing.
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Post by moxie on Jun 1, 2012 12:29:34 GMT -5
The ONLY one I dated for a long time was my husband...five years, and then he was given an ultimatum...marry me or else I'm walkin'! ;D
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Post by moxie on Jun 1, 2012 12:29:56 GMT -5
^I am rather bossy like that. hehe
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Post by femmefatale on Jun 1, 2012 12:46:55 GMT -5
The ONLY one I dated for a long time was my husband...five years, and then he was given an ultimatum...marry me or else I'm walkin'! ;D I'm a bossy one, too, Mox. But I think you knew that already. ;D |
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Post by femmefatale on Jun 1, 2012 12:57:26 GMT -5
^I am rather bossy like that. hehe Remember...it's teehee... ;D |
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Post by moxie on Jun 1, 2012 12:59:29 GMT -5
He still likes my bossy side...three decades later...  Gotta keep 'em in line, right?!? lol |
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Post by femmefatale on Jun 1, 2012 13:19:37 GMT -5
He still likes my bossy side...three decades later... Gotta keep 'em in line, right?!? lol Men like feisty women..I don't care what they say. ;D |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 1, 2012 15:06:14 GMT -5
Any of you out there, ever toss that big Matzoh Ball out there, and get romantically involved with someone that you have known for a long time? How did it go? I like the hard to get and the new and the rush...but I'm also sane and love long term relationships I would never get romantically involved with a lady that I have known for a long time as a friend. If I have known her for a long time as a friend, I wasn't physically attracted to her. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 31, 2012 22:52:22 GMT -5
Sex can mess up a perfectly good friendship.
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Post by Genuine GA Peach on Dec 29, 2012 19:33:22 GMT -5
DH & I met at work in 1988. We got to be really good friends. After my divorce I didn't really trust anybody so we went out as friends. Eventually I wanted more than just the friendship...and he FINALLY figured it out.
We've been married 12 1/2 years. I still think of him as my best friend.
Every once in a while he'll try to convince me he'd NEVER do something that I already know he did (from the stuff he confided when we were friends). He always says that if he'd known we'd end up married he never would have told me half the stuff he did!
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Post by Genuine GA Peach on Dec 29, 2012 19:34:19 GMT -5
Sex can mess up a perfectly good friendship. I did make DH promise that he'd still be my friend, no matter what. I was pretty sure he could keep that promise because he's still good buddies with the only other woman he ever asked to marry him. |
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Post by kgb18 on Jan 14, 2013 21:54:02 GMT -5
Yep. I dated a friend. It was a disaster. It was partially my own fault. I should have known he wasn't ready to get into a relationship, but I really loved him and thought it would work out. It didn't. I was absolutely heartbroken. He had a little girl. I lost my boyfriend, my friend and a child all in one fell swoop.
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Gotta keep 'em in line, right?!? lol
