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Post by Sharon on May 12, 2023 18:43:27 GMT -5
I worked in the yard all day not that you can really tell, there is still so much to do. When I came inside I was such a dirty dusty mess I'm surprised the shower didn't clog. Hopefully I can find the energy to do a small grocery run tonight. Tomorrow I will have both of DD's dogs since it is chicken butchering day.
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Post by busymom on May 12, 2023 20:22:48 GMT -5
Good Evening Kids! It's been a week. Glad we've made it to the weekend. I'm dealing with a fresh batch of problems, thanks to a screw-up with DS's insurance company, but it should be resolved in about a month, or so they say. Sorry about the family drama, toomuchreality. I agree with the earlier advice of just focus on the grandkids. Whatever is going on will come to light soon enough.
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Post by busymom on May 12, 2023 20:31:30 GMT -5
BTW, I need to emphasize that it's the insurance company that made the mistake. I just need to make sure they fix it, or DH's specialist won't get paid. I do get tired of "fixing" other people's mistakes.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 12, 2023 22:49:36 GMT -5
BTW, I need to emphasize that it's the insurance company that made the mistake. I just need to make sure they fix it, or DH's specialist won't get paid. I do get tired of "fixing" other people's mistakes. Fixing, or even just dealing with other people's mistakes is aggravating. Sorry you have to deal with it.
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Post by Sharon on May 13, 2023 8:54:25 GMT -5
I'm dog sitting today. The original plan was to just have the older dog but in a moment of something I told DD I would take both dogs. Older dog is an Australian Shepherd and the pup (about 6 months old) is Springer Spaniel. The pup has only been to my house a couple of times and doesn't really know about staying with Grandma.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 13, 2023 9:24:49 GMT -5
Happy Saturday, peeps! I got the anesthesia out of my brain a bit a swim practice, then a grocery store and fish store stop. I got shrimp and scallops for tonight. Going to make a shore dinner with roasted corn on the cob and red potatoes. I make extra potatoes, then let them cool and make an egg potato salad with the leftovers.
I am volunteering at a kids' swim meet tomorrow, and then my friend and his daughter and I are hoping to meet up for lunch. He's the one who used the neurosurgeon I will be seeing next month, and he had great success with his outcome. So picking his brain (no pun intended) is in order.
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Post by Sharon on May 13, 2023 9:58:38 GMT -5
I need to get out in the yard before it gets hot this afternoon. So far today every time I get down low I get puppy kisses. I don't need a constant stream of puppy kisses while trying to weed.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 13, 2023 10:47:49 GMT -5
I'm dog sitting today. The original plan was to just have the older dog but in a moment of something I told DD I would take both dogs. Older dog is an Australian Shepherd and the pup (about 6 months old) is Springer Spaniel. The pup has only been to my house a couple of times and doesn't really know about staying with Grandma. We had a Springer spaniel growing up. She was a wonderful family dog and a great hunting dog.
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Post by busymom on May 13, 2023 10:53:47 GMT -5
Good Morning Kids! I generally keep the dogs in the house while I'm working in the yard, LOL! I can see why when you're dog sitting, you wouldn't want to lock them in the house, in case they decide to pee in the house, or damage furniture. We sent a bouquet of flowers to my MIL for Mother's Day. The poor dear is slipping into Alzheimer's, or dementia. I wonder if she'll even remember who sent them to her? But, she was always kind to me, so she deserves flowers, whether she remembers or not. Looks like we're getting an average Spring rainy day. I won't complain, as it helps the grass grow, and the flowers bloom. (Plus, paying for water in our town is getting expensive!) My tulips are blooming nicely, the bleeding hearts aren't tall this year, but are already beginning to bloom. And, I expect in the next week or two my lilacs will begin to flower. I LOVE this time of the year!
