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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2011 10:29:11 GMT -5
Isn't it about time for her to sprout? Is she back together with her DH? Still working? Still living in the shed? Still planning on clubbing and wearing her hot Hallowe'en costume?
Inquiring (and nosy) minds want to know! ;D
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Post by Frugal Nurse on Oct 10, 2011 10:42:09 GMT -5
Well, she is still living in the shed, still making $11/hr (says she doesn't plan on looking for another job even after the little one gets here), I don't know if she's back with her husband or not, I suspect she is still putting out for him, but claims they are not in a relationship. I haven't seen her since the shower (surprise, surprise), I don't expect to see her again until the baby is born (he's due in 4 days, so we'll see). I have stuck to my word and maintained my distance (although I do need to see her- she borrowed some of my stuff for another shower and I need it back!)
ETA: I think I may have pissed her off because she was talking about how she's been hit on by a lot of other men lately, and she has needs to fulfill. I replied that just because she's newly single doesn't mean she has to whore out. I don't think that went over well.
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Post by swamp on Oct 10, 2011 10:53:31 GMT -5
she's about ready to pop, and she says she's getting hit on? I think someone isn't engaged with reality.
As for her needs, get her a vibrator.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2011 10:55:36 GMT -5
she's about ready to pop, and she says she's getting hit on? Maybe she posts on EE.
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Post by Frugal Nurse on Oct 10, 2011 11:16:09 GMT -5
she's about ready to pop, and she says she's getting hit on? I think someone isn't engaged with reality.As for her needs, get her a vibrator. Yeah, I've thought that the whole time! Anyhow, I pointed out that any man who is hitting on her and is her age (she's around 24 I think), probablt isn't "daddy material". Decent guys that age are not typically looking for a single mom.
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Post by midjd on Oct 10, 2011 11:55:59 GMT -5
If I started being hit on excessively in my 9th month of pregnancy, my thought process would go like this: 1) Fetishist? 2) Black-market baby snatcher? "Not engaged with reality" is a nice way to put it Good for you for keeping your distance, and hopefully you get your shower stuff back at some point.
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Post by qofcc on Oct 10, 2011 12:50:09 GMT -5
Yeah, I've thought that the whole time! Anyhow, I pointed out that any man who is hitting on her and is her age (she's around 24 I think), probablt isn't "daddy material". Decent guys that age are not typically looking for a single mom.
Not sure I'm understanding what you're getting at with that one? I agree that most 24 year olds aren't looking for a single mom, and I think your friend is probably out of touch with reality if she thinks loads of guys want to date her when she's going to pop out a baby any day, but if a 24 year old was good daddy material and looking for a woman to have kids with, why would he necessarily exclude single mothers? Not your friend specifically, but single mothers in general? I would think that a girl that's already proven she's good mother material would be a good choice for a guy ready to settle down and have a family.
My sister met her DH when she was in her late 20's and a single mom and he was a couple years younger and was ready to get married and start having kids. He's a teacher and worked 2 jobs for years so that she could be a SAHM until their youngest went to school. My DD is a single mom at 21 and her current BF is 25 and from a very large family and is very involved in helping with his younger siblings and nieces/nephews/cousins. He's great with her son and wants to get married and have more kids in a couple of years as soon as he's financially able to support more kids. He's working as a waiter and going to LPN school now. One of the executives at work was in his late 20's when he married a single mother in her early 20's and he had promptly had 2 more kids with her.
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Post by va500 on Oct 10, 2011 13:07:43 GMT -5
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Post by va500 on Oct 10, 2011 13:10:19 GMT -5
Sorry -- post was for another board.
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Post by Frugal Nurse on Oct 10, 2011 13:49:39 GMT -5
QofCC- I'm not trying to knock single mothers, it is just that a typical twenty-something guy these days is not looking for a divorced woman looking for a baby daddy. Men that age are just starting to mature, most of them are just starting to look for a wife and aren't thinking about kids yet. That's just my experience, anyway.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2011 15:30:39 GMT -5
Hit on? So pregnant that she's probably having a hard time moving around and thinks guys want to jump her bones Probably not. Sounds like wishful thinking. And yeah, I'd guess that she took umbrage at the "whore out" comment ;D Hope you get your stuff back, but somehow I'm thinking you might need to kiss it goodbye... I think tomorrow's a full moon so stand by! That baby might very well make an appearance sooner than four days.
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Post by Frugal Nurse on Oct 10, 2011 18:44:53 GMT -5
Hit on? So pregnant that she's probably having a hard time moving around and thinks guys want to jump her bones Probably not. Sounds like wishful thinking. And yeah, I'd guess that she took umbrage at the "whore out" comment ;D Hope you get your stuff back, but somehow I'm thinking you might need to kiss it goodbye... I think tomorrow's a full moon so stand by! That baby might very well make an appearance sooner than four days. I'm not too concerned about it. This Is a woman who talks a big game about Christianity and she leads a youth group, she should not be sleeping around. A true friend will call you out when you're doing something stupid. As far as my stuff, I will get it back, I think she'll be calling me sometime after the baby is born (she'll need a babysitter for Halloween! Lol)
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Post by chiver78 on Oct 10, 2011 19:13:06 GMT -5
If I started being hit on excessively in my 9th month of pregnancy, my thought process would go like this: 1) Fetishist? 2) Black-market baby snatcher? I read this really REALLY quickly, and missed the "If" there.
