Anxiety

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How do you deal with anxiety?

Not very well, initially.

Once initial wears off, I then began the arduous task of separating what is actually going on in that moment and what's not.. If there's something that can be done realistically/tangibly to help turn the woe around, I make attempts to do so.. If not, it is what it is. I must be diligent to adapt, mentally until change come. <-- And therein lies my hope.

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Can I ask you, Lone, what your Chiro suggested to help calm your rage..

Snerd.. Is the sublingual B12 the kind held under the tongue (tablet form)? Just wondering if that's something I took before..

I tend to withdraw from everything and everyone when extreme anxiety seems like it's taking over my reactions to every little thing.. I understand, in part, what you experience at times, Lone.. I will definitely give the magnesium great consideration and do a google on it this evening..

Pssst.. I just felt a little anxiety when my computer shutdown a few moments ago, all on it's own.. My battery died on me.. Needless anxiety, Dapne.. I didn't give attention to the evidence..

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I have a friend of mine who struggles with such anxiety, she literally counts to 100 or beyond if the anxiety is extreme.. I guess that's one form of trying to cope ..

[toomuchreality]

Just wondering... Do you get anxiety when you don't do what others want you to do? Or when you have to confront someone??? I do. I absolutely hate arguing, and almost never confront anyone. I end up thinking I am wrong, and beating myself up either way. It's a no win situation usually.

This morning about 9:30 my neighbor called, asked me to help him cuz he'd fallen on the stairs. Of course I helped. He asked me to take him to the ER, and I said I would. He thinks he might have broken ribs, but wanted to take a shower first... Throughout the day I checked to see if he was ready to go, cuz I needed to do other things. He wasn't. Finally around 5 PM he said he hoped to be ready in about 15 minutes, explaining that he'd had to clean mud off the carpet, and clean his bathroom. Then, he said another friend had stopped by to visit, so he'd let me know when the friend left. Seriously??! This doesn't seem like much of an emergency to me. My whole day has been disrupted, and now (6:30PM) I'm supposed to go sit at the E.R. for a few hours? I'll feel taken advantage of, if I take him. Yet feel like such a creep if I don't. UGH.

What would you do?


(Ignorance isn't always bliss, in my opinion.)

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This is to you first, TMR.. Where have you been? Leaving me all alone to fend for my own quirkiness?

Ahhhhhhh... Now my anxiety have been quenched over your absence and because of your presence.. I just luvs you anyhow..

On a serious note.. You know I'm just lovin' on ya, is all, TMR.. It is soooo good to see you.

Do you get anxiety when you don't do what others want you to do?

TMR.. I get anxiety when others ask something of me when they already know how I feel about any matter, where choice is a matter of preference, according to biblical truth and liberty.. In other words.. Don't demand I eat fish on Fridays. What if I want fish on Mondays? Bad illustration, I know.

Or when you have to confront someone???

TMR.. I do admit I do become anxious when having to confront anyone, even my little ones.. Meaning the young and very young.. Not because I fear they're disliking me afterwards, but will I present my point(s) properly. I like to think of how (artfully) I present a matter to anyone's heart and not their head before confrontation.. Sometimes I don't have the privilege of time to ponder when immediate confrontation is needed. Many of the things I face are pretty common, so at those times I am pretty quick on my feet.. I'm loaded with sarcasm, something I'm trying to curtail.. Sarcasm is usually done to temper the could be toned down anger..

And TMR.. I never argue. Never. Minds are seldom changed via argument.. Gotta reach the heart. I ponder a thing and then I present to the best of my ability..

By the way, TMR.. I have learned how to say no and very seldom do what someone asks of me I don't want to do.. I like living in harmony with all, and believe in bringing a reasonable amount of happiness in the lives of those in my sphere, but not to the detriment of me losing myself. Others joy must come from within. Me doing all of what brings another joy is too big of a task for me..

TMR.. Ain't no way I would've had the kind of patience you had with your neighbor.. I would have rapped on his door and tapped on their window pane and said, "Do you need any help getting ready, because I have a pretty busy day ahead of me and we need to get going!"

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The rage calmed when the anxiety subsided.

Lone.. I got that and it certainly makes sense to me.

I made it a point to always be on time, and became angry at those who weren't. LOL! Now, I'm the one who's usually running late. I was also a perfectionist and would obsess over the most stupid things. I still have little episodes, but nothing like before.

You have just described, walking in another mans shoes when the tables turned and you were the one late.. Turned tables helps us to restore others (humbly, I might add) and ourselves when we find we're capable of the same..

I was also a perfectionist and would obsess over the most stupid things.

Been there, done that and brought myself into utter fuzziness.. Not being able to see the forest for the trees.. Obsessional-ism usually pointed to an area of unhappiness in my life.. If my interior (self-worth/esteem) was at an all time low, I would do my best to excel in those things that made me appear to be ok from the outside in.. It never worked for me.. So I threw that towel in for Another's..

