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Post by Apple on Jan 12, 2011 11:57:51 GMT -5
I'm still working on this as well, but everyone who's been around me any length of time has figured out I don't like being touched, so I must be giving them some kind of signal... Maybe you can tell her you have scabies?
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Post by Bluerobin on Jan 12, 2011 12:12:14 GMT -5
We once had an HR director who defined any unwanted touching as "assault" - She was a lawyer. So, if that is the case, just clock the toucher. That should end things.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2011 12:14:22 GMT -5
You could also go the passive aggressive route and when she starts a conversation and goes to touch start coughing and put your hand up and say "don't get too close". I mean sure, she may get suspicious once you've had a cough for a couple of years but at least she'll stop touching you. why didn't I think of that?
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Post by ihearyou2 on Jan 12, 2011 12:15:01 GMT -5
I'm typically not a touchie feelie person but I work in a place where kissing on the cheeks is a common greeting or a hug so I go with it. No one seems to mind and as long as it isn't a large bearded man giving me a bear hug, I''m cool with it.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Jan 12, 2011 12:15:12 GMT -5
Just tell her stop touching you, you don't like it. She's invading your personal space and I don't get sitting around being uncomfortable because you are afraid someone is going to be hurt when you point you don't like being pawed.
She gets offended that someone could not want to be constantly touched by someone who is pretty much a stranger, that's her problem.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2011 14:40:51 GMT -5
I'm not to fond of being touched, but I have to relax a little at work. I work at the VA hospital. Many of the Veterans will grab my hand or touch my arm when they are wanting to make absolutely sure they have my attention. I just worked with a Veteran who held onto my hand for a few minutes while he told me about being in Okinawa when the bombs were dropped in Japan.
I did notice that if the Veteran makes a remark about my hand being cold when we shook at introduction (my hands are usually freezing), he/she will be more inclined to grab my hand later during the appointment. Not sure what that is about.
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Post by Opti on Jan 12, 2011 14:51:40 GMT -5
"I'm typically not a touchie feelie person but I work in a place where kissing on the cheeks is a common greeting or a hug so I go with it."
I haven't heard of this in a workplace. Where do you work?
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 12, 2011 15:28:58 GMT -5
I'm an up-front kind of person. I'm also a toucher but usually read people pretty well too and "get it" if somebody doesn't like it when somebody touches them. So if I didn't like it I would simply say "please don't do that". It makes me uncomfortable."
In your case, since you work together, you have the perfect opportunity to say "I just hate when people touch me! Don't you?" If they say "No." you can then elaborate that it makes you uncomfortable and you don't like it. The next time they do it you can say "Remember what I told you..."
I have a friend that has no boundaries at all. She is possessive (can't stand that) and wants to know my schedule and who I'm doing things with. I simply tell her that she is bat shit crazy and it's not going to happen. It's none of her business. She only does it now and then and I just remind her that she needs therapy and to let me know when it's a good time for me to schedule her an appt. LOL!!! I really do say that, but in a funny way and she still loves me. And when she gets her feelings hurt - I then remind her that her feelings won't get hurt if she stops being possessive.
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Post by ihearyou2 on Jan 12, 2011 16:02:22 GMT -5
I haven't heard of this in a workplace. Where do you work? We deal with a lot of Europeans and this seems common especially among the Gallic persuasion. POM so when we meet, I could grope you a bit at our first meeting, don;t worry it won't be a cavity search.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2011 16:12:17 GMT -5
I'm an up-front kind of person. I'm also a toucher but usually read people pretty well too and "get it" if somebody doesn't like it when somebody touches them. So if I didn't like it I would simply say "please don't do that". It makes me uncomfortable." In your case, since you work together, you have the perfect opportunity to say "I just hate when people touch me! Don't you?" If they say "No." you can then elaborate that it makes you uncomfortable and you don't like it. The next time they do it you can say "Remember what I told you..." I have a friend that has no boundaries at all. She is possessive (can't stand that) and wants to know my schedule and who I'm doing things with. I simply tell her that she is bat shit crazy and it's not going to happen. It's none of her business. She only does it now and then and I just remind her that she needs therapy and to let me know when it's a good time for me to schedule her an appt. LOL!!! I really do say that, but in a funny way and she still loves me. And when she gets her feelings hurt - I then remind her that her feelings won't get hurt if she stops being possessive. you can get touchy-feely with me anytime!
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Post by ihearyou2 on Jan 12, 2011 16:14:17 GMT -5
I love touching pregnant women especially on their belly button...
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2011 16:16:18 GMT -5
that's gonna make me get stabby.
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 12, 2011 16:41:28 GMT -5
I haven't heard of this in a workplace. Where do you work? We deal with a lot of Europeans and this seems common especially among the Gallic persuasion. POM so when we meet, I could grope you a bit at our first meeting, don;t worry it won't be a cavity search. Only a bit?
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 12, 2011 16:42:40 GMT -5
I'm an up-front kind of person. I'm also a toucher but usually read people pretty well too and "get it" if somebody doesn't like it when somebody touches them. So if I didn't like it I would simply say "please don't do that". It makes me uncomfortable." In your case, since you work together, you have the perfect opportunity to say "I just hate when people touch me! Don't you?" If they say "No." you can then elaborate that it makes you uncomfortable and you don't like it. The next time they do it you can say "Remember what I told you..." I have a friend that has no boundaries at all. She is possessive (can't stand that) and wants to know my schedule and who I'm doing things with. I simply tell her that she is bat shit crazy and it's not going to happen. It's none of her business. She only does it now and then and I just remind her that she needs therapy and to let me know when it's a good time for me to schedule her an appt. LOL!!! I really do say that, but in a funny way and she still loves me. And when she gets her feelings hurt - I then remind her that her feelings won't get hurt if she stops being possessive. you can get touchy-feely with me anytime! (((Hugs))) Jen <<and sneeks in some groping>> Niiice!!
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Post by Peace Of Mind on Jan 12, 2011 16:44:17 GMT -5
::I have a friend that has no boundaries at all. She is possessive (can't stand that) and wants to know my schedule and who I'm doing things with. I simply tell her that she is bat shit crazy and it's not going to happen. It's none of her business. She only does it now and then and I just remind her that she needs therapy and to let me know when it's a good time for me to schedule her an appt. LOL!!! I really do say that, but in a funny way and she still loves me. And when she gets her feelings hurt - I then remind her that her feelings won't get hurt if she stops being possessive. :: Hey! What are you doing on the computer? You told me you had a doctor's appointment and then had to get new tires for your car. ROTFLMAO!! Well, I wasn't going to mention any names. <<hides behind monitor>> Actually, I'll pm you her real name. You will crack up!
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Post by The J on Jan 12, 2011 16:46:59 GMT -5
ROTFLMAO!! Well, I wasn't going to mention any names. <<hides behind monitor>> Actually, I'll pm you her real name. You will crack up! Me too!!!
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Post by lisabelle on Jan 13, 2011 12:29:24 GMT -5
You've got it good Bob. At my office people hit. I've been hit in the arm by 3 different people in the last week. I would welcome a touch. I try to cry workers comp but I don't get very far with that one
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Post by hoops902 on Jan 13, 2011 13:11:02 GMT -5
Have you tried moaning a little bit every time she touches you?
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Post by zibazinski on Jan 13, 2011 13:51:03 GMT -5
Or panting?
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