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Post by Sharon on May 13, 2023 18:05:06 GMT -5
The kids chose a Springer Spaniel for their second dog because they are supposed to be such good family dogs. She doesn't really know me that well but is certainly happy to follow me around and lay on my feet whatever I'm doing. The dogs did stay in most of the day because I ended up doing quite a bit of spraying today. It wasn't too windy this morning so it was a good time to get at it. The low stuff is pretty much done but I still need to get out the tall ladder and do the fruit trees. I was just too tired to be dragging around an 8 ft ladder or even the 10 ft ladder. I'm going to have to find another irrigation person as I fell in the yard today hauling hoses trying to water the lawn. Because I had my hands full of hose I fell straight flat down, knocked my wind out, and now I have a beautiful 6 inch bruise on my leg from tripping over one of the sprinkler heads. My salad is made for tomorrow and the fresh lettuce has been cleaned while the old lettuce got tossed. Tomorrow I just need to cook up some bacon and tear it into small pieces to add to my salad. We are keeping it simple for Mother's day, burgers on the grill, chips, and salad. DD is going to make a dessert, last I heard it would be chocolate cake. toomuchreality I hope you enjoyed watching your grandkids perform at their recital. I always enjoy recitals because the kids have worked so hard. The little ones are especially cute because they don't really know their left from their right yet.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 13, 2023 18:16:42 GMT -5
OK, dinner is cleaned up (the scallops and shrimp were fab, and I bought enough shrimp for DH to eat at another meal), and I have my stuff out for tomorrow. Hopefully, the meet will go smoothly, as we are supposed to be done by 1 p.m., since it is Mother's Day.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 13, 2023 18:59:40 GMT -5
The kids chose a Springer Spaniel for their second dog because they are supposed to be such good family dogs. She doesn't really know me that well but is certainly happy to follow me around and lay on my feet whatever I'm doing. The dogs did stay in most of the day because I ended up doing quite a bit of spraying today. It wasn't too windy this morning so it was a good time to get at it. The low stuff is pretty much done but I still need to get out the tall ladder and do the fruit trees. I was just too tired to be dragging around an 8 ft ladder or even the 10 ft ladder. I'm going to have to find another irrigation person as I fell in the yard today hauling hoses trying to water the lawn. Because I had my hands full of hose I fell straight flat down, knocked my wind out, and now I have a beautiful 6 inch bruise on my leg from tripping over one of the sprinkler heads. My salad is made for tomorrow and the fresh lettuce has been cleaned while the old lettuce got tossed. Tomorrow I just need to cook up some bacon and tear it into small pieces to add to my salad. We are keeping it simple for Mother's day, burgers on the grill, chips, and salad. DD is going to make a dessert, last I heard it would be chocolate cake. toomuchreality I hope you enjoyed watching your grandkids perform at their recital. I always enjoy recitals because the kids have worked so hard. The little ones are especially cute because they don't really know their left from their right yet. I'm so sorry that you fell and got hurt! Dang. And a big bruise too. I hope it feels and looks better tomorrow. I made it through the day. It didn't start out real well. But it ended up okay. And I absolutely agree. Watching the little ones, are the cutest. I got lucky, because other people gave them bouquets of flowers afterwards, which they weren't really interested in. And I took them big (not huge) Hershey kisses, in a fancy little box. And those, they were very interested in! 😊 We went to lunch after, which was okay, but I didn't like my food. Now I just need to get through an early breakfast in the morning and a simple BBQ later in the day, and I'll be through with this holiday. And DD2 apologized, saying she's sorry things have been weird between us lately, so that was nice. I hope everyone enjoys their day tomorrow.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 14, 2023 6:41:42 GMT -5
Yikes! I haven't slept yet and need to get up in 1/2 hr to get ready to go to Mother's day breakfast.
Sometime afterward, I will go to the cemetery for my grandmother, mother and sister.
Followed by dinner at DD2 and her spouse.
Enjoy your day, whatever you do. You deserve it! ❤ ♡ ❤ Happy Mother's Day!
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Post by Opti on May 14, 2023 6:54:56 GMT -5
Not a mom to humans, just critters, so will work on a text to my sister since mom is dead. Might send something to dad as well, since he is the only parent left.
Hope all the mothers enjoy their Mother's Day or if not, find some time to themselves to do what they want.
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Post by Opti on May 14, 2023 6:56:20 GMT -5
I'm dog sitting today. The original plan was to just have the older dog but in a moment of something I told DD I would take both dogs. Older dog is an Australian Shepherd and the pup (about 6 months old) is Springer Spaniel. The pup has only been to my house a couple of times and doesn't really know about staying with Grandma. How do you like the Australian Sheperd?