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Post by swamp on Oct 10, 2011 19:58:00 GMT -5
I'm cracking up at her belief she's going to go out for Halloween approximately 2 weeks after giving birth.
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Post by suesinfl on Oct 10, 2011 20:43:16 GMT -5
Hit on? So pregnant that she's probably having a hard time moving around and thinks guys want to jump her bones Probably not. Sounds like wishful thinking. And yeah, I'd guess that she took umbrage at the "whore out" comment ;D Hope you get your stuff back, but somehow I'm thinking you might need to kiss it goodbye... I think tomorrow's a full moon so stand by! That baby might very well make an appearance sooner than four days. ;D miss r you crack me up!
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Post by Frugal Nurse on Oct 11, 2011 10:09:26 GMT -5
I texted her last night to see how she's doing, since baby is so close. She's moved back in with her husband. I knew this would happen. And I told her so when all this went down. I reminded her to stay strong when baby is born, because her hormones would make her miss her husband. She is going to be sorely surprised when he cheats again, but next time her friends and family won't offer the same support. Her parents put out a lot of money that they didn't really have in order to help her out.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2011 15:19:07 GMT -5
Why am I not surprised
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Post by seriousthistime on Oct 15, 2011 9:25:36 GMT -5
3) Won't have to worry about her getting pregnant? 4) Pedophile?
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Post by Frugal Nurse on Oct 17, 2011 10:52:51 GMT -5
Well, baby is born. She can only afford to take 4 weeks of maternity leave, still has a ton of stuff left to buy for the baby. Her dad is really upset that she moved back in with her husband, even though she swears it is temporary.
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Post by mizbear on Oct 17, 2011 10:55:32 GMT -5
You know my father was never parent of the year material- far from it- more like parent of the nightmare material- but he could smell a rat everytime I have gotten tangled up with one. She might want to listen to DOD.
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Post by Frugal Nurse on Oct 17, 2011 11:18:20 GMT -5
You know my father was never parent of the year material- far from it- more like parent of the nightmare material- but he could smell a rat everytime I have gotten tangled up with one. She might want to listen to DOD. Yeah, her dad is torn between keeping his mouth shut so he doesn't upset her and telling her what he thinks. He is afraid that she will keep getting hurt and she will become bitter (this is apparently the fourth or fifth time this has happened). sigh.
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Post by yogiii on Oct 18, 2011 10:21:59 GMT -5
That's just really sad. A new baby can create lots of stress and issues for a couple with a solid relationship. I hate to think of what happens when that baby is up crying all night
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 18, 2011 10:24:38 GMT -5
If she hasn't become bitter and disllusioned after lover #5 (that she knows about) then I really doubt she is ever going to become so. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me five freaking times? Come on. You have your head shoved really far up your behind to keep going back after that many. I doubt that anything anyone could say, including her father, is going to make her see the light if she hasn't done so. Some people truly do not get it.
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Post by skubikky on Oct 18, 2011 12:22:48 GMT -5
boy or girl? name?
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Oct 20, 2011 14:55:25 GMT -5
Does she stand a chance of fitting into the hot clubbing outfit in time for Halloween?
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Post by Frugal Nurse on Oct 21, 2011 10:30:31 GMT -5
Beth- Actually, she looks pretty good. She was a skinny girl before the pregnancy, she didn't gain much weight, but she does still have that post-partum pooch. I don't know if she's going to be clubbing anytime soon though, since she and the hubs are back together.
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Post by taz157 on Oct 31, 2011 22:53:15 GMT -5
frugal - Did your co-worker wear her Halloween costume tonight?
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Post by misplacedbrit on Nov 4, 2011 12:45:42 GMT -5
From experience.. Her father stands more chance of her making the choice if he says he likes her husband...
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Post by Tough_Girl on Nov 9, 2011 15:13:03 GMT -5
QofCC- I'm not trying to knock single mothers, it is just that a typical twenty-something guy these days is not looking for a divorced woman looking for a baby daddy. Men that age are just starting to mature, most of them are just starting to look for a wife and aren't thinking about kids yet. That's just my experience, anyway. I find a little offense to this. I was/am a single mother at that age and NEVER was looking for a baby daddy. Even today, I always tell the guy, I'm looking for a mate for me, not a father to my child/children. Do they need to respect my child and treat them well, Hell Yes, do they have to feel like they are that childs father, no way. My children have a father, he may not live with us but he is still their father. I want a man for me, not my children.
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Post by Frugal Nurse on Nov 10, 2011 8:33:21 GMT -5
QofCC- I'm not trying to knock single mothers, it is just that a typical twenty-something guy these days is not looking for a divorced woman looking for a baby daddy. Men that age are just starting to mature, most of them are just starting to look for a wife and aren't thinking about kids yet. That's just my experience, anyway. I find a little offense to this. I was/am a single mother at that age and NEVER was looking for a baby daddy. Even today, I always tell the guy, I'm looking for a mate for me, not a father to my child/children. Do they need to respect my child and treat them well, Hell Yes, do they have to feel like they are that childs father, no way. My children have a father, he may not live with us but he is still their father. I want a man for me, not my children. The difference is she was looking for a baby daddy. She was out there solely trying to find a man to take care of her and her son. Not a lot of decent guys in their mid-twenties are ready for that responsibility, especially when it is some other guy's kid.
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