I'd always figured my over-the-top personality had something to do with my freaky childhood or the alignment of the stars at the time of my birth.

Our childhood does form our adult personalities and takes a lifetime to overcome the negatives if their be any, but we keep on pursuing turning those tables, rightly, til we leave this earth.. <-- Therein is our hope.

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Was there ever a time when anyone's been simply pleased with their life?

[femmefatale]

Anxiety is my middle name.

[jemima]

Anxiety is a shadow that never leaves my side.

[femmefatale]

Oct 11, 2011 6:47:19 GMT -5 @jemima said:

Anxiety is a shadow that never leaves my side.

Me too Jemima...K for you sweetie.

[femmefatale]

GM Fritz. How are you this am?

[femmefatale]

Oct 11, 2011 6:50:00 GMT -5 Lady Gaga Gaga Snerd said:

I really struggle with the "what ifs". I struggle with all the bad scenarios that could happen. And, sometimes do happen. People do die. Accidents and terrrible things do happen. Things happen beyond your control. I guess worrying doesn't change whether those things will happen or not so that is why it is so wasteful. I would just like to feel the joy of feeling lighthearted and free and not so weighed down with life. I envy the bubbly people of the world for whom that seems to come naturally.

I agree Fritz. I have a Sister who never lets anything trouble her...EVER! Me? I am worrying about every little thing. Stressed out over small things that shouldn't even matter.

[femmefatale]

Oct 11, 2011 7:45:54 GMT -5 Lady Gaga Gaga Snerd said:

GM all! I really thought that as i got older, i would have an easier time dealing with anxiety issues. I used to be able to maintain a very clinical demeanor. But, after my dad died, i find it much harder to control my emotions and not wear them on my sleeve. I really have to work on that.

So do I.

[femmefatale]

Oct 11, 2011 7:57:29 GMT -5 Lady Gaga Gaga Snerd said:

Good to know i am not alone.

No, you're not.

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For one thing, I don't park myself in front of the 24 hour news channels. In fact I rarely watch the news at all. I figure if it's really important it will filter in through word of mouth.

But, for the most part, it's about just letting go. For me, most things that make me anxious are those that I have no control over, and once I point that out to myself I feel better. If it is something I can do something about I use the anxiety to fuel me.

If this is a chronic problem for you and you always feel anxious, then maybe you should talk to somebody about getting treated. There are lots of really good meds out there and it could be that a low dose anti-depressant would be all you needed to relax and enjoy life more.

[weezybear]

anxiety is a terible thing for me. I have a hard time to control it even with the help of my therapist and meds. I have even passed out when it got so bad that I couldn't control it.
now I'm not that bad. I've learned to deep breath, it helps a bit but takes a while to stop it.
anything will set the anxiety attacks off for me so I have to watch the stressors in my life.
I continually work with my therapist on this so it wouldn't get out of control again.

[kimber45]

While I am not the anxious/worrying type, DH is. His Dr. prescribed Ativan. Since he quit drinking a week or so ago, he has been relying more on the Ativan (which I guess they also use during the detox process)

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Why worry...be happy.

[Tosh]

I used to suffer from terrible anxiety but not anymore, I go out 2 or 3 times a year late at night with a ski mask on and ....

sorry that is someone at the door.

I will fill you in later.

[toomuchreality]

This is to you first, TMR.. Where have you been? Leaving me all alone to fend for my own quirkiness?

Ahhhhhhh... Now my anxiety have been quenched over your absence and because of your presence.. I just luvs you anyhow..

On a serious note.. You know I'm just lovin' on ya, is all, TMR.. It is soooo good to see you.

Hi there heart! (and others!! ) It's great to see you too!

Oct 11, 2011 2:35:59 GMT -5 @heart2heart said:

Was there ever a time when anyone's been simply pleased with their life?

Me! LOL
Really though, I have noticed during the past year or so, That overall, I am okay with who and what I am/have become. I'm comfy being me.
While I think there's always room for improvement, and I hope to not become complacent, I find that being comfy with ones self, is a good thing!

But since we can't control the behavior of those around us, I don't know that we will ever be totally pleased with our lives. -Eh?

(I probably should have read the rest of the replies/responses before I answered.... YIKES!)

Hope you all are having a very good day!

[toomuchreality]

Oct 11, 2011 11:32:58 GMT -5 Tosh said:

I used to suffer from terrible anxiety but not anymore, I go out 2 or 3 times a year late at night with a ski mask on and ....

sorry that is someone at the door.

I will fill you in later.

Details... I want details!

