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Post by tcu2003 on Sept 30, 2019 9:19:52 GMT -5
Nothing is as tragic as a first grader having to miss corn dog lunch day to go to the zoo. Really wondered why I didn't just lie about it... Bwahahahaha! Mine was trying to convince me to send a home lunch just in case grill day didn’t happen. Never mind that he likes the regular lunch option main course today, but they always have “salad with it, and I don’t like salad.” Kid, they also have green beans, which you love. You’ll be fine if grill day doesn’t happen.
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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 30, 2019 9:46:35 GMT -5
C's staying home from school. No fever, and definitely willing to sit down with a book, but I know he didn't feel great. Dh and I will have to reschedule our counseling appointment though which stinks. I'm hoping she gives us a break on the cancellation fee/policy.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 30, 2019 10:13:21 GMT -5
F*CK. Abby got sent home from school again today for "going to the bathroom too much". They say she threw up and pooped. She was fine all weekend, a complete whirling dervish. WTF?
Gwen screwed with my sound and I wasn't aware of it so missed the call, DH did not bother to have his phone charged so missed it so they went to dad. He picked her up.
DH is taking her to the doctor because this is ridiculous. I want a note so if the school tries to get on our butts about attendence.
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Post by cktc on Sept 30, 2019 10:27:59 GMT -5
F*CK. Abby got sent home from school again today for "going to the bathroom too much". They say she threw up and pooped. She was fine all weekend, a complete whirling dervish. WTF? Gwen screwed with my sound and I wasn't aware of it so missed the call, DH did not bother to have his phone charged so missed it so they went to dad. He picked her up. DH is taking her to the doctor because this is ridiculous. I want a note so if the school tries to get on our butts about attendence. Could she be faking it because she wants to be sent home? Not sure how old she is, but I remember my sister warming her forehead on the heating vents so she could stay home when she was around 9.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 30, 2019 10:37:24 GMT -5
I have no idea. I am going up to the office when I get Gwen and asking exactly how many times are kids allowed to go to the bathroom during the day? Because I do not recall anything in the handbook or flyers sent home that if a kid goes X number of times we have to pick them up from school.
My guess is she is farting. The pooping her pants really upset/traumatized her and every time she farts now she thinks she has to go to the bathroom. She's been doing that at home and I've been checking to see if she actually went and 9 times out of 10 she just farted. The one time she has actually gone it's been solid since last week. The school is leaping to the conclusion that she is sick.
Which is why I want a doctor's note and if that doesn't work I am meeting with the teacher and the nurse because this is getting ridiculous.
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Post by azucena on Sept 30, 2019 10:56:45 GMT -5
I have no idea. I am going up to the office when I get Gwen and asking exactly how many times are kids allowed to go to the bathroom during the day? Because I do not recall anything in the handbook or flyers sent home that if a kid goes X number of times we have to pick them up from school. My guess is she is farting. The pooping her pants really upset/traumatized her and every time she farts now she thinks she has to go to the bathroom. She's been doing that at home and I've been checking to see if she actually went and 9 times out of 10 she just farted. The one time she has actually gone it's been solid since last week. The school is leaping to the conclusion that she is sick. Which is why I want a doctor's note and if that doesn't work I am meeting with the teacher and the nurse because this is getting ridiculous.
If it were me, I'd save myself the doctor's copay unless I really thought she needed to see a doctor. My guess is you're right about her worrying about having an accident. I had a tummy bug and unexpectedly shart myself a few weeks ago, and I was so nervous about farting for a few days afterwards Luckily I was at home!
I'd figure it out with the school and if they attempted to make her attendance an issue, I'd straight up tell them that they really should focus their energy and attention on true truants.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 30, 2019 10:57:57 GMT -5
I have no idea. I am going up to the office when I get Gwen and asking exactly how many times are kids allowed to go to the bathroom during the day? Because I do not recall anything in the handbook or flyers sent home that if a kid goes X number of times we have to pick them up from school. My guess is she is farting. The pooping her pants really upset/traumatized her and every time she farts now she thinks she has to go to the bathroom. She's been doing that at home and I've been checking to see if she actually went and 9 times out of 10 she just farted. The one time she has actually gone it's been solid since last week. The school is leaping to the conclusion that she is sick. Which is why I want a doctor's note and if that doesn't work I am meeting with the teacher and the nurse because this is getting ridiculous.
