proper etiquette on new boards

[deziloooooo]

I had a thought, yep another one, what about "Proper Etiquette" besides the C of C, rules posted ..just common sense Little Courtesies that aren't a violation if not followed but just the thing to do, like opening a door for some one else, helping the little or big old lady cross the street if help seems to be needed. that kind of courtesy.
The one I am thinking of is the 'Private corresponding feature" we have here. I picked up from another post that some one felt they had to go to a "guest " feature, because, and here I am reading between the lines and possible might be wrong , but I am assuming the member was getting unwanted messages with this feature.

I have gotten in the habit of first asking through the feature if a private message to them from me is acceptable. Usually it is and we go from that, though I did get a "No" on one , which was fine and we went on with our lives.
I am suggesting that might be a courtesy one might want to consider. There might be others too that some might have a thought on..just a thought thus the thread.

[thyme4change]

Was the "no" the one from me? Because that wasn't my message - my message was more the question of if we actually know each other IRL.

[deziloooooo]

nope and no we don't , but the "No " to me wasn't a problem, just went on..but I have been doing that before I send a private post..especially if it would be a post to some one that I might be having a back to back with , but I got into the habit as just common courtesy ...thus I brought it up.
One here seems he must have had a problem as he went to "guest" which I noticed but hadn't a clue as to why, but after anothers post to, have a good idea of why.

[quotequeen]

I have never thought there was a reason to ask somebody if I could send a PM. If the person doesn't want to answer my PM I assume he won't. Obviously continually sending PMs that the other person is ignoring or indicates he doesn't want is not courteous, nor is sending mean PMs.

[deziloooooo]

quote ..your correct..possible I am thinking if your contacting them over a despute that one might be having publickly and want to privatly discuss It one on one rather then in a public way..like airing dirty linen

[The J]

I would rather people send a PM, and if the poster doesn't want further PMs, they can say so. We don't need to clutter up threads with "can I send you a PM?" posts.

[deziloooooo]

No big deal J ...I sent the request though by E mail[personal}..not on the threads ...