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Post by busymom on May 14, 2023 7:10:37 GMT -5
Good Morning Kids! Happy Mother's Day!
It's cloudy & rainy this morning. After church, DD will be here for lunch.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 14, 2023 8:33:46 GMT -5
It's a rainy day. Dark and gloomy.
The cats didn't get me any gifts so I will go into hiding for the day as I miss my mom.
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Post by Sharon on May 14, 2023 8:38:27 GMT -5
I'm dog sitting today. The original plan was to just have the older dog but in a moment of something I told DD I would take both dogs. Older dog is an Australian Shepherd and the pup (about 6 months old) is Springer Spaniel. The pup has only been to my house a couple of times and doesn't really know about staying with Grandma. How do you like the Australian Sheperd? The Aussie is about 9 years old and they have had her since she was 6 weeks old. We are good buddies and she loves coming to see Grandma. I was mostly keeping the dogs because of the Aussie, you are either in her pack or you aren't. There isn't any gray area about that, never has been. They were going to have other people, who aren't part of the family, up at the house so she wanted the Aussie gone for the day so she wouldn't have to stay tied up all day.
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Post by Sharon on May 14, 2023 9:49:44 GMT -5
When DD picked up the dogs yesterday she brought me some leftover blueberry coffee cake for breakfast today. It was delicious.
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Post by Sharon on May 14, 2023 11:51:15 GMT -5
Guess no church of me today, I have a flat tire. I knew I ran over something yesterday and dragged it along for a short period of time. As I slowed down to pull over it dislodged. At the time I thought it was part of a tumbleweed but I wonder if wasn't some metal fencing. The landowner in that area was burning the tumbleweeds along the fence line, which is a thing around here, and badly burned a bunch of his fence posts. That section of fence is now all torn down. It may have also been deliberate since there aren't animals in that field, just asparagus. Easier to just burn the fence down rather than haul it off to a burn pile.
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Post by NancysSummerSip on May 14, 2023 14:53:21 GMT -5
I am back. peeps. Long day, a few helicopter parents to deal with, but the kids behaved. I took out chicken for chicken Marsala; I hope it thaws.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 14, 2023 23:16:51 GMT -5
Not a mom to humans, just critters, so will work on a text to my sister since mom is dead. Might send something to dad as well, since he is the only parent left. Hope all the mothers enjoy their Mother's Day or if not, find some time to themselves to do what they want. Hugs to you, as well. Being an animal mom, can be equally as challenging and rewarding. ♡
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Post by toomuchreality on May 15, 2023 4:28:27 GMT -5
After all the drama that's gone on with my daughters. I did what you all suggested and went to the dance recital yesterday, to watch the girls perform. I'm glad I did. DD2 thanked me for coming and apologized for how things have been weird for awhile. She also acknowledged the the timing of she and her husband, when we had our chat, followed by her telling me, I wasn't going to be needed to watch the girls, was not good and she could see how that could come off poorly and some other things. I'm still trying to deal with it all, but I feel like we're moving in a positive direction. So that's good. DD1 snapped my head off unnecessarily yesterday at the recital, but we seem to have worked through that. And today was not such a bad day, after all. I'm happy about that. I do think it's pretty likely, that DD1 was being so nice today, is because she and her wife have been invited to go to Croatia for a week, with her friend (they'll stay with her friend's family and she is a supervisor for an airline, so the cost to go will be minimal), BUT they will need a dog and house sitter (me) in order to go. One of their three dogs has been really sick, for a couple of years, and requires a lot of care, 24/7. Not something a friend or neighbor, or even a place could, or would likely do. Plus she's really old and has trouble walking or standing, so she has to be carried outside to go potty, then brought back inside and given meds several times a day. It's a lot of work. Plus there's 2 other dogs. They just brought this up to me, tonight. Telling me that they have no one else that can/will do it, esp for that long.
With my heart and medication issues, I don't know that I can continue being her dog sitter any more. I just know she is very hopeful. I have done this for her several times a year, for the last 5-10 years. Although they haven't all been for a week, or more. It's getting to be too much for me, as well as too often.