If it were me, I'd save myself the doctor's copay unless I really thought she needed to see a doctor. My guess is you're right about her worrying about having an accident. I had a tummy bug and unexpectedly shart myself a few weeks ago, and I was so nervous about farting for a few days afterwards Luckily I was at home!
I'd figure it out with the school and if they attempted to make her attendance an issue, I'd straight up tell them that they really should focus their energy and attention on true truants.
At this point since it's been a week we have to get a doctor's note if we want her to be able to go back. If they make it an issue I will be happy to play ball.
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Post by raeoflyte on Sept 30, 2019 11:05:30 GMT -5
If she says she threw up that would be an automatic send home at our school. They try to keep them for almost everything, but that or fever and you don't pass go or collect your $200. I wonder if it was that, but they included the frequent bathroom visits as an additional symptom?
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Sept 30, 2019 11:53:55 GMT -5
If she says she threw up that would be an automatic send home at our school. They try to keep them for almost everything, but that or fever and you don't pass go or collect your $200. I wonder if it was that, but they included the frequent bathroom visits as an additional symptom? Yeah, puking is an automatic "come get your kid" call here too.
I'm not aware of bathroom usage being an issue but our K4 and K5 classrooms have a bathroom corner with 2 stalls in them and a sink near there. I think some of the 1st grade classrooms are like this too but not all of them. I'm thinking frequent bathroom breaks in that kind of setup are not as disruptive as needing to go to a bathroom down the hallway (which I'm assuming Abby has).
ETA - I also warned C's teachers up to 2nd grade that if he said he was going to puke, get him to the bathroom and do not ask questions. He's still running over 50% accuracy for knowing when his tummy is upset enough that he's going to puke. He usually had a 2 minutes window between saying something and actually puking.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 30, 2019 13:41:50 GMT -5
She said went to the bathroom four times. According to DH she barfed before school, which I am guessing based on her complaining her teeth hurt that she's having sinus issues. I could be wrong but it fits. I'm more frustrated because the school's assinine policy is a kid cannot miss three days of school TOTAL for the entire year (that's excused, 0 unexcused) yet they keep sending my kid home! How about sending the nurse a letter about how "attendence is important and we must do our best to ensure children get the education they deserve" instead of us? We have been sending her to school. I would still be annoyed but not quite so pissed if I didn't know a letter was coming our way soon. I also get it is a robot letter but still, this policy is stupid especially for elementary school age students. A week would make a lot more sense.
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Post by Pants on Sept 30, 2019 14:22:53 GMT -5
She said went to the bathroom four times. According to DH she barfed before school, which I am guessing based on her complaining her teeth hurt that she's having sinus issues. I could be wrong but it fits. I'm more frustrated because the school's assinine policy is a kid cannot miss three days of school TOTAL for the entire year (that's excused, 0 unexcused) yet they keep sending my kid home! How about sending the nurse a letter about how "attendence is important and we must do our best to ensure children get the education they deserve" instead of us? We have been sending her to school. I would still be annoyed but not quite so pissed if I didn't know a letter was coming our way soon. I also get it is a robot letter but still, this policy is stupid especially for elementary school age students. A week would make a lot more sense. I'm sorry, can we go back to the part where she puked before school and your DH sent her anyway? What the hell
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 30, 2019 15:05:41 GMT -5
She said went to the bathroom four times. According to DH she barfed before school, which I am guessing based on her complaining her teeth hurt that she's having sinus issues. I could be wrong but it fits. I'm more frustrated because the school's assinine policy is a kid cannot miss three days of school TOTAL for the entire year (that's excused, 0 unexcused) yet they keep sending my kid home! How about sending the nurse a letter about how "attendence is important and we must do our best to ensure children get the education they deserve" instead of us? We have been sending her to school. I would still be annoyed but not quite so pissed if I didn't know a letter was coming our way soon. I also get it is a robot letter but still, this policy is stupid especially for elementary school age students. A week would make a lot more sense. I'm sorry, can we go back to the part where she puked before school and your DH sent her anyway? What the hell No fever and was otherwise acting fine. I've done it with Gwen after several days of being out and then being fine all afternoon. Neither one of us are proud of it but we're running out of options again as MIL refuses to babysit because she's convinced we have EbolaHIVfluenza and my mom is increasingly busy with the business. I cannot get off at a drop of a hat anymore and DH is currently the only one in his office.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Sept 30, 2019 20:18:19 GMT -5
Well several hours and dollars later it's the same bug as last week. We have to let it run it's course. Trying to poke high fiber foods down her. I got some gummy probiotics we can try.
They gave her an anti nausea pill. I remember that after taking those for morning sickness I swear I did not go.for the entire first trimester. So hopefully that'll tighten her up.
She has to stay home tomorrow. Hopefully going back on Wednesday.
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Post by justme on Sept 30, 2019 23:41:18 GMT -5
Soooo not high in fiber, but when I was dog sitting and the poor thing was having issues her mom told me to feed her white rice. Not to compare the kid to a dog, but maybe it's a cross species remedy?
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Post by CCL on Oct 1, 2019 3:29:16 GMT -5
Rice is component of BRAT diet: bananas, rice, applesauce and toast. It was recommended for digestive problems a lot when my kids were little. I don't think it's as common now.
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Post by Wisconsin Beth on Oct 1, 2019 7:55:17 GMT -5
Rice is component of BRAT diet: bananas, rice, applesauce and toast. It was recommended for digestive problems a lot when my kids were little. I don't think it's as common now. My kids got "bland diet" and/or clear liquids. But it's basically the same thing, different name.
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Post by TheOtherMe on Oct 1, 2019 8:04:31 GMT -5
Rice is component of BRAT diet: bananas, rice, applesauce and toast. It was recommended for digestive problems a lot when my kids were little. I don't think it's as common now. This is what I was told to eat when they were diagnosing my gallbladder issues.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 1, 2019 10:23:04 GMT -5
She's eating bland foods. Pretty much anything bland I can think of that will settle her tummy and plug her butt up.
Need to get yogurt. I stopped buying it the last time nobody ate it and it went mouldy.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 1, 2019 11:05:39 GMT -5
Soooo not high in fiber, but when I was dog sitting and the poor thing was having issues her mom told me to feed her white rice. Not to compare the kid to a dog, but maybe it's a cross species remedy? It works for both. I've had the doctor recommend it for the kids and the vet recommend it for the dogs. A lot of things work for both.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 1, 2019 11:12:44 GMT -5
Drama -- your schools attendance policy sounds absolutely absurd. I can't imagine having to keep them home a 2nd day if they went home one day, not to mention the 3 day total for the year. Our school board is present at various school nights and I'd definitely bring it up to them, or at least send a quick email. Not that you have time to, but these are policies that are going to keep impacting you for years. If they could realize how ridiculous they are, it could save you a lot of time and grief in the future.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 1, 2019 11:45:31 GMT -5
Can't imagine having to keep them home a 2nd day if they went home one day,This is actually a STATE policy. This got implemented while Gwen was still in daycare. As most of you also probably do when your kid gets called out at 10am on Monday you bring them back to school/daycare at the normal time on Tuesday because it's been approximately 24 hours. That's how it's been for as long as I can remember and nobody had issues with it. State inspectors had a shit fit over this and the law was changed. So if I get a call on Monday she now cannot return to school till Wednesday to ensure that I am keeping her out for a full 24 hours. Never mind that this is a huge hassle for parents to arrange care/time off. Never mind that is NOT how incubation works and that by the time they call she's already infected the entire room and likely got it from someone else in said class room. I get they can't handle barfing/pooping/fever etc but this whole thing with having to keep them out two days is bull shit. I bet whoever it is that suggested and passed that policy does not have kids. I don't blame the school for that anymore than I did the daycare, they could all get in trouble for not following the policy. The attendence thing is stupid. That is all about money, the better the attendence rate the more funding the schools get. Which on one hand I understand but it just encourages draconian policies and people knowingly sending their kids sick due to fear of said draconian policies. I think it's got to get to a lot more than 3 days before you're hauled in for truancy charges but I do not appreciate the lecture letter over three days when I got grade schoolers. Of course they are going to miss more than three days a year, elementary schools are likely where the zombie apocalypse is going to start.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 2, 2019 7:29:21 GMT -5
Fingers crossed Abby goes back to school today. She only went to the bathroom once, it was a lot according to my mom but solid. No fever and no throwing up. She does run to the bathroom claiming she "needs to throw up" then dramatically hacks into the toilet like an 80 year old smoker. I told her that's not puking that is you hocking snot, I know because I do it every morning. Also a little birdie announced to me that she prefers staying home with my mom which we had a feeling was going to happen. So I sent the teacher a quick email explaining Abby was fine all day yesterday and this morning but may still run to the bathroom claiming she has to poop (when in reality it's gas) or that she needs to "throw up". Part of that she is terrified of having another accident which is understandable. The other is she knows it gets her attention. I don't want them to force her to stay if she's still sick but I don't want to end up with the nurse calling me every two minutes either for the next couple of weeks till Abby accepts her routine is back to normal. ETA: Never mind she's at my mom's. DH said she kept saying her tummy hurts and he decided better safe than sorry. I wonder if some of that is she is hungry she hasn't eaten a lot in the past few days and you can she lost some weight in her face. He is also concerned she is starting to act in order to get out of going to school. So we'll plan for tomorrow then come hell or high water.
