The J
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Post by The J on Jan 21, 2011 11:04:42 GMT -5
Pick up the phone Duh, the second woman makes our job easier, since she takes care of some of the work I know somebody who has an open marriage -- she wanted it, I'm pretty sure her husband didn't. They're most likely getting divorced soon. I'm not sure how exactly it worked, but she pretty much slept around as she pleased.
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kimber45
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Post by kimber45 on Jan 21, 2011 11:07:28 GMT -5
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2011 11:12:51 GMT -5
Naked World is a website for swingers and has 2 million members. Well 4 million I guess, since the members are couples. (It doesn't matter how I know that!) So someone is doing it and liking it.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2011 11:16:16 GMT -5
And a whole bunch of people are now googling Naked World
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Post by efco on Jan 21, 2011 11:16:24 GMT -5
I'd hit you, later. wait....I did.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2011 11:17:08 GMT -5
I'd hit you, later. wait....I did.
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Post by jennml on Jan 21, 2011 11:19:34 GMT -5
So does anybody have direct experience with an open relationship? or know someone who is in one that works? Sounds like some of you have thought about it but the logistics muck it up or it's more of a fantasy kinda option (nice to imagine but wouldn't ever practice). It's nice to hear so many say they'd never cheat...clearly the guys I know are a different breed I guess they've jaded me a bit.
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Post by kygirl on Jan 21, 2011 11:19:50 GMT -5
I respect everyone's viewpoints here, but there is no way in hell I would ever have an open marriage. If I want to sleep with different people then I wouldn't get married.
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Post by efco on Jan 21, 2011 11:22:39 GMT -5
If later wasn't hanging around, Jenn...I'd offer ta take you out on a date. I would make an excellent BF. You would be happy with me.
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Bob Ross
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Post by Bob Ross on Jan 21, 2011 11:22:57 GMT -5
DF knows a couple who has an open marriage. He's bi and I'm pretty sure she is too. I guess the original plan was that each had to approve of whoever the other one slept with, but that didn't always happen. They've also got two kids. Ages around 7 and 8 I think. The kids know what their parents do (among other things), and I'm sure will grow up effed up. Anyways, the couple is separated now. Oh and did I mention that they're crazy?
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Post by efco on Jan 21, 2011 11:23:18 GMT -5
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Post by jennml on Jan 21, 2011 11:26:26 GMT -5
If later wasn't hanging around, Jenn...I'd offer ta take you out on a date. I would make an excellent BF. You would be happy with me. Ah, but would you be happy with just me? That is the question
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Miss Tequila
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Post by Miss Tequila on Jan 21, 2011 11:29:02 GMT -5
Oh hell no. I would seriously not be ok with an open marriage. I also don't understand how anyone else would be ok with it, but since it doesn't involve me I don't care what someone else does in their marriage.
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Post by jennml on Jan 21, 2011 11:29:37 GMT -5
DF knows a couple who has an open marriage. He's bi and I'm pretty sure she is too.
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Post by efco on Jan 21, 2011 11:30:29 GMT -5
I would be happy with just girl who loved me and only me...for who I am. And I would do the same.
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Post by jennml on Jan 21, 2011 11:33:27 GMT -5
I would be happy with just girl who loved me and only me...for who I am. And I would do the same. Are you a member of Eharmony??? LMAO you'd fit right in
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Cookies Galore
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Post by Cookies Galore on Jan 21, 2011 11:34:54 GMT -5
I'm fine with the concept for the couples that it works for, but I know it wouldn't work for me. I am not the type to share and my jealousy would drive me crazy. BF's ex wanted an open relationship and he was okay with it, but it was really just an excuse for her to cheat on him guilt-free with the woman she ended up leaving him for. If both partners want to expand their relationship, that's fine, but I have no respect for those who suggest it so they can cheat and string someone along. We are friends with a married couple who have a girlfriend for the last couple of years. It seems to be working for them. I'd recommend reading the Savage Love column; Dan Savage gets a lot of letters about open and polyamorous relationships.
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Post by efco on Jan 21, 2011 11:40:07 GMT -5
of what? later everybody. i got ta go outside and get some firewood in.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 21, 2011 12:15:08 GMT -5
I was just curious as to what everyone thought about such arrangements, either between BF/GF or Husband/Wife. The wedding ring is like a sign that she belongs to someone else. If someone can't read that I would be happy to explain it to them. No fooling around with other people. I didn't get married for that.
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Post by kygirl on Jan 21, 2011 12:25:34 GMT -5
I just sent you a message.
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quotequeen
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Post by quotequeen on Jan 21, 2011 13:08:39 GMT -5
I would be very hurt if my husband suggested it.
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Post by olderburgher on Jan 21, 2011 14:21:30 GMT -5
What do I think about them? Wait a minute and I'll ask my wife.
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whiskmav
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Post by whiskmav on Jan 21, 2011 14:29:42 GMT -5
The swinger skit on SNL with Christopher Walken.....priceless.
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Post by ummboutthat on Jan 21, 2011 14:30:25 GMT -5
Honestly, if I wanted an open relationship I would just date. For me, the idea of a relationship or marriage is the exclusive commitment between two people. I would not be okay with my husband seeing/sleeping with other women and I know he would not be okay with me doing it either. If the time comes that my husband or I no longer fulfill each other's needs/wants/life, etc. and we feel we need to find other people, then it's time for the marriage to end. good point it would be dating not relationship. sounds like Jen is gathering info for a report for one of her college classes?
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 21, 2011 14:55:33 GMT -5
Like others have said, I really don't care what other consenting adults do. If they want to F up their marriages, that's their business. It's not for me though. Honestly, I'm not even sure I'd do the two girl threesome. It's fine as a fantasy, but I don't want to compete with a woman in bed. I'm probably mediocre compared to other guys, pretty much any woman would probably blow Loop's mind. I don't need to spend the rest of my life trying to live up to that.
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Peace Of Mind
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 21, 2011 14:57:07 GMT -5
Naked World is a website for swingers and has 2 million members. Well 4 million I guess, since the members are couples. (It doesn't matter how I know that!) So someone is doing it and liking it. I'm still wondering how you know this.
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Peace Of Mind
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 21, 2011 14:59:20 GMT -5
My brother and his wife did this. She claimed she only did it to make him happy. They lasted way longer than anybody thought (over 20 years) but it ended ugly. And SHE is the one that wanted to stay in the marriage! I'll never understand that one.
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Sum Dum Gai
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Post by Sum Dum Gai on Jan 21, 2011 15:07:22 GMT -5
I'm still wondering how you know this. Think about her age. Pretty much everyone is married, and none of them are old enough to be widowers. She either dates the few losers that were passed over by every other woman on the planet, or she's the third wheel for married couples that are a bit freaky. Not that there's anything wrong with that. I'd probably sleep with the married couples instead of the rejects if I was in her shoes.
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Peace Of Mind
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 21, 2011 15:08:34 GMT -5
True. Everybody knows all the good ones are already taken.
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Post by jennml on Jan 21, 2011 15:45:00 GMT -5
[sounds like Jen is gathering info for a report for one of her college classes? I wish!!! I'm sure I'd manage at least an "A" with you guys helping me out ;D
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