This is the 2nd dog that she's had, that seriously could die at any moment, even now, that she's left with me to care for, while she's traveled internationally. If the dog dies, even if I could reach her and she could catch an immediate flight home, that leaves me dealing with the dog/situation, for a LONG time, until she gets home. And truthfully, she wouldn't likely be able to get on a flight home that quickly, considering she won't have a car while she's there and will be dependent on the family of a friend and whatever plans they have, before she could even get to the airport. Then she'd and her wife would have to wait for a flight plus fly standby. So it would likely be an very long time, before she would get home. And that's assuming nothing went wrong, or there were no delays.
Nope. I don't think this is something I can do for her. Not this time. I hope they can find someone else, willing to do it, so they can go.
This sounds harsh, which is not my intention, by this is not my responsibility. I need to remember that.
I hope you all had a good day.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 15, 2023 10:04:20 GMT -5
toomuchreality I would not take on the responsibility of caring for a sick, elderly, probably dying dog. At too separate times when I had out of town plans why I had very sick cats, I boarded them with a vet so they could still receive the care they needed. That is your daughter and her wife should be doing.
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Post by jerseygirl on May 15, 2023 13:00:25 GMT -5
Wow toomuchreality your daughters really seem to try taking advantage of you and aren’t kind to you
Sorry but good to see in your posts that you are standing up for yourself. Asking you to take care of a very sick and needy dog isn’t right at all!
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Post by toomuchreality on May 15, 2023 23:39:29 GMT -5
Thank you. I appreciate your thoughts and support, as I currently don't have anyone in my "real" life, that I talk to, to help me decide if I'm way off base, in my thinking. I really need to get a therapist again. But finding one that's a good fit, without a referral from someone who knows me well (like a current therapist, or psychiatrist), is hard.
Thanks, again!
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Post by busymom on May 16, 2023 0:31:02 GMT -5
I agree that you shouldn't be responsible for a dying dog. In fact, I'll go so far to say that if the pup is THAT sick, it would be merciful to end the suffering, and allow it to cross the Rainbow Bridge. We've had to take 2 dogs to the vet over the years to be put down, and yes, it's awful, but I think it's worse to force a suffering fur baby to keep going because someone doesn't want to lose it. JMHO.
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Post by toomuchreality on May 16, 2023 1:03:27 GMT -5
I agree that you shouldn't be responsible for a dying dog. In fact, I'll go so far to say that if the pup is THAT sick, it would be merciful to end the suffering, and allow it to cross the Rainbow Bridge. We've had to take 2 dogs to the vet over the years to be put down, and yes, it's awful, but I think it's worse to force a suffering fur baby to keep going because someone doesn't want to lose it. JMHO. She said that her dad told her that, recently. And it really pissed her off. She doesn't think it's time yet. After all, the dog has lived for 2 years with this problem. Apparently it's a neurological issue and the dog can't figure out where her feet/legs are, anymore. I couldn't deal with it, like she has. But after hearing what she said to her dad, I just kept my thoughts to myself, regarding that. It's going to upset her, when I tell her I can't dog and house sit for her. The last time I took care of her dogs, a few years ago, when her other dog was dying, she ended up coming home early (not because I said she needed to) and the dog died not long after (Christmas night). We didn't talk for months, because of it. I don't want to go through that again, with her. So I've tried to make it very clear, what issues I'm having physically and how it impacts my ability to care for her sick dog. She can be the sweetest, nicest person you've ever met. But she can also be very harsh. I'm hoping for the best. Thanks for your thoughts.
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Post by TheOtherMe on May 16, 2023 9:53:09 GMT -5
I have had to have more cats euthanized than I care to remember. The first was in 1995. I always say I won't get another one, but I always do. It's a difficult decision to know when the time is right.
I was selfish with my very first cat and the vet finally told me it was time to put him down. He was doing a routine teeth cleaning and found all kinds of things while doing it. He also said the anesthesia wasn't cutting his pain. I finally listened. I now know I let him go on far too long with a very poor quality of life because I couldn't bear to lose him.
I haven't made that mistake again. It wasn't fair to him.
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