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Post by CCL on Oct 2, 2019 8:44:53 GMT -5
Whenever my kids stayed home from school I made sure that didn't do anything fun. They stayed in bed recuperating - no video games or computer, but they could watch tv or a movie.
If they felt good enough to start trying to run around they got to help me clean the house. A little bit of laundry, dusting and running the sweeper and they were ready to go back to school lol.
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Post by NomoreDramaQ1015 on Oct 2, 2019 9:17:36 GMT -5
That's what my mom is doing. It's more Abby really loves my parents and it's been her routine for 2 years. She likes school she has a BFF and is very proud to show me her homework but she is a creature of habit so if she could figure out a way to stay with my mom forever she certainly would even if it meant being bored or doing chores all day. She doesn't adjust to change as fast as her sister does.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 2, 2019 9:41:10 GMT -5
Remember I told you Thing 1's friends had babies? One of them is giving a whole new meaning to helicopter mom and I don't think it's healthy. She's obsessed with protecting this kid from everything and has announced that he's not leaving the house until winter is over lest he get a cold.
She kicked her mom out of her house because she dared have him in just a diaper when watching him while she took a shower. She had had him wrapped up in all this fleece event though it's still 90* here. Her mom explained that the poor kid was red and sweaty and he needed to cool off. She said her mom just didn't understand that babies temperatures don't regulate the same way as adults. Blah blah blah.
I kind of want to talk to her, but she's not going to listen to me if she's not listening to her mom. I feel sorry for this poor kid as there is a lot more. She's going to either end up with a nervous kid or a rebellious kid if she keeps on this way indefinitely. It also can't be good for her. She's going to stroke out stressing over every moment of this kid's life.
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 2, 2019 9:46:19 GMT -5
andi9899 are you sure she's just being overprotective? Reading your description my first thought was that something wasn't quite right with her actions and reactions. Could you suggest she see her doctor? She may well be suffering from some form of post-partum depression.
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Post by raeoflyte on Oct 2, 2019 9:57:01 GMT -5
We don't allow any screens if you stay home from school. You can stay in bed and read, but I'll pull the books away too if needed. Before E could read proficiently she could listen to a book on tape or color.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 2, 2019 10:27:12 GMT -5
andi9899 are you sure she's just being overprotective? Reading your description my first thought was that something wasn't quite right with her actions and reactions. Could you suggest she see her doctor? She may well be suffering from some form of post-partum depression. Thanks. Maybe that would help. I don't have any experience with PPD, so outside of being really sad, I wouldn't know what it looks like. Her (re)actions do seem unreasonable to me too. Like one day T1 went over there and was sniffly due to allergies. The baby coincidentally came down with a cold and she freaked out on T1 saying she obviously doesn't care about the baby since she went around him sick and how can she possibly trust her to be his godmother when she doesn't know if she would be able to take care of him in her absence since she's so reckless and on and on. She needs to talk to someone. This behavior is not healthy, but she really does have her heart in the right place.
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Post by gs11rmb on Oct 2, 2019 10:49:07 GMT -5
I'm sure she loves her kid with all of her heart but she does sound unwell.
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Post by andi9899 on Oct 2, 2019 10:53:48 GMT -5
I'm going to see if I can go see the baby and bring him the clothes I bought him and try to talk to her with a caring tone. My initial reaction when she blew up on T1 was "oh hell no" and I wanted to tell her that she needs to get it together and watch how she speaks to my child. I don't think that will help and maybe she really does need medical attention of some sort. Maybe there is some hormonal imbalance or something because the irrationality started when she became pregnant. Hopefully she can get to the bottom of it and get some help. I love her like my own, so I hate to see her so stressed.
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