[toomuchreality]

Oct 11, 2011 6:35:39 GMT -5 Lady Gaga Gaga Snerd said:

Oct 10, 2011 19:42:30 GMT -5 toomuchreality said:

Just wondering... Do you get anxiety when you don't do what others want you to do? Or when you have to confront someone??? I do. I absolutely hate arguing, and almost never confront anyone. I end up thinking I am wrong, and beating myself up either way. It's a no win situation usually.

This morning about 9:30 my neighbor called, asked me to help him cuz he'd fallen on the stairs. Of course I helped. He asked me to take him to the ER, and I said I would. He thinks he might have broken ribs, but wanted to take a shower first... Throughout the day I checked to see if he was ready to go, cuz I needed to do other things. He wasn't. Finally around 5 PM he said he hoped to be ready in about 15 minutes, explaining that he'd had to clean mud off the carpet, and clean his bathroom. Then, he said another friend had stopped by to visit, so he'd let me know when the friend left. Seriously??! This doesn't seem like much of an emergency to me. My whole day has been disrupted, and now (6:30PM) I'm supposed to go sit at the E.R. for a few hours? I'll feel taken advantage of, if I take him. Yet feel like such a creep if I don't. UGH.

What would you do?


(Ignorance isn't always bliss, in my opinion.)

You were taken advantage of. If he is that physically fit and able, he can drive himself to the ER or call 911. This wasn't a 911 emergency otherwise he should have gone right away. I would have offered to take him right there and then, then if he said no and went to do other things, then he would have been on his own with no wrong whatsoever on your part.

Yep, this is just how I felt! I didn't end up taking him to the ER.
I asked him this afternoon how he's doing, and when he replied that he is still trying to get there, I didn't say anything.

I think there is a difference between being kind, and being a fool. I just have to keep reminding myself of that.

BTW- I also take meds for my anxiety....

for you fritz!

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Too much Reality, all those emoticons are freaking me out. lol

I don't want to bring you down, but I remember my Aristotelian philosophy from Philosophy 101. I know this is the CliffsNotes (actually wiki) version, but still, there is always wisdom in balance and the middle way.

In philosophy, especially that of Aristotle, the golden mean is the desirable middle between two extremes, one of excess and the other of deficiency. For example courage, a virtue, if taken to excess would manifest as recklessness and if deficient as cowardice.

To the Greek mentality, it was an attribute of beauty. Both ancients and moderns realized that there is a close association in mathematics between beauty and truth. The poet John Keats, in his Ode on a Grecian Urn, put it this way:

"Beauty is truth, truth beauty," -- that is all
Ye know on earth, and all ye need to know.

The Greeks believed there to be three 'ingredients' to beauty: symmetry, proportion, and harmony. This triad of principles infused their life. They were very much attuned to beauty as an object of love and something that was to be imitated and reproduced in their lives, architecture, education (Paideia) and politics. They judged life by this mentality.

In Chinese philosophy, a similar concept, Doctrine of the Mean, was propounded by Confucius; Buddhist philosophy also includes the concept of the middle way.

[femmefatale]

I love emoticons Robert. Are your eyes sensitive?

[femmefatale]

Anxiety may cause me to use this gun in my hand... ;D

[femmefatale]

Oct 11, 2011 17:48:56 GMT -5 @lonewolf said:

Oct 11, 2011 17:25:51 GMT -5 @femmefatale said:

Anxiety may cause me to use this gun in my hand... ;D

Anxiety/rage caused me to throw a block of cheese at the wall, this because it kept falling on the floor every time I opened the fridge door.

LMAO wolf...You get karma for that one.. ;D

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Oct 11, 2011 17:25:06 GMT -5 @femmefatale said:

I love emoticons Robert. Are your eyes sensitive?

Who me? Just because I wear my sun glasses at night...just trying to be cool.

[swamp]

Oct 11, 2011 17:48:56 GMT -5 @lonewolf said:

Oct 11, 2011 17:25:51 GMT -5 @femmefatale said:

Anxiety may cause me to use this gun in my hand... ;D

Anxiety/rage caused me to throw a block of cheese at the wall, this because it kept falling on the floor every time I opened the fridge door.

why didn't you just put it in a different place? I get the whole rage thing, I've had my own issues, but the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. Put the damn cheese on the shelf instead of the door.

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Thanks for the smiles.

My anxiety has lessened since reading all of your posts.

Good morning Robert.. Just want you to know that I am the runner-up emoticon queen next to TMR.. Makes for less worry and offers tads of momentary happiness.. By the way, liked your latest picture addition.. And an interesting read you left too..



Stress/anxiety ball, anyone?

[weezybear]

I'd get so angry that I'd go int my cupboard and pull out the extra coffee cups and throw them at the back of the garage. It helped blow off the seatm. Ran out of cups so I went to the charites and bought some for 5cents each so now I have a unlimited suply of cups and saucers to throw when I throw a fit as my